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    Image of Zombie Ms. Skittles Zombie Ms. Skittles
    11/20/09

    In reply to Stick A Fork In It
    Okay, so I am officially a loser. My plans for tomorrow?

    Finish my Spanish lab, knit my grandma a scarf for Christmas, go to Burger King with Girl from Karate, acquire Burger Shots combo meal + "Twilight Fan Pack," attend screening of New Moon, ogle.

    This I think might make me a gigantic dork.
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    12:01 AM

    @Zombie Ms. Skittles: or perhaps the coolest person on the planet.
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    12:09 AM

    @Zombie Ms. Skittles: i think it's rad you are making your grandma a scarf for christmas! i wish i knew how to knit.
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    Image of CurtCole CurtCole
    12:12 AM

    @Zombie Ms. Skittles: I'm seeing New Moon tomorrow too, though I'm not going to Burger King. I like to keep my nerd pants in hiding.
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    Image of TheFormerJuneBronson TheFormerJuneBronson
    12:13 AM

    @Zombie Ms. Skittles: How? It makes me feel better, actually, because aside from the Twilight stuff, that's like any given kid-free Saturday for me. I always imagine other people have these really cool plans, but I'm just there with my needlework and my TV shows and maybe lunch out while antiquing or going to the outlets. Plus school lectures, which I'm doing tomorrow. Please.
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    Image of Zombie Ms. Skittles Zombie Ms. Skittles
    12:14 AM

    @PaigeTurner: It's really not hard at all once you learn to knit and purl. Once you have those two stitches down, you can do pretty much anything.
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    12:15 AM

    @TheFormerJuneBronson: I have a class before the Spanish lab, actually. I need to write a couple essays but I can't find my list of topics. I'm boned.
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    Image of Ailatan Ailatan
    11/20/09

    In reply to Stick A Fork In It
    Hello Ladies and Gents! How are you all?

    I got together with some friends, ate more than our fair share and watched He's not that into you so we could laugh and criticise.
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    Image of CurtCole CurtCole
    12:12 AM

    @Ailatan: That a girl! That movie is so much fun to make fun of!
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    Image of girlnamedblue girlnamedblue
    11/20/09

    In reply to Stick A Fork In It
    I keep waiting for a Thanksgiving food thread, but this'll do. I'm usually the one that makes the dinner at my house, but the last couple of years have been blah. I'm thinking about brining the turkey, but worry that it'll turn out too salty. Has anyone tried this that can give me some tips?
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    Image of elaborate bacon (princessprissypants) elaborate bacon (princessprissypants)
    11/20/09

    @girlnamedblue: I've always wondered about this too- I know you have to rinse off the turkey really well after you take it out of the brine. Maybe that takes off the excess salt?
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    Image of girlnamedblue girlnamedblue
    11/20/09

    @elaborate bacon (princessprissypants): Yeah, from what I've read, that should do the trick. I've never done it before, so I'm apprehensive.

    #tips
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    11/20/09

    @girlnamedblue: Don't bother brining - waste of time and it comes out entirely too dry...

    Best turkey EVER: [nymag.com]

    I made it last year and am doing it again this year. SO GOOD. I promise you won't regret it.
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    Image of TheFormerJuneBronson TheFormerJuneBronson
    11/20/09

    In reply to Stick A Fork In It
    So last week, I talked at length about my love of Hitchcock. But I wanted to say also that recently, we've been discovering the joys of silent film. Over Halloween, we saw The Mummy, Nosferatu, and The Lodger, and this week, I saw The Lost World. Thought it was really cool, actually, considering how new their camera technology was, and what they probably had to work with in terms of effects. I never would have guessed that silent films could be so absorbing. I grew up with far more bells and whistles in film. How is it that CGI can be not only realistic but ultra-realistic? It's too real! Why should I complain about this? And yet...

    Anyhow, yes. The Lost World, 1925. Highly recommended. You can see it on Netflix Instant. And Lloyd Hughes is perfectly adorable.
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    Image of Mechanical Orange Mechanical Orange
    11/20/09

    @TheFormerJuneBronson: Nosferatu is INTENSE.

    I watched it a month or so ago for my film class and it really did freak me out. Particularly the part where nosferatu sneaks up on the dude in the bed.

    I think for extra credit I'm going to write a paper comparing both Nosferatu, The Mummy (original) to Coppola's Dracula which I've seen a few times due to my love for Gary Oldman.

    I'll have to check out The Lost World. I'm glad that you can watch all of the aforementioned films (except for the Coppola) online on Netflix. It makes everything so easy.

    Oh and hearted for Nosferatu love!
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    Image of AgnesGrep AgnesGrep
    11/20/09

    @TheFormerJuneBronson: I love The Black Pirate with Douglas Fairbanks. Also, I believe that Abel Gance's Napoleon from 1927 is the best movie ever.
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    Image of TheFormerJuneBronson TheFormerJuneBronson
    11/20/09

    @Mechanical Orange: Back at you! I know, I was really surprised by how scary it was! We both were! It was something about the way he'd rise so smoothly and silently from his coffin. Nothing about the movie felt like a cheap scare, either. I was freaked out in the dark for a week after I saw it. The teeth! The claws! Gaaah!

    Tell me more about your film class. Are you an undergrad? I took film as an undergrad and a grad student, even though it was never my field, and those are some of my best memories of school. Just love. I teach first-year writing, and I show two films in the fall semester every year, just because I love it.
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    Image of Tippi Hedren Tippi Hedren
    11/20/09

    @TheFormerJuneBronson: Oooh, The Lodger is excellent. I'm a bit Hitchcock obsessed, myself. Which is your favorite? I know, it's SO HARD to pick. Mine is actually not The Birds OR Marnie, surprisingly!
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    Image of NtotheItotheCKY NtotheItotheCKY
    11/20/09

    @TheFormerJuneBronson: If you like silent films you should check out Mary Pickford. My Best Girl is particularly awesome. Also you can never go wrong with Buster Keaton, or Charlie Chaplin. I'm not sure if they still have it, but Turner Classic Movies used to have Silent Sunday Nights. It's (was?) an awesome way to get introduced to those early classics. Silent films are awesome because you get to see the true innovation of the art. D.W. Griffith is awesome if you like that kind of stuff. Look for his shorts, or Broken Blossoms, but I'd shy away from Birth of a Nation, or Intolerance unless you're a die hard.
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    Image of TheFormerJuneBronson TheFormerJuneBronson
    11/20/09

    @Tippi Hedren: Spellbound! It's so many things--my girl crush on Ingrid Bergman, how hot Gregory Peck is, my enjoyment of Leo G. Carroll, the music, the Dali sequence, trains, snow, Vermont...I don't know. I just know I never tire of it. It's not technically his best, but it's the one to which I have the most honest emotional response. I just love it.

    But I love so many of the others. And I love them more every time I see them. Rear Window, NxNW, Frenzy, The Lady Vanishes, and The 39 Steps come immediately to mind.
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    11/20/09

    @TheFormerJuneBronson: Nosferatu is amazing and I encourage you to explore some more works of early German cinema. The Cabinet of Dr. Caligari and Metropolis are truly haunting classics.
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    Image of TheFormerJuneBronson TheFormerJuneBronson
    11/20/09

    @AgnesGrep: Awesome. I'll put those in my queue right away. I didn't really know of many others, but usually I just start randomly watching whatever looks good, that they suggest to me.
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    Image of Mechanical Orange Mechanical Orange
    11/20/09

    @TheFormerJuneBronson: Right now I'm an undergrad, creative writing major and film minor. I'm taking History of Film until 1950 and then next semester I'm taking it up until the present. I LOVE it. We have a film screening every week where we've been watching films on 35 mm. This past week it was Citizen Kane, unfortunately the projector wasn't working and it was canceled.

    But the best part? My film prof is exactly like House. I could sit there and listen to him lecture all day.
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    Image of TheFormerJuneBronson TheFormerJuneBronson
    12:03 AM

    @cinematheques: Thank you so much for reminding me about Dr. Caligari. I meant to put that up last weekend and totally forgot. Metropolis is another one, I think is already in my queue, that I've heard so much about and haven't seen yet. I've seen M, though, so know the awesomeness of Fritz Lang. This winter vacation is going to be so great!
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    12:05 AM

    @Mechanical Orange: LOL! That's so great. I've had a few good ones and one memorably bad one. My film theory prof in grad school was so enthusiastic and so knowledgeable, but nigh incomprehensible! I could never follow his lectures. I think he gave me good grades out of sheer pity. I wrote a pretty good paper for him on Rope, though.
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    12:12 AM

    @TheFormerJuneBronson: Correct me if I'm wrong, but isn't Dr. Caligari on instant queue? I could've sworn my head exploded when I discovered this...
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    Image of Mechanical Orange Mechanical Orange
    12:13 AM

    @TheFormerJuneBronson: Yeah, I took a theory class last semester and I could never get through the readings. I was really surprised that I got a B. Our prof was lenient.

    #tips
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    Image of beatrice2000 beatrice2000
    11/20/09

    In reply to Stick A Fork In It
    I hate whenever I geek out about something, and feel silly afterwards. I was standing on line to see a dance show, and got into a small chat with a woman standing next to me. I asked if she knew anyone in the show, and she said yes, her two friends. Then I went on about how I didn't know that the choreographer was this famous dance critic, and mentioned previous shows I had seen. When I get into talking about something I like, I sound nerdy and forget to ask the person more about themselves. She had said, "That's very nice," and I took that as a cue to shut up, so I went back to the book I had with me. I've worked a lot on my social faux pas and innate geekiness, but still slip once in a while. I don't really care too much, I just know that it's an occasional slip that luckily is getting more rare.
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    Image of TheFormerJuneBronson TheFormerJuneBronson
    11/20/09

    @beatrice2000: I really like that quality in a person, so I don't know what her problem was. But I've been there before. I geek out too, and often feel like I make a jerk of myself, and alienate people or look like a fool. I'm too embarrassed to tell you the last time I did it, but suffice it to say that not being able to read that room is something that still makes me cringe.

    But it's who you are! People who can't have that level of enthusiasm for anything are so boring. Just always have fun and don't mind the jerks.
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    11/20/09

    @TheFormerJuneBronson: I just felt dumb. I didn't ask more about her, I just chatted on about the shows and was excited and happy, but realized I came off as a nerd, and she might've thought I was weird. So I just backed off and went to my book so I didn't say anything else nerdy. She didn't engage me in conversation, I just started talking just for fun, and didn't expect anything.
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    Image of coffeeandtv coffeeandtv
    11/20/09

    In reply to Stick A Fork In It
    I'm kind of scared. I have to talk to my boss on Monday about their expectations, and I'm getting kind of sick with worry. I have a 3 month contract. A position might open up soon, and I would have to apply for that. The thing is, I don't know if they want me to apply for it or not. I keep on thinking that they will fire me. I've only been there for 7 weeks and it's been very anxiety provoking and stressful. I keep thinking they'll fire me before three months and they won't want me to apply for the position. I get very nervous around my boss and I kind of blank out a lot. I have tried to follow all her suggestions and to meet all of her targets. I think I'm doing OK, but it's kind of hard to know sometimes. I don't think she likes me. I'm also working at a customer service job, which I guess I could work at full time again, but I have all of these bills and I'd really like the 3 month job, and what IF THEY FIRE ME? oh MY GOD! i'M SO STRESSED!

    This is all that I think about. Argh. Please help, if you've read this far. Have you ever had a temporary job? What do you do?
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    Image of Tippi Hedren Tippi Hedren
    11/20/09

    @coffeeandtv: They're not going to fire you from a temp job. You'll be fine. Perhaps after you've been there a bit longer you won't be so nervous about the full time position.

    Also, I know it's easier said than done, but try not to be so worried! When I freak out about stuff, I know I'm prone to mess up more than I normally would. Good luck!
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    Image of Zombie Ms. Skittles Zombie Ms. Skittles
    11/20/09

    In reply to Stick A Fork In It
    Y'all, I think I found the most unattractive porno ever! First, it's Russian. But the only talking is a few words at the start. It's 21 minutes long and over half of it is the dullest blow job I've ever seen in my life. Everyone has ass zits and razor burn, and if the third person doesn't show up until 16 minutes into a 21 minute video, I think you lose the right to call your movie a threesome, groupsex, OR an orgy. And for fuck's sake, dude, take off your god damn hiking sandals if you're going to be in a porno! People are trying to jack it to this.
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    11/20/09

    @Zombie Ms. Skittles: bwahaha! This so reminds me of freshmen year of college when my dorm buddies and I rented a dubbed porno on accident. It was the worst thing ever. Major let down.
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    Image of Zombie Ms. Skittles Zombie Ms. Skittles
    11/20/09

    @HM: Seriously, these people didn't even look like they were having a good time. Well, the girl did when the camera was looking at her face, but the two dudes just seemed bored by the whole thing. Seriously, if you actually get BORED while starring in a porno then you need to reevaluate your life choices.
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    11/20/09

    @Zombie Ms. Skittles: Russian porn sucks, I also heard that it is illegal to make porn there. go figure...that might explain a lot. Even my husband who is from Belarus hates it.
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    11/20/09

    @envirodesigner: It seemed so promising from the description! But yeah, I mean, there's a reason that the average blow job in an American movie is about 5 minutes long and usually involves some other stuff. This was 10 solid minutes of in-out-in-out-play with her hair-in-out-in-out-break-in-out-deep throat-out...I was like, FUCK SOMEONE HAVE AN ORGASM ALREADY. Jesus Christ...
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    11/20/09

    @Zombie Ms. Skittles: I remember going to the adult video store on my 18th birthday and buying the most ridiculous porn I could find (within my budget (?(?))) and ended up with Trailer Trash Nurses 2. I ended up watching it drunk with seven guys and all of them umcomf and commenting on how bad the lighting was and "That doctor is just not that convincing". And the nurses kept their squeaky clean white tennis shoes on!
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    Zombie Ms. Skittles promoted this comment cinematheques was starred cinematheques was unstarred
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    11/20/09

    @cinematheques: that reminds me of the sock gap
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    11/20/09

    @envirodesigner: TWO PEOPLE were wearing socks in this movie! And one was wearing those dorky hiking sandals much beloved by hippies and camp counselors! The ones with the velcro straps!

    NOTHING kills a boner like a naked Russian man wearing camp counselor sandals!
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    Image of Marla Singer Marla Singer
    11/20/09

    @envirodesigner: Jeff was so awesome.
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    Image of Zombie Ms. Skittles Zombie Ms. Skittles
    11/20/09

    @cinematheques: This is TOTALLY off topic, but your avatar always makes me think you're Latoya for some reason. When I'm scrolling really fast, your avatar and hers have similar colors in similar spaces.
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    12:01 AM

    @Zombie Ms. Skittles: yes, that's actually my old one and for some reason it won't go away. I uploaded a different one awhile ago yet my old one sporadically shows up every now and then. Do you know why that is??
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    12:04 AM

    @cinematheques: Nah, it happened to me though. I changed from a scary doll head to my current fashionista kitty and for like, 6 weeks I would get the old one show up half the time. It was REALLY annoying.
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    Image of Miss Scarlett Miss Scarlett
    11/20/09

    So I have almost no experience with children especially babies. I have never fed a baby or changed a diaper. Tomorrow I am baby sitting my 2- month old niece for like 4-5 hours. Hopefully my husband won't be too hungover and can do diapers. Any advice?

    #groupthink
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    Image of Miss Scarlett Miss Scarlett
    11/20/09

    @Miss Scarlett: Okay I am going to add she is a really good baby. She immediately started sleeping 5-6 hours a night and I have hung out with her 3-4 times for at least an hour each time and have never heard her cry.

    #groupthink
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    Image of GiggleLoop GiggleLoop
    11/20/09

    In reply to Stick A Fork In It
    I'm watching the 20/20 interview with Sarah Palin (Mom has control of the remote control) and I'm not bothering to refrain from the eye rolls. I do have to agree with my mom on one thing, all her children are lovely.
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    Image of Helen Valentine Helen Valentine
    11/20/09

    In reply to Stick A Fork In It
    Okay! Sorry to bring some srs bzness into the open thread fun, but I have a question.

    Where do you differentiate between "having a drinking problem" and simply "being a college student"? I ask because that post about college students being more likely to drink (duh) sparked my interest.

    For example, I consider myself to be a moderate-to-heavy drinker. As part of a nighttime-unwinding process I'll often have a few glasses of wine or what have you, and I will admit that most of my weekend evenings involve some amount (read: lots) of drunken revelry. Sometimes, I will overindulge and spend the next day regretting it.

    However, I've never done anything dangerous while drunk, I can go for days/weeks of not drinking without feeling any "withdrawal"-type symptoms, and I don't feel that my drinking has interfered with my ability to function normally (i.e. get good grades, go to work, carry on good relationships). And--perhaps the most telling aspect of this--I am a college student, living in an environment where drinking culture is the norm, and getting wasted is What People Do. So there is always someone I can point to as That Guy Who Drinks Way More Than I Do.

    Thoughts? What amount of alcohol consumption/indulgence do you think is normal or healthy for a college student? Do you think college drinking culture has any major effects on people's habits after graduating?
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    Image of heavymetalkarma heavymetalkarma
    11/20/09

    @Helen Valentine: I always have thought that "alcohol abuse" and "alcohol addiction" were two different things. I've definitely abused alcohol before - blacked out a few too many times, got drunk early in the day, drank way more than was healthy. But I'm not addicted, because I go weeks at a time without it sometimes, and because as I got older, I was able to stop abusing it.

    So, while you probably are abusing alcohol, you're probably not an alcoholic. Which I think is an important distinction.
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    11/20/09

    @Helen Valentine: wow, this is a really difficult subject to fully unpack. mostly because it naturally varies wildly from person to person.

    i didn't drink at all in high school. my first 2 years of college (who am i kidding, pretty much on and off the last 2 as well), i was a messy drinker. i had no sense of my limits- i can say with absolute certainty that if i tried to drink the way i drank in college today (i'm in my mid-twenties), i would wind up in the hospital. knowing my limits was a long learning process, and it still gets tested to this day.

    my parents are big wine drinkers, but my mom has always been really adamant about taking breaks from alcohol. like if she starts notice she's drinking a couple of glasses of wine a night for a few days, she will purposefully stop drinking for a week. it's about maintaining control.

    i feel like that was a ramble (i've had a couple of beers), and maybe i could elaborate on more specific questions, but generally i think it's about being self-aware and understanding why you are drinking and working to constantly be in control of it.
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    curiousgeorgiana promoted this comment PaigeTurner was starred PaigeTurner was unstarred
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    11/20/09

    @heavymetalkarma: Yeah, it's comforting to make that distinction. I feel like it's something unique to the college mindset (alcohol is hard to come by but everyone somehow drinks OMG ALL THE TIME), and I really don't see myself continuing in the same vein later in life. I just worry sometimes, because I am a worrywart. Thanks. :)
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    11/20/09

    @Helen Valentine: I drank a lot in college, like 5 nights a week to the point of being Very Drunk, and the prevailing notion seemed to be that you didn't have a drinking problem if you didn't drink before class, and if you didn't black out every night. That said, I drank way more than was probably wise, but now, 10 years after graduation (...seriously?) I am a very casual and infrequent drinker. My alcohol consumption dropped dramatically after I was out of school, mostly because the drunk culture doesn't exist in the world I inhabit, at least not to the extent it did. I think each person knows what's "too much" for them, and if you think you're pushing the limits of that, you probably are and you may want to cut back a little, if for no other reason than to prove to yourself that you can.
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    11/20/09

    @pileofmonkeys: Yeah, that's what I'm trying to distinguish--what part of the drinking is me wanting to drink, and what part of it is just the environment I'm in.

    I'm considering doing a thesis on something along these lines, but I'm trying to work out the details. Thanks for your input.
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    11/20/09

    In reply to Stick A Fork In It

    Fuck studying. I have just poured a large glass of Frangelico and put on a mini Rome marathon.

    Antony? HOT. Gawd, the things I would let this man do to me....
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    11/20/09

    @curiousgeorgiana: Have you seen Bedrooms & Hallways where he ends up sleeping with Kevin McKidd?

    So damn hot. It's like Rome: The College Years.
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    11/20/09

    @curiousgeorgiana: This is the worst time of the semester. There's too much to do gearing up for finals AND regular life stuff starts piling up thanks to the holidays.

    I decided to say fuck studying tonight too and got myself a copy of People's sexiest men.
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    11/20/09

    @hovy: Um, hello. Looking for that now. You're a peach.
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    11/20/09

    @AnotherJenn: Exactly. Mom called last night to ask if I would bake my extra special apple pie this year for Thanksgiving.

    I started laughing/ crying-- had been 48 hours without sleep and was losing it. "Mom, you'll be lucky if I shower."

    Night of hot men-- great cure for the stress.
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    11/20/09

    @curiousgeorgiana: Ahhh, Rome. So much pretty- scenery, dialogue, history, costumes, men. I'm a Titus Pullo girl, myself.
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    11/20/09

    @pileofmonkeys: I loved the class portrayals-- the way family relationships differ between the aristocrat and plebeian ranks. How they didn't shrink from the complex politics. And the nuanced characters. I'm so psyched about the movie. Oh man.
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    11/20/09

    In reply to Stick A Fork In It
    Today is the one year anniversary of meeting my bf! And he remembered it! I kinda didn't. He's due over later for some champagne and snacks.
    We met at an airport lounge on the way back to our childhood hometowns for Thanksgiving. We always joke that Spirit airlines brought us together, and also helped out by providing an empty seat next to me, which he crumpled his tall self into to chat, rather than sit is his extended leg room seat for most of the flight. Turned out we live 5 minutes from each other in LA. For our first date, we went dancing and strangers were asking us how long we'd be a couple!
    OK, I will stop gushing now, just thought you'd enjoy the tale.
    Cheers!
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    11/20/09

    @frugal: Congrats! I love stories about how people met. Enjoy the champagne and nibbles (I assume you've stocked up on peanut butter fudge for the occasion?) :)
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    11/20/09

    @frugal: Yay! Happy anniversary guys!
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    11/20/09

    @frugal: what a cute story! :) congrats on one year.
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    11/20/09

    @frugal: That's an adorable story. I love hearing those. And happy anniversary!
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    11/20/09

    @frugal: Congratulations and best wishes!
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    11/20/09

    @all: Thanks everyone!
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    11/20/09

    @frugal: Lovely! Happy anniversary!
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    11/20/09

    In reply to Stick A Fork In It
    So, let's talk about boys! Why? Because I'm bored, tired of hearing about college and kind of missing that whole dating thing. Anyway, whatever you want. Feel like ranting over a guy that won't pay attention to you? I'm interested! Relationship problems? Tell me all about it! Are you insanely happy with some new guy? I'll probably resent you a little, but I still want to hear about it! Funny/weird sex stories are also welcomed. Come on, let's all pretend we're 13 again, I have a neon blue nail polish and I don't mind sharing.
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    11/20/09

    @sarasasa: Well, my imaginary boyfriend and I have been getting along really well lately, but that's only because he's imaginary. If he were real, I probably would have gotten sick of him and dumped him by now.
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    11/20/09

    @sarasasa: boy = awesome. exam season for med school =/=awesome. We'd been together for a year and half before he started (now coming up on three), and I really miss that the before time. I miss the him he was then.

    And I'm slowly growing to realize that he will probably never have the time for me like he did back then. And I know a lot of my friends hate me for wishing sometimes that he had more time to spend with me, so did something a little less... time consuming. I think people assume sometimes I started dating him because he was going to be a doctor... but I'm dating him in spite of the fact that's what he's going to be doing.

    And then I hate myself because he's going to be a good doctor, and is doing it for all the altruistic, right reasons, and I feel selfish...
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    11/20/09

    @rodmanstreet: That's the best thing about imaginary boyfriends, they never ever fight you. Also, they're hot. Mine totally looks like Zachary Quinto. Talks like him as well.

    #tips
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    11/20/09

    @sarasasa: I am dating a guy right now, which is unusual for me, because for the last few years, I dated ladies. I kinda miss dating ladies.

    But most of the time, he's pretty good. He's understanding about a lot of my gender issues and he's a feminist. He makes weird honking noises from time to time, which is funny, because I squeak. He likes comics, politics and video games, and we share a love of really awful cheesy music. I used to mock Bon Jovi mercilessly, until he told me that was his favorite band. I was a jackass. We don't live together anymore - that sucks.

    He's really argumentative, though, and he talks too much. Seriously, both my friend and I had like $300 phone bills because he talks so damn much and you basically have to shout at him that you have to go. Skype is good. He buys me video games and carbonated apple juice, which makes me happy. I buy him gummy bears and jewelry, since he really likes bracelets and necklaces, but doesn't like buying them. He gets embarrassed at emotional scenes in movies and leaves.

    Also, I can't tell if my male coworker like-likes me or not :( I don't want him to, but I don't know how to bring it up. It's too awkward. He's cute, but I am dating someone already. And he pretty much only plays video games, which are fun, but I like someone with a social conscience. I feel arrogant for worrying.

    That's what's happening with me! What about you? Also, pass the Cheetos!

    #tips
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    11/20/09

    @sarasasa: You know, I was just thinking that Jez used to have more sex threads. Some of them were insanely hot. Was there a reason they dialed that back? I kind of miss it, being titillated while going about my normal business. That would also be why I read erotica on my phone in public. Sometimes it just makes life bearable. Especially since between work, school, the kid, illness, and hunting season, Mr. JB and I have barely seen each other awake for a month.

    The Cajun Special Forces French dirty-talker, though, has an awful lot of time to spare for me.
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    11/20/09

    @sarasasa: I adore a boy who lives in Seattle, about three hours north of me. He moved up there for a girlfriend, but they split six months ago or so (thanks, Facebook!). He and I dated five years ago, and we lost touch (read: he was having a summer fling while I was head over heels, so staying in touch post-break-up wasn't going to happen), but again, thanks Facebook, we now talk every once in awhile and we actually got together once. In February. I know. It's now November.

    ANYway. My firm has a fancy Christmas party, and because its main office is in Seattle, the party is in Seattle. The firm pays for hotel rooms for us Portland kids. I REALLY want to ask this boy to be my date to the party. BUT. Although we were supposed to get together when I was training up in Seattle in July, he got super sick (he said he did, and I choose to believe it), and although he said he was going to be home in Portland over Labor Day and we'd get together then, he didn't actually call or text or whatev. So I haven't actually seen him since February. I emailed him this week about some professional stuff, but otherwise we've really not even spoken/emailed/texted since the summer.

    Does anyone have some good strategery? The professional communique - I asked him for a recommendation for an expert witness - was total pretense to reestablish contact, and he got back to me right away, but it was still professional, quite perfunctory. How do I move from here to asking him if he'd like to be my date to the Christmas party? The fact of the matter is that if I ask, and he says yes, I'll be nervous, I'll try to drink my nerves away, that will lead to me putting the moves on him, we may or may not hook up depending on his willingness/drunkenness/whatev, and THEN, if it's just a one-night stand with this boy, I'll be sad.

    So. What if I ask and he says no? What if I put the moves on him and he turns me down? What if he doesn't turn me down but it's a one-night thing? If someone has a game plan for me, I'd be most grateful. And yes, I'm 28 going on 15.
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    11/20/09

    @sarasasa: Since we're pretending to be teenagers again I'll tell you the story of my first kiss.

    I was 15 and met my boyfriend at church camp (shut up). He lived about 50 miles away from my house so we didn't see each other much. We talked on the phone for an hour each night, the limit our parents would allow because this was the old days (mid-90's) and there were long distance charges. My mom loved that I had a boyfriend I couldn't see often, meaning had less chances to lose my virginity to, so she encouraged the relationship by driving me down to see him once a month or so.

    When my 10th grade Homecoming Dance was announced Mike made plans to be my date. He was 16 but he didn't have his license yet so the plan was for his parents to drop him off at my house the morning of the dance. After the dance he'd stay at my parents' house and I would stay at a friend's house-- no chance for sneaking in teh secks! Although we'd seen each other three times since camp, we had never kissed. We were both ridiculously shy and fundamentalist.

    The whole dance went by with nothing more than slow dancing. We had a great time though, and when my mom parked two houses down so Mike could walk me to my friend's door I thought the moment had finally arrived. Just as he leaned in-- Woosh! The door opened and my friend started acting goofy! She'd been watching for us. Nice. I was really pissed with her the whole night.

    The next day my mom drove us back to Mike's house. As his mom and my mom chatted we went out to his backyard-- the first time we'd been alone since the night before. He looked deep into my eyes, I looked into his. His face came towards mine. I titled my head up and closed my eyes in anticipation. Our lips met and-- huh, something wet was on my lips. I did a quick mental inventory. It wasn't sweat, our lips were both closed so it wasn't saliva. What was it?

    I pulled back and put my head on his shoulder, doing a covert wiping thing. Then I looked at his grinning face. There in the corner of his mouth was the answer-- he had a HUGE zit that had popped the moment our lips first met!!!

    I seriously considered a life of celibacy after that.
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    11/20/09

    @AnotherJenn: Wow. That is amazingly gross. Clearly Jesus was punishing you for your sinful lust :-)!
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    11/20/09

    @Penny_Esq: Ask him, you haven't seen him since February, how much LESS often could you see him if he says no, really? And if he says yes, have some self control and don't drink your nerves away! Smoke them, or chew them, bite your nails or get your tongue pierced so you have something to play with without no one noticing it.

    @AnotherJenn: HAHAHAHAHA That's the funniest, grossest thing ever.
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    11/20/09

    @boxspelunker: Don't feel arrogant for worrying. It's the worst when someone you like, but don't LIKE-like, LIKE-likes you, and you want to be friends but you're always worrying whether something you do will give him the wrong idea, which, if you have to shut him down, will make him feel bad and you feel guilty. Or maybe the guilty thing is just me, but, at any rate, it's no fun for anyone. Plus, social consciences for the win, seriously.
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    11/20/09

    @sarasasa: well i went to chicago where i used to live for a visit. this boy i used to like/kept talking after i moved/so now like MORE than when i left made me a cake (i am 100% team cake). it was delicious and i was pretty smitten. we hung out the rest of the night, thought something was going to happen, but no, very awkward goodbye. then he blew me off the entire rest of the weekend and on gchat.

    now i'm back in dc and feel deflated. boy-less, cake-less, just really fucking zapped of all mental and emotional power. and i want to talk to him even more. ?????????????
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    11/20/09

    @AnotherJenn: EEEEEEEW!

    Would you believe something similar happened to me?
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    11/20/09

    @la.donna.pietra: NO WAY!!! Please tell!!
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    11/20/09

    @PaigeTurner: Oy. What a let down. Sorry love. I have no good boy advice other than the play-it-safe approach I take, which hasn't gotten me very far. I can definitely weigh in on whether you should marry a dude, but the beginnings of relationships? I am useless at.
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    11/20/09

    @Penny_Esq: At the time I honestly considered that as a possibility. I thought for sure it was a sign that I was meant to be like Paul and live a celibate life.

    Poor Mike. I still wonder if he ever knew what happened...
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    11/20/09

    @Penny_Esq: aw thanks. i'm sure all will be fine, i'm just having a friday night semi-drunken pity pajama party with my cat. i need to meet more people here- but meeting people is kind of hard! and i don't know about internet dating. i will remember to get your advice before marrying, though!
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    11/20/09

    @PaigeTurner: You may be boy-less, but you don't have to be cake-less! Make yourself a cake and keep talking to us. Remember, we're channeling our 13 year old selves, and boys suck!

    #tips
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    11/20/09


    @sarasasa: cake porn (giggle)! what are they doing? (i haven't had the sex talk yet)!
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    11/20/09

    @PaigeTurner: They're wrestling. The girls have big pink balloons and won't share them with the boys so they're wrestling for them. In pink jumpsuits.
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    11/20/09

    @sarasasa: ahhh i see it. you are so mature!
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    11/20/09

    @AnotherJenn: Well, it wasn't my first kiss, but I playfully nibbled my boyfriend on the chin and inadvertently popped a zit with my teeth. It was icky.
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    12:02 AM

    @PaigeTurner: HOLY. SHIT. The boobs on the ladies on that cake. This girl in the center? Her boobs go past her damn knees! I'm not mad at a porn cake? But these ladies make Barbie's figure look like Kate Moss.
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    12:06 AM

    @Penny_Esq: so you're saying i won't grow up to look like this?
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    12:08 AM

    @AnotherJenn: I should say, I joke because I walked that same line in high school. I had a boyfriend I met at a church retreat when I was a senior, and my mom sat me down for a pregnancy talk that started and ended with an accusatory "Penny, you don't want to end up PREGNANT at graduation, do you?" when at that point the boyf and I had been together for two months and done nothing more than kiss. (He had pretty bad skin, too, but fortunately, as far as I know, I was never inadvertently treated to... your experience. As far as I know.)
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    12:13 AM

    @PaigeTurner: Depends on whether you want to go to college or spend that money on something else... :-)

    /kidding. I've had some wine. No offense intended. Just in case.
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    11/20/09

    In reply to Stick A Fork In It
    i have had the longest week, and am now supposed to go to the BF's friend's birthday party... I have very little interest in going, but I feel like I'm supposed to be making an effort. He spends more time with these women than he does with me (same class in highly competitive professional program), so they're a huge part of his life.

    but I'm totally in a mood...

    so, ladies, how do you put on your social face? any songs that make you feel pretty and vivacious? I feel the opposite of that tonight...
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    11/20/09

    @JoStockton: I do some Jamiroquai. It makes me happy. Or other kinds of neo-disco, because they are upbeat and danceable.

    Are his friends at least nice or pleasant to be around?

    #tips
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    11/20/09

    @boxspelunker: they are very sweet and pleasant, lovely people. who talk about a) the program they're in or b)people in the program that they're in
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    11/20/09

    @JoStockton: Lady Gaga. She's fantastic for an instant boost.
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    11/20/09

    @JoStockton: Sophie always knows how to turn my mood around.
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    11/20/09

    @JoStockton: Oh, rough. I always want to say something to add in to the conversation, but I've got nothing, so I smile and nod :/ I always secretly hope that they are all jerks, so I am justified in my awkwardness.

    Is there any kind of topic you can join in on?

    #tips
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    Image of MalinaMango MalinaMango
    11/20/09

    In reply to Stick A Fork In It
    Has anyone else been compulsively checking newspapers and blogs for their best movies and albums of the decade lists and analyzing/comparing/contrasting them? I've only seen a few so far, but I've been oddly preoccupied with this in the past few weeks.
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    11/20/09

    @MalinaMango: I haven't seen any of them yet! Wow, I hadn't thought of that. End of the decade. Scary.
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    11/20/09

    @MalinaMango: no but now i will be! searching the internet is my hobby- like stamps, or collecting coins
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    11/20/09

    @MalinaMango: I've seen both NPR's and the Onion's AV Club "Best of the Decade" lists. And I found between the two lists, I only own three full albums. So... yeah. I'm not sure if that means I have great musical taste, or I'm a total musical shut in.
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