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randomnessish
04/28/09

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I haven't giggled this hard in EVER. Just the picture of some old Pakistani grandmother holding up a whip...priceless. And the two deadpan and shy brothers made me smile.
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MarissaExplainsItAll
04/28/09

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So does this get rid of catholic guilt?
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baraqiel
04/28/09

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"Recently, when a curious employee inquired about the purpose of the sleep sack, a sleeping bag-like product used in certain kinds of bondage, she was told it was a body bag for the American military in Iraq."

Yep. That's our military -- so messed up that fetish equipment could conceivably be used by them for non-sexual purposes.

Ah, well. At least these guys are making a buck. I hope that they pay their employees well!
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LocalStMary
04/28/09

@baraqiel: I could believe that. I mean, we use spare metal for armor, why not bondage gear for body bags?
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baraqiel
04/28/09

@LocalStMary: Well, for one thing, they don't cover the head from what I can tell. Also: "The wearer is placed in the sack, many sacks have zipped internal pockets to secure the arms at the side and to prevent the wearer from moving them. Once the arms are secured the sack is zipped up. Most sleep sacks also have rows of d-rings either side of the zip to allow the sack to be laced tightly around the wearer." If I was sewing that and was told it was for a corpse, I would be mighty suspicious.
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blueberryblackberry
04/28/09

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I loved this story. That being said, I wouldn't buy this company's gear (fetish fashion stuff is different). I have a lot of experience with kinky gear, and companies run by "vanilla" people very rarely get it right. The best toys are made by people who play with them, because they understand what their kinky customers need.
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merv
04/28/09

@blueberryblackberry: I feel much the same way about women-owned-feminist sex shops.
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NefariousNewt
04/28/09

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A major perk, they say, is attending international fetish shows to see how their products hold up in action.

"No, no, no... you are doing it all wrong... here, let me show you... always use downward strokes, like this..."
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merv
04/28/09

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now please tell me that my vibrator is saving the baby gorillas and that normal tampons are saving the rain forest. please.
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cwisto moweina has got yer goat
04/28/09

@mervbaby: well, "baby gorilla" sounds like an adequate euphemism for one's lady parts, so maybe.
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jemandtheholograms
04/28/09

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However, the company does not believe in employee discounts.
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StarSquid
04/28/09

@jemandtheholograms: COTD!
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Laulau
04/28/09

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(a) That is so awesome for them. I hope this article doesn't get them in trouble.

(b) I was skeptical that the workers wouldn't figure out what they were making until I saw that first item and couldn't really figure out the point.

(c) Why can't we have pretty buses like they do in Pakistan?!
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cwisto moweina has got yer goat
04/28/09

@Laulau: yea, I don't understand most kinky sex toys just by looking at them. They all look kinda scary.
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Triana Orpheus
04/28/09

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Well now I know that my kinky side has helped someone get a better life- ahh! Yes, I'm a bad girl!
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NefariousNewt
04/28/09

@trianaorpheus: I'm seeing a variation on those Christian Children's Fund commercials: "For just the purchase of a leather flogger, you can feed a family for a day."
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Triana Orpheus
04/28/09

@NefariousNewt: Lol, I can see the sister from Rosanne with a collar around her neck.
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MarissaExplainsItAll
04/28/09

@trianaorpheus: unfortunately, you're a good girl now!
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merv
04/28/09

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How are they going to explain away the sex chair? (like in Burn After Reading)
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NefariousNewt
04/28/09

@mervbaby: That was so funny!
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merv
04/28/09

@NefariousNewt: that movie is really underrated.
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Newsgirl
04/28/09

@mervbaby: I LOVE that movie.
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insomniacmeg
04/28/09

@mervbaby: I was shocked how good that movie was! I was expecting so little, and it's incredible. I guess just because it came so soon after No Country...

I love on the bonus features where Ethan says, (paraphrasing), "It's a movie about high level government business and the world of physical fitness. Two worlds that rarely are examined together..."
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NefariousNewt
04/28/09

@mervbaby: I agree. I really feel like I have to watch it another 20 times before I'll understand exactly what happened. Still, when Clooney was building the chair, with stuff he bought at Home Depot... priceless!
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merv
04/28/09

@insomniacmeg: hahaha! I think people mostly hated O Brother Where Art Thou? too. But I loved it.
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wtfox?!
04/28/09

@mervbaby: People hated O Brother? Wow, that's news to me... my sister and I can quote whole swathes of that movie.
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merv
04/28/09

@wtfox?!: lines from that movie are spoken everyday by my family. But I thought it was an Appalachian thing because it got such horrid reviews.
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NefariousNewt
04/28/09

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I wonder what you get if you're employee of the month?
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merv
04/28/09

@NefariousNewt: more face time on the episode of Real Sex?
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MarissaExplainsItAll
04/28/09

@NefariousNewt: I'm more concerned what would happen if they did a bad job!
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♥ dosido☮
03/18/09

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Y'all. My current was a virgin until us, and he is so vanilla it HURTS me.

It's honestly a problem. He waited until his 30s to get laid (Catholicism probably had something to do with t hat, though he swears he was just waiting for the right person), and I honestly think his sexual fantasies are along the lines of soft-focus Victoria's Secret models in pretty frilly things. Which is sweet.

I don't want sweet, I want dirty. And I can't get him to play along. The boy won't talk dirty to me - won't even TRY - and even slightly rough play makes him uncomfortable.

He doesn't even seem to want sex all that much. He wants to kiss. A lot. It's...sweet. Really. But I clawed my way to my sexual prime, and it took me forever, and I am really GOOD at sex and I really LIKE sex and I can handle my own orgasms, but I do have to have someone willing to at least, you know, play along a little bit with me.

I try to talk to him about this and he just gets all shruggy and says that he doesn't like talking about it. Makes me feel like an oversexed hoor. I seriously don't know that i want to spend the rest of my life with this otherwise amazing, stellar creature if the sex is going to be beige.
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♥ dosido☮
03/18/09

@♥ dosido☮: Plus holy shit he likes sex in the morning and I can't put a sentence together before noon, much less give a passable blowjob. All I want in the morning is coffee, a cigarette, and NOT TO BE TOUCHED.

Jesus, the more I write about this the more it makes me despair.
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momentsofabsurdity
03/17/09

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When I ask my boyfriend what his fantasy is, he's usually like, "Sex on a beach."

"Yeah but how?"

"I don't know. In the sand."

"You haven't thought about this?"

"I don't know. Why are we talking about this?"

"Well, what position?"

"Me on top, I guess."

"That's seriously your deepest, darkest fantasy?"

He's totally lying (he must be right? No one's deepest fantasy is sex on a beach!) and now I know who to blame. The patriarchy ;-)

As for me, I had very little trouble telling him my deep fantasies, but since they pander to ideas of male dominance, I suppose it was acceptable for him to acquiesce.
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Sputnik_Sweetheart
03/17/09

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Both women and men suffer from a virgin-whore dichotomy. Women tend to suffer more on the "whore" side of the spectrum and guys suffer more on the "virgin" side. Although, a woman can be prudish or frigid and a guy can be a man-slut, a womanizer, or player, as well.

Why can't we just enjoy the sexuality that comes to us naturally, without society coming in and telling us "too much, too soon" or "not enough?"
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baraqiel
03/17/09

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Right, but there's a really good reason for this (not to say it's right). Kinks are, at their base, all about power dynamics. A man isn't allowed to express desire to be in a subordinate position in a power dynamic because that's anti-masculine. But a man also isn't allowed to express desire to be in a dominant position, sexually, because we as women have been trained to see that desire as threatening due to rape culture. Whereas if a woman expresses a desire to be dominant, that's thrillingly different (or something?) and if she expresses a desire to be subordinate, that's acceptable according to societal norms. It's an odd conundrum.
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B3K
03/17/09

@baraqiel: That's a really good point. I mean, how many kinks are there for a guy that doesn't make him seem like a wimp or a rapist? MFF threesomes? Sexy lingerie? Are those even kinks?
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baraqiel
03/17/09

@B3K: It's hard, too, because I'm a sub and my boyfriend's a dom and I like it that way but honestly sometimes he scares me, and I can't help it. And I like it anyway! But still.
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