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resonanteye
03/10/09

In reply to Booty Calls: When Will They Stop!?
The guy I'm dating now started off as a brief fwb about seven years ago, and between then and now we've both been in other relationships, just occasionally texting or emailing to see how the other is doing or what their status is. So those checking-in booty call texts and emails sometimes are worth it, and I'm glad seven years isn't past the expiration date for them.

(he's awesome, by the way.)
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resonanteye
03/10/09

@resonanteye: oh and about the sixth sense thing? as soon as I started dating him just about every guy I've ever dated called or texted "just to see how I was doing". How do they know?
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rocknrollunicorn
03/10/09

@resonanteye: It's a gift only men have. The only thing I'm jealous of. Though I wouldn't have the balls or audacity to use it.
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lolowyo...wants a zombie baby
03/10/09

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Oooh - I have a good story. The guy I was fucking didn't know I had a new boyfriend. Um...I lived with my (open-minded) mom, and he came over to slip into bed with me at like 1:30 am. I was staying at the boyfriend's house - but my mom woke to find him wandering around my basement, drunkenly looking for me. Poor kid - I was like 27 at the time, and he was (a hot) 21-year old kid. Thank god my bf and I weren't staying at my house.
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emilyanne
03/10/09

@lolowyo...wants a zombie baby: ha that is a great story. I feel sorry for the poor chap though.
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lolowyo...wants a zombie baby
03/10/09

@emilyanne: Yeah, he's a nice guy, it was totally my bad.
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jrhys
03/10/09

@lolowyo...wants a zombie baby: As long as your open minded mom didn't sleep with him it's all good
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CDarklock
03/10/09

In reply to Booty Calls: When Will They Stop!?
I have never understood why any man considers the "booty call" acceptable under any circumstances.

What's the statute of limitations? Zero. You should never "booty call" anyone. Ever. Maybe I'm being anachronistic in this modern mobile society, but that's where I stand on it.
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AvocadoGills: purveyor of kinky fish porn
03/10/09

@CDarklock: To be fair, men aren't the only ones who do it. Also, if both partners are consenting adults, where's the harm?
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jrhys
03/10/09

@AvocadoGills (formerly Naked but learning the meaning of de...: Eh I'm not into them either and Im an ex massive slut. Nothing against sex work or sex workers but if I'm gonna be a straight up outcall hooker I wanna get paid. Otherwise lets at least have a drink or something first.
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Zombies make the heart grow fonder
03/10/09

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About 4 years ago, my mother forgot that I had changed my cell phone number to a Virginia number. She called my old number accidently-which turns out- had been reassigned in less than a year. The woman who answered told my mother that I was "a very popular young lady around 2 in the morning". My mother did not know what this meant. Thank god.
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hetaira
03/10/09

@Zombies make the heart grow fonder: Ha! That was a very tactful way of putting it, I guess. She must have been tired of getting calls/messages in the middle of the night...
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Zombies make the heart grow fonder
03/10/09

@hetaira: Haha, yes. As was I...See, we had a Greek directory for the frats and the sororities to use. You would meet a guy one night exchange a few words and he would get drunk a few nights later and try to booty call you. God I don't miss that. And here is this poor woman getting calls when the bars are closing from college frat guys slurring their words!
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lurkystars
03/10/09

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A lot of guys I know simply have the idea in their heads, if I fucked you once, I should be able to fuck you whenever I want from here on out. YEARS can go by, and the fact that you slept with them once gives them the idea that you'll always want to. So shallow and weird.
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HereComesMyBaby
03/10/09

@lurkystars: I kind of feel this way about guys I've been with. :(
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emilyanne
03/10/09

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I'm actually still friends with pretty much all my former booty calls and once a year we all get together and have a big sex and drugs orgy with all our new partners. Disclaimer: This isn't actually true, once a year we all get together with wives, husbands, partners, children and have boring middle class british chat about the weather and how much more fun our lives used to be but hey it would be fun if the former was what actually went down.
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Mama Penguino
03/10/09

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I got a booty text one night that was a wrong number. Given the number of years I've been married, it was the most exciting thing that's happened to me since footless tights.
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J.D.Regent
03/10/09

@Mama Penguino: i just did too! i googled the area code and everything. clearly a wrong number. you just really made me laugh though.
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t-yo3
03/10/09

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Meh. If these guys are calling after you've let them know that you're engaged and no longer available, then they're being stupid. But if they don't know, and you've been up for booty calls in the past, it's not that much of a gaffe on their part. Just let them know honestly what the deal is.
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Beets.Go.On is the Fat Yogini
03/10/09

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Oh man, ex-boyfriends/booty calls leaped out of the fucking woodwork within the first few months I went public with my engagement. Same thing happened with my mom when my dad died, after 32 YEARS OF MARRIAGE. Boyfriends from high school were like "hey beautiful I still think about you. hear you're single again." Scumbags, she is a WIDOW. What is wrong with these guys?!
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AuntieEm (robots from the year 2000 > zombies)
03/10/09

@Beets.Go.On: OMG WHAT?!?!?!
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J.D.Regent
03/10/09

@Beets.Go.On: this does not surprise me. i firmly believe men are like elephants and NEVER FORGET.
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rocknrollunicorn
03/10/09

@Beets.Go.On: @J.D.Regent: They also have this INSANE sixth sense. Seriously, the moment you are unavailable, or available but totally emotionally vulnerable, they will reappear for "a drink" or to fuck with you in some strange way.

It completely blows my mind, but both my sister and myself have experienced this so, so, so many times.
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Ultraprison!
03/10/09

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I feel like Facebook relationship statuses should have solved this problem.
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Mirshaan
03/10/09

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The idiocy doesn't belong to dudes alone. I've had a few females give me the "Can I come over" text at 1-2AM even though they know I'm dating someone, and have been for a while. I NEVER remove old numbers from my phone for that exact reason. I want to know who's contacting me like this.

I think there are just some people who have no reservations about "trying their luck". This one girl kept calling and texting at the most inappropriate times, and when I asked her why she continued, despite knowing I had a GF, her response was to shrug and say, "Maybe one night she'll be gone, or you'll forget you have a GF." I haven't forgotten that fact, but thankfully, she's stopped contacting me...

Some people in general are just more agressive and will keep trying whether you want them to or not. Mute/vibrate your phone before going to bed.... or just mass text anyone you've ever slept with the "I'm taken. Don't text me anymore." message.
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Schm
03/10/09

@Mirshaan: I don't get people like this. Maybe I'm just self-conscious, but I could never actively pursue someone if I thought there might be a chance of embarrassment. I actually do have an ex-thing who one night texted me because he had just seen me out on a date at a restaurant! He was like "who's that guy you were with", and then proceeded to ask me for sex. Like, really?
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AuntieEm (robots from the year 2000 > zombies)
03/10/09

@Mirshaan: I have a guy friend who's ex called/texts him every few months, it comes up in his phone as "DO NOT ANSWER"
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RainbowBrite
03/10/09

@Mirshaan: Some chicks think that men are always down for sex, 24/7, with any willing female. That men should be LUCKY to get offered sex from a woman.

God get a clue!
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momentsofabsurdity
03/10/09

In reply to Booty Calls: When Will They Stop!?
I dated/hooked up with a guy for about a year, and then we had a HUGE falling out. We saw each other awkwardly at parties and pretended nothing had changed, but tried not to interact much.

Today (over a year later, I'm a committed relationship) I get this text:

"i want to lick ur sweet hot pussy"

Really? No words for a year, and THIS is what I get?

Stupid booty calls.
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msAnthrope
03/10/09

In reply to Booty Calls: When Will They Stop!?
the thing that sucks about this is that you can't just block offending phone numbers on your cell phone. and, if you start getting enough of these "no one" calls, your guy will probably at least get curious and start wondering what's going on. i know if the reverse were happening to me, i'd want to know who it was.
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morninggloria
03/10/09

In reply to Booty Calls: When Will They Stop!?
A former booty call is currently a professional athlete. Whenever his team is in Chicago, I get like 19283749278 calls from him. It's been 4 years.
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Schm
03/10/09

@morninggloria: Fun story!

I have a friend who hooked up with TO several years ago, and apparently it was only a hand job, nothing spectacular. But he still contacts her, to this day. Back a few years ago, it was a lot worse and he would call her pretty often. One time he called her when he was jacking off in the shower.

I hope nothing happens to me for writing this on the internet for all to see... oh well, whatever.
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KetchupFiend
03/10/09

@schmalerie: Isn't using a phone in the shower dangerous??
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Schm
03/10/09

@KetchupFiend: I thought the same thing. Maybe he has a really big shower? Idk. But she ran into the house freaking out when he did that, put him on hold, and was asking us for advice on how to handle it. We just laughed.
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sequined
03/10/09

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One of my exes used to IM me and ask for nude photos five years after we broke up. FIVE YEARS.
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MerryLilly
03/10/09

@sequined: Now this is scary *gulp*
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