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All The Single Ladies, Explain Yourselves
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Thu Dec 17
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03/22/09
I cannot choose between Slobodan Soro and Christoph Metzelder. I was leaning toward Christoph, really, but the whole "selling your soul for Real Madrid" thing has given me pause.
There. Happy?
That's what I thought.
03/21/09
03/20/09
Things are fine for now. I'm seeing someone now too, who knows what'll happen?
03/20/09
03/20/09
:D
03/20/09
Happy?
03/20/09
I'm alone because I have friends who laugh and go out to concerts and play Scrabble and keep me occupied when I want to go out and we seem to laugh more than our married friends and we even look happier, even if we aren't, but I suspect we might be, at least moreso than many.
it seems that the friends you have when you are single aren't quite the same once those same friends get bf's/gf's, get married, get too busy, have kids, buy houses, and you stay single. they don't want to go out because they don't need to, they don't have the money to, and your focus changes. that's how it goes. then you find you have to make all new friends which is good to do but harder to do as you get older...
it's not that you can feel left out being single, it's that life and society at large makes you feel that way.
03/20/09
03/20/09
Almost all my friends in Cali are married or in serious relationships. So I think about being single a lot.
I was in a 3-4 year relationship then broke up and moved here, I met a guy 6 months after moving here and fell for him HARD. He was a narcissist dick and broke my heart. It really took me til last November to get over all my relationship bullshit from the last 5 years.
Then I realized...whoa, I'm WAY happier single than I ever am in a relationship and the sadness after relationships end is WAY worse for me than being single.
I also realized I spent half my 20s living with dudes that were a complete waste of time and made me miserable.
Hooray for 30.
I have to admit, I did find a very cute boy on okcupid yesterday though...crossing my fingers that he turns out good.
03/20/09
Grandfather: You got a boyfriend or anything?
Me: Nah, I haven't found anyone good enough yet.
Grandfather: (laughs hysterically).
My grandpa's a good man.
03/20/09
03/20/09
Everybody has got to live the life that makes sense for them, and life almost never "winds up the way you expect it to." Those who learn how to roll with it and be content are blessed. And everyone else should get out of their grills.
03/20/09
03/20/09
There are loads of reasons why a person might find themselves single, but this is a really good one. I should know.
03/20/09
03/20/09
03/20/09
So when we're not visiting each other, I live like a bachelor, and I LOVE it. Dirty socks all over the floor? Beer for dinner? Questionable approaches to dishwashing? Coming and going at all odd hours? Waking up at 4AM to Wikipedia something and then go back to bed until 6AM? Elaborate veggie cuisine for breakfast, lunch, and dinner? ALL OF IT. MINE. I don't feel pressured to cook or clean or sleep properly, like I did in my past cohabitative relationship, and I feel FREE.
I. FUCKING. LOVE. IT.
03/20/09
03/20/09
I'm very much a Katharine Hepburn type -- I don't view myself as a "singleton," and since I don't, I don't get that back from anyone. In my neighborhood, about five of my 25 neighbors are single women. One of them suggested we all band together and I just looked at her and thought, "Why? Our marital status doesn't automatically mean we have anything else in common."