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Wedding News Roundup: Chill! Or, You Know, Sue.

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sequined
06/15/09

In reply to Wedding News Roundup: Chill! Or, You Know, Sue.
So wait, am I correct in reading the implication that it's crazy-liberal-feminist and anti-tradition to have both of your parents walk you down the aisle?

Oy, people are going to fucking die when I eventually plan a wedding.
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HistoricUpstart
06/15/09

@rixatrix: That's what we're doing! PARTAY ONLY!!!
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rixatrix
06/15/09

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I think a courthouse wedding (followed by a kickass party) is so romantic. It's like, "I don't need to play princess for a day. I want to have a marriage with you." And who needs a white dress?
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LaComtesse
06/15/09

@rixatrix: No one NEEDS it. I WANTED it. When you feel like you NEED it, it's time to reassess.
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rixatrix
06/15/09

@LaComtesse: Maybe I should've said *I* don't need a white dress. Something blue, maybe, because I look great in blue. And lamb curry afterward.
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LaComtesse
06/15/09

@rixatrix: Mmmmm. Lamb curry. Yeah, good food is essential to life and especially to a wedding, should one choose to have one. I still dream of the food at my wedding...
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shak_diesel
06/15/09

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Question: Wouldn't a real feminist support a woman who wanted a traditional wedding if she so chooses?
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elizabells
06/15/09

@shak_diesel: My momma taught me feminism was about choices. I think sometimes people forget that.
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PreposterousHypothesis
06/15/09

@shak_diesel: I think the key is choice. If a woman makes a conscious decision to go 100% traditional, then that is her choice. If she's getting a bunch of pressure from family to go a certain way and thereby reinforce potentially loaded and patriarchial traditions, or from the wedding-industrial complex to HAVE TO DO certain things, that's where LACK of choice comes in, which is decidedly unfeminist.
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Ailanthus-altissima
06/15/09

@elizabells: I choose my choice, dammit.
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stacyinbean
06/15/09

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Ok, I'm sorry, KIFFEN? Really?
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LadyFabulous
06/15/09

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*sigh* I wish I could have a small wedding, but it'll be pretty damn hard. My family's been waiting for like 28 years (I'm 28) for me to get married, but I've also got about 52 cousins on one side alone...

I'd elope, except when my sister did that my mom had a stroke... literally. :/
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goodgirlrevolution
06/15/09

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I am getting married in Vegas in August and struggling with the same dilemma! What's a modern bride to do??
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ArtfulSlinger
06/15/09

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Well to get the full page wedding article for the Styles section of "The New York Times" is not very hard, when you are white, actually wealthy and play alternative for fun. Or you know the writers for the column.
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Trulymadlyme
06/15/09

@ArtfulSlinger: I tried to restrain myself. But yeah. I am waiting for the Times to print the announcement from blue collar couples or couples of color who aren't insanely wealthy/educated.
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MizJenkins
06/15/09

@ArtfulSlinger: I think the NYT has actually done a pretty good job of keeping the wedding announcements diverse, including not only people of color but older couples and gay couples. I think they're more prestige whores (Ivy League schools, lawyers, doctors, bankers etc.) than anything.
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ArtfulSlinger
06/15/09

@MizJenkins: @schweppes: Yes in the little blip sections I have seen a few black couples, many asian couples and loads of gay couples. And maybe its more of a class/prestige issue, but for the full page article I can not remember ONE couple of color in recent months. If I missed it, sorry. But the majority of the people who make the big story in the section are friends of the editors, writers or a friend of a friend or some couple thrice divorce who found love or "alternative" rich kids.

I find the big story a bit ridiculous as a low key affair considering it was an intimate party in the very expensive backyard of the tony area of the hamptons on LI. I might have swallowed a bitter pill this morning but nothing about the wedding section is truly diverse in NYTimes. I can blame it on the demo thats fine and accurate but its not an open playing field there.
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Trulymadlyme
06/15/09

@ArtfulSlinger: @MizJenkins: It's more of a class/ivy thing, than a race thing really. But that growth was due to the induction of minorities. Like most "elitist" institutions, the proxy of where you went to college took the place of your breeding. Somewhat more meritocratic, but not really considering the whole 500 years of oppression thing. Just saying.

I never lived in New York for long, but if I grew up there, I'd find the Times wedding section annoying. Why can't working class folks' love be celebrated?
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Zombie Ms. Skittles
06/15/09

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Yeah, I'm still totally going for the Vegas experience. Would y'all recommend Celine Dion or the Star Trek museum as a reception site?
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Trulymadlyme
06/15/09

@MissSkittles is not your kind of lady: Circus Circus.
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