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Secondly, SA has, in some ways, more in common with things like eating disorders than drug or alcohol abuse. A healthy functional adult should still have relationships (including, where appropriate, sexual relationships) just as we all need food to survive. Unlike the substance abuser who simply becomes abstinent for life, the sex addict, like the anorexic, aims eventually for some degree of 'normality' (I hate using that word, but trust that people here know what I mean). This is unbelievably difficult. Anyone who has suffered with any form of addictive or obsessive/compulsive behaviour can tell you that learning moderation is the hardest thing of all. For the sex addict, learning to have normal, non-sexual relationships with other people is vital to their recovery.
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i'm pretty sure that's what she had them for because i cannot think of any other reason why she would have them. #sexrehabrecap
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What happens is that the flirting brings up whatever their real issues are: objectifying and sexualizing the opposite sex. Or maybe they’re using that to avoid really being intimate and showing their true colors, because they’re kind of acting out and kind of getting a high off of the sexualizing and the obsessing and the fantasizing. When you see it in action and you call them out on it, they get to admit that they’re doing it, they get to see how they do it, how it shows up in their lives. And it gives the therapist a chance to see how it shows up, as well. And then you get to really go in and do the work and look at what’s underneath and what’s driving it: the fear of really being known, the fear of being intimate in a healthy way, and not sexualizing everything. When people sexualize and objectify, it’s because they don’t really think that they have anything to offer other than their sexuality, and they also have a hard time seeing other people are real human beings: they seem them as objects. It’s actually really helpful when the flirting does happen. #sexrehabrecap
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In fact, I know a lot of guys that would be interested in being tested for HPV. Are there other ways to detect it in men (especially the non-wart kinds) beyond random growths like this? #sexrehabrecap
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I'd never been tested, am in my early 30s, have been sexually active and at plenty of times not used protection (with longer-term partners). I fully expected to test positive having heard the same statistics, so was really surprised it was all clear.
Certainly was a relief, and I apparently I don't need a pap smear for 2 years now... #sexrehabrecap
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I'm going to go do some research and put plastic wrap around everyone!
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To Dr. Drew. #sexrehabrecap
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Also, the last video is hilarious and it makes it impossible for me to take their addiction seriously. Sorry dudes.
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I'm also hard pressed to think of a time I gave a BJ, or ate anyone one on hard wood floors. But maybe I'm just not that classy. #sexrehabrecap
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@token_illiterate_commenter: "3 weeks you'd be humpin' the turkey."
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And is it really wrong to masturbate? You'd think that would be more of a therapy than having sex with multiple, random strangers. #sexrehabrecap
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I.e. sex addiction is not like heroin where you're addicted because you have a physical dependency and you vomit and have seizures and physical pain when you stop, but it IS a compulsion that indicates you have serious problems that need to be addressed in a medical setting. Things that you do that interfere with your ability to have the life that you want are REAL mental health issues.
That being said- I don't think any one is getting any REAL treatment on a reality show. I think Dr. Drew is sincerely interested in people's well-being, but I think he's totally misguided. #sexrehabrecap
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For the person who implied that I was saying being gay wasn't real: nice try, but no. Being gay isn't an addiction and has nothing to do with this. You were just using a hot button to try to make me look wrong. #sexrehabrecap