You thought you were super-clever when you knocked the cat brush into the trash last week. However, I have foiled you and bought another! I've also just brushed the equivalent of another cat off you just now.
See, here's how it works: you're a Maine Coon. That means you're big and hairy. If *I* don't brush your loose hair off, *you'll* end up licking it off yourself and getting monster hairballs. Which you will then hork up in the hallway, right where I'll step on them first thing in the morning. Really, it's the best thing for both of us. So will you just chill out already and let me brush you without complaining? I think you have another spare cat's worth to go.
I doubt that anyone's here, but I have to try anyways-- taking the GRE on Thursday, and confidence = shot. Seriously, how can analogies be so fucking hard? Does anyone have any tips for analogies, so maybe I don't feel like such a dumb ass? Virtual hugs and cookies, sent ASAP. #nationalnachosday
@M est enchantée de vous rencontrer.: I AM WITH YOU! I'm a writer and editor, and I have an English degree- how can analogies be this bad? (Re: my verbal skill tonight, I am drunk, and I'm not Hemingway). I just have to remind myself to keep it simple, because I will make the most obscure sentence ever and it doesn't really work. Just make sentences with the words, and keep the verbs basic. #nationalnachosday
O hai everyone! Hope y'all's saturday is going along alright. To all you sickies out there, I feel your pain. We had what I think was the flu all week long and we are still not feeling up to snuff. I have the raunchiest, most disgusting cough ever. When I laugh you can hear the phlegm rattling around in there and boy is that gross. But! We are going to our favorite breakfast place tomorrow morning! We don't go very often because it's always crowded and it's kind of expensive, but Oh God their breakfast is orgasmic. I cannot wait to stuff myself with brioche French toast with cinnamon/brown sugar butter and syrup, and gigantic bacon, and potatoes. Mr. Foibles always gets the eggs Benedict and since their portions are enormous I always eat some of that too. It's the kind of thing where when you're done, you sit back and feel amazed that you can have such an appetite. Oh it is so effing good. We're sort of celebrating our anniversary which was tuesday this week. It was such a horrid day at work and we were both so sick that it wasn't any kind of happy anniversary. So tomorrow is like a make-up day. And it's supposed to be 65 degrees and sunny tomorrow and my truck is filthy, so I plan to give it a much-needed bath. I'm excited about this, because I am a total hermit in the winter and it'll be awesome to get outside. Anyone else have good sunday things going on? #nationalnachosday
I was hoping that someone could tell me the name of the website that sells boots by the calf size. I can't find the post anymore. I tried to shop for boots yesterday, and I nearly cried :(
Thank you in advance, and I hope the weekend is treating everyone well! #nationalnachosday
So, Jezzies: Don't mean to be a downer but I finally got the nerve and strength to report the man who molested me 23 years ago (I was only 5 going on 6 at the time) and am confused as to what to do. Like, do I just walk into my local police station, say, "Hi, I'm SM and I'm here to report a crime that occurred 23 years ago"...or what?
Bad enough that it took me this damn long to get through the fear, shame and self-loathing that I had to go through before "being ready" to do this but now...I just feel so damn lost even though I'm in a better place now than I used to be (hello, suicidal) and every time I think about the fact that I'm going to report it, I shit you not, I regress to my 5-year-old state again.
It's not like I'm expecting that after this long he'll get prosecuted or put in jail but, this guilt has been gnawing at me for the past year since I actually admitted to myself that it happened and that it was real thinking about how my fear and silence may have put countless other children in danger. I should have gotten the nerve years ago but...it was so damn hard.
So...just wish me luck, Jezzies. I know I don't post a lot around these yonder parts but there's just something about saying that this is what I'm going through out loud here that gives me an inkling that it will help me, a lot (especially if someone can light the way for me since I really honestly don't know the first thing about how to go about actually doing this).
I have a name, an address and a story to tell and even a suspicion that he may have molested again (just heresay from a friend of my mom's who says one of his grandchildren has taken to acting strangely about pulling down his pants to go potty...like, he won't do it at all to the point of just going in his pants and at this point he is/should be potty trained) but it's taking that first step, which I will I promise.
@smijca: I don't really know anything about reporting molestation a while after the fact, but there a lot of legal minded Jezebels that I'm sure can give you advice. I reported my sister's molester, but it was a long time ago, and not too long after the last time he assaulted her, so I'm not sure how it would be approached now. You are brave and strong for deciding to report him, no matter how long ago it happened. I'm so sorry you have to go through this. Good luck, and stay strong. #nationalnachosday
@smijca: Good for you for coming forward. I hope whatever happens you continue to heal. I also hope you are getting some help dealing with this - going forward will definitely bring up old shit so please get a good support network around you.
@boobookitteh@GirlFailer: thanks so much guys. GirlFailer for the good, positive vibes and bookbookitteh because I got to use the online hotline center and talked to someone and now I have a clearer idea of what step I need to take. My local police department actually has a Child Abuse Squad, I got the number contacted them and a really nice lady walked me through what to do and was blunt with me about how I might run across inexperienced oficers (rookies) who might say that it's been too long but she told me to make sure I was persistent and, if needed, talked to a Sargeant because they take child abuse seriously no matter how long ago especially if the alleged offender (because even though I know it happened to me he still has rights and I know how it will be written in the report) is still around children.
I'm beginning my journey now, guys...scary as all hell but I refuse for the to be this giant secret that keeps eating away at my insides. Hope everyone has an awesome weekend and I'll let y'all know, I'm guessing in another open thread, how it all turns out. I may be a shy lurker but please know that this site, you guys are so AWESOME! #nationalnachosday
@smijca: I'm glad boobookitteh's link helped you! I knew someone around here had a good idea of what steps you could take.
I hope this helps you with the healing process, and please, know that you are so strong! Good luck, and I hope this process is as smooth as it can be. #nationalnachosday
@smijca: I can't imagine what that would be like, but I'll be thinking of you and hoping everything turns out the way it should! Just the fact that you are starting this process shows what a strong person you are. #nationalnachosday
@tinydundie42: Thanks so much! God, I should have posted about this sooner on this site but it was just weighing me down so much and it was such a big, huge secret that was gnawing at me and I'd conditioned myself to just be silent. I'll let everyone know how it comes along as it comes along. I'm just steeling myself for the family drama that will probably ensue if/when he gets investigated. #nationalnachosday
@boobookitteh: I will! Thank you guys so very much. And thanks for the link. That online crisis support site was very helpful since, oddly enough, I was feeling kind of out of sorts and nervous about this whole thing. #nationalnachosday
@GirlFailer: Thanks for being the first to respond and the first to really make me feel that, hey, if a perfect stranger can feel empathy for my situation regardless of how long it's been...I shouldn't be as scared as I'm feeling. :) #nationalnachosday
@suddenvalley: Totally don't feel brave about it at all but now that I've gotten your guys' input and have recruited my best gal friends to come along with me when I report...I'm feeling more optimistic. Just to get this off my chest and feel like I'm doing something, finally, regardless of the outcome, makes me feel 100X better. Much love to all the Jezzies who read and responded with the Jezzie love. So glad this site exists!
And sorry to all Jezzies and admin for being such a newb about replying to multiple people in different posts instead of just one huge reply. I didn't think about it until after I'd done it so a big ol' D'Oh and I'll be better about it next time.
I finish my undergraduate dissertation this week and then the world is my oyster...or clam or...something. Please wish me luck. I have nothing lined up and am excited! #nationalnachosday
I have this really vivid memory of walking away from the building after finishing my Master's comps. I was thinking, "Wow, my whole life is going to change now." And it did in really major ways!
Congrats on your accomplishments and best wishes for the future.
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Nice when they dump these decisions in the middle of the night. I always want to imagine The Godfather and they're toughing it out as they go to the mattresses. Emphasis mine:
Under the late-night arrangement covering abortion, Reps. Bart Stupak, Brad Ellsworth and other abortion opponents were promised an opportunity to try to insert tougher restrictions into the legislation during debate on the House floor.
The leadership's hope is that no matter how that vote turns out, Democrats on both sides of the abortion divide will then unite to give the health care bill a majority.
I have to finish a Bach-style invention draft by tomorrow, then I have the final draft due Monday. And I have a paper due Tuesday, and tons of reading to do on top of all that.
@Erda: I have a lot of little stuff (3 bio labs, a physics lab, a sociology short essay, and a sociology project) due this week. I'm sitting at this front desk until 8 am and I haven't even brought myself to working on one of them. #nationalnachosday
I can't seem to stop getting sick this season. First it was swine flu. Then I got hit with some weird bug last week...then a sore throat and an ear infection. I went to the doc for the throat/ear combo and he had me lie back and felt on my abdomen. Right side was okay. Left side? OWWWWWW. His guess? Mono. FUCKING GREAT. So I went and got a mono test done and also had a sonogram of my spleen. My spleen is enlarged. Mono test came back negative, but apparently that doesn't mean much since I haven't been sick for long. So they're ordering a more conclusive test for next week.
In the meantime, I have had to miss class, and I'm in a play that opens next week. Me getting all stressed out over all of this is not helping me get better. But it's hard because I am sick but I can't tell my teachers/director that I have mono because I don't know yet. All I know is that I'm *sick* and that doesn't mean much right now. I have missed 2 days of rehearsals and countless classes. I don't know what to do.
At this point I'm kind of hoping it's mono, because if it isn't, what if it's hepatitis or something? The internet is only making all of this worse, and I STILL don't understand what a spleen does! #nationalnachosday
@first man: Spleens can get enlarged with a few different viral infections (I had mine without mono), but you should be able to get a note from your doctor about what's going on. Because if your spleen is enlarged, you need to rest. Or at least that's what my doctor told me when my spleen was sad.
To give you hope, though: Mine was not hepatitis or mono! We never figured out what it was. But I did get better in a little over a week, and then I was fine.
And speaking of Hepatitis, one of the vaccines is elective, so after this is done you can always get that for peace of mind. You probably won't have the vaccine if you haven't been exposed to the virus. #nationalnachosday
Tonight I went and did the candlelight / group hug thing. (My family bleeds camouflage, all shades & patterns.) They played this and while it's not cheesy (close, Chess) nor appropriate for Nachos Day it hit me hard and I thought I would share.
Here's to better days. And extra cheese. On everything. #nationalnachosday
I just caught a glimpse of myself in the mirror, and I looked exactly! like my mother. I was making a face she makes when she's displeased. But I wasn't displeased. But I am now horrified. #nationalnachosday
Obtain a large cookie sheet. Round chips since you want them to lay flat. No heels in the air.
Have everything chopped, sliced, drained and sliced. Start layering. Black beans, scallions, canned and fresh diced tomatoes, black olives and a little garlic. Next apply the extra sharp cheddar and jack cheese. Pour a little melted cheese and milk mixture over top. Finish with more cheese and any leftover stuff. (You spicy tarts can throw in the nasty old hot peppers as needed.)
Place in the oven at like 400 (I have an ancient oven) and bake until the cheese starts browning.
Once out of the oven throw extra scallions and olives on top. Garnish with avocado and sour cream.
Eat and pass out in bliss. If cooking for two you will have leftovers for later in the weekend!
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You thought you were super-clever when you knocked the cat brush into the trash last week. However, I have foiled you and bought another! I've also just brushed the equivalent of another cat off you just now.
See, here's how it works: you're a Maine Coon. That means you're big and hairy. If *I* don't brush your loose hair off, *you'll* end up licking it off yourself and getting monster hairballs. Which you will then hork up in the hallway, right where I'll step on them first thing in the morning. Really, it's the best thing for both of us. So will you just chill out already and let me brush you without complaining? I think you have another spare cat's worth to go.
Love,
Your Owner #nationalnachosday
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I was hoping that someone could tell me the name of the website that sells boots by the calf size. I can't find the post anymore. I tried to shop for boots yesterday, and I nearly cried :(
Thank you in advance, and I hope the weekend is treating everyone well! #nationalnachosday
11/07/09
Bad enough that it took me this damn long to get through the fear, shame and self-loathing that I had to go through before "being ready" to do this but now...I just feel so damn lost even though I'm in a better place now than I used to be (hello, suicidal) and every time I think about the fact that I'm going to report it, I shit you not, I regress to my 5-year-old state again.
It's not like I'm expecting that after this long he'll get prosecuted or put in jail but, this guilt has been gnawing at me for the past year since I actually admitted to myself that it happened and that it was real thinking about how my fear and silence may have put countless other children in danger. I should have gotten the nerve years ago but...it was so damn hard.
So...just wish me luck, Jezzies. I know I don't post a lot around these yonder parts but there's just something about saying that this is what I'm going through out loud here that gives me an inkling that it will help me, a lot (especially if someone can light the way for me since I really honestly don't know the first thing about how to go about actually doing this).
I have a name, an address and a story to tell and even a suspicion that he may have molested again (just heresay from a friend of my mom's who says one of his grandchildren has taken to acting strangely about pulling down his pants to go potty...like, he won't do it at all to the point of just going in his pants and at this point he is/should be potty trained) but it's taking that first step, which I will I promise.
It just...it's hard. :( #nationalnachosday
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RAINN has good resources - you could start there:
[www.rainn.org] #nationalnachosday
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I'm beginning my journey now, guys...scary as all hell but I refuse for the to be this giant secret that keeps eating away at my insides. Hope everyone has an awesome weekend and I'll let y'all know, I'm guessing in another open thread, how it all turns out. I may be a shy lurker but please know that this site, you guys are so AWESOME! #nationalnachosday
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I hope this helps you with the healing process, and please, know that you are so strong! Good luck, and I hope this process is as smooth as it can be. #nationalnachosday
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And sorry to all Jezzies and admin for being such a newb about replying to multiple people in different posts instead of just one huge reply. I didn't think about it until after I'd done it so a big ol' D'Oh and I'll be better about it next time.
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[www.lets-panic.com] #nationalnachosday
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I have this really vivid memory of walking away from the building after finishing my Master's comps. I was thinking, "Wow, my whole life is going to change now." And it did in really major ways!
Congrats on your accomplishments and best wishes for the future.
11/07/09
Under the late-night arrangement covering abortion, Reps. Bart Stupak, Brad Ellsworth and other abortion opponents were promised an opportunity to try to insert tougher restrictions into the legislation during debate on the House floor.
The leadership's hope is that no matter how that vote turns out, Democrats on both sides of the abortion divide will then unite to give the health care bill a majority.
[www.msnbc.msn.com]
I sure as hell care which way that vote turns out.
Stay tuned.
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Anyone else drowning in homework? #nationalnachosday
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In the meantime, I have had to miss class, and I'm in a play that opens next week. Me getting all stressed out over all of this is not helping me get better. But it's hard because I am sick but I can't tell my teachers/director that I have mono because I don't know yet. All I know is that I'm *sick* and that doesn't mean much right now. I have missed 2 days of rehearsals and countless classes. I don't know what to do.
At this point I'm kind of hoping it's mono, because if it isn't, what if it's hepatitis or something? The internet is only making all of this worse, and I STILL don't understand what a spleen does! #nationalnachosday
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The spleen is like a filter for broken or defective blood cells and produces antibodies. It's actually a really cool organ. #nationalnachosday
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To give you hope, though: Mine was not hepatitis or mono! We never figured out what it was. But I did get better in a little over a week, and then I was fine.
And speaking of Hepatitis, one of the vaccines is elective, so after this is done you can always get that for peace of mind. You probably won't have the vaccine if you haven't been exposed to the virus. #nationalnachosday
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Anyone else still out there? #nationalnachosday
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Here's to better days. And extra cheese. On everything. #nationalnachosday
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Obtain a large cookie sheet. Round chips since you want them to lay flat. No heels in the air.
Have everything chopped, sliced, drained and sliced. Start layering. Black beans, scallions, canned and fresh diced tomatoes, black olives and a little garlic. Next apply the extra sharp cheddar and jack cheese. Pour a little melted cheese and milk mixture over top. Finish with more cheese and any leftover stuff. (You spicy tarts can throw in the nasty old hot peppers as needed.)
Place in the oven at like 400 (I have an ancient oven) and bake until the cheese starts browning.
Once out of the oven throw extra scallions and olives on top. Garnish with avocado and sour cream.
Eat and pass out in bliss. If cooking for two you will have leftovers for later in the weekend!
Good night, folks! #nationalnachosday
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Must. Resist. Temptation. To. Make. At. 8 AM. #nationalnachosday