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jrhys
09/26/09

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Breaking news from the "these two jerks deserve each other desk", from Hesser's website: " Amanda now lives with Mr. Latte in Brooklyn with their twin son and daughter, who by age 2 had eaten both pigeon and uni, whether they liked it or not...She would rather eat nothing than scarf down something on the run. "
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mariamariamaria
09/26/09

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Example 8,000,012 on why you should not know personal things about authors whose work you like - the douchery could overcome any pleasure the work gives you. Since I like Friend's writing I will abstain from reading this in October's Vogue.
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AlmostDream
09/25/09

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There's something incredibly amusing to me about men who are completely deluded about their sexual abilities. Apparently this lovely man thinks sleeping with Kerry 8 times (though I'm inclined to believe it was closer to the 2 she remembers) makes him a very important person in her life. And having her say otherwise is so earth-shattering that he has to ramble about how she wasn't that hot anyway for another few paragraphs before he can feel secure again.

And yet women are the ones who are too emotional about sex...
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clevernamehere
09/25/09

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Why do women's magazines publish these articles? I can't imagine Maxim or even Esquire publishing a piece about a woman looking up all her ex boyfriends.
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labratintraining
09/25/09

@clevernamehere: Because apparently, deep down inside, we're all so insecure that we need to know how our ex-boyfriends view us. Except the irony is that it isn't our insecurities on display here, is it.
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HereComesMyBaby
09/25/09

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Bah. Tad Friend is the worst name ever!
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krismry
09/25/09

@HereComesMyBaby: Double worst, especially when you consider his awful sobriquet, or stable name, could be pronounced Tattles. Someone who Tattles on Friends we do not need, but his book does sound rather more irresistible than this goofy magazine piece.
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Blueberry26
09/25/09

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I don't understand why exes who did not choose to maintain a friendship after the break try to talk to each other later. Your lives have diverged, it's over, and you're probably different people. MOVE ON WITH YOUR DAMN LIFE.

This Kanye style rant brought to you by tools like this (and my own experiences).

Explain: Two of my more serious exes keep trying to talk to me. It's been years since I've seen or spoken to either, and I'm in a happy, monogamous, long-term relationship. They both broke up with me. I know one insists that this disinterest in "being friends" is because I'm still upset, but I'm not. I was 16 back then, I've grown up and moved on. Please stop trying to talking to me.

Good thing it's Friday, otherwise all these posts would be making me really crabby.
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freckles
09/25/09

@Blueberry26: Some people can't let go of the past. I tend to not worry about their lack of ability to do so by not talking to them. I think you're right on target. And you're in a happy relationship! Why would you need them?
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veronykah
09/25/09

@Blueberry26: OMG I have the same problem. An ex that I lived with for 4 years but haven't spoken to in over 2 years just texted me a few weeks ago and messages me in some way every so often. I read it and was like WTF! Can't you leave me alone? Ever?
I think he thinks I'm still hurt or angry or something. He doesn't realize, despite NO CONTACT FOR OVER 2 YEARS, I couldn't really care too much less about him or desire to see him less than I already do.
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littlemisslondon
09/25/09

@Blueberry26: My ex from when I was 16 recently contacted me on Facebook. It was nice to hear from him and all, and we exchanged a couple of nice messages, but after a while I didn't really have much else to talk to him about. I mean, that was over 10 years ago, I'm married and have a 3-week-old daughter, he's single and playing the field. What more is there to say other than "Hi, nice to see you're still alive, have fun with that"?
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mb
09/25/09

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The article struck me as a way to reaffirm that he was once attractive to many women. I was thinking "midlife crisis" almost the whole time and "masturbation of the ego" the rest of the time. Kind of sad and pathetic...

Vogue, next time please use the space for an exposition about how to wear over-the-knee boots, over-the-knee socks, and lace/patterned/colorful tights for ladies of multiple shapes and sizes.
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jrhys
09/26/09

@mb: Good point.
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hamburgerhotdog
09/25/09

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I didn't know "being a jerk" was something that came in varying degrees, as if that somehow made it less offensive...
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SwapnaBuccaneer
09/25/09

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Oh, God. That does it. Tad and Amanda officially disgust me.
I loved Cooking For Mr. Latte. I own it, I cook from it regularly, I enjoyed the stories. But the more and more I hear about Mr. Friend and Ms. Hesser...GAH! They are obnoxious, self-aggrandizing, ignorant, cocooned, and whiny. WASPy whiny. "Why doesn't this dry cleaner have faster same day service?" whiny. "What do you mean Whole Foods doesn't carry Jamon Iberico?" whiny.

*tears hair out*

But...I'll probably read Tad's memoir anyway. Guess I'm part of the problem.
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jrhys
09/26/09

@SwapnaBuccaneer: What about the nickname "Mr. Latte" didn't tip you off to the fact that these two are irredeemable asshats?
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BornYesterday
09/25/09

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"Had her laugh always sounded that way?" What? Full of derision? There's your answer, Tad.
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LoSpaz
09/25/09

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My most significant ex is dead. The idea of speaking to others just reminds me of this and the whole idea makes me incredibly sad.

That said, I had the dubious pleasure of once having a conversation with a significant other's ex - a woman he was totally convinced still had feelings for him. Her first words to me upon finding out that I was with him: "How's that tiny dick working out for you?" I have never mentioned this conversation to him, but I do feel it drives home that if you do go asking your exes questions, not all the answers are going to be pleasant.
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Gonkette
09/25/09

@LoSpaz: So...how was it working out?
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ClydeFarley
09/25/09

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Just stalk your exes on Facebook like a normal person!
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dirtybee
09/25/09

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You know, last night I got an email from my ex-fiance who I haven't spoken to since the night of my "incident" (where he called me crazy and belittled me for going to therapy for thinking the "bad" thoughts). And this reminds me of this asshole writer.

For what purpose would you want to contact your ex's? To see how much better your life is now that you're no longer an asshole to them? To see how "far" you've come? If you're calling your ex's to see how much of a jerk you were to them, odds are YOU'RE STILL A FUCKING JERK.

/rant
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I_can_still_pitch
09/25/09

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Tad: Sometimes when you engage in navel-gazing all you find is lint. Lint is not very interesting.
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Casquivana
09/25/09

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Also, I wish this tendency to "acknowledge" what an ass, jerk or dick you are/were (both in men and women) would stop. I've heard many people say it, pretending to be conscious about it, but they only do it in order to keep acting like assholes and avoid any self-reflection.
You might be an asshole, but knowing it only means you can see/hear people's reactions to you. Owning things up is different to merely giving excuses for lousy behavior.
Stating the obvious is NOT the same as self-awareness.
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