Spill Intimate Details Of Your Sex Life Online

Dodai — Fri, 13 Feb 2009 13:00:00 EST

Have you ever tracked your sex life? Back in the day, I had a friend who wrote her hookups in her Filofax. She would like a new app called Bedpost Beta:

The web-based program allows users to log in and keep a permanent record of their sex lives. Choose the date, the time you started doing the do, and how many minutes (hours?) it lasted. Plus, there's a 5 star rating system. According to InventorSpot:

You can also include the name of the partner you had sex with, for future comparative purposes, and enter descriptive tags to help trigger your memory about the sexual encounter. You can use this field to record the sexual positions you experimented with (think kama sutra), use of props and sex toys, "orgasm" or "norgasm", or simply use adjectives like "wow" or "mind blowing" or […] "disappointing".

While there are applications that track your period and ovulation, tracking sex for sex's sake is different: A calendar that tells you "you're getting laid almost every other day" (that's the word-for-word copy from Bedpost) sheds some light on a part of life many women might be in the dark about. (Bedpost swears all info is private, and that the site is password protected. Partners may have the ability to log in in the future, but with limited access.)

One question that comes up is how seeing your sexual activity mapped out would affect you emotionally. If you saw your sex life on a graph or a calendar, would you make changes? Do it more often? Or would you feel accomplished, and pat yourself on the back?

Get Busy! Analyze & Record Your Sex Life With Bedpost Beta [InventorSpot]
Related: Bedpost Beta

Not Getting Any? It's Your Own Damn Fault

Dodai — Tue, 12 Feb 2008 15:30:00 EST

Are you having sex? Like, on a regular basis? CNN claims that women today have less time for sex than their 1950s counterparts. And if it's not a lack of time keeping you from bumping uglies, it's something else, but it's probably your fault. Writes Leslie Goldman, "It's harder to initiate sex if your spouse is hiding behind a newspaper or glued to the TV or if your hands are busy exploring the Web rather than his body." Hey, how come the dude in the picture doesn't just pry the laptop right out of the woman's hands and bang her? Why does the woman bear all the responsibility? Other reasons you're not having sex: You're on libido-killing contraceptives, you don't like your body, you're perimenopausal, you're depressed. (And if you're not depressed, you will be when you discover it's all your fault you're not getting laid.) But there's hope, courtesy of The Independent: A Valentine's Day list of aphrodisiacs to "boost your sex drive," ranging from oysters to female testosterone patches and uh, counseling.

Speaking of counseling, a 27-year-old woman quoted in a recently re-published Psychology Today article says she's just not that into it (after having a baby that is): "After I gave birth to my daughter my sex drive decreased... I don't like to cuddle and I barely like to kiss... Do I need therapy?" Instead of just saying, "Nah, give it some time," Nando Pelusi, Ph. D. offers this: "You may be fatigued." Who the hell isn't? But here's question: How come women are always painted as reluctant delicate flowers not interested in sex? And why do they need "fixing" if this is the case? (P.S. According to CNN, 40 million Americans are in a marriage where sex occurs less than 10 times a year.)

Surprising Reasons You're Not Having Sex [CNN]
How To Boost Your Sex Drive [Independent]
Earlier: Wait, You're Too Tired?

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Spill Intimate Details Of Your Sex Life Online

Not Getting Any? It's Your Own Damn Fault