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11/30/09
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Right now, I'm putting money aside every month and thinking about looking when I am up for a raise early next year-- that way, I have a little more money to work with and I know my job is safe. But my Dad is telling me that I should buy something NOW while interest rates are low and there is a tax credit for new homebuyers. I'm just not sure that I'd be able to pay a mortgage, condo fees, utilities, food, car maintenance, insurance, taxes, various healthcare fees, the small luxuries I have now (I will not give up yoga and dance classes-- they keep me sane and happy), AND be able to put some money aside for emergencies.
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The tax credit is nice, but it didn't exist a few years ago, won't exist a few years hence, the world won't end, and you'll eventually buy something. The worst thing is spending money you don't have, or aren't sure you have. Do Not Do It.
So, pretty much, I'm telling you to listen to your gut.
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I do think they're extending the tax credit, though, so who knows what'll be around a year from now!
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tag!
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[www.pageresource.com]
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Thanks, to both of you!
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11/30/09
Sputnik has it.
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I have a 17-year-old sister who is absolutely giving my parents fits. I live 10 hours from my family so I hear all this from afar and feel really helpless.
My sister, K, will be 18 in February, and is planning on moving out. She doesn't know where, or how she will pay for things, she just knows that she's leaving.
She's been involved with a 19-year-old boy (they have sex and smoke pot together, and she has snuck out of the house at night multiple times to be with him). This dude is pretty much a loser. No education, no job, no ambition. He lives with his cousins or something in a small trailer so I don't know if she'd move in with him or what.
My mom is equal parts heartbroken and livid about all this. She's told K that if she moves out, she won't be able to take anything with her that my mom paid for - no car, no phone, most of her wardrobe.
She also says that if K moves out, she will NOT be welcome back at any point, which seems harsh to me.
What can be done about this? What can I do? What can I even SAY? This whole family drama is driving me nuts because I HATE drama like this.
Any words of wisdom?
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11/30/09
She took the hard line approach, and it did not go well.
Resistance is likely what K wants. My recommendation would be to ask your parents to not give her ultimatums. Never eliminate the possibility of her coming home-- if she ever does get scared, or get in trouble, you don't want her to hesitate, even for a second, to call for help.
I totally recommend the counseling-- they likely have much sounder advice.
Good wishes sent your way!
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As for the counseling suggestion, I would try to get her to go by herself before getting more family members involved. There are probably underlying issues a professional might be able to help her work through.
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11/30/09
WISH ME LUCK.
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Rock on.
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My Australian boyfriend forgot to file his application with the Diversity Visa lottery and the deadline is passed.
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11/30/09
He's in Australia, the Diversity Visa (DV) lottery is a process by which a prospective immigrant from certain specific countries (namely, countries we don't get a lot of immigrants from so most Latin American countries and Canada don't qualify) can file documentation with the Secretary of State and be entered in a lottery system to allow them to immigrate to the US without qualifying under one of the other broad categories. Since I can't legally afford to support him right now (but could afford to support him if he were even just working a minimum wage job) this is our best hope for him being able to immigrate in the next 3-5 years and he forgot to file the paperwork.
It's like a sucker punch to the gut.
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11/29/09
Thank you so much for singling me out for a seat move because you're precious little angels needed more leg room. Thank you for complaining to the conductor when I simply couldn't force my joints to unlock any faster. My RA ravaged body is excited to take on the challenge of the having a seat further barring my legs from my movement, while my ears are delighted by the earth shattering swan song of your eldest complaining that she has no tray table.
Additionally, I'm so glad that you brought along a tub or two of tuna salad and have set yourself upon the task of making a sandwich mountain. The continued assault on my physical comfort helps to remind me that life is good and I should be thankful for the incessant whining and pointing in my general direction.
It was not a problem dragging myself to the least comfortable place for someone with the condition, but I'm certain you know that. After all, not a word of thanks was offered by you, which goes to show how well you read my latent excitement. Please extend my thanks to you conductor cohort, I was so happy to know that I look good enough to warrant the "one day, when you're a mom, you'll understand" speech when the kids aren't with me. I'm glad that he too noticed my ease of motion.
Complacently yours,
Lizabelle
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11/29/09
I wandered into the groupthink to post something about how sometimes being a parent is exactly as annoying as those without children suspect. But considering what you went through, I'll keep it to myself and nurse this lemon drop instead. :)
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We're in DC though, so we're pretty much screwed in event of nuclear attack. Now disease etc, we might have enough to survive.
Reading The Road pretty much killed any hope I had though ;o).
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In all seriousness, I'd love to be more prepared, but it's not possible right now. I would have to rely on others if something happened, which sucks.
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You missed me freaking out last night. I just finished this book: [www.amazon.com]
And now I'm so scared, I can't sleep at night. SO. VERY. SCARED.
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11/29/09
As an aside, you're pretty much screwed in DC regardless. The OSA book has a particularly gruesome end for you folks. And I didn't know that the murder rate in DC is higher than everywhere else! How bizarre.
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"If he was not the word of God, then God never spoke."
Come on--that's good stuff.
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I am so glad the Redskins didn't pick up Cutler ;o). Not that Campbell or our o-line is much better.
As my Dad has been a Bears fan since the 60s, Go Bears!!
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Oh what a surprise, they pulled their 33-year-old tackle. Who we paid for.
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Seriously though, what has happened to their defense? I agree, Cutler gets no protection. I've always thought he was uneven though, even in Denver.
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Is it an attitude thing? Singletary's tough-guy routine is popular with the Madden types, but I'll admit I was a doubter. Pro footballers aren't high schoolers you can marshall along with "toughness" slogans about "no excuses". But you know, although the Niners are still not great this year, they're better than they were. Part of me wants to say Da Bears could use some of that right now.
But you know, it doesn't look like their problem is discipline, it's talent. They NEED NEW PLAYERS. Same with the Lions, although you should hold onto Stafford, IMO.
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11/29/09
I agree about the whole "tough-guy" bullshit. It CERTAINLY isn't working for Mangini in Cleveland and god knows its never worked for the Lions.
eta: I agree about Stafford. I think he has a good arm and he showed heart in that Browns game. He will run up against the same problem that every Lions qb faces, absolutely no protection. Ford apparently is still trying to "crack" that problem.
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11/29/09
Be extra nice to Pilgrim Soul over the next few weeks, because we'll need to recruit her as an interpreter between the Canadian prisoners and the lawyers.
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11/30/09
That said, the kid's got genuine talent and some serious mettle, but he's in a funk, and the Bears need to add some pieces to the offense, and fast (except that they forfeited a draft pick for ol' Jay).
And by kid, I mean large man who graduated a year ahead of me.
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And if you know where the Bears hang out, I would like to go heckle Mr. Earl Bennett, Mr. Jay Cutler, and Mr. Hunter Hillenmeyer. STOP RECREATING THE WORST PARTS OF MY COLLEGE EXPERIENCE, YOU TOOLBAGS.
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11/29/09
I currently wear Ryder by Hollister (I know, I know), which I am fine with, but I'd like to find a "real" scent, you know? I've always loved the way Husband's cologne (all men's cologne, really) smells, but I don't know enough about perfume not to end up smelling like a dude. Help?
(PS for those who remember -- the hair turned out cute except that my cowlick is accentuated. Awesome.)
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This day has been really awful so far, so I'm hoping this dinner will go smoothly. I want to eat good food, dammit!
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Then, my brother stopped talking to us, and has only recently started contacting us more.
The thing is, nothing has been resolved. We've tried to talk to both of them about it cause she's not the only one to blame, it's bad decisions on both parts. So I fear a fake setting, which really makes me annoyed.
And I've never had a problem with her, my brother dated her for 6 years before getting married to her last November. My sister on the other hand.. but she won't be there so thank Jesus.
Oh my, sorry about unloading all this! Haha
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