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We can't avoid the sun and the sun does have health benefits, it just also, um, burns your skin and does some other stuff that high spf lotion will help combat/stave off. Apply liberally, ladies! #motherdaughteraging
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Just make sure you read the labels for the ingredients and don't fall for marketing hype about exotic ingredients. A handy rule of thumb is that if the touted ingredient isn't among the first five listed, then there's not enough to make much of a difference. You'll also find that when you do this, you'll notice that many expensive products use the same or similar ingredients as cheaper ones. And reading and comparing labels will help you narrow down particular ingredients that may be problematic for you. #motherdaughteraging
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The same things that work for wrinkles also work for acne, so you're in luck. #motherdaughteraging
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This ends my infomercial....good luck! #motherdaughteraging
10/27/09
Yep! The amzing retinoids!
I met a 40-year-old woman in my teens who had used Retin A for twenty years for her acne and I swear she didn't have any the tiniest line on her face. She had the skin of a ten year old.
I filed that info away and started using retinoids when I was 25 or so.
People think my BF is my dad and he's only a year older. HA! #motherdaughteraging
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But now, I fall in the strange window between acne and occasional pimples- not bad enough to need prescription strength medication and not clear enough to rely on spot treatment. I use light SP15 moisturizer in the morning, wash twice a day with Bijore cleanser (gentle), powder foundation and call it a day.
What is the SkinID line like? #motherdaughteraging
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Also, this: "When I was very young, my mother read my diary. And though I loved my mother, I don’t think I ever forgave her." So, the exact thing happened to her, she felt violated and then she did it to her own daughter?
Wow. Just, wow. That is a level of emotional retardation that is really hard to beat. #joycemaynard
10/28/09
God I can't wait for these overharers to go away. #joycemaynard
10/27/09
10/27/09
But the chin hairs, God. I go into the bathroom and just glare at them. I wax and they're back in two days. #motherdaughteraging
10/27/09
I know that there are prescription creams which are supposed to eradicate them but I fear for some other side effect.
chin hairs. oh damn you chin hairs! #motherdaughteraging
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why leave anything to chance? to me, skincare was just taking care of part of the entire package... my body, my brain, my health. and some people (and ethnicities), yes, their skin just seems resilient against insults that would demo another person's skin (smoking and heavy tanning come to mind). so it's not fair to compare everybody equally. some skin needs more protection than others.
to me, not caring about wrinkles now is like telling somebody in their teens to not care about pimples.
10/27/09
My mother is a pale, freckled redhead with white eyelashes and blue eyes, and we couldn't look less alike. She's had a few scary skin growths, all of which have fortunately been benign. While I take after my dad's side, who tan like crazy, don't seem to wrinkle and have no history of skin cancer, I didn't want to leave it to chance either. Avoiding skin cancer and maintaining my appearance seems like a win-win to me. #motherdaughteraging
10/27/09
see that's what i don't get about this study is that it totally discounts the father's genes. we're not 100percent our mom's genes, even if we are female.
i'm with you. for me, skincare is like eating right, exercise, everything. it is vanity but it's a grateful vanity, if you can understand that! #motherdaughteraging
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It connects me to all the other women through the ages that have ever slapped on moisturizer. And for me, that's all good.
If we're not supposed to feel hung-up about getting older, then why shouldn't we allow ourselves to have fun with it? Why is skincare just one other thing that you have to feel inadequate about?
You go gentle into that night lady but stop beating yourself up about it. #motherdaughteraging
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But I love your first point. We all could stand to remember that one. PS. Welcome!! #motherdaughteraging
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Or maybe I am just saying that to make myself feel better about just having turned 30... #motherdaughteraging
10/27/09
Then I remembered that I wouldn't want a motherfucker like that anyway, rolled over and gave my (younger) BF a big grateful kiss. #motherdaughteraging
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So, after the wedding, I continued to wear make-up. I was shocked that I had spent so many years depressed about my appearance. And for a couple of years after I first started wearing make-up and using a facial moisturizer, I had a weird inward dilemma about wearing cosmetics at all because I had always prided myself on my personality, my intelligence and creativity, not my appearance, and I felt like a hypocrite or something. But I finally made peace with myself that vanity is not necessarily the "unattractive" trait that I had been led to believe it was--although, even today, I still wrestle with this because I am a Ph.D. candidate and most female professors and grad students I have met *don't* wear make-up, and I dress a little differently than most people already (which means I dress really differently in academia) and these women are always telling me that I look "nice," which is great, but I don't think they always mean it, ya know? It is probably me reading too much into a simple compliment, but in my line of work, I feel like I am supposed to be a floating head of knowledge, and any emphasis I put on the physical suggests that I am not a serious writer or scholar. (Again, the vanity = ugliness equation rears its ugly head.)
It might sound weird, but the only thing that helped me reconcile this inner struggle was the original season of Project Runway back in 2004/2005. If there was no vanity in the world, wouldn't the world look kinda boring? I mean, doesn't Fashion (capital F because I'm evoking the Tyra-fied concept of High Fashion here, heh) exist because people want to outwardly express their personalities through their appearance (which includes clothes and cosmetics)?
I think the formula that vanity = unattractive is problematic because for every person, different issues are going to affect us in different ways. For me, I had to admit to myself that my appearance was actually important to me--but I never really felt as though I had the freedom to admit that because I was so caught up in that Dollhouse-ian notion: "I just want to be my best."
For me, I *want* to say: if there ever comes a time when I feel as though I *need* to look younger or really different, then I will relinquish these products and reexamine what's going on to make me feel that way. But it's easy to say, it's harder to do. Because in a sense, I already need my foundation, my lip gloss, my salicylic acid face wash and moisturizer, for a higher sense of self-worth don't I? Sure, my self-esteem isn't based solely dependent on my appearance, but how far is too far? Perhaps there is an extreme where vanity does become ugly or monstrous, but I think we all have to find that line in ourselves and it's not a line that we can mark down for other people. #motherdaughteraging