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Glitterbug (likes life shaken, not stirred)
01/31/09

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Oh dear. So this is why I recently lost a friendship when a friend accused me of flirting with her boyfriend.

Because "Hi, nice to meet you, I'm Glitterbug, **'s friend. Yes, it's a good party. See you around" is actually Girl Speak for "meet me in the men's room in ten minutes, you sexy beast".

Damn.
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DutchessOfDork
01/30/09

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I was the greeter at a Tommy Hilfiger a few years ago. So essentially,it was my job to be happy and greet you.

I think some men's Babelfish Translator was malfunctioning because they seemed to think it was okay to hit on me.
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Maulleigh
01/30/09

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Maybe that's why guys are always telling us we're playing games. Can't win!
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woobie
01/30/09

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So I can either show my lack of interest and be labeled a bitch, try to be nice and be called a tease, or sleep with him anyway and get the title of slut. I LOVE CHOICES.
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Hana Maru
01/31/09

@woobie: Brilliant.
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Mafalda para Presidente
01/30/09

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I think this might also work the other way around. I know sometimes women make the mistake of characterizing friendly male behavior as romantic or sexual interest.

I'm thankfully oblivious to such signals, so much that straight-forward flirting usually goes over my head until someone else points it out.

I wonder if I could get some funding to test this?
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AvocadoGills: purveyor of kinky fish porn
01/30/09

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My solution: If you think a guy's really interested in you and you're not having any of that, talk about something that makes your intentions clear... or makes you less desirable to the common testosterone-fueled male. For example, I might talk about my experiences dissecting fish. It makes the boneheads lose interest and attracts the geeks - I can't lose!
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Pizza!Pizza!Pizza!
01/30/09

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Reading that in a Ralph Wiggum voice makes me less angry.
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Vivien Smith-Smythe-Smith
01/30/09

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YES! I get this all the time, and I freak out when I realise that I've been misinterpretated!
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exelizabeth
01/30/09

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This is acutally why I, really and truly, rarely make eye contact with men I don't know.

Although-- and this is a real debate I've had with myself-- the fact that I don't means that I don't get a good look at many of them, and so wouldn't be able to ID them if they stalk/attack/assault me. It's a Catc 22.
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Rooo sez BISH PLZ
01/30/09

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Not to excuse them, but apparently there are also "studies" that indicate because of some crossfire between the visual and limbic systems, women are actually better at reading body language than men.

THAT said, however, once the men learned they had this problem, you'd think they'd, IDK, read a book on the subject or something.
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Pomonarona
01/30/09

@Rooo sez BISH PLZ: That's what I was wondering--is this nature or nurture on the men's part?
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exelizabeth
01/30/09

@Pomonarona: Even if it's got its roots in nature, they're thinking human beings and can overcome it. Biology isn't destiny. You CAN avoid being a presumptuous ass, even if it's your first inclination.
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eidolem
01/30/09

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I have two things to say about this:

1. I was once chastised by a coworker for being "too friendly" with male customers. She meant I was giving them the wrong idea. For the record, I kept my top on the whole time.

2. When I complained to my boyfriend about getting hit on at work, he told me about The Five-Minute Rule: if you're still talking to a guy five minutes in, he always thinks you want his sweet lovin'. ALWAYS.
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MizJenkins
01/30/09

@eidolem: Re: #2...verrrrry interesting.
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exelizabeth
01/30/09

@eidolem: #2 is pretty depressing. Sometimes I am drunk and have lost track of time, okay!?!?
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FourInchHeels
01/30/09

@exelizabeth: At WORK?! Damn it, I want your job. It's frowned upon to hit the bottle whist on company time where I work.
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ObtuseIntolerant
01/30/09

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Oooh...I suffer from this big time. I want to be nice, but men do not seem to understand this does not always accompany some inherent desire to hump them. Ugh.

Anyway, if I am into you, I tend to unconsciously turn on the ice queen, so my flirtations should be the first sign that I am not at all interested.
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sequined
01/30/09

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Welcome to the major, overruling crisis of my life.
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MizJenkins
01/30/09

@sequined: Ditto...it has honestly turned me into a homebody. I have no idea how I'm supposed to meet a nice fella and just, you know, get to know each other. But as soon as I smile they start to whip it out.

Seriously, I usually get propositioned for sex within the first hour of talking to a guy.
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DangerMouse
01/30/09

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IU researchers: The entire South is hitting on you, FYI.
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DangerMouse
01/30/09

@DangerMouse: ...or are they?

(Yes, I did that on purpose.)
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badmutha
01/30/09

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I always get gas when I like someone, so even if they didn't see my deceptive face smiling at them, they would definitely know SOMETHING was going on with me, if ya know what I mean. And I think you do.
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Cafezinha
01/30/09

@badmutha: That's it. You've finally done it.

The farting sealed the deal. You have my heart. That's all there is to it.

*brrrrp*

*poot*
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badmutha
01/30/09

@Cafezinha: Hugs to you! *pfffffthht* Oh, sorry.
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