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    Image of salthegeek salthegeek
    03:35 AM

    Oh and I a fail talking to women fail fail fail
    oh and I cant get a conversation going with a beer in me

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    03:53 AM

    @salthegeek: Hey, you got a star on Jez, you can't be that bad at it. That totally increases you bangability.

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    Image of Truely-marvelous Truely-marvelous
    04:05 AM

    @salthegeek: I concur with Lizard in the Wires

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    Image of salthegeek salthegeek
    03:30 AM

    My grades
    W.
    D.
    C.
    F.
    and not yet posted.
    Win/ Fail?

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    04:07 AM

    @salthegeek: A 'W'?
    What does that mean?

    (Sorry, not from the US, but I am curious)

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    05:09 AM

    @Truely-marvelous: Withdrawn. yeah I know.

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    Image of eatsshootsleaves eatsshootsleaves
    01:49 AM

    So today sucked. A very close friend died this morning. This is making my family not feel particularly Christmas-y. I won't belabor this point -- suffice to say, it's pretty rough (even if his death wasn't unexpected). However, I fucking love the holidays. I want this to be a good Christmas and New Year's for my family -- God knows we need it. It's been a really rough year for everyone.

    Any suggestions? Besides just letting everyone mourn (which, trust me, I realize is important)? I'm just looking for some activities to briefly get everyone's mind off of death.

    (Also -- funerals. Advice on handling funerals? I'm ashamed to admit I haven't been to one since I was ten -- they've always terrified me. I do have to go to this one, though, if only to comfort the family of the deceased whom I love dearly.)

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    Image of fictitious fictitious
    12:03 AM

    Was anyone else mildly/wildly addicted to "The Sing Off", the little a capella competition they showed recently on NBC?

    I could not be happier about the results!
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    01:20 AM

    @fictitious: A ridiculous performance:

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    12:00 AM

    I know this is about a week or so late (for most of us anyway), but my friend sent me this and it rings so true for me:

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    12:30 AM

    @SUNNY1: Haha that's completely awesome.

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    Image of Blodwynn Blodwynn
    12/22/09

    Who's starting break a week early? ME. Suck it high school.

    Who cares that I'll finally be cranking out my personal statement so I can be DONE applying to college? HUZZAH.

    So.......any suggestions what to watch? I plan on staying up late, and have Torchwood, Doctor Who, Primeval, and Skins in the Instant netflix line. Anything I should add?

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    Image of SUNNY1 SUNNY1
    12/22/09

    @Blodwynn: Hey congrats! Being done is one of the best feelings ever. You'll feel so much better :-)
    As for tv shows, I'm currently watching Absolutely Fabulous, LOST, Gossip Girl, and Veronica Mars. I dabble in The Office, 30 Rock, Law and Order: SVU, Grey's Anatomy, and Friday Night Lights.As you can tell, I'm big on my tv.
    However, your list sounds like you're from across the pond (or you prefer shows from there). If so, I've heard Spooks is good :-)

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    12/22/09

    @Blodwynn: Congrats! I actually started my break last Friday. Burning off the last of my PTO hours for the year.

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    01:12 AM

    @Blodwynn: The Inbetweeners. It's hilarious.

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    Image of Penny Penny
    12/22/09

    Have any of you read The Road? I am strangely drawn to it. About to crawl into the bath and read more, which makes me feel guilty. Them being super dirty and all.

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    12:35 AM

    @Penny: Ha -- what a jolly holiday read!

    Anyway, it's one of my favorite books (and I say this as someone with decidedly "meh" feelings about McCarthy's other work [though Blood Meridian was truly epic, if not as compelling and universal as The Road]). It was impossible for me to put down.

    My boyfriend liked it until the end. When you get there, I'd love to hear your thoughts on the family's fate. Personally, I thought it was perfect.

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    Image of Devonna Devonna
    12/22/09

    favorite new blog: [www.mattlogelin.com] Made me cry several times.

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    12/22/09

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    Image of ucelluccia ucelluccia
    12/22/09

    I've been surfing [www.givesmehope.com] and [operationbeautiful.com] all day, and crying. I think when school starts again I will be putting up OB notes in the bathrooms at the dorm where I work.

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    12/22/09

    @ucelluccia: I already knew about GMH, but I had no clue about Operation Beautiful! Thanks for sharing. I need to start carrying around Post-It notes. :)
    I wish I'd known about this (or thought to do it) earlier, in middle school and high school. Not saying it isn't necessary now in college, but it was so needed at my schools back then.

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    Image of elaborate bacon (princessprissypants) elaborate bacon (princessprissypants)
    12/22/09

    I threw out my back this morning. I don't know how I did it but I had to leave work early and have been laying on ice packs and sleeping all day. Nothing has helped.

    I have people coming in tomorrow for the holidays and my house is still a total mess. I can't stand for longer than a minute :(

    To top it off, it seems like all of the really good painkillers I have in my possession can't be taken w/Wellbutrin.

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    12/22/09

    @elaborate bacon (princessprissypants): Oh, man, that is rough. I've thrown my back out before and not been able to tell what I did to do it. Sometimes, it must not take much. Sorry you don't have anything to take. :(

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    Image of notwhoyouthoughtiwas notwhoyouthoughtiwas
    12/22/09

    A trending topic on Twitter right now is 'OnlyAHoeWould' and no one realizes that hoe is spelled wrong. Everyone is putting things that a ho would do. Oh, Twitter people. You are not smart.

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    12:44 AM

    @notwhoyouthoughtiwas: Only a hoe would agitate the O and A layers of the soil to remove competitive vegetation.

    That was a horrible, horrible joke.
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    01:05 AM

    @eatsshootsleaves: Don't you mean... hoerrible?

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    Image of Evie Havok Evie Havok
    12/22/09

    I just found out that Kendra Wilkinson is 24. So that means that when she was dating Hugh Hefner she was around 19/20. Ew. Also, I can't believe she's 24 and only 2 years older than me. And I thought I didn't look my age but older. Glad I see proof that says otherwise.

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    Image of hovy hovy
    12/22/09

    I went to Trader Joe's for the first time in months tonight. To my utter delight, they now have jasmine pearl tea bags! I love jasmine pearl tea, and this dovetails nicely with my complaints this morning about Tazo's Joy tea. Going to take a box with me to work tomorrow and hope that it works out.

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    12/22/09

    @hovy: Jasmine Pearl's the best! It can be so expensive, though. I've never bought it in bags - looseleaf only.

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    12/22/09

    @sharkish: Oh yeah, it's not a cheap loose tea. I try and make it last as long as possible, otherwise I'd be dropping some pretty serious coin every week.

    I've never had it in bag form before, so this will be an experiment to see if it stands up to the loose leaf variety.

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    Image of Penny Penny
    12/22/09

    I am at the bar and this dude behind me keeps saying "gnomesayin gnomesayin????"

    Then I think, why am I making fun of him? I am on a laptop. At a bar. A lame bar, but still.

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    12/22/09

    @Penny: You should go flying circus on his ass!

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    12/22/09

    @Lizard in the Wires - Please, call it hamburger time.: Dude, don't make me laugh weirdly at the bar.

    Seriously..

    "dude, seriously, but dude, but but I am not impressed, fuck her, dude, dude, she's hot, fuck that, dude dude DUDE, seriously."

    Kill me.

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    12/22/09

    @Penny: Seriously? Dude.

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    12/22/09

    @Penny: Sometimes when I'm bored I pretend I'm one of the guys from Ghost Hunters. But that's the best I got for a boring bar. Every time someone shakes the bar you scream "Satan be gone from my drink!"

    Also you have to ask people if they heard and/or felt that every 5 or 10 seconds. And if you're pretending to be the guy from paranormal state you have to make sure everyone splits up except for you and the lay-deezes. Oh yeah.

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    Image of Pennyfeather Pennyfeather
    12/22/09

    I am thanking the baby Jesus on this day for Gawker Media bringing back the numbered page, collapsible thread system. God willing, they'll keep it for open threads too! I use Safari and my system completely freezes up anytime I try to "view older comments" -- it can take fifteen minutes to open one new open thread comment page.

    Thanks, commenting overlords!

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    Image of RenoMartini RenoMartini
    12/22/09

    Jezzies, I am in dire need of your help, as I fear many of you have been, or will be in the same boat.

    The boat of attending Christmas festivities at the house of uber-republican, uber-Baptist, borderline racist relatives.

    I am a liberal, (ok, very liberal) Episcopalian, and that pretty much likens me to Satan. (For those of you not aware, only the Southern Baptist churches preach the true faith, and everyone else is a sinner and damned to hell. Or so I'm told) Since I am often outnumbered on this side of the family, I usually keep to myself and try to ignore their remarks which range from how wonderful Palin is, to how Obama is a communist, to totally innapropriate and offensive jokes about other people's ethnicities.

    I cannot get out of this, and I cannot drink while I am there. Any and all tips, aside from telling them to heartily "fuck off" and to take their Civil War re-enactments back to Alabama, will be appreciated.

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    12/22/09

    @RenoMartini: You say you cannot drink while there, but can you drink beforehand? Make a drunken ass of yourself and hope you're never invited back.

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    12/22/09

    @RenoMartini: I usually take as much as I can and if they keep going I will calmly correct one of the "facts" they are quoting from Fox News. I will then keep correcting them until they get a weird, confused look and give up. In my experience, wingnuts equate debate with yellling so staying calm and quiet confuses them.

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    12/22/09

    @RenoMartini: First, I want to wish you good luck!

    Second, when I'm in situations like this, I get either really sarcastic or really offended/offensive. It's a fine line to walk.

    Do you have any younger (baby-age) nieces/nephews/cousins that you can make conversation with? If so, I would stick with them.

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    12/22/09

    @token_illiterate_commenter: Hmmm...how do you bring facts to people who consider the "Economist" a commie rag?

    It's slightly like teaching calculus to cardigan-wearing hamsters, only infinitely more challenging.



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    12:59 AM

    @RenoMartini: My advice is not to drink, necessarily. I guess it works for some people, but, really -- has anyone ever, in actuality, found that adding alcohol to a tense situation in which you are the ONLY person drinking helps? At all? Unless you feel socially awkward around them, I can't imagine alcohol will do too much good (weed, on the other hand, works wonders).

    Now, I assume you want to be invited back, because they're your family and maybe you love them. I have plenty of horribly racist Republican fundamentalist Catholic relatives who I love. I have devised a three-part system to deal with them. I can't promise you that it will help, but it definitely helps me.

    1. This is the most important rule: DO NOT DEBATE THEM. If they say something flat out wrong ("Most women support Sarah Palin") you can correct them. If they say something that is even vaguely a matter of opinion, or something which requires more than a quick rebuttal -- something like "Obama's off on another apology tour" or "Obama created this enormous deficit, and now he wants to pass healthcare?!" -- DO NOT ARGUE THEIR POINT. They will not be convinced. If they could be persuaded by rational arguments, they would not be crazy to begin with.
    2. Change the subject before anyone gets angry at activist liberal judges or how Obama is planning to murder unborn babies or anything else remotely inflammatory. This list ( [gawker.com]) by Gawker should get you thinking of ways to change the subject by pretending to misunderstand the intent of what they're saying.
    3. A really fun thing to do, while not exactly helpful, is to get them to accidentally support something they oppose. Like if they say the health care plan will still raise premium costs, you can probably get them to agree that Medicare-for-All is an absolutely fucking fantastic idea, because stupid people are usually stupid in multiple ways. And then you and the fundies can be content believing that you agree with each other and everyone's happy.

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    Image of salthegeek salthegeek
    12/22/09

    Any podcast recommendations?

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    12/22/09

    @salthegeek: I have a great music one but I have to wait until I get home to tell you, don't have it on my laptop.

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    12/22/09

    @salthegeek: iFanboy for comics, npr has a lot of special interest podcasts (I like books, food and pop culture), Stuff You Should Know has a few as well.

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    01:06 AM

    @salthegeek: THE BUGLE THE BUGLE THE BUGLE THE BUGLE THE BUGLE.

    Oh my God. So it's John Oliver from The Daily Show and British comedian Andy Zaltsman making ridiculously inappropriate jokes about politics. They are joined on occasion by "The American," who is this wonderful stereotype of Americans played by a Daily Show producer. They also occasionally write hip hop lyrics for the president of Libya, lust after Florence Nightingale and other hotties from history, and generally make up ridiculous amounts of bullshit. It is as funny as the Daily Show, if the Daily Show was at its best every single episode. I really cannot recommend it enough, unless your goal is NOT to giggle creepily to yourself while listening to your iPod on public transportation.

    Another great podcast is "Radio Oh La La" -- it's retro French music. It always makes me feel amazingly giddy while I listen to it. Plus, the host -- Natasha -- has an unbelievably sexy accent (like, I'm about 70 percent straight and I'd totally do her).

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    01:19 AM

    @salthegeek: Other podcasts I'd recommend:

    *The Concert (which broadcasts classical music from the Isabella Stewart Garner museum -- it's great if you need to study or relax).
    *YOGAmazing -- it's a video podcast that basically is a yoga exercise video. The episodes are each routines for a different purpose: "Yoga for Geeks" is an episode, as is "Yoga for Colds" and "Yoga for the Libido."
    *The Savage Lovecast -- it's basically the same as Dan Savage's columns, which is to say, wonderful and hilarious. If you've never read him, he answers people's sex and relationship problems. He's very frank and unconventional and sex-positive.

    I would not recommend podcasts that have a new episode more than once a week -- you'll have trouble catching up on them all (that's why I stopped subscribing to song-a-day podcasts).

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    02:53 AM

    @Penny: ok cool

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    03:42 AM

    @salthegeek: Ok everyone thanks, I'll give everyone of them a listen to
    and here is my favorite pod cast of all time : The S-Words Podcast. It's about semi-random Pop -culture topics that begin with the letter S. It's split into reg eps with the S topic and the Stuff and Suggestions which get really really random.

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    12/22/09

    Ok, so I'm writing an email to my dad about going home for the holidays and I feel like I'm being horrible for saying this shit in an email instead of telling him. Can I get a second opinion about this, please?

    Hi Dad, (Insert general blah about email addresses) Before I get to the meat of the email, I want to say I don't want to make this about me against mom, and you're welcome to show her this email, if you wish.

    I am really torn about coming home for Christmas. And not because of the weather. I'll probably try to make it anyway, but I thought I'd let you know what is going on a little more precisely.

    I guess the best place to start with this is my self-esteem book that I've been working on. The thing is, I don't really want to come home, because I've built up this tiny little pile of self-esteem and I'm fairly certain it's going to be smashed over the holidays. I know you guys comment about stuff because you care, and/or are joking. But sometimes it really hurts. It's like sometimes mom doesn't really trust me to be myself and try things, whether it is cooking or speech or dancing (by the way, I've taken up dance classes, they're fun and apparently I'm pretty good for a beginner) because she doesn't think I know how to do something, or that she can't see me doing something. And that really sucks, because it feels like she's saying I can't and I'm not capable. And I don't mean to pick on mom, you do it sometimes too. The thing is, I've rarely failed at anything I've tried, and I've proven that repeatedly.

    The main issue is that I've worked so hard to get back up to the level of self-esteem that's allowing me to write this and I'm frightened that it will all be gone when I return home.

    I know you guys probably don't mean to be that way. I know you think that I can handle the joking and stuff, and I appreciate that. But I really can't deal with it at all. It just makes me doubt myself and what I can do and what I want to do. I do appreciate your advice, but unless something has a high risk of death or serious injury (75% chances), I'd like to try it without having to worry what you guys think.

    (End on a lovely note of reconciliation)

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    12/22/09

    @activearchivist is lovely, in a moist, fluffy sort of way: I think this sounds really good. I'm proud of you for sticking up for yourself. You might want to consider changing some of the "mom doesn't" and "mom is" statements to "I feel like mom doesn't" or "I feel like mom is." Then they are less likely to feel attacked, and more likely to hear what you're actually saying.

    Either way, I wish you luck. I have a VERY similar issue with my mother, and tend to dread the holidays for the same reasons. Try to remember, you can't change her, but you can change the way you react to her. Just look out for you. Your self esteem is so important.

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    12/22/09

    @activearchivist is lovely, in a moist, fluffy sort of way: I think it's a great letter. My only suggestion might be using more specific examples. As in "recently mom/you said x this made me feel y because of a, b, c" I think that might be helpful and maybe make the issue more clear and seem less like an attack.

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    12/22/09

    My Fair Lady is on TCM! Rex! Audry! And my favorite:Stanley Holloway. "With a little bit of luck ..."

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