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Agumen
11/18/09

In reply to Heartburn
I love the sentiment, and it speaks to a person who 'gets' life. But on the other hand, a cursory glance over the terrible things that happen to people shows that there are some things that just can't seem humourous. Losing a child, as some other commenters have mentioned.

I also believe that the amount of time removed from the tragedy has a lot to do with whether you can find humour in it. And yes, I laughed with my family at my grandmothers funeral, while others could do nothing but cry. My father told jokes on the way there that were outrageous, then blubbered through the ceremony, then drank and partied in rememberance and to drown the sorrows. We all deal differently.
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LovelyHue
11/18/09

In reply to Heartburn
I like the sentiment, Nora, but this is a statement that should not be too generalized.
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maggiethecat
11/18/09

In reply to Heartburn
I'd rather die of laughter than die of sorrows.
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Lymed
11/18/09

In reply to Heartburn
Finding something funny in the worst things doesn't lessen terrible things. It doesn't mean you think the bad things was worth it because you were able to laugh. It doesn't mean the bad thing in, and of itself, is funny. It means that we, as humans, find ways to heal ourselves and laughter is one of those ways. Humor helps us deal with horrific circumstances.

I remember, much like Sally Draper, being horrified as a child that people were laughing at a funeral. But laughing at funerals and wakes and during shiva is actually a part of celebrating the person's life and is a final gift from the deceased.
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Leucadia
11/18/09

In reply to Heartburn
Life is a comedy for those who think, and a tragedy for those who feel.

And a dramedy, apparently, for those of us who do both.
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YourScreenplaySucks
11/18/09

In reply to Heartburn
Actually Nora, there was nothing funny about watching You Got Mail. That was the problem.
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curiousgeorgiana
11/18/09

In reply to Heartburn
I agree with the rest of her comments-- humor is a great too for getting through tough times. This quote may just be poorly worded.

Some things cannot be made funny, even if you retain a sense of humor about life in general.
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FrannyR
11/18/09

In reply to Heartburn
Tragedy is when I cut my finger. Comedy is when you fall into an open sewer and die.
- Mel Brooks
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Diziet_Sma
11/18/09

In reply to Heartburn
Yeah. If the worst that can happen to you is the quotidien stuff of romantic comedies. Rape? Murder? Not so much.
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zombie_dola
11/18/09

In reply to Heartburn
First world humor.
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moldoll
11/18/09

In reply to Heartburn
Sorry, but this headline pissed me off. My best friend's son was hit by a car at 2 years old, severely disabled for the rest of his life. You deal and laugh again, but there is no humor in that. Whatsoever.
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nellicat
11/18/09

@moldoll: @zombie_dola: Agreed. Divorce sucks, making shitty movies sucks, getting panned by critics sucks, I am sure. But they are not tragedies. There is nothing funny about a tragedy such as that suffered by your friend's family. They will find humor in life and they will perhaps even find joy in some of the aftermath of the tragedy, but the tragedy itself? Not a damn funny bit to be found.
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rodmanstreet
11/18/09

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"Life is a shipwreck but we must not forget to sing in the lifeboats."
-Voltaire
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token_illiterate_commenter
11/18/09

@rodmanstreet: I can't find this "Voltaire" commenter to heart her, but I would.
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CurtCole
11/18/09

@rodmanstreet: "We are are made to bleed, and scab and heal and bleed again, and turn every scar into a joke."
-Ani DiFranco.
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jenilane
11/18/09

@rodmanstreet: "Laughter and tears are both responses to frustration and exhaustion. I myself prefer to laugh, since there is less cleaning up to do afterward."

~Kurt Vonnegut
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sarahsmile
11/18/09

In reply to Heartburn
The worst things often make the best stories later. And they are often side-splittingly funny.
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marshmallory
10/15/09

In reply to Lindsay Lohan, Couturiere; People Are Angry At Ralph Lauren
Lohan's idea of couture: taking the pants off one model and putting them on another model. Art imitates life! #lindsaylohan
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Island of Misfit Toys
10/15/09

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I wonder if Linda got her $10,000 per day mandatory stipend? #lindsaylohan
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