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11/30/09
So I could probably lose my relationship and the cat. And the cat is mostly blind with cataracts, and I asked them (parents) not to let him out of the house, but they always say, "No, he's good. He still has his whiskers."
I just broke down crying in my office over this. I wasn't going to cry over the boy, but my cat? I'm done with today, and many days, if he doesn't come back.
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I had also been through this once before, when my childhood cat took off for 3 weeks. We found him again shacked up with another family because we kept putting up new signs, again about 12 blocks away.
So - screw the guy! But don't give up on the cat!
11/30/09
My first cat disappeared when I was in high school and did return about two months later, but she had perfect health and vision. My boy cat is older and mostly blind, so I figure I won't have such good luck twice.
I'm so mad because I ignored him all Thanksgiving so that I wouldn't get his hair and dander on me and trigger the boys allergies. What if that was the last chance I had to hold him?
I'm so depressed! And now I feel guilty.
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He still isn't married, almost thirteen years later. I can't say I'm shocked. I'm sure his smother is pleased, though.
11/29/09
Whatever. I ran off to celebrate in Vegas with my two best friends.
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twice.
same guy
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But, I did break up with a guy on Christmas once, so kharma?
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She basically broke his heart. I wish I could say she was still on my good list but this is just one of many reasons she is not on that list. A small reason, but still. :(
But... December was the time I met my current boyfriend... so, Turkey Drop turns into Best Christmas Present Ever?
11/29/09
....HUFF.
Reserve judgment :)
11/29/09
Watching friends break up is hard. Especially when you want it to work. He (and I) wanted it to work more than she did.
And, as I said, this is a small reason she's been moved to my not-so-good list - there is a much bigger reason for the list move overhanging it...
(I have lists, in my head, it's weird but what I do.)
Otherwise, yes, I reserve and sit quietly with icecream for both parties.
11/29/09
One of my boyfriend's best friends took what turned out to be a temporary breakup as an opportunity to direct a little snark my way. Unfortunately, she picked the week I had a serious health emergency to communicate her feelings via, of course, Facebook. The boy and I are back together, but that girl is in my book as a bit of an immature psycho. The boyfriend wasn't impressed with the drama, either, and they're not as close anymore. I'm sure their friendship will recover eventually, but she ended up looking awful in this whole thing. When she judged me, she judged him too, and when she showed no respect for me, she didn't make herself look like much a friend to him, you know?
That's why I really think it's safest to just stay out of your friend's relationships. The closer you are to the friend, the more important it is not to get sucked in. You don't know what's going on, and the more you insist you do, and justify it, and act on it, the more chances there are for you to end up looking bad.
11/30/09
She does NOT need to know how I feel. My opinion hardly matters.
But, when she says she hates my beloved state and will never return - she hates his state also. Who hates a whole State? I'm just not going to spend a ton of time talking to her - I have other friends I would rather talk to, who don't throw around "hate" as much. See, she doesn't need to know that. I won't be telling her. I won't tell the roommate either.
It's just sad that the breakup happened this week, I don't think he saw it coming...
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This morning (from 10 am to 1pm) the boyfriend and I had an epic battle that started with him saying he thinks we should live apart for awhile, and ended with an uneasy state of peace and maintaining the status quo. I asked, Why did you buy us a gift certificate for our favorite restaurant just two days ago (Friday night) if you're so unhappy? Long story short, cold feet. We've reached the point where we are either going to break up for good or get married. Unfortunately for my peace of mind, this whole time I thought it was going to be option B. Mainly because last week he told me all about how awesome I am and how he wants to spend the rest of his life with me.
Jezzies, I am cried out and exhausted. I hate the holidays.
And commitment phobic boy-men.
11/29/09
You will know a new peace and a new happiness: trust me. Cry. Eat ice-cream. Pray. Call your mother.
11/29/09
Right now the boy is watching the Bears, and I am having quiet time. I do love him, but he knows that he's really hurt me this time. I'm hoping for the best. And I definitely view this as a cliche type event. It's so typical that a guy will waver, but really, I must say why I am expecting a proposal:
We already live together. And have for 3 years!
We already bought the ring. It's in his sock drawer.
We have talked (at length!) of how we will divide up childcare and work in the future.
He wants me to move with him to a new city, and I told him I wouldn't until we are engaged, and he said that was perfectly reasonable and he was OK with it. This move will happen in the next few months, probably by March.
So, as you see, I don't think I am being irrational here at all. So his picking a fight with me this morning was a big shock.
Thanks for your hug! I needed it.
11/29/09
So, see if you can get season 2? 3? of Gilmore Girls and watch the episode following the breakup. It will be like the biggest deep tissue massage you ever had. Hurts now but when you get up to leave, it's like you got a new body...
And remember, you can ALWAYS get up and leave. No one stays on the massage table.
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Breakups - just - God, they suck.
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I hope we both have happier holiday stories next year.
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as god is my witness...I thought turkeys could fly
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Me too! I clicked thru, expecting at least a picture of Les Nessman, lol.
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Actually, I see the sense in the Turkey Drop, but I don't buy that the Cad Zone lasts until February--or that being a cad is the real fear. You dump someone at Thanksgiving because it's a wake-up call: you realize you don't WANT to spend Christmas and New Year's with this person. Thanksgiving is so about family that it makes you think about whom you want that close to you.
11/29/09
i will say that getting dumped while living in the freshman girls dorm isn't the worst thing in the world - i had countless supporters who chimed in with "that jerk," and "you're so much better than him," etc, whenever i needed it, plus lots of wine and ice cream buddies :)
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(The bonus- I gave him mono right before we split!)
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But now this article is making me paranoid about my current relationship, even though there's absolutely nothing wrong with it. Insecurity, I has it.
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