@PaigeTurner: This has been happening to me on and off for a few days, although not right now. Oddly enough I found if I opened one of the other Gawker pages I did see notifications and was able to view my profile.
@PaigeTurner: I've been having problems for a couple of days now. Yesterday no matter how many times I cleared my notifications I was repeatedly notified about the same reply for, like, six hours.
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I'm listening to This American Life right now. It's really interesting -- about college drinking and the people who live AROUND colleges and how that affects them.
I live in a total college town, and I've seen some of these things myself.
I feel so bad. Mr. WM planned a wonderful birthday party for me to take place tonight. He bought all kinds of food and booze - made me a cake (from scratch!). And now people are bailing. Like, half the people invited.
It doesn't really bug me because while my birthday is not really cursed, it still kind of always has issues. It never really works out. I've gotten used to it - but he tried SO hard to pull this together for me. He is so upset.
Luckily, we have about 4 cases of beer, 10 bottles of wine, four different kinds of vodka, and a whole red velvet cake to get over it all.
@WaltzingMatilda: Luckily, we have about 4 cases of beer, 10 bottles of wine, four different kinds of vodka, and a whole red velvet cake to get over it all.
@WaltzingMatilda: Think about how awesome Mr Wm is, and have yourselves a wonderful party, blast some music! Dance around, drink and eat. I wish I could go to your party, my dear!
@WaltzingMatilda: Have a great time, anyway! Make the guests who aren't coming wish they hadn't bailed. Not that I'm speaking from personal experience or anything..
@mikskeezy: I really liked it, Peter O'Toole is so good looking, shame he's wearing so much make-up. Audrey looks divine, in head to toe Givenchy, I envied even her stockings!
Oh wow you guys, I'm watching the Mighty Ducks with my sons. I'd forgotten that a really REALLY young Joshua Jackson is in it!
Also, I was in high school when this movie came out, and I officially feel old.
@spamanda: I am also old and have trouble taking him seriously on Fringe. He's still just so baby-faced, but fact is he's apparently 31, according to Wikipedia.
So! I feel like groupthink has become a stand-in for a therapist for me. That's a tad alarming. But I also consider myself among friends here, so I don't feel too bad about airing my bitchery and troubles to y'all. Thank you to everyone who has listened and offered advice in the past, and hopefully this latest will be a topic that someone will be able to offer some kind of guidance on.
Okay, so this has been rolling around the brain for some time now and it's not a subject I'd feel comfortable discussing with, say, my mom or my sister. So I'm gonna dump it on you guys instead, k? Um. So do any of you think it's possible that a hypothetical guy could be gay and not know it? Or be so deeply afraid to admit it to himself that he doesn't even acknowledge it? Especially if aforementioned hypothetical guy was raised by a very traditional (read: conservative) and veeerrry close-knit family? The answer may be one I very much would not want to hear, am in fact terrified of hearing, but I had to at least throw this out there because I honestly don't know. Either way, it's off my chest. But that doesn't do much to allay my fear. Please note that I am a naturally distrusting person and that fact often colors my thoughts and raises suspicions where they aren't really warranted, and also note that I am the type of person who always anticipates the worst in other people.
@Aesop's Foibles. YES.: Eh, I used to date a guy who was super close to his mom and who gave all my friends gaydar pings. But he was also a horndog and really liked the ladies, almost too much. I think he was just a proto-metrosexual.
@icyblonde: But what if there were, um, flags? Like for example, if hypothetical maybe-gay guy had only ever had one serious girlfriend? And if HM-GG had not joined in his male friends' debauchery in his bar-hopping days? I mean, these could just as easily indicate a seriously shy dude. But gaydar is a thing, and if there are just a few tiny little pings going on it's enough to raise some heavy doubt. Like doubting your own gaydar in addition to doubting the guy's true orientation. So it's like WTF should one in this situation do about it? Obviously it's not something you can just bluntly ask someone, because if it's that deeply buried it's not like he'd admit it anyway. I have absoluteley no idea if my gut is just being an asshole or if it's really onto something.
@Aesop's Foibles. YES.: Honestly, it could go either way. One of my husband's best friends is very effeminate, and definitely gives off a gay vibe. He's not. He's married, has a kid, is totally comfortable with his sexuality. It's just the way he is.
On the other hand, I have a cousin that I'm pretty sure is gay. His mom is mentally very ill, and his dad suffers from depression, and they're uber religious. He's married with 4 kids. I'm still pretty sure he's gay.
And really, sexuality for many people is a fluid thing. Just because someone has a gay vibe, doesn't mean they don't also like the opposite sex.
@Aesop's Foibles. YES.: I'm not sure those are "flags." Many gay men who try and deny to themselves they are gay will overcompensate, by having many girlfriends, being quite sleazy, or aggressive to prove their "masculinity.". There's actually a very good insight into this in a Daily Mail article today, about a rugby player who just came out.
@spamanda: I am a heterosexual female with a healthy sex life (and a long-term male partner) who has a tendency to set of people's "lesbian" sensors.
All because I don't wear makeup, don't like shopping and am pursuing a career that involves picks and shovels. Sometimes when someone is giving off a "gay vibe," it just means they're not bowing to gender roles.
Come to think of it, my partner has set off a few people's "gaydar." (His fondness for rainbows doesn't help.) But he's a total hetero-horndog who LOVES women.
@heavymetalkarma: I went years without shaving my legs, used to wear a lot of mens' jeans (hey, they fit better!) and I don't fit a lot of gender stereotypes. I'm bisexual but I've been married for many years and have kids. Like I said above, for many people sexuality is really fluid.
@Aesop's Foibles. YES.: uhm I know this was probably not intended in the way I read it but I still found these comments rather ridiculous
"guy had only ever had one serious girlfriend? And if HM-GG had not joined in his male friends' debauchery in his bar-hopping days? "
I had a wonderful relationship with a man who fit this criteria and he wasn't gay - still isn't gay
also do I read correctly that this may be a person whom you are dating?
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Guys, I dunno if you saw my "Reality/Fantasy" Christmas list in the post from yesterday, but my reality came true last night! The bf bought me a fire engine red Kitchen Aid mixer! My life is made.
Off to go make cookies, cakes, pizza dough, bread, etc.
I woke up this morning at, like, 5, preoccupied with a party for 70 we're hosting this Sunday and the thought that I should do a decade in review post for my blog. I hunted down photos from NYE 2000 (side note, how was that 10 years ago?) and am overwhelmed with the thought of what has happened in the past 10 years. 9/11, Iraq, Obama. Thom Yorke put out an awesome solo album. Heath Ledger died, MJ died...
I will do some research, obviously, but what were the defining moments of this decade for you??
Ahoy Jezzies! How's things? It's snowing it's ass off over here. It's so pretty! But bad too, because it started in the wee hours and will continue until tomorrow morning. And the forecast mentioned something about "thunder snow" later today. That sounds rather scary, don't you think?
@Aesop's Foibles. YES.: Thundersnow is awesome. I'm down in Virginia, in the Shenandoah Valley, and there's about 25" outside of my house right now. It's a "heavy" winter when we get one or more storms with 6-8"!
@Her Grace: Jeez, 25"?? We might get twenty, they're saying. That's pretty much a load right there. And here at least it's going to stay in the 30s till midweek so the snow isn't going to go anywhere, but that means ice, which means my clumsy ass will be taking spills all over the place. Oh but I love winter. The best part is watching the dog literally frolic in the yard. He did it this morning. If you've never seen a 130lb rottweiler frolic, you haven't seen ridiculous. It is so cute. He likes to shove his face in the snow and then sneeze it off. Le Squee.
@Her Grace: Agreed Thundersnow is awesome. I'm down in southern Virginia, I think I might have seen one or two flakes in with the rain. Meaning everyone will have gone completely stupid, and forgotten how to drive, which one is dangerous, and two leaves my born and raised Ohioan ass wanting to scream. It's not even icy guys! So it'd be a bad idea for me to leave the house. Cleaning and WoW it is.
@DaniFae: We are at a level of snow that I feel comfortable with people freaking out--our cars are pretty much buried. But I totally know exactly what you mean about this "O noez, a snowflake!" business. I'm freaking out as I didn't have a chance to get groceries before I was snowed in.
@Her Grace: I wasn't making fun of people in your area, trust me, even in a place where it snows regularly, short of the far north, 25" in cause for panic. And I am so sorry to hear you're stuck without groceries, that's harsh.
@DaniFae: Oh, no, I didn't think you were! I'm in the mountains and you'd think that people here would understand that it snows every year, but we definitely get the freaking out over a handful of flakes or any sort of winter mix. This is the first snow I've seen that really has warranted the freaking out, though. The snow plows are making six and seven passes to clear the road and still not doing it.
There are a few little independent groceries downtown/down the street that all have owners who live within a block, so I'm hoping one might open.
I just came back from watching Avatar in IMAX 3D with my dad and my thought are this: It really reminds me of a 60's sci-fi novel like Anne McCaffrey meets Robert A. Heinlein. Which is not a bad thing since sci-fi films have been on a dark streak since Blade Runner ,The Matrix and the whole make it dark and edgy that Batman Begins and The Dark Knight. It's a pure adventure movie and succeeds at that beautifully. The effects and the 3d and be summed up with two words : AMAZING and detailed. At some points the natives looked real , like they are props or a prosthetic. The word that Cameron built is on the level of amazing that Jurassic Park was when it came out. I would love wallpapers of every wide shot of the forest in that movie. The displays on the computers and vehicles in the Imax 3d have depth and you can read every letter on them. One effect was to atrophy Sam Worthington's legs like he was a real paraplegic. The story was really standard and somewhat predictable which works for this. It's its biggest fault but it really doesn't take you out of it, unless your really anal about a thing like that. Yeah it's a bit long so is the movie .
@Rose.Selavy.Needs.A.Drink: My mom's out of the country and he had a rough day at work, I thought he needed a break. It worked, since his jaw was open the entire time .
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*though I have since realized he was also in Band of Brothers and Black Hawk Down
He also made a lovely Heathcliff
Finally, do you think the rumours are true that he pulled a "Billy Cruddup"?
(I just watched "Bronson" and whoa - crazy moive but he was excellent - despite it is horrifically violent)
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I live in a total college town, and I've seen some of these things myself.
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It doesn't really bug me because while my birthday is not really cursed, it still kind of always has issues. It never really works out. I've gotten used to it - but he tried SO hard to pull this together for me. He is so upset.
Luckily, we have about 4 cases of beer, 10 bottles of wine, four different kinds of vodka, and a whole red velvet cake to get over it all.
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Somehow, I'll think you'll make it through!
Happy birthday!
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Many Happy Returns! Fellow Sagittarius!
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Just put my party dress on, giving that red velvet cake my best bedroom eyes, and thoughtfully planning my first cocktail...
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Happy Birthday! :)
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And I noticed that young Eli Wallach was a dead ringer for Berlusconi!
Exhibit A, Eli Wallach and Audrey Hepburn
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And the resemblance is creepy.
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I watched Charade in bed this morning and I think it'll be Gone with the Wind tonight!
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Audrey really was her own class of movie star.
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Cary Grant is gorgeous. Why don't men look like that nowadays? I should have been born in a different era.
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Might have to watch Roman Holiday tonight!
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Give me presents!!
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Also, I was in high school when this movie came out, and I officially feel old.
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Okay, so this has been rolling around the brain for some time now and it's not a subject I'd feel comfortable discussing with, say, my mom or my sister. So I'm gonna dump it on you guys instead, k? Um. So do any of you think it's possible that a hypothetical guy could be gay and not know it? Or be so deeply afraid to admit it to himself that he doesn't even acknowledge it? Especially if aforementioned hypothetical guy was raised by a very traditional (read: conservative) and veeerrry close-knit family? The answer may be one I very much would not want to hear, am in fact terrified of hearing, but I had to at least throw this out there because I honestly don't know. Either way, it's off my chest. But that doesn't do much to allay my fear. Please note that I am a naturally distrusting person and that fact often colors my thoughts and raises suspicions where they aren't really warranted, and also note that I am the type of person who always anticipates the worst in other people.
This is awful. Help.
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On the other hand, I have a cousin that I'm pretty sure is gay. His mom is mentally very ill, and his dad suffers from depression, and they're uber religious. He's married with 4 kids. I'm still pretty sure he's gay.
And really, sexuality for many people is a fluid thing. Just because someone has a gay vibe, doesn't mean they don't also like the opposite sex.
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All because I don't wear makeup, don't like shopping and am pursuing a career that involves picks and shovels. Sometimes when someone is giving off a "gay vibe," it just means they're not bowing to gender roles.
Come to think of it, my partner has set off a few people's "gaydar." (His fondness for rainbows doesn't help.) But he's a total hetero-horndog who LOVES women.
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"guy had only ever had one serious girlfriend? And if HM-GG had not joined in his male friends' debauchery in his bar-hopping days? "
I had a wonderful relationship with a man who fit this criteria and he wasn't gay - still isn't gay
also do I read correctly that this may be a person whom you are dating?
why does it matter if, at the end of the day he is gay? more importantly, inasmuch as you may be correct regarding the "ask bluntly" but "may not receive truthful answer" you really need to be having this conversation with said person, not third parties
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There are a few little independent groceries downtown/down the street that all have owners who live within a block, so I'm hoping one might open.
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