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    Image of pantsless economist...access RESTORED pantsless economist...access RESTORED
    11/28/09

    Group projects suck balls. I am so not a team player to begin with, but it doesn't help that I'm the only person who seems to be doing anything.

    And yes I would like some cheese with my wine. I prefer brie.

    #groupthink
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    Image of highjump highjump
    11/28/09

    @pantsless economist...access RESTORED: Group projects are lame indeed. You can't trust people. I usually just do all the work myself, then passive aggressively insult the intellect of my group members. Immature, but it makes me feel better.

    How about some raspberry parmesan? It's delicious!

    #groupthink
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    Image of curiousgeorgiana curiousgeorgiana
    10:28 AM

    @pantsless economist...access RESTORED: I have always thought this way about group projects. I always ended up doing all the work!

    But now I'm in law school and we just finished our group project. It was amazing. Everyone came up with a plan, divided the work, set timelines, showed up to meetings on time, and every one pulled their share of the load. It was flawless.

    Hooray for more serious students in grad school :o)

    Good luck with your group. I send you warm wishes and brie with toasted walnuts and honey.

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    Image of spamanda spamanda
    11/28/09

    Leftover Thanksgiving dinner?
    CHECK
    Night out with my best friend who is in town this weekend?
    CHECK
    It's a good day, my friends!

    #groupthink
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    Image of SomeAuthorGirl SomeAuthorGirl
    11/28/09

    I'm at a loss as to what to do with myself.

    - go to a show with my group of friends
    - go indulge in leftovers with the famiglia
    - go to a movie by myself
    - go see the friend-with-benefits
    - go all Bridget Jones with vodka and, dare I say it, some Chaka Khan

    Decisions hurt my head!

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    Image of pantsless economist...access RESTORED pantsless economist...access RESTORED
    11/28/09

    @SomeAuthorGirl: Happy Saturday! You could probably do two or three of those, no? I know I would pick any over all the stupid homework I have to finish up tonight. Although there may be some vodka involved. It helps me think. To a point.

    #groupthink
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    Image of AmbiguouslyStraightUno AmbiguouslyStraightUno
    11/28/09

    @SomeAuthorGirl: Get laid! Then come home and do the vodka/chaka khan thing.

    #groupthink
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    Image of SomeAuthorGirl SomeAuthorGirl
    11/28/09

    @pantsless economist...access RESTORED: Happy happy to you too! Should I be all Jewish-mothery and encourage you to do your homework sans vodka? No. No, I will not. I did most of my homework with the aid of alcohol etc, and I promise I turned into a fully functioning, positive contributor to society.

    That said, I chose to go Sad Singleton (TM) with takeout Thai and S2 eps of Doctor Who. :)

    #groupthink
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    11/28/09

    @AmbiguouslyStraightUno: You make me laff. :) I chose to wallow in it. I think it's good for the soul, to wallow on occasion!

    #groupthink
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    Image of dcdulce dcdulce
    11/27/09

    In reply to Stick A Fork In It
    is it bad that I finished the rest of the stuffing today? no?! good.

    totally unrelated topic. Anyone used the DC to NYC Airshuttle on US Airways? I have an interview in 2 weeks and I want to know how reliable it is...

    #groupthink
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    Image of JessickerFletcher JessickerFletcher
    11/27/09

    @dcdulce: I don't know about DC to NYC but I've ridden a US Air shuttle 4 times last year on a DC (out of Dulles) - Philadelphia flight. 3 out of 4 times it was majorly delayed. It was when I was studying abroad in France and my program had some type of deal with US Air but it had to be out of Dulles (I still don't get it because US Air's main hub is in Philadelphia). It really sucked because both of my outgoing trips were completely screwed up because both flights to Paris left without me For the first one I ended up flying to JFK and I got upgraded to first class going over to Paris (I was a junior in high school; it was pretty cool).
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    Image of Miss Scarlett Miss Scarlett
    11/27/09

    Get any good Black Friday deals?

    Husband & I didn't go out early but at Target they still had cheap movies and we bought seasons 1-3 of Weeds for $8.99 each.

    Also H & M had bogo free for all of their clearance.

    No gifts for anyone else just stuff for us.

    #groupthink
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    Image of girl.of.your.dreams girl.of.your.dreams
    11/27/09

    Good afternoon my lovelies. Just wanted to say that I'm thankful for you all, and I hope you all had wonderful Thanksgivings (or wonderful Thursdays.)

    Quick poll: Who else had dessert for breakfast? And what did you have?

    Me: Apple pie a la mode. :)

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    Image of ucelluccia ucelluccia
    11/27/09

    @girl.of.your.dreams: Brownies and leftover b-day cake from my niece's 1-year, which was Wednesday.

    #groupthink
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    Image of rodmanstreet rodmanstreet
    11/27/09

    In reply to Stick A Fork In It
    I'm confused. I thought there weren't going to be regular posts today? Then I absentmindedly turn on Jez and there's all kinds of stuff going on? What's the deal?
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    Image of token_illiterate_commenter token_illiterate_commenter
    11/27/09

    @rodmanstreet: Just think of it as an unexpected visit from Santa.
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    Image of Dodgergirl Dodgergirl
    11/27/09

    In reply to Stick A Fork In It
    After having fought against the odds and staying completely healthy all semester long, I woke up this morning with a terrible cough, a runny nose, and a fuzzy head. And, of course, I have a 15 page paper due on Tuesday. Screw you, Thanksgiving cold! I'm drinking tea and getting some cough drops and then I'm going to DEFEAT YOU!
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    Image of Ailatan Ailatan
    11/27/09

    @Dodgergirl: throw the book at it!
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    Image of She-Prime She-Prime
    11/27/09

    @Dodgergirl: At least your illness is involuntary! I have 3 papers and an exam in the next week and a half but rather than be productive, I lay awake a night worrying that it won't get done.

    Result: I feel tired and sick and just looking at the stack of reading I need to do makes me feel more ill.

    The lesson, kids: don't go to grad school.

    #groupthink
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    Image of hellosunshine hellosunshine
    11/27/09

    In reply to Stick A Fork In It
    On the plus side:
    a) I'm not hungover, just tired.
    b) I get to nap soon.
    c) I'm housesitting my friend's huge house in a fun area AND they paid me way more than I thought they would (I wasn't expecting anything, honestly, so that was nice)
    d) I'm fixing my haircolor today and will hopefully soon be blonde
    e) I'm cooking dinner for boyfriend tonight, including two GIANT steaks. OM NOM NOM.
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    11/27/09

    In reply to Stick A Fork In It
    Yesterday, I made a HUGE Thanksgiving dinner with my fam for us and boyfriend's family. On two hours of sleep. Whilst battling a hangover. (What happens when you forget supper and then have four glasses of Merlot? OUCHINESS.) Then boyfriend and I rather stupidly went to watch the A&M game (whoop!) with some friends and we each drank a pitcher of beer. I'm now at the temp job doing menial tasks and wishing I could crawl under the desk and sleep.

    Lord, beer me strength.
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    11/27/09

    Hello Turkeys! I hope everyone's holiday was enjoyable, and that the food was as bangin as the Pilgrims intended. Okay so. Mr. Foibles and I went out to my parents house for dinner last night as planned. They recently moved so the drive is about an hour. Kind of a pain in the ass but their house is really adorable and since my sister and my niece live there as well I was looking forward to the visit. But here's the story. My parents are winos. They drink pretty much every day. This started becoming their routine while I was still living at home with them and my sister and I found it annoying how Friday Wine Night turned into Evry Night Wine Night and they'd get increasingly ridiculous. You know what I mean: The goofiness, the silly arguments, the maudlin episodes, the overly lovey episodes, the endless repetitions of the same sentiments. So this is not really a new thing. But. Now that I've moved away, I don't see them all that often, and we don't talk all that much. I mean we sometimes call eachother and write letters occasionally but that's about it. So the rare occasions we do get together, it's for a couple of hours and while I miss them and look forward to seeing them, every time we do get together, they're drunk. They're either already drunk when we get to their house, or they bring their own wine when they visit us. This is especially painful when Mr. Foibles' parents invite them down here for dinners or babrbecues at their house. Like the time last year when we had dinner at his parents' place and my dad and Mr. Foibles Senior were drinking Old Fashions and my dad was really putting them away and got visibly hammered. At one point in the evening I pulled my mom aside and told her it was time for her to get my dad out of there because he was embarassing me. She apologized and a few days later my dad wrote to me and apologized and told me he felt really bad about what had happened. I asked him to please control himself in the future, especially around my future in-laws because they don't drink like my parents do and it makes everyone uncomfortable. I know he felt bad about it, and I felt bad for him. I love him, and I had my own problems with alcohol abuse in the past and strangely enough, he was the one who made me recognize I did have a serious problem. Anyway, so last night. I asked my mom a few days ago if they could please curtail their drinking until after we'd left. She kind of made light of it, and sure enough, they were already sloshy when we arrived. My dad especially. He's fond of Mr. Foibles, I know, but his way of expressing that fondness when he's drinking is to be annoying and incessantly poke fun at him. Not to mention the repetitive questions and stories and so forth. At one point shortly after we'd arrived Mr Foibles turned to me, exasperated, and said can we go outside for a cig. Pretty much to get away from my dad. Mr. Foibles knows all about my feelings regarding my parents' boozing and he knows how much it bothers me, and he feels bad about it, so he tries to be a good sport and all. But seriously, I have had it. I've had it with their behavior. I'm disappointed and frankly disgusted. This morning I decided I would write to them and explain how I've been feeling about this and let them know that we will not be visiting again until they're able to act like normal people and not total drunks. I'm so sad about this, you guys. I love them so very much and they're good people. They're intelligent and funny and they did a great job raising me. I just wish they'd take things more seriously; like it's important to me that Mr. Foibles get to really know them and vice versa, since he's going to be my husband and I've gotten close with his family and all. Oh God. I'm just at my limit, you know? Well anyway. If anyone has any advice as to how best to approach this situation without crushing them, I'd love to hear it. Help me, wise Jezzies, for I am hurting over here!!

    /fucking novel

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    Image of NoInheritance NoInheritance
    11/28/09

    @Aesop's Foibles. YES.: Oy. I too am blessed (cursed?) with a drinker or two in the family, and I understand your pain here.

    I think your best bet would be to (kindly, firmly) tell your parents what you've said here: that you know they're great people, but that their drinking obscures that for people who don't know them like you do, and it's become a problem.

    I think they're going to be hurt no matter what, and so are you but...their drinking is hurting you now too, right? Things can't continue like this forever, and they need to know it, I think.

    So many hugs going your way. I'm sure you'll figure out the best way to handle this.

    #groupthink
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    Image of Aesop's Foibles. YES. Aesop's Foibles. YES.
    11/28/09

    @NoInheritance: Thanks for the hugs. It sucks being in this position; having to tell your beloved parents that you will not be coming to visit and that they will not be receiving any invitations to visit us until something changes. And honestly, I miss them so much-but the "old" them, the ones who could get through an evening coherently and carry on terrific conversations with me and make me laugh. Those are the people I want Mr. Foibles to get to know. But as of now, it's like they're strangers to me. I hate feeling like this and it's really sad to watch people you love becoming such messes. Ugh. Your advice was helpful, especially how their drinking is obscuring how wonderful they really are and is making it impossible for anyone to really know them. I think I'll try to go light on the fact that it's embarassing as shit to have to wrestle your tipsy father away from your future spouse because said tipsy father is all over him like a cheap suit. I don't want to be vindictive or anything, even though I really am quite angry about it all. Ah well. Wish me luck; I think I'm going to start drafting this letter now.

    And thanks, again.

    #groupthink
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    Image of DutchessOfDork DutchessOfDork
    11/27/09

    In reply to Stick A Fork In It
    I love VH1 and trashy tv shows :D

    Right now I am watching for the love of Ray J. Ha
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    Image of sayah sayah
    11/27/09

    @DutchessOfDork: I'm torn between wanting to google to find out who that is and being in ignorant bliss.
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    Image of spamanda spamanda
    11/27/09

    In reply to Stick A Fork In It
    oh my god! One of my oldest friends, who moved away a few years ago, is in town for thanksgiving. She called me yesterday, and she's coming over to hang out so our kids can meet.
    I'm feeling a bit wary about the whole thing, she moved away and really just stopped talking to those of us here... but hopefully it'll be fine and we have a good time.
    Unfortunately she's bringing her douche of a husband. Apparently she can't drive the 15 blocks to my house without him. (or do ANYTHING without him, it seems)
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    Image of sayah sayah
    11/27/09

    @spamanda: Give Bella my love!
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    spamanda promoted this comment sayah was starred sayah was unstarred
    Image of spamanda spamanda
    11/27/09

    @sayah: Ugh, she brought the husband with her. They sat THISCLOSE on the couch, he barely talked, and I felt like she couldn't actually talk to me with him around. Awkward.
    I miss her, it sucks that life is this way.

    #groupthink
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    Image of sayah sayah
    11/27/09

    @spamanda: that sucks! But at least you got to see her, huh?
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    11/27/09

    @sayah: Yeah, it was good to see her. Tough though to realize how far apart we've grown. We used to shop for $1 jeans together at Ragstock and listen to indy rock. Now she's climbing the corporate ladder and doesn't vote.
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    Image of Ailatan Ailatan
    11/27/09

    In reply to Stick A Fork In It

    How are you, lovelies?
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    Image of ablative ablative
    11/27/09

    @Ailatan: Oh Michael!

    *sigh* I stayed up late watching holiday movies, and am now sleepy, but I'm so glad you called :)
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    Image of la.donna.pietra la.donna.pietra
    11/27/09

    In reply to Stick A Fork In It
    I actually got up at 5:30 this morning to go brave a GameStop and get a PS3 bundle for $299 (three games and the console). This was the result of months of careful planning and persuading Mr. Pietra to wait for the Black Friday sales.

    It came with God of War I and II. Time to smash some crockery!
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    Image of curiousgeorgiana curiousgeorgiana
    11/27/09

    @la.donna.pietra: Awesome! My boyfriend snagged a cheap copy of Assassin's Creed II this morning (XBox). Unfortunately, my studying will prevent me from playing at the moment, but come December 12--watch out world!!!
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    Image of la.donna.pietra la.donna.pietra
    11/27/09

    @curiousgeorgiana: He got a used copy of ACII as well. I look forward to a weekend filled with classical references, architecture, and blood spatter.
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    11/27/09

    @la.donna.pietra: Luuucky. I don't usually do black friday stuff, but that makes it sound worthwhile.
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    11/27/09

    @la.donna.pietra: I'm so excited. I liked the first one, but I thought it was too repetitive. I've heard number II is better. Let me know how you like it.

    On a related note, I think Modern Warfare is giving my boyfriend a complex. It is so freaking intense.
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    Image of la.donna.pietra la.donna.pietra
    11/27/09

    @ablative: I've never done it before either--this is the first time I've ever lived anywhere big enough to have Black Friday sales when I actually had some money. We were expecting crazy lines, but it was us and two other people (and two very wearied-looking clerks).
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