<![CDATA[Jezebel: honesty]]> http://tags.gawker.com/assets/base/img/thumbs140x140/jezebel.com.png <![CDATA[Jezebel: honesty]]> http://jezebel.com/tag/honesty http://jezebel.com/tag/honesty <![CDATA[Incest Enthusiast Wants Your Understanding, Acceptance]]> People keep sending us this Times of London article entitled "I had sex with my brother but I don't feel guilty." Two things about that. One: incest is not okay. It's not ever okay. Two: I'm sick to death of people writing first-person essays about bad behavior and expecting that the mere act of writing about it absolves them of any responsibility and places them above censure. In the Times, the anonymous incest-lover says, "[Incest] doesn't happen to everyone but it happens to some, and I don't want to be made to feel guilty about it." Then why are you writing about something incredibly taboo in a public forum? If this lady wants to fuck her brother, fine. I'm not going to stop her. But the expectation that this "honesty" is beyond reproach is laughable.

And anyway, she keeps trying to prove that the sexual union with her brother was completely normal and healthy and didn't interfere with their relationships, except she "found it hard to be physically intimate with anyone else" and eventually her brother almost agreed to dump his fiancee, on the condition that they "Stay together and not see anyone else. We could be the old boring brother and sister who never got married, but ended up sharing a house because no one else would have them! I know this is meant to be wrong but I've never felt anything so right.” [Note: if she feels so strongly about breaking the taboo of incest, why is this article anonymous? Just sayin'.]

The tone of her essay reminded me of a comment left in response to a story I did on Ellen Tien, who wrote in O denigrating her husband and thinking about divorce constantly. She was upset about our judge-y coverage of Tien, and said, "What about 'when a woman tells the truth she is creating the possibility for more truth around her'? If this is the truth of Tien's experience of marriage I'm glad she described it, and I don't think she's a selfish or nasty person for it." But our truthful reaction to Tien was that her article in O was incredibly bitchy, just as my truthful reaction to this incest story is ew. If your takeaway from that quote is truth is God, then these articles and our subsequent reactions are truly worthwhile. But is every transgression, no matter how base or cruel, from the status quo worthy of shouting from the rooftops?
"I Had Sex With My Brother But I Don't Feel Guilty." [Times of London]
Earlier: O Writer Claims That Beneath Every Marriage Runs The "Chyron Of Divorce"

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<![CDATA[What Do You Bother Lying About Anymore?]]> What do you lie about? This was a subject addressed today on The View, and it had me anxiously rubbing the neurons together because I am a really bad liar, which is okay, because my job allows me to be honest, for instance: instead of writing this post I have been refreshing the comments on other posts to see what you all have to say about the things I ask you to make jokes about, and occasionally IM-ing certain other Jezebel editors with the results of my findings (LOL!). Okay, so back to the question at hand: lying. Sure, we "all" tell the occasional tall tale about fleeing from sniper fire, but it is the age of Radical Transparency. People are getting GPS-enabled cell phones; before long you won't be able to politely lie to that once-best-now-distant friend about what you're doing tonight. Are you lying to anyone about what you're doing tonight? You're probably lying about what you're doing right now, but how long can that last?

Recession-mandated spy software will probably be after you before long, and most people aren't lucky enough to be spending 90% of their workdays playing computer solitaire on behalf of Alabama taxpayers, like this guy.

There are other lies we tell: but lying about your height is not really lying, because everyone does it, sort of the way retailers lie to you about what your waist measurement is, so it's not really lying to say "28" when you know that is a big fat lie; it's just sort of the same thing as nominal GDP and real GDP, adjusted for inflation. And to that end I recently discovered people are allowed to inflate their GPAs by approximately 0.2 points.

And to that end I am about to time-stamp this post "4:30" even though it is currently 4:58 p.m., and save it without even trying to pretend it has a point.

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