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Richer, Poorer: Divorce Makes Men More Moneyed
Wait, What? Do That Many Men Really Prefer Women Pretty & Poor?


01/26/09
Please ladies, read "The Feminine Mistake" by Leslie Bennets and "The Price of Motherhood" by Ann Crittenden.
It really opens your eyes...I never looked at marriage and motherhood the same way again after reading these books.
Although my mind was made up already that I definitely wouldn't be participating in either. Especially motherhood.
I'll also admit, these books and a riveting Oprah show on SAHM's who ended up in the poor house after a divorce, have really made me think twice about this notion that a woman who depends on a man for everything can still call herself a "feminist".
*prepares for an onslaught*
01/26/09
Once I am clear of that debt, I will EVENTUALLY be better off financially, because I don't have to support my spendthrigt ex. I pay child support to him, and we share 50/50 custody.
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When my 'rents divorced, my mom got me, my sis, and the car. My dad got everything else. And bitched about child support. He lived in our 3 bedroom house while we lived in one bedroom at grandma's house.
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When we split I gave him everything (we lived the life of a married couple) and I took the baby. He pays no child support and lives the life of a gypsy. I on the other hand struggle to pay the bills, eat ramen as much as possible and barely make it by. But, I have the baby. Which means, I win.
01/26/09
And he says he "got screwed in the divorce." Um yeah, that does not compute.
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Throw some legal factors (no alimony for <10 years in my state, my debts being personal property brought into the marriage) together with a dash of unemployment, and I've brewed a small batch of angst for him.
Lessons learned though! He's out of my life and I'm the better for it.
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I also like to think that my fifth grade class that loved me so much and was half female saw me as an example of what could be done in one lifetime. By the time I left they were all saying "I want to go to America!" mostly because it was what we discussed most often. If I had been French they would have wanted to see France, but just getting those girls to dream about spreading out makes me smile. They were told so often that their destiny is only motherhood.
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Not that he deserves a medal, but he (and his ex) appear to be doing it right. Kudos.
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These days a woman who worked a crummy job to put her husband through school, then stayed home to raise the kids, is going to be in a pretty decent position in the US.
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So working part-time is the best option for the health and sanity of us all, at least for a few years. But heaven forbid, if something happens to my marriage, I'll be at a disadvantage.
Golly, life's decisions are hard. Aren't they?
01/26/09
Clearly there are deep seated cultural problems that exascerbate this, like WashingMyHair having to stay home because childcare is awfully expensive and it's so hard to manage a family and a career at the same time (heck I have trouble managing just a career). For a country that claims to be all about families (the US) we certainly don't do a lot for them.
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@PrettyBitch: Uh huh. I'm a big fan of pre- and post-nups for just that reason.
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