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If you want $200/hr or day I'd consider being a stripper before a domme.
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What kind of start-up and maintenance costs does being a domme have? Does one speculate to accumulate?
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And aren't the new amateurs going to be undercutting the prices of the professionals? Who have the training and the experience?
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It's a dangerous matter depending on your fetish to see an amateur for sure. Most guys want to know you have lots of experience, but a lot of them are also cheap :/
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Usually depends on the client.
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I have worked as a domme and deciding to become a freelance domme when you have ABSOLUTELY no experience and no clients is as unrealistic as becoming a freelance graphic designer because you think it would be "easy" and own a computer.
I am also so tired of the job being portrayed as foot fetishists and people who like to be spanked. Yes, those people exist, however, the vast majority of the clients want things that require you to be a LOT closer and more involved.
Ever heard of CBT? No, not from the lexus commercials. Cock ball torture, this would involve TOUCHING someones said parts.
Most clients want some sort of dildo play, meaning in their ass. Meaning you clean up any "messes" when the session is over.
The largest request? Sensual domination. Yes, you are still being mean and talking shit to them but all the while running fingernails along their skin, pressing yourself against them etc.
These examples are just the run of the mill client. The REALLY experienced or freaky guys might want to dress like a baby or little girl, want you to burn or pierce them in erotic places, get a golden or brown shower...
Oh, and all of them want to jack off at the end, with you still there.
Still sound like "easy" fun freelance work?
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This was just an overview, I didn't even touch the REALLY fucked up shit I saw there....
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Could you have just written the article instead?
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They don't want to actually tell people what is involved, its much more fun to think of a hot chick in a hat whipping some guy with assless chaps.
There was either an HBO real sex or a documentary about a dungeon in NYC, must have been in the 90s. That was kind of close to showing it how it really is.
Wish i knew the name.
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Does this sort of thing mess with your head a little once you've left, too? I feel like you might not be able to leave work at work, when you work requires you to deal with people who may have emotional issues or abusive fetishes.
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@richcreamerybutter@The Artist formerly known as Jezbian.: : You hit it on the head too. I actually went to a studio about a year ago, thinking maybe I would get back into it. I spent an afternoon hanging out and totally remembered many things and decided I wasn't into seeing fat naked old dudes anymore.
@JerseyGrrrl: For me personally, no. I would leave work with other dommes and laugh our asses off at the stupid guys we would see. I think if you have the psyche that would find this traumatizing you probably wouldn't get into it in the first place. That being said there were a few sessions that completely grossed me out and thinking about them years later they still give me the willies.
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If I could just do that and foot and leg worship I'd be a domme today.
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Does this sort of thing mess with your head a little once you've left, too? I feel like you might not be able to leave work at work, when you work requires you to deal with people who may have emotional issues or abusive fetishes.
Is that something that you would ask a psychologist too? Because it's really not even that extreme.
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how do i start?
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If you work in a dungeon, they usually take most girls. It pays to have all kinds. They will teach you what you need to know and you can learn from the other more experienced girls. See my post below for a little crash course in what the job actually involves.
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I also refuse to do piercings.
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I wouldn't go into it now.
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Any tips Jezzies? What's the going rate for smacking a dude around?
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You could probably go up from there if you get good at it. This is not something I assume a lot of working class poor men spend their money on, so I think there's probably room for negotiation.
Also, bankers/traders totally get the concept of transaction fees so you could also consider charging a la carte - maybe $10/$20 per smack/smush? Plus reimbursement for out-of-pocket expenses for transportation, costumes, props and other costs of "doing business". As it were.
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Plus, this seems on the whole less risky than more traditionally penetrative sex work, no?
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