Even if you think your interview is stupid and fluffy, which this guy clearly does, it is poor form not to do any research at all. Bad journalism--this is pretty widely known. And for the record, I watch Entourage, and their relationship is the best part of the show.
Yeah, I don't know. I feel like if we can't call women fat, we shouldn't be calling dudes fat either. That guy is a perfectly normal body size and type and obviously quite attractive to many women. Like, if you saw him in the grocery store you wouldn't think, "Whoa, fat dude". You'd think, "Whoa, nice eyes, too bad about the Yankees hat."
I used to date a guy who was 6'4" and had a very large build: big tummy, thighs like tree trunks, etc. Among his other problems, he also wasn't the brightest tool in the crayon box. He dropped out of high school because he just didn't feel like going, and he was socially inept, rude, and more than incidentally racist. (Why was I with him?!)
At the end of our time together, I began to have a devastatingly strong crush on a guy who was almost his exact physical equal - with the exception that he had a degree in psychology, practiced mixed martial arts, read voraciously and was so much fun to talk to.
I don't hold it against anyone if you're not naturally adept at the book learnin' or low on the handsomeness index. But if you're disrespectful, painfully awkward, and uninteresting, suffice it to say you're not going to interest me.
@tankearae: Hey, remember how there was a big controversy on here about a week ago talking about fat/thin body stereotypes?
This statement highlights how men are just as guilty of discriminating against fat men as they do fat women. Maybe not to the same degree, but just because someone's fat doesn't mean he's a loser.
@clintosterholz: I think a lot of people see a handful of these really unattractive guys with less-than-stellar personalities refuse to date a woman who looks like anything less than a supermodel. If you expect me to look like Heidi Klum, you best look like a Calvin Klein model.
It's not right to discriminate against all fat guys because of the few douchebags, but I'm assuming that that's where it comes from, and of course the majority of people who aren't conventionally gorgeous are perfectly nice and have reasonable expectations for their dates.
@onestrawplz: Well I'm not one to judge a relationship from the exterior. You never know what one gets from a relationship. Frankly, I feel worse for perfectly nice women dating some gel-spiked blinged up Jersey d-bag--who by all conventional accounts would be perceived as attractive--than a fat Patton Oswalt type dude.
Did I just use the term Jersey d-bag? I think I've become a New Yorker officially!
Ahem....I am dating someone relatively bigger than I am. And honestly, the comments I get from ignorant assholes really piss me off - "You can do so much better", "Don't you think he is a little big?" etc etc. The man is a complete sweetheart and much more mature than all of the men I've dated in the past put together and I feel HONORED to be with him.
The way that some people view "big" people is ignorant and extremely insulting.
@dirtybee: i feel like people are generally shocked to see a pretty girl with a man who's not as attractive as they are - husky, balding, short, etc - the usual traits that people compare with society's impossibly high and narrow standards of beauty.
I say, pretty boys for the most part are jackasses and I'd much rather be with someone who is kind and loving than some asshole who thinks he's god's gift to women.
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@l'américaine française: Exactly. Unfortunately there are a lot of people that don't bother to get to know a good person because their physical appearance does not meet society's standard of beauty.
Oh well...more for me!
@dirtybee: My boyfriend has gained a fair amount of weight in the past few years and I can't believe the things people say. Yes, I have noticed that he's gained weight. No, I don't care. He's still the same great guy, assholes.
@l'américaine française: @dirtybee:
I am a petite girl. But my lovely, kind, tall but cuddly BF gets stick from his mates about dating me. My friends don't care about the looks of the person I date as long as I am happy. The BF's friends however have made statements to him such as "You're punching above your weight". At the end of the day, as you said dirtybee, I feel honored to be with him as he is amazingly loyal, kind and I am extremely attracted to him irregardless of how others might judge his size.
@CissyPants: As usual, I believe the word has been taken to mean something that it doesn't really. My BF is certainly not fat, even though people might say that. He just has a bit of a belly. But to me he is lovely, and great for cuddling!
What bugs me is that he's all "But I read the New York Times, Wall Street Journal, and other newsworthy media." Dude, you couldn't have done a LITTLE research before interviewing her?
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And another thing -- who's to say what "fat" is?
Marat is 6'4" 210lbs, but anyone so delusional as to call that "fat" …
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At the end of our time together, I began to have a devastatingly strong crush on a guy who was almost his exact physical equal - with the exception that he had a degree in psychology, practiced mixed martial arts, read voraciously and was so much fun to talk to.
I don't hold it against anyone if you're not naturally adept at the book learnin' or low on the handsomeness index. But if you're disrespectful, painfully awkward, and uninteresting, suffice it to say you're not going to interest me.
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I had no idea how to answer that.
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This statement highlights how men are just as guilty of discriminating against fat men as they do fat women. Maybe not to the same degree, but just because someone's fat doesn't mean he's a loser.
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It's not right to discriminate against all fat guys because of the few douchebags, but I'm assuming that that's where it comes from, and of course the majority of people who aren't conventionally gorgeous are perfectly nice and have reasonable expectations for their dates.
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Did I just use the term Jersey d-bag? I think I've become a New Yorker officially!
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This. Emphatically, this.
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The way that some people view "big" people is ignorant and extremely insulting.
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I say, pretty boys for the most part are jackasses and I'd much rather be with someone who is kind and loving than some asshole who thinks he's god's gift to women.
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Oh well...more for me!
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I am a petite girl. But my lovely, kind, tall but cuddly BF gets stick from his mates about dating me. My friends don't care about the looks of the person I date as long as I am happy. The BF's friends however have made statements to him such as "You're punching above your weight". At the end of the day, as you said dirtybee, I feel honored to be with him as he is amazingly loyal, kind and I am extremely attracted to him irregardless of how others might judge his size.
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But fat? Eh. Stocky is probably a better way to describe him.
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