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Helen Skor
05/04/09

In reply to Lorena & John Bobbitt Reunite To Discuss Their (Severed) Relationship
A friend of mine actually knows Lorenna personally and says that she is an incredibly kind-hearted and sincere woman. I think each of their actions since the "incident" speak volumes about who they are as human beings, and further validate her not-guilty verdict. It's so great to see someone take their past victimization and convert all of the horror of what happened to them into advocacy for other victims - what an amazing legacy.

Also, it must be said: She looks FANTASTIC!
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GoldenRatioφ (aka -girl11)
05/04/09

@Helen Skor: I agree. I'm not sure how much I love the "irresistible impulse" defense, but I've got to say, 15 years later it looks like the jury got it right. How they've both spent the last 15 years is very telling.

And they were both very good looking people in the 90's, but holy shit, the difference in their appearances now is crazy! Life has not been kind to John Bobbit.
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linnyt is a walking cliché
05/04/09

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I always get this and the Buttafuco(sp?) case mixed up. In my mind, he got her in the face so she chopped off his dick.
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vwbugirl
05/04/09

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"that's just the tip of the story" I almost shot pop out of my nose.
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rednrowdy
05/04/09

@vwbugirl: it was the pause after 'tip' that was just.......no.
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LaComtesse
05/04/09

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The idea of martial rape is absolutely terrifying to me. I can't imagine allowing yourself to be so open and so vulnerable only to be so horribly abused.
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LolaQuinn is full of beans
05/04/09

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I really wish she hadn't done this. I was really pleased when she appeared on Oprah and was adamant about not initiating contact with him or responding to his attempts to contact her. I'm a little disillusioned that she agreed to do an interview with him, on TV.
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GoldenRatioφ (aka -girl11)
05/04/09

@LolaQuinn: I agree! I'm thinking she just wanted/needed the money, and that perhaps she thought it would bring even more attention to domestic violence issues, because people would watch if they interviewed together.

But at least from this teaser, it seems like the Insider really took the tacky/sensationalizing route...
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TheEternalOptimist
05/04/09

@LolaQuinn: $$$ apparently won out over her senses and morals. With today's economy, I'm not suprised. But, if it were me, and I have gone through 13 years of spousal abuse, I would not do this. She is feeding into his insanity and making it OK. He will never be truly sorry for what he has done, so why bother?
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JessicaLovejoy: Laughing, riding, cornholing!
05/04/09

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I'm not really sure of the timeline because I was pretty young at the time, but this story and the song "Detachable Penis" became intertwined for me.
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bananastand
05/04/09

@JessicaLovejoy: Laughing, riding, cornholing!: Yep, I believe they were around the same time...1994?
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LolaQuinn is full of beans
05/04/09

@JessicaLovejoy: Laughing, riding, cornholing!: LOVE. THAT. SONG.

Also, I get very sad when I bring it up and people have no idea what I'm talking about.
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bananastand
05/04/09

@LolaQuinn: King Missle! Right?
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LolaQuinn is full of beans
05/05/09

@bananastand: I thought Primus? I have no idea!
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Madlenka
05/04/09

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Oh, The Insider, you're always trying to heal people, aren't you?
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morninggloria
05/04/09

@Madlenka: I hear they're changing the title of the show to "Selfless Diplomacy."
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Mrs. Stephen Fry
05/04/09

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I can't believe he'd agree to be in the same room with her. The porn career must not be going so well for Mr. Bobbitt.
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LaComtesse
05/04/09

@Mrs. Stephen Fry: I can't believe SHE'D be in the same room with HIM! I get the impression that Mr. Bobbit is skeezy enough to do anything for a buck...
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Mrs. Stephen Fry
05/04/09

@LaComtesse: This is true. V. good point.
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BeckySharper
05/04/09

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I was living in Virginia when this happened, and it was a good moment for feminism. Not for the obvious reason--rapist gets his dick cut off--but because it focused much-needed attention on marital rape and battered-woman syndrome (she was found not guilty because of temporary insanity resulting from the abuse. Numerous witnesses backed her claim of domestic violence).

Lorena Gallo handled herself courageously and gracefully through the whole ordeal and went on to help women who had suffered similar abuse. She's a real heroine, IMO.
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greengrey
05/04/09

@BeckySharper: I feel like we've taken steps back since then. I mean, if this happened today, I feel like the response would be to blame her.
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Rooo sez BISH PLZ
05/04/09

@greengrey: And I feel you would be correct.

IMO it's a hangover from Bush Administration power trips and their ilk. (We had 8 years of them, remember.) When a fish begins to stink it starts at the head.
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BeckySharper
05/04/09

@greengrey: Hard to say. I don't think VA at that time was a particularly progressive place legally or culturally (I was born and raised there, so I'm not gratuitously slagging on it).

I think the big difference is that this happened before the 24-hour news cycle and internet saturation coverage. It would have been even more grossly sensationalized and overblown today. Not sure that would necessarily lead to more victim blaming or not...
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Ionic
05/04/09

@greengrey: I think you are correct. It amazes me that feminism was further ahead in the 1980s and 1990s than it is now.
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greengrey
05/04/09

@BeckySharper: I don't now about VA, but I was talking more about the national response. We hardly have sympathy for rape victims, and I feel if a woman did that to a man now, men would be yelling about "men's rights" and claiming if "she were a man, she'd be in jail".

As @Ionic: said, it's strange (because I have the feeling too) that the 80's/90's were a much better place for women than now. Although (I hope) that now we're just feeling a backlash.
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slowpoke.r
05/04/09

@greengrey: People blamed her back then, before the trial, and some probably still do. She was most definitely portrayed as a crazy evil bitch for quite some time in the media.

So, things have maybe not changed much but I don't think we've gone backwards. Yet.
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happysquid
05/04/09

@greengrey: Na, the 80's and 90's really WERE a better place.
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Sputnik_Sweetheart
05/04/09

@Ionic: Well, these things tend to go in cycles. The 1920s, 30s, and part of the 40s were (relatively) great years for women, but then from the late 40s to the early sixties, women were encouraged to be housewives and mothers-- women often went to college and/or got jobs just to meet a man to marry. Then in the mid-sixties, women realized en mass that they were unhappy and rebelled against the housewife role. It will get better, eventually.

P.S. Not to say that being a housewife is unrewarding, but many women had no other choice available to them.
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BeckySharper
05/04/09

@happysquid: @greengrey: Why do you say the '80s and 90s were so much better? In the 80s women were significantly less represented in government and there were a lot fewer women in grad/law/med school. There was no Fair Pay Act, there was no flex time or discussion of work-life balance. There were many fewer women in management positions in the private sector...

Outside the US, there was very little public awareness of sex trafficking and other human rights atrocities against women in other parts of the world. There were significantly fewer female leaders in other nations, too.

I'll take where we are right now, thanks.
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birminghamdrunk
05/04/09

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Let's cut to the chase- we all just wanna know what his reattached junk look like, no?
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BeckySharper
05/04/09

@birminghamdrunk: Do a Google search (not from work!). There are stills from his pornos.

The answer is, not good. And it doesn't work particularly well.

Karma's a bitch.
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bklyn155
05/04/09

@birminghamdrunk: I saw the porn he did (the only porn I've ever watched, in fact) and it was so nasty. The money shot looked like he was squeezing a tube of toothpaste. Kind of ruined porn for me.
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birminghamdrunk
05/04/09

@bklyn155: aw gross! EW! that was the worst visual EVAR! but why!?!?! WHY CAN'T I STOP LAUGHING?????

had to friend you for that, btw.
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Rooo sez BISH PLZ
05/04/09

@birminghamdrunk: Ew. No, we do not all.

We most emphatically do not. Trust.
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Jack_Burton
05/04/09

@birminghamdrunk:

Rent this:

[www.imdb.com]

Wait, don't. Lemmy Kilmeister from Motorhead has the best cameo - picks up severed penis off of ground, and throws it.

Cumming soon to DVD (NSFW audio):
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birminghamdrunk
05/04/09

@Rooo sez BISH PLZ: hay. a little morbid curiosity sarcasm never killed anybody.

i'm actually not so sure i want to see it anymore after the most lovely description above by bklyn155.
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Rooo sez BISH PLZ
05/04/09

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Giving the concept "Diving for Ratings" a quantum leap into the 21st century.
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CloudsInMyCoffee
05/04/09

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If John Bobbitt and Amy Fisher star in an adult movie together, will the universe implode?
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morninggloria
05/04/09

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And now, a break from all of the crazy media circus things we're covering to bring you a update of a crazy media circus you may fondly remember from the 90's.
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bananastand
05/04/09

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What's up, BEST PART OF THE 90'S??
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bananastand
05/04/09

@bananastand: Uh, as you can tell, I believe the husband was totes guilty.
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McKinleyHighGeek
05/04/09

@bananastand: It may be the screenname, but "What's up, BEST PART OF THE 90s?" is in Gob Bluth voice in my head. For that, I friend you.
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bananastand
05/04/09

@McKinleyHighGeek: And your screen name/picture combo has ME friending YOU.

Oh, a magical union has happened today...
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Kali Mama
05/04/09

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There was a documentary about John a few years back about how he went from doing porn to bankruptcy to trucking to bankruptcy and various other jobs and sleeping on couches at friends houses (and skeeving out their wives) and it was fucking depressing and gloomy.
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mbprice
05/04/09

@Kali Mama: By all accounts, the guy sounds like an ass anyway, but I do imagine it'd be hard to put your life back together when you'll forever be known as "the guy who got his dick chopped off."
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BeckySharper
05/04/09

@Kali Mama: Karma....
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Kali Mama
05/04/09

@mbprice: Oh yeah, I mean in the sense that this man is never going to get any humanity awards. And looking at the court pictures and him now, the hard living is showing.

And you can't really tell from that short clip but there's this lack of empathy or remorse behind his eyes. His first reaction to the claims of rape and stalking is an emotionless face and denial.
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