Seriously on the Prince thing. I once wanted to listen to "When Doves Cry" and could find NOTHING. Me, queen of finding nearly anything online- could not locate anything of his on the Interwebs.
While it sucks for people who use Youtube and whatnot in lieu of putting on a CD, you gotta admit that he seriously knows what he's doing when it comes to nixing the piracy of his work. #porn
@vitajex: Second that. Razor bumps, implant scars, cigarette wrinkles, hemorrhoids, bad dye jobs, faded tattoos... Do not want, do not want in HD. #porn
I adore Current and Vanguard in particular, but I skipped this episode because I've seen various incarnations of the subject a zillion times. I get it. Pr0n. People are into it. OKAY. #porn
Sometimes I feel like the only person on earth who doesn't care about porn. Actually, I actively dislike it. As far as I can tell, the only thing porn has done for my life is make every guy I've dated think I'd like a facial and pressure me for anal. Ugh. It's annoying and has created a culture that acts like you're lame if you're not turned on by other people fucking. #porn
@EarlyGrey: Hearted for that! Yeah, it's strange. I've dated guys who grew up pre-internet porn and known many who grew up in the midst of it, and the difference is startling. All of the younger guys have higher expectations of women loving anal sex and giving "performances" rather than being truly turned on by the intimacy.
(But actually, you know, we're just Prudey McPrudersons for not liking porn, even though we happen to love sex and would just rather be doing it ourselves rather than watching random strangers pretend to be turned on!) #porn
@smizmar: Based on my own experience, I can see how this would be true. My ex, in his mid-20's, wanted our sex life to be exactly like porn. EXACTLY. And while I do find some of that fun and exciting, it was tiresome to live up to that every. single. time.
But the guy I dated after him, who was in his mid-30's, was not like that AT ALL. It was more about connection for him.
This is just anecdotal evidence, but when I was with my ex, I knew that porn had a major influence on how he viewed me and our sex life. I was mainly just an object to fuck. He was clearly not a keeper. #porn
@EarlyGrey: Thank you so much for this. Exactly what you said regarding all the pressures. I find most porn to be creepy and women look like they're having the worst time. And don't forget the pressure to be hairless EVERYWHERE (the full brazilian, plus butt-crack). #porn
Interestingly, the porn industry is in the same boat as the music industry
I'm glad you said something about this, Latoya. I've noticed that autotune has been way overused in recently made professionally produced fuckfests. And I really think that it detracts from the quality of the product, and the spirit of pornography. #porn
@morninggloria: Please. Porn today is so manufactured and corporate. That's why I only watch indie porn stars. Otherwise known as my neighbors who don't draw their curtains before getting it on. #porn
@Justine: Licks your clit, of course! I'm too lazy to look it up, but there's a couple of videos on Behindkink.com where they show Tomcat talking about the chainsaw and him and Peter Acworth demonstrating its use while clothed. And LoveHoney just released "Sqweel", a smaller, compact toy with the same principle of "tongues" rotating and "licking" you.
Neither seem like they'd come close to oral sex for me, but you've got to give 'em props for creativity. #porn
Whatever Kink.com is doing to prevent pirating they're doing a great job. Their shit is awesome but really expensive. And the best you can get from free sites is the previews for scenes they themselves put on their own site. #porn
@Snowbunny: I've found some of their videos in their entirety before, but the sound and the video were not synched up, which threw off my enjoyment. #porn
@Snowbunny: I had a membership, and then when I decided to call it off to save some money, they knocked ten bucks off my monthly fee. Argh, those brilliant money-grubbing smut-peddlers! How did they know?! #porn
@Snowbunny: Seriously. I once found a complete Bound Gods video (Dante + Nick!) on Empflix, watched it, was hooked. By the time I had finished watching it and went to watch it again, it had been removed, but I was so impressed with their work that I went ahead and bought a subscription to the site (that went on for about half a year, until it finally drained all my porno funds). #porn
If part of the motivation for us to resist aging is so we can prevent ourselves from becoming socially irrelevant, then we, as a society, need to work on redefining what makes women "relevant".
I just buried a very dear friend. She was 90 years old when she died. My friend came out of the same, image obsessed culture as everyone else in this documentary. After she got back from serving with the Red Cross in WW2, she worked as a fashion model in the 40s and as a high level executive assistant in Manhattan in the 50’s and 60’s. Looking ‘good’ was undeniably a huge part of her identity, both professionally and personally.
When my friend hit her mid 60s, instead of getting a facelift or becoming invisible, she went back to school to get her Masters degree in gerontology. She spent the last 25 years of her life as a social worker and activist for the rights of elders.
The one theme I saw in most of the clips above, as well as in many of the comments was that people did not want to look old because being old equals being irrelevant.
In honor of my friend, I would like to call ‘bullshit’ on that idea.
Don’t want to become irrelevant as you age? Stop trying to pretend that ageing doesn’t happen…
Maybe if our culture didn’t have such a deep seeded phobia about ageing, we could rationally discuss a health care reform bill that includes a provision that offers senior citizens access to counseling on how to plan for their care as they age without people crawling out of the woodwork saying that Obama wants to euthanize the elderly.
At first I was all ready to mock the hell out of the Texan lady with the boob job, but the last clip just made me feel sorry for her. She really thinks that getting breast implants and lip injections will assuage her loneliness. But it still shines through when she talks about how she's "improved". Sad.
As far as beauty and growing older is concerned, I think Roald Dahl said it best in The Twits:
"the funny thing is that Mrs. Twit wasn’t born ugly. She’d had quite a nice face when she was young. The ugliness had grown upon her year by year as she got older.
Why would that happen? I’ll tell you why.
If a person has ugly thoughts, it begins to show on the face. And when that person has ugly thoughts every day, every week, every year, the face gets uglier and uglier until it gets so ugly you can hardly bear to look at it.
A person who has good thoughts cannot ever be ugly. You can have a wonky nose and a crooked mouth and a double chin and stick-out teeth, but if you have good thoughts they will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely."
Are there any women of color in this documentary? I'd be interested in hearing their perspectives on aging being freaked out about it.
I know I'm looking forward to getting older and not so scared of the wrinkles...my mom and aunts are proof that melanin is one hell of a preservative. The grey hair? A little bit, but only because it's refusing to in the punk rock temple stripes that my mom's did.
Documentaries like this one fascinate and irritate me. I mean,hasn't anyone noticed that women get more awesome with age? I think the self-confidence that comes with age/experience is worth some saggy tits and stretch marks.
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While it sucks for people who use Youtube and whatnot in lieu of putting on a CD, you gotta admit that he seriously knows what he's doing when it comes to nixing the piracy of his work. #porn
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Like porn?
"the industry is moving toward making porn a full sensory experience"
Like actual sex? #porn
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(But actually, you know, we're just Prudey McPrudersons for not liking porn, even though we happen to love sex and would just rather be doing it ourselves rather than watching random strangers pretend to be turned on!) #porn
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But the guy I dated after him, who was in his mid-30's, was not like that AT ALL. It was more about connection for him.
This is just anecdotal evidence, but when I was with my ex, I knew that porn had a major influence on how he viewed me and our sex life. I was mainly just an object to fuck. He was clearly not a keeper. #porn
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Suddenly, my Gawker Media addiction (excluding Fleshbot) doesn't feel so bad. #porn
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I'm glad you said something about this, Latoya. I've noticed that autotune has been way overused in recently made professionally produced fuckfests. And I really think that it detracts from the quality of the product, and the spirit of pornography. #porn
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Neither seem like they'd come close to oral sex for me, but you've got to give 'em props for creativity. #porn
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When my friend hit her mid 60s, instead of getting a facelift or becoming invisible, she went back to school to get her Masters degree in gerontology. She spent the last 25 years of her life as a social worker and activist for the rights of elders.
The one theme I saw in most of the clips above, as well as in many of the comments was that people did not want to look old because being old equals being irrelevant.
In honor of my friend, I would like to call ‘bullshit’ on that idea.
Don’t want to become irrelevant as you age? Stop trying to pretend that ageing doesn’t happen…
Maybe if our culture didn’t have such a deep seeded phobia about ageing, we could rationally discuss a health care reform bill that includes a provision that offers senior citizens access to counseling on how to plan for their care as they age without people crawling out of the woodwork saying that Obama wants to euthanize the elderly.
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As far as beauty and growing older is concerned, I think Roald Dahl said it best in The Twits:
"the funny thing is that Mrs. Twit wasn’t born ugly. She’d had quite a nice face when she was young. The ugliness had grown upon her year by year as she got older.
Why would that happen? I’ll tell you why.
If a person has ugly thoughts, it begins to show on the face. And when that person has ugly thoughts every day, every week, every year, the face gets uglier and uglier until it gets so ugly you can hardly bear to look at it.
A person who has good thoughts cannot ever be ugly. You can have a wonky nose and a crooked mouth and a double chin and stick-out teeth, but if you have good thoughts they will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely."
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I know I'm looking forward to getting older and not so scared of the wrinkles...my mom and aunts are proof that melanin is one hell of a preservative. The grey hair? A little bit, but only because it's refusing to in the punk rock temple stripes that my mom's did.
Documentaries like this one fascinate and irritate me. I mean,hasn't anyone noticed that women get more awesome with age? I think the self-confidence that comes with age/experience is worth some saggy tits and stretch marks.