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11/04/09
It should be now, of course. No one should have to wait for equality. It's disgusting and unfair that civil rights issues like this take as long as they do, have as many setbacks as they do, and require so much work and frustration and disillusion.
There's no way to change every mind, but it's heartbreaking to see something that should never, ever, be up to popular vote...be legitimized in some way and go counter to the basic tenants of our system. Which is that the rights of the minority should NEVER be subject to the whims of the majority. That is a fundamental issue in our system. The fact that many people seem to believe they have the right to decide what version of equality other people get to have saddens me. Something is broken in anyone who believes that.
I wish I could tell my LGBT friends that this will change soon. That this fight will not have to go on for years, or decades, and we'll see this in our lifetimes. I hope that we will. I think we move for change in the world faster than we used to. I can only hope we do. And continue to fight for it.
Bigotry will, I think, always exist. But we can't ever let it dictate our lives and access to equality. So we'll always have to fight. And though it's frustrating and discouraging...it's worth it.
Don't give up.
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Regarding the whole Catholic situation, I think it's possible to overcome that. Look at Spain, one of the first countries to approve gay marriage. You have many religious people there, many non-religious too, and they seem to respect each other.
Also many young people there who identify themsleves as Catholics but who don't agree with many conservative issues. A few call them hypocrites, I call them just people who move with the times and who have decided to be dissidents from within.
I still feel sad though, but I have a bit of hope.
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I guess I was trying to find a silver lining somewhere. It's a long battle anyway, similar to women's rights. We've come a long way, but there are still many things that need to change. #gaymarriagemaine
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Thanks so much MerryLilly #gaymarriagemaine
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Change does not roll in on the wheels of inevitability, but comes through continuous struggle. And so we must straighten our backs and work for our freedom. A man can't ride you unless your back is bent. - Martin Luther King, Jr. #gaymarriagemaine
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"There’s good news and bad news here. The good news is that even in one of the most liberal States in the Union, Maine, the people have once again rejected the ridiculous and oxymoronic notion of ‘same sex marriage.’ The momentum has again shifted – hopefully for good this time – in favor of protecting legitimate marriage. A counterfeit is a counterfeit. An orange is an orange no matter how much you want it to be a turnip. This isn’t about ‘marriage.’ It’s about hurting and broken people desperately seeking affirmation of an objectively deviant lifestyle. One that, even in their heart of hearts, they know to be a dead end. As for the militant ‘No on 1’ homosexual activists? I’m reminded of spoiled children dressing up and playing house, refusing to come in when mom calls for dinner. Here’s the bad news. The margin of victory could have been greater. Many behind the ‘Yes on 1’ campaign, rather than simply telling the truth, chose the Neville Chamberlain approach. They merely circled the wagons around the word ‘marriage,’ even suggesting that ‘domestic partnerships’ (‘gay marriages’ by another name) are acceptable. This makes no sense. If that’s a viable compromise, then why not simply allow 'gay' duos the word ‘marriage’? It’s an incongruity that demands an explanation. This is an historic battle for the minds and souls of our children – for our very culture. The mealy-mouthed approach must end. This is not just about ‘marriage.’ It has everything to do with forced affirmation of homosexuality – under penalty of law." —Liberty Counsel and Liberty Alliance Action director Matt Barber, on Maine's outcome
I'm speechless.
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Stunned. #gaymarriagemaine
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I'm all for everyone having their opinions but this is flat out hatred. Let's just go ahead and call a spade a spade, shall we?! #gaymarriagemaine
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I have nothing eloquent to say. I am just sad. #gaymarriagemaine
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This is Maggie Gallagher, the President of the National Organization for Marriage (NOM), the group that actively campaigns against gay marriage and the LGBT community in general. She is a hateful, hateful woman.
There's a four-letter word she deserves to be called. I'll leave it all to you to decide what that word is.
Going into the election, I think most of us in the LGBT community knew Maine was going to be a difficult, and close, battle. And while the results here in Washington State are looking favorable for our "everything but marriage" law, it's still heartbreaking. And frustrating that out-of-state groups and donors are effectively dictating state laws and policy, intentionally misleading voters. And for what? To preserve their already admittedly broken and ruined marriages? Their infidelities and lies?
Fuck that.
I'm tired of these groups running behind the pearly white robes of Jesus to justify their hatred. Tired of the lies, and the claims that they're doing this because they care about children and families and preserving the 'natural order.' If you cared so much, then the tens-of-thousands of dollars spent on hateful advertising to stop gay marriage could be better used to helping family and children that are homeless, or starving, or in need of medical care. Not fattening their own wallets so they can afford expensive cars and homes and clothing for their non-stop media appearances.
So tired of this shit, and tired of having to fight for what should just be. I don't blame the citizens of Maine, there was always going to be those who voted in favor of Question 1, but those behind the campaigns? The NOMs and religious organizations? You. You I blame. And you will go down. Because you're a dying breed.
(OK, that was more ranty than I anticipated.) #gaymarriagemaine
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But after about three seconds, I started talking to everyone I knew about the importance of approving R-71. Unfortunately, I can't talk to all of eastern Washington, but it's nice to see that (hopefully) the western half will carry the vote through to keep the domestic partnership law on the books.
I want to know how my dentist and his husband or my aunt and her partner are personally affecting Stickney, Gallagher, and every person in Maine and Washington who voted against him. Nobody's willing to answer that one (you cowardly, close-minded, hateful fucks). #gaymarriagemaine
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The truth is that, in most states, being a legislator is a full time job that includes a budget for staff to brief you on issues. The average person just does not have the time or the inclination to make an informed decision about all of the many issues that legislators decide.
This is not to say that citizens should not contact their representatives about issues that matter to them, but they should certainly not be voting on anything an interest group manages to get on the ballot. #gaymarriagemaine
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Sometimes people need, as a group, to be taken by the scruffs of their necks and SHAKEN. And I'm serious about that.
Was the national Constitutional amendment giving suffrage to women put to a popular vote? #gaymarriagemaine
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When I was born again for 5 hot seconds in high school, I saw that church raise money for ski trips and the occasional mission trip (a vacation with a touch of self satisfaction)... but not once did I see that church, full of rich, well dressed white people, raise money for the poor, the needy, the hurting.
But they have time and money for this. Fuck the lot of them.
Sometimes I hope that God is real and that It tells these fuckers to stop speaking for It. #gaymarriagemaine
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I wish that someone had set us straight, and told us that maybe next time, we should spend some time raising money to buy books for disadvantaged schools, or run a Toys for Tots donation drive or something. But instead, I'm pretty sure they went on a trip to a camp every year. I can't remember. #gaymarriagemaine
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There are religious organizations out there who do do good work in their communities, and in the world at large (just to name a few from the churches I've attended: food banks, homeless outreach programs, woman's shelters, subsidized housing for seniors, and more, funding summer camp for underprivileged kids).
Unfortunately, these are the organizations that are losing people, perhaps because they don't have the funds to send the youth groups off to fancy camps and trips ... or they don't spend all their money inciting hatred of others... #gaymarriagemaine
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@not_kinky: You found me out! Drat! Foiled again! *huff huff* #gaymarriagemaine
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I exaggerated slightly--- it's an investigation into nuns who are 'too independent' (ie, living outside a convent), or agitating for change in the church's institutions, or are involved in community programs the Vatican deems 'unsuitable'.
I'm just really disgruntled with the current Vatican.. #gaymarriagemaine
11/06/09
I am often disgruntled with the current Vatican. I wish there was more of a push for people to become involved in communities and be less concerned with the appearance of it all. I feel like the current pope is trying to distinguish himself from John Paul II, who seemed to be beloved by practically everyone. And by doing what he is, he's certainly changed the view of the Pope, but... I don't think it's in a good way. #gaymarriagemaine
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Yesterday's vote is sad. But I remember sitting in the women's center at my college in Vermont 13 years ago listening to somebody talk about the campaign for gay marriage and compare where we were then to where we are now. While we have lost many battles, we are slowly winning the fight. #gaymarriagemaine
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Frances Russell #gaymarriagemaine