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    Image of TransFat TransFat
    05:24 PM

    "I don't know sweetie, you think about it and make it happen."

    My boss after I asked something very specific that I can't move on until I get a concrete opinion from him.

    Seeeeeeeeeeethe.

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    05:35 PM

    @TransFat: Want me to hold him down for you?

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    05:36 PM

    @sayah: You're going to need a bigger boat.

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    06:37 PM

    @TransFat: This is an actual exchange that occured between my boss and myself on Monday...

    Me: Did you buy a roll of stamps when you were at the post office? I need to mail out the new enrollment forms before the 1st.

    Him: I don't know.

    Me: I think it's a yes or no question.

    Him: Oh yeah. I guess no then.

    I cannot believe this guy is my boss.

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    06:49 PM

    @sassyredhead: You're tellin' me sister. Freedom to the proletariat. Barring that. Freedom to the Happy Hour.

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    07:01 PM

    @TransFat: Breathe in, breathe out, if that doesn't help, you can do the motherfuckerassholewanker! under your breath, it's very therapeutic.


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    03:12 PM

    I think I just finished a paper for my women's studies class, evaluating the effectiveness of third-wave feminism contesting neoliberal theology. My brain feels like it's about to explode. I have another paper due next week for a different women's studies class: this time, it's on sexual assault. I can't even remember what my proposed topic is. This is the first time I've actually enjoyed the stress of writing a paper (maybe because it's one of the first times I've written about something I care about?).
    Good luck to all the Jezzies going through end-of-term stress!!

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    03:50 PM

    @Sanfo: I'm studying policy and am currently procrastinating instead of editing an essay about sex education, feminism and disability...

    But, you're so right that when you give a damn, you're inspired!

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    04:29 PM

    @Sanfo: I need to be working on a paper about Aphra Behn's the Rover and her subversion of Cavalier culture through both gentle satire and outright threat. But I've been slacking off bigtime... I anticipate some panic around oh, this Sunday night.

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    Image of Mary McCarthyite Mary McCarthyite
    01:13 PM

    I just found this.
    because I want lunch

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    02:24 PM

    @Mary McCarthyite: Also, did any of you have to watch this in school growing up? I don't know if it was unique to my school, or if it's a tri-state area thing, or what, but we always used to have to watch it before Thanksgiving (even though it's about a chicken, not a turkey)

    The Hoboken Chicken Emergency!

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    12:04 PM

    So, can anyone help me out? I've been searching for a Butternut Squash Soup recipe, and there are so many, it's ridiculous. I can't decide. Gingery? Creamy? Spices or no?

    I need help. Anyone have an outstanding recipe to share? I trust Jezebelles when it comes to foods.

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    01:42 PM

    @hydrogen_jukebox: My approach is generally pureed roasted squash+stock+sage+thyme+salt+pepper+a bit of cream. Top with bacon crumbles.

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    01:51 PM

    @funnyface: i make one a lot like this, with toasted pine nuts & fried shallots as toppings, along with the bacon.

    @hydrogen_jukebox: butternut squash soup is pretty great in any incarnation. the pureed texture of them lets you have that creamy texture, without adding milk, cream, yogurt, etc (but it's still nice to add, once in a while!)

    my favorite way to make it is with garam masala as the spice (or, curry + cinamon, nutmeg will work as a subsitution.)

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    Image of Sodypop Sodypop
    02:29 PM

    @hydrogen_jukebox: I have made this soup in soooo many occassions and everyone loves it. I sometimes do not even add the cream, so it is more healthy (I do that when I just make it during a not soo special occasion) If you don't have saffron, I would not worry either.

    [www.williams-sonoma.com]

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    11:38 AM


    This is AWESOME

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    05:27 PM

    @Ailatan: For this and this alone I will be monitoring groupthink from now on when bored at work. Fucking A, Genius.

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    05:44 PM

    @TransFat: here you have some more

    [forums.morrissey-solo.com]

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    05:55 PM

    @TransFat: woops
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    Image of TransFat TransFat
    05:56 PM

    @Ailatan: The P.J. Harvey one is killing me.

    Bless you. Savior of my attention span.

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    Image of bluebears bluebears
    11:31 AM

    For the love of god. Everyone PLEASE do a better business bureau basic search before you hire some sort of debt consolidation/mortgage adjustment place. I am sick of telling people they've been screwed and they can't do shit about it.

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    12:21 PM

    @bluebears: Oh man, some of my friends tried to do a debt consolidation a few years ago. The place wanted them to pay one large sum that was MORE than they were already unable to pay. Luckily she turned and ran, but I'm sure other people didn't do the math and were suckered in. Ugh.

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    Image of Zombie Ms. Skittles Zombie Ms. Skittles
    03:42 PM

    @bluebears: Yeah, seriously, do at least a google search. There are webpages to help you, too. [www.ripoffreport.com] is my favorite.

    Also, if someone buys your mortgage for the love of GOD go and research them and refinance if you have to, because there are some companies that buy mortgages and then don't apply payments to your account just so they can foreclose and try to sell.

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    03:58 PM

    @Zombie Ms. Skittles: people are being scammed like crazy. It's disgusting how some people are using the bad economic climate as an excuse to exploit people even further. And as most of these people are lower income to begin with they are really powerless, do they have decent fraud cases? Yes in a lot of the instances. Can they afford a long protracted legal battle with a wealthier company where success is not assured? hell.no.

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    Image of spamanda spamanda
    09:53 AM

    Help me jezzies! I have these leggings that I LOVE, and want to wear more. I keep wanting to wear them with this cute jean skirt I have, but then what do I do for shoes? Do I just let my ankles hang out for the whole world to judge? My mother thinks this is the most ridiculous idea in the world, and that leggings are only good for summer, when I can wear sandals with them.
    Do I just need to invest in more tights? (Which is fine, I like tights, but dammit these leggings are comfy!)

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    Image of femaledwightschrute femaledwightschrute
    10:10 AM

    @spamanda: I've seen this look with flats! I'm not sure how cold it is where you are but I guess boots are also ok?

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    Image of stacyinbean stacyinbean
    10:13 AM

    @spamanda: What about some cute flats? Or a pair of tall-ish, non-slutty boots?

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    10:22 AM

    @femaledwightschrute: See I've wanted to do it with flats, but my mother thought that was horrifying. And I wasn't sure if that was a total faux pas or not. I DO keep seeing people dressed in leggings and flats, though, lol!

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    10:22 AM

    @stacyinbean: I don't have any good boots right now. But yeah, I've been thinking cute flats. Thank you!

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    10:22 AM

    @stacyinbean: i agree with the other commenters, flats are the way to go if you want to do the leggings.

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    10:23 AM

    @xgurl3eb: Thank you! No offense to my mom, but I totally trust the opinions of jezzies over her. :)

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    03:43 PM

    @spamanda: Flats or boots. I've been rocking leggings with this super cute pair of slouchy suede boots I got at Target for $30. All the poor college students are wearing them.

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    08:24 AM

    Emma Premiering January 24-February 7, 2010 on Masterpiece

    [www.pbs.org]

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    Image of curiousgeorgiana curiousgeorgiana
    08:46 AM

    @Ailatan: You just fucking made my day. HOORAY MASTERPIECE.
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    Image of activearchivist is lovely, in a moist, fluffy sort of way activearchivist is lovely, in a moist, fluffy sort of way
    09:08 AM

    @Ailatan: Thank you! You have supplied more crack to feed my costume drama addiction! *twitches*

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    09:16 AM

    @curiousgeorgiana: The script is by Sandy Welch of N&S fame!

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    09:17 AM

    @activearchivist is lovely, in a moist, fluffy sort of way: The first one is free!
    How are you doing? Are you ok from your surgery?

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    Image of activearchivist is lovely, in a moist, fluffy sort of way activearchivist is lovely, in a moist, fluffy sort of way
    09:23 AM

    @Ailatan: I'm actually doing pretty awesome and am moving a lot faster than I was and eating normal food mostly. I'm not on anything tougher than standard Tylenol, because I'm going through caffeine withdrawal.

    I'm also filling my time with awesome costume dramas. BBC North and South is made of win.

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    09:27 AM

    @activearchivist is lovely, in a moist, fluffy sort of way: Richard Armitage has me all hot and bothered. I highly recommend Jane Eyre (2006)

    [www.imdb.com]

    I started watching Lorna Doone yesterday, it seems quite good.

    I'm happy you're doing well!
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    Image of molly pocket molly pocket
    11:26 AM

    @Ailatan: I work for a book company, and we're putting this on in with the Chicago library. There's a public screening Jan. 12 in Chicago (more info to come) of the first hour, plus a discussion.

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    Image of Blodwynn Blodwynn
    02:57 PM

    @Ailatan: I want! I want now!

    I really think I happen to be one of those people where if I had just PBS and BBC on my televisions, I'd be amazingly happy. .<

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    03:08 PM

    @Blodwynn: I'm the same.

    I have already watched this and it's quite nice, though it sort of grew on me. I hope you enjoy it!

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    Image of curiousgeorgiana curiousgeorgiana
    11/23/09

    And random, but I keep falling in love with the poem The Gift Outright by Robert Frost (recited at Kennedy inauguration after sun prevented him from reading his prepared poem for the occasion).

    The land was ours before we were the land's.
    She was our land more than a hundred years
    Before we were her people. She was ours
    In Massachusetts, in Virginia.
    But we were England's, still colonials,
    Possessing what we still were unpossessed by,
    Possessed by what we now no more possessed.
    Something we were withholding made us weak.
    Until we found out that it was ourselves
    We were withholding from our land of living,
    And forthwith found salvation in surrender.
    Such as we were we gave ourselves outright
    (The deed of gift was many deeds of war)
    To the land vaguely realizing westward,
    But still unstoried, artless, unenhanced,
    Such as she was, such as she would become.
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    Image of NellMood NellMood
    11/23/09

    @curiousgeorgiana: I'm such a sucker for a good last line- they always make the whole poem for me. But wow, those are beautiful last lines.

    I'm embarrassed how little Robert Frost I've read. I mean, I've read the standard high school stuff, but never went beyond that. I should get a collection.

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    11/23/09

    @NellMood: Confession.

    I am a first line/ last line snob. If I don't like the first line of a book, I may not read further.

    And I treat last lines as sacred. I will put my hand over the last paragraph on the last page of the book to avoid skimming ahead. I'm a sucker too for the good lines.

    "Such as we were we gave ourselves outright"

    Now if that's not a motto for living life, I don't know what is!
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    Image of NellMood NellMood
    11/23/09

    @curiousgeorgiana: Oh, the first and last lines are the most important parts! All my favorite books/stories/poems are ones with beautiful last lines. I also have to try not to skim ahead, especially with poetry. The build-up is important, but with some writers you know it's coming...

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    11/23/09

    @NellMood:
    I'm glad I'm not alone. I once shouted at my boyfriend for talking to me when I was on the last page of a book. Dammit, he should be able to tell!!

    Some of my favorite last lines: Great Gatsby, Farewell to Arms (not my fav book, but the last few lines are Hemingway genius) and The Road. Love The Road.
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    Image of NellMood NellMood
    12:05 AM

    @curiousgeorgiana: I have part of the last page of the Great Gatsby tattooed on my arm, so clearly I'm with you there. Some of the other ones that come immediately to mind are the ending of Ordinary Love by Jane Smiley, and Meneseteung by Alice Munro. And like the whole last page of The Dead by James Joyce. I could seriously go on and on about last lines.

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    12:13 AM

    @curiousgeorgiana @NellMood: Ooo how lovely! And I totally agree with NellMood there, that last line is beautiful. I'm gonna take both your book suggestions and check me out some motherf'in awesome books tomorrow.

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    12:21 AM

    @NellMood: JOYCE. Yes. Thank you.

    Another confession: I had to read the last paragraph of Gatsby in a seminar once (Starting: Gatsby believed in the green light...). I got tears in my eyes and was totally embarrassed. After class, my professor, who was a crotchety old man, came up to me and shook my hand. It was such a nice gesture, it still gets me almost 7 years later. A kindred spirit.

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    12:43 AM

    @HM: Good! Enjoy the books!

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    12:47 AM

    @curiousgeorgiana: I love that. It's such an insanely gorgeous piece of writing, and I do think there are so many layers of meaning there. I loved that last paragraph when I first read the book at age 13, and now at 26 I love it in different ways. I'm sure when I'm a crotchety old woman (which I so will be...), like your professor, I'll have many more levels of understanding layered on there.

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    01:55 AM

    @curiousgeorgiana: Not the very end, but the endish part of Jonathan Strange and Mr. Norell where it talks about Norell's house disappearing from the mundane world always gets me. Before I read it once of my senior year housemates read me the passage in relation to the house that we lived in. Always brings back nice bittersweet memories.

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    10:30 AM

    @curiousgeorgiana: I've been in love with the poem "The mountain and the squirrel" for many years. It, too, has a beautiful last phrase:
    "Talents differ, all is well and wisely put,
    If I cannot carry forests on my back, neither can you crack a nut."
    It's Ralph Waldo Emerson.
    My oldest son's name? Emerson.

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    11:14 AM

    @NellMood: I love good last lines. I wanted "To His Coy Mistress" read at our wedding because it is so beautiful but the message was not quite appropriate.

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    01:12 PM

    @spamanda: Perfect.

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    11/23/09


    Um. Someone has a new haircut.

    Oh Eric...I mean Alex..so sexy.

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    11/23/09

    @curiousgeorgiana: I like. I like veeeeeeeeeery much.

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    04:24 PM

    @curiousgeorgiana: where he goes, there are always women.

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    11/23/09

    I'm having a tough night, and I really need something to keep me occupied. This might be triggering to some people.

    I have a sort of history with self-harm, and tonight I just can't get it off my mind. I don't think I'll do anything; I haven't since I was about 15 or 16, but I realized I had a phone full of numbers, but no friends to call when I need someone to talk to. And I know I don't know you Jezzies in real life, but reading this site always makes me feel happy. I don't know where I'm going with this or what I want.

    I hate being trans. I hate it so much. I hate feeling worthless and stupid because I am not what everyone else is. I hate that I can't make up my mind, that it consumes everything I fucking do. I hate that I can't make the choice to transition without so many dangers, so many pitfalls to avoid. I hate that I am a prisoner to this stupid body that everyone tells me to love, to love, that isn't it wonderful, I don't know what I have. When all I really want to do is change it all and I don't even know why. I hate being who I am, and that I will never measure up, and everything I use to measure myself against what I think is good and right, I can never do. I am not smart enough, I can't make friends well, I am not useful, all I do is sit in my apartment and be a stupid, selfish jerk who doesn't want to go out or do anything. I hate that there are people who want to hurt me because of how I am. I never did anything to you, I don't want to hurt you, I don't wish anything bad on you, why do you hate me so much?! Why do you think it's okay to laugh when trans people die? Like we don't feel pain? Like we aren't real fucking people to you? Like we don't fucking off ourselves to stop inconveniencing the world, and because we're tired, we're so tired of fighting against ourselves and losing? I don't want that. I am trying so hard to build an identity that I like, but it won't make peace between my mind and body, it won't make me okay. I don't know what will, and I am sick of trying to figure it out.

    I hate that it's November, and my sister would have been 19 a few days ago, but she isn't here, and she'll never be here, and that instead of turning to my family for help, I just avoid them. I love my sister, and I know I can always turn to her for help, but right now she is at work and I don't want to bother her and make her upset. I sometimes wish my little sister had never happened, but then I feel like the worst person ever - I loved her, and we all did, and sometimes shit happens. It's a bell curve, some people die at one end, and some people die at the other. She happened to be on the earlier side.

    I'm sorry. I just don't really know what else to do. I know that Jezebel is a place where people are smart and understanding and it's unlikely any of you are going to shout at me because I'm trans, so I feel like I can let it out. I'm sorry that I'm being weird and depressed and crazypants. I want to delete this whole thing, but I don't want to at the same time. I don't know what I want and I don't know who to tell it to.

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    11/23/09

    @boxspelunker: You're not being weird or crazy. Please don't be so hard on yourself. It sounds like you're going through a lot, and you're understandably overwhelmed. Try to find something to positively distract yourself from ideas of self-harm: a movie maybe? A walk?

    Have you talked to a trans-positive therapist? He or she could probably help you work through some of your fears and questions about transitioning. But please know, just because there are some hateful people out there, there are also plenty of people who can and do love you for who you are... even strangers. And this stranger wishes you the best. <3

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    11/23/09

    @boxspelunker: oh, my dear, you brought tears to my eyes.

    I wish I could comfort you in some small way, but I know I can't.
    Everything is so difficult, please try and find comfort in small things, talk to your family, friends, as well as a therapist, I'm sure they want what's best for you. I don't know you, but I also want that for you.

    Please take care

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    11/23/09

    @girl.of.your.dreams: Thank you. I ended up getting a call from someone and talked about it and I do feel better. I'm a little embarrassed about my diatribe up there. I've talked to a therapist, but honestly didn't find it much help. I basically have to make a decision, and can't do much until then. I really appreciate the response, and it means a lot to me.

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    11/23/09

    @Ailatan: Honestly, having someone respond helps. It makes me feel less alone and cut off from everything. I do feel better. I ended up getting a phone call and talking about it to someone. Thank you for responding. :)

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    @boxspelunker: I'm sending you some internet hugs. <3 <3 <3 I'm sorry I can't do more. I can't even imagine the weight that must be on your shoulders right now.

    Just know that there are people out there sending some happy thoughts and positive vibes, ridiculous internet hug hearts and comments wishing you all the best. I'm glad you got to talk to someone and are feeling better.

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    09:44 AM

    @boxspelunker: i'm so sorry! I'm glad you have jez to help you, and it may feel like everyone out there is against you, but sites like this are proof that they aren't. I'm sending you lots of (belated) internet hugs!

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    10:11 AM

    @HM: Thank you! I like Jezebel because the commenters actually give a shit about one another. It's nice to know that if I'm having a hard time, someone out there in Internet Land wishes I wasn't :)

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    @xgurl3eb: Thank you, too! I have to remember that there are people who are not crappy people, and don't think I'm terrible. I appreciate the support that I've gotten here, and I really do feel much better.

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    11/23/09

    Today I've eaten bacon, eggs and cheese, all on an everything bagel. Then I ate a pickle chased with dark chocolate petit ecoliers. Then I rushed to the store to buy a bottle of red wine to have a glass of this evening. I plan on eating pasta with pesto and butter for dinner.

    NO OF COURSE MY PERIOD ISN'T PRECISELY 1 WEEK FROM NOW. Oh wait. That explains why I considered donking my husband on the head with my cast iron skillet when he politely asked for an extra egg this morning.

    Anyone else suffer from PMDD around here? How do you deal with it? I took zoloft for a while, but it caused me to have tracers when I would turn my head, and it worried me when I drove. (Weird, but this used to happen to me when I smoked pot when I was younger, too). I don't really suffer from depression during this time, but a crazy anxious feeling. I hate that I truly do have all those stereotypical emotions and overreactions right before my period. Does anyone else have PMS like this?


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    11/23/09

    @GirlFailer: i get this, it sucks. also i just stopped taking the pill and so things are even worse. stupid stereotypical pms!!

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    11/23/09

    @GirlFailer: I have pretty horrible PMDD, too. I totally know what you mean about the anxious feeling. I'm not on the pill anymore, so that's made it a LITTLE better. It seems to not last as long, at least.

    Also, yoga helps a lot with the anxiety.

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    11/23/09

    @girl.of.your.dreams: Exercise does seem to help. Sadly, I don't have a gym membership and it's getting too cold to run outside. (I have to bring my kids with me because we can't afford a sitter) Maybe I'll get a nice yoga video, or something.

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    @GirlFailer: You should! Treat yourself. There are plenty of things you can do without leaving the house. :)
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    11/23/09

    @GirlFailer: Oh I totally have PMDD. It took me forever to figure it out. All through high school as evidenced in my journals, I used to get horrible, horrible mood swings right before. And all through college as well. I get pretty anxious and depressy and the most gloomy outlook on our sad sad world. And this is usually followed by extreme happy shiny lovely me with a nice dose of insomnia for about 4 days where I have the most energy and excitement for life ever! The insomnia thing is a fairly "new" development (the last 2 years or so). I'm on the pill to try an even out the crazy hormones. Apparently my progesterone kinda goes through roof during this time. I'm about 5 packs in and so far still have insomnia pretty regularly once a month like clockwork.

    I mostly get in my angry quiet li'l bubble and don't really talk that much for about a week and kinda just keep to myself, think gloomy thoughts about everything and then slowly ease of it and then I'm a hoot and half and fun me me again. :)

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    11/23/09

    @HM: Yeah, you sound like me 9 years ago. I dealt with similar issues. The anxiety and depression coupled with insomnia... It's very similar. I remember screaming, no really, SCREAMING at my mother for telling me I was overreacting at small things.

    My mom was an addict, but I still remained very attached to her through my teen years, and tried my hardest not not to trigger her, so screaming was a big fucking outrage in my head.

    I was on a low dose hormone birth control at the time, and the once a month extreme anger would still strike me.

    I've moved on, and am much older now, and no longer on birth control due to spotting, low sex drive and basically, exaggerated symptoms of PMDD. I've had two kids since the age of 21. The first one, I took a progesterone only birth control that caused me to bleed constantly for 3 months, and have bizarre mood swings for at least 4. So, yeah, progesterone is not so good for me. After the second, I took Ortho Tri Cyclen Lo, which caused constant spotting and erratic mood swings. I went to my GYN and she let me know what I was experiencing was PMDD. Like I said before, zoloft didn't help because my depression was mild, but my anxiety and hyperactivity was high. I also had tracers, which weren't comfortable, since I had two kids to cart around.

    Now I just try to deal with the anxiety, and hyperactivity. It's only 1 or 2 weeks (on a bad month) of this crap. What makes it worse, is alienating the people I care about because I know that I will snap, and be angry at them for reasons that seem dumb, after I menstruate.

    Luckily, my kids don't seem to upset me like my husband, and family does. I can only imagine what this must be like for people that are affected by their kids. PMDD, go suck a fart.

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    11/23/09

    @GirlFailer: haha Yes, go suck a fart indeed! I think what gets me through it "easiest" is that I know a week and a half later I'll be back to normal so I just gotta truck through it and tell myself, "You do this every month, you can handle this."

    I've noticed that my lows aren't as low now that I'm on Lutera (low dose BC). Previously I was on the 7/7/7 one and it made ca-razy. It was like my moods switched and instead I was happy-go-lucky for a week and depressy for 3 weeks. It sounds weird but I could seriously like feel the hormones racing through me after taking it each day. My Gyn said that it was way too strong a dose for me cause I'm kinda little and so we're trying this Lutera business. (my Primary Care Phys was the one who prescribed that other one). So I take it for 3 straight packs, take a 3 day break and then jump back on. So we'll see how it goes.

    And I totally get what you're saying about alienating people. I feel so horrible about it too. My poor family. My mom calls them my quiet moods. So they're kinda used to the pattern by now.

    Dumb hormones. :-/

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    11/23/09

    @GirlFailer: Also thanks for sharing! It really is nice to know we aren't alone in this. :)

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    11/23/09

    @HM: "I'll be back to normal so I just gotta truck through it and tell myself, "You do this every month, you can handle this."

    That's what I bank on every month. Try not to snap on anyone, and in a week or so you'll be fine. No one will notice. My husband and I are close, and he knows that the week or two before my period I may not be as stable as I normally am. He's the only person that seems to understand that the mood swings and hyperactivity are beyond my control. It's nice not to have to block someone out of my life, just because I'm afraid of freaking out on them over a small issue.

    It's wonderful that your family is able to understand that it isn't something you are doing intentionally. I hope that Lutera works out for you, and helps you deal with the symptoms. No one deserves to deal with this on top of a normal social life.

    Thanks for letting me know I'm not the only one out there.
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    11/23/09

    @GirlFailer: I have the exact same symptoms. I tried Yaz, Zoloft, Wellbutrin - they all didn't help (in fact, Yaz made it worse).

    Now I'm on 100 mg of Prometrium (natural progesterone) for two weeks a month. It helps, but it's not 100 percent. Exercise is the best for me - on bad days I go for two hard 30 minute runs. I also cut down on caffiene and alcohol, and I try to remember to take 1200 mg of calcium each day.

    Mostly I just wait for the bleeding to start. So does my husband (that's why we don't have a cast-iron pan).

    It sucks - I feel for you.

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    11/23/09

    Twilight has officially gone too far. Those Burger King commercials that talk about how everyone has picked a "side" (ie. Team Edward/Team Jacob)? My mom and step-dad decided to pick Team Jacob, knowing absolutely nothing about the series just to be silly. The thing is, my mother can't actually remember the name "Jacob" for some reason -- except that Jacob was the name of the boy I was madly in love with in high school. So now she's Team Jacob [ex-boyfriend's last name here]. Too far, Stephanie Meyer! Too far!

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    11/23/09


    So I was reading about Inspector Lewis

    Laurence Fox (Wisley in Becoming Jane)was born in 1978 and is the son of James Fox who will be making a guest appearance in "Lewis" (S3 EP.1) 'Allegory of Love'.

    He is the nephew of Edward Fox who appeared in an episode of "Inspector Morse" back in 1992 called 'Dead on Time' . Edward and Joanna are the parents of the actress, Emilia Fox (Georgiana Darcy in Pride and Prejudice)

    Emilia Fox is currently married to (but in the process of divorcing) actor Jared Harris (Lane Pryce in Mad Men) who is the son of the late actor, Richard Harris

    Laurence Fox is married to the actress and former teenage pop star, Billie Piper (went to school with my husband and was Fanny Price in Mansfield Park)

    I think I have to stop watching TV

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    11/23/09

    @Ailatan: You are blowing my mind here, though I'm most intrigued by the fact that Lane Pryce is... King Arthur's son?!

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    11/23/09

    @Dodgergirl: I know!! I'm still having a hard time following all this.


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    11/23/09

    @Ailatan: That is some serious 6-degrees shit. It kind of reads like a soap, no?

    Also, very ... jealous(?) that your husband went to school with Billie Piper. That's awesome!

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    11/23/09

    @spunkay: every time he mentions the Billie Piper thing, I start singing "Because we want to"

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    11/23/09

    NOOOOO!!!

    [www.huffingtonpost.com]

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    11/23/09

    @morninggloria: LA LA LA I CAN'T HEAR YOU LAAAAAA.

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    11/23/09

    @morninggloria: he's TIRED!

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