"being judged solely based on my looks can be hard for me". Awwwwww, I'm so sorry, it must be so hard for -- oh wait, women deal with this EVERY FUCKING DAY! Get over yourself, douchebag.
Haha, as a former /b/tard, I'd like to take this moment to call out Mr. Internet Tough Guy Pham as one of our own. From this guy's language and demeanor - "butthurt" in conjunction with the ethic of "trolling for great justice" plus the highly-developed and thus most likely highly-nurtured Nice Guy (TM) psychology - I'm willing to make the diagnosis even without proof positive that he browses.
Guys on the 4chan boards, and the /b/ board in particular, steep themselves in a well of apathy, misanthropy and pornography so deep that it's a miracle any of them can still form coherent sentences when they crawl out for social interaction. Deny them anything they want - sex, in this case, seems to be the point in contention - and they explode into a vitriolic nonsensical rage that immediately outs them to all listeners as a whack-job.
And that, kids, is why it's important to play outside. Sometimes, even, with girls.
Yeah, he posted this and among the very first of the responses was the image above. The rest of Wellesley followed that with a hilarious barrage of LOLcats and motivational posters. It was awesome.
I'm so confused. He's angry because a female student body he perceives as whores won't sleep with him? Why is his friend's height relevant? And wtf planet does he live on, that he thinks that a weak try to turn an insult into a statement "for the general good" will stop people from being upset? I'm insulted, and I don't even go to that college.
And no one pointed out to him that rape and abuse often stem from feelings of entitlement like his? I honestly fear for the girls who go to his next school. He sounds a little too much like that guy who shot up the Pittsburgh gym over the summer.
first: At the same time, hearing "What are you doing here?" when walking through the halls and being judged solely based on my looks can be hard for me. I hope you can understand that. hey guy, why not use this temporary minority status as a time to reflect on what it's like to feel this alienated status everyday by actual minorities.
second: Do it one more time, and I will sue you. Funny, you sound like the over-entitled college student who just thinks they can go around suing everyone....
third: my hope is that everyone, male and female, defriend and permanently this joker.
@kixiechic: Since his last name is Pham, and it sounds like he is kind of short, I bet he is Asian - an actual minority. What is a damn shame is that he hasn't figured out that the alienation he probably feels as an Asian in the US is very similar to what women feel.
@Faster.Pussycat: i hadn't thought of that. that's interesting. i wonder if Asians being the model minority have influenced (consciously or subconsciously) Pham's feelings of alienation on one or another. And if it plays on his being alienated for his gender and not his race. Hope this makes sense, ideas not fully formed.
@janeanne: Seems to me like it would be a good opportunity for both the man in the exchange program and the women on campus to learn about gender norms. Kinda like a white person's first time being the only white face in the room (every honky should have one of those moments).
@Valkyrie607: But surely the point of going to a single sex school is to be with just that sex? I understand having cross-enrolment, but to actually have an exchange and be there exclusively seems very strange. To use your example, there have been a few times I've been the only white face in a room, but it's never been *planned*, I just happened to be placed in a class where that was the distribution. To go and deliberatly pick a class seems to almost negate the experience...
@janeanne: Well, when I studied abroad, I was deliberately choosing to be the only white face where I was going. It certainly didn't soften the blow. I can see where you're coming from, and I realize my experience isn't parallel, due to language/culture barriers.
But I think it can still be learned, even if you know what's going to happen beforehand.
I find it infinitely satisfying to realize that this ruckus will follow Jeremy Pham for a good long while, and if he hasn't already, he will soon learn to regret his lack of a filter between his brain and his fingers. Potential employers do Google searches Jeremy, you won't be able to hide from this and it will bite you in the metaphorical ass.
This is hilarious. Dude went to an all female college expecting to find the Land of the Amazons where he would be pestered for sex on an hourly basis...and then poor baby had his dreams crushed. Wah. And you know that's the ONLY reason he did a exchange to Wellesley. He wasn't getting laid at Dartmouth, so he went some place where he thought there'd be desperate horny women knocking down his door. He thought he was moving in to a Penthouse Letter! How dare reality not live up to his expectations!
Also, no matter what he looks like: Not even with Sara Palin's vagina.
urg, it saddens me that this student thinks he's one of the good guys, yet he spews all this vitriol in such a casual and joking manner.
he comes off as whiny and defensive, like he's been itching for the opportunity to lash out. and for what? because he didn't feel like he was top dog? it's not anyone's job to personally welcome him and hold his hand around campus. college was socially difficult for us all. what a fucking crybaby.
What's the bad joke? A whore is someone who'll sleep with everyone, a bitch is someone who'll sleep with everyone but you?
Thanks to Katy for making the observation that there would really be no way to justify that post unless this dude and his friends felt entitled to sex (except of course for the classic 'It's a stunt' backtrack).
I'm just surprised he didn't go on about 'nice' guys like him finishing last.
I go to a college just down the road from Wellesley. We can cross-register there (as I probably am next semester), participate in their plays, etc. There are a lot of friends between the two schools. This particular incident sparked a lot of conversation at our school as well. Most people recognized the idiocy of this guy. Except for one guy, who wrote in an email:
"As rude as this kid was, he's not afraid to speak his mind - bluntly and directly without hiding his feelings. I like that. A lot. I'd hire him in an instant."
He did not back down on this point, despite people pointing out Pham's complete lack of tact, people skills, etc. I still can't believe someone would find this commendable.
That being said, the "outcry" at our school was NOTHING compared to what was happening at Wellesley. Their school message boards were exploding, some girl threw water in Jeremy Pham's face at dinner, there were t-shirts-- everything. A poor Asian male who was TA-ing a class also had to deal with everyone thinking he was Pham. Overall, a wreck.
@PhillyLass: There are for at least a few courses- I'm not sure how close they are to the traditional TA, but I've met at least one woman who was doing her PhD in Italy and was studying in Boston for the semester while working as a TA in one of Wellesley's Italian classes.
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If you're a guy with a great personality who knows how to kiss your height only matters when you're standing up. And not even then, really.
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Guys on the 4chan boards, and the /b/ board in particular, steep themselves in a well of apathy, misanthropy and pornography so deep that it's a miracle any of them can still form coherent sentences when they crawl out for social interaction. Deny them anything they want - sex, in this case, seems to be the point in contention - and they explode into a vitriolic nonsensical rage that immediately outs them to all listeners as a whack-job.
And that, kids, is why it's important to play outside. Sometimes, even, with girls.
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And no one pointed out to him that rape and abuse often stem from feelings of entitlement like his? I honestly fear for the girls who go to his next school. He sounds a little too much like that guy who shot up the Pittsburgh gym over the summer.
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second: Do it one more time, and I will sue you. Funny, you sound like the over-entitled college student who just thinks they can go around suing everyone....
third: my hope is that everyone, male and female, defriend and permanently this joker.
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But I think it can still be learned, even if you know what's going to happen beforehand.
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But seriously, most HR departments are run by women, let's hope many of them have superior Google skills.
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Also, no matter what he looks like: Not even with Sara Palin's vagina.
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he comes off as whiny and defensive, like he's been itching for the opportunity to lash out. and for what? because he didn't feel like he was top dog? it's not anyone's job to personally welcome him and hold his hand around campus. college was socially difficult for us all. what a fucking crybaby.
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Thanks to Katy for making the observation that there would really be no way to justify that post unless this dude and his friends felt entitled to sex (except of course for the classic 'It's a stunt' backtrack).
I'm just surprised he didn't go on about 'nice' guys like him finishing last.
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"As rude as this kid was, he's not afraid to speak his mind - bluntly and directly without hiding his feelings. I like that. A lot. I'd hire him in an instant."
He did not back down on this point, despite people pointing out Pham's complete lack of tact, people skills, etc. I still can't believe someone would find this commendable.
That being said, the "outcry" at our school was NOTHING compared to what was happening at Wellesley. Their school message boards were exploding, some girl threw water in Jeremy Pham's face at dinner, there were t-shirts-- everything. A poor Asian male who was TA-ing a class also had to deal with everyone thinking he was Pham. Overall, a wreck.
PS: Pham now has an urbandictionary entry: [www.urbandictionary.com]
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