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Get Off My Spawn!
Angry Women In The Workplace Seen As "Less Competent" Than Men
New York, 8:01 AM
Tue Dec 1
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Sometimes kids, especially toddlers, lose their temper and then get over it in a couple of minutes. They want candy (or whatever), they can't have it, they pitch a bitch about it, then they see something shiny and all is well.
Or they're hungry or tired and there's nothing you can do to help them until you get home, so you finish shopping as fast as you can and then get them what they need.
Not all mothers judge situations perfectly every time, but trust that there are no situations where slapping a child helps.
And, y'know, it was a God forsaken Wal-Mart. It's a noisy public place. It's not like people were trying to take their LSATs in the cookie aisle.
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But, I'm small, so this asshole (who looks large) probably wouldn't get hurt as badly as me and my kid would.
My husband, however, would have killed. I mean he would have snapped the guy's neck instantly.
And right now I'd be figuring out how to get my husband out of jail. Defense? I think its fair and reasonable, hopefully a court would too.
If I was the parent in this situation, I would prosecute this guy/ sue him in every way possible.
And I'd start a neighborhood campaign to ruin his social life (if he even has one, what a crazy asshole.)
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He's a pretty kitty and I would have hurt someone too for him.
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I do not appose corporal punishment in young children, before they are able to have coherent conversations.
But my mother would have straight stabbed him had he put his hands on me or one of my brothers.
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As for that old bastard, let him rot in jail (where it's really loud at all times).
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I take my one-year-old places all of the time and he has freaked out all of ONCE. He is a really easy going baby and we are religious about his naps and bedtime, which helps a lot I think.
The one time he lost was in a restaurant when some old man who was complimenting us on how well behaved my son is decided to stick his face right in my son's to talk to him. Oh hey? Little kids don't like strangers up in their face. Kind of like how adults don't. So he got scared and hysterical, I scooped him up and booked it for the door.
My baby was perfectly well behaved, it was the adult who wasn't.
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And my kids are generally very mellow little people.
But, sometimes they have to come with me to a store or on an airplane.
And a few times they've cried (luckily they aren't really screamers) despite every plead, bribe, or warning from me.
Moms (and dads) can't be expected to never bring their kids in public.
Esp. to a grocery store, a place that people go to at least once a week, more for families like mine who eat a lot of fresh produce.
Everyone should try to understand their children's personalities and work to make both their kids and the people around them as comfortable as possible - no being stuck in a chair for hours for the kid, no having to listen to a kid scream in a movie theater for adults.
Some kids can handle adult environments better than others and I think its fair to invite them along sometimes, with the expectation that if the kid gets uncomfortable/cranky the parent will leave with the kid to respect the peace of others.
I agree that its incredibly rude and unfair of parents to force uncomfortable, cranky, loud kids to stay in an adult place.
And I think its fair for certain venues (movie theaters, upscale resteraunts) to not allow kids inside.
As for airplanes. They just suck. Kids often have to fly just as much as many adults.
Personally, my family flies a lot. My kids are not allowed to touch the back of seats or peak at the people behind them. I do my best to keep them quiet (LOTS of food).
But, honestly, kids (including other people's kids) don't bother me nearly as much as sitting next to someone who reeks of perfume or cigarettes. Or someone who takes up part of my chair. Or someone who keeps getting up and bumping into me. The list goes on.
We all just need to accept that and do our best to deal with each other.
I have to say, I LOVE your idea of this guy rotting in a noisy jail! Ha!
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Yep and he slapped her FOUR times.
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I don't always mind crying children (as long as they're not screaming), not even on airplanes. Babies get upset, there's very little you can do. No one, from the dawn of history on, has been able to figure out exactly why babies cry at any given moment, so why would we expect a parent of a newborn to figure it out on the spot?
Now, children kicking my seat back on the plane is something else. That's behavior that shouldn't be tolerated. Kids need to figure out their actions affect other people. Kids screaming on planes...that's what baby Benadryl is for, right...? I kid, I kid.
This guy's mug shot looks like he's still saying, "Shut up, fucking kid." If it had been my kid, I'd have screamed assault at the top of my lungs. Nothing like starting a riot in the middle of a Wal-Mart.
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Not that I think hitting someone else's child is ok but since the growing sentiment is that parents should be "friends" and not not parents, there's a lot more little kids growing up without discipline who become very self-entitled teens.
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Actually the "being your kid's friend" thing is not AT ALL the "growing sentiment." It was in the 70s and 80s - because it was a reaction against the parenting of the 40s, 50s and early 60s. The parenting books and advice today are not like that at all.
And I knew that some people would find this funny. Lovely. (That's not directed at you, but at your friend.)
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I'm not sure what kids in "non-family" restaurants has to do with "being friends." A kid can be in a non-family restaurant and still get disciplined.
The later toilet training, I don't get what that is - except that those parents don't want to deal with it.
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Slapping a toddler who is crying or having a fit is NOT going to make for a well adjusted teen.
Slapping a kid has nothing to do with fostering a sense of entitlement.
I've seen parents who hit and buy their kid every damn thing they want.
And their kids are little monsters because of it.
Consistent rules and punishments (in my house its time-outs, giving up a toy, or loosing some allowance depending on the "crime") are what kids need.
They also deserve to have the reasoning behind the rules & punishments explained in an age appropriate manner.
As for toddlers they throw tantrums - its just what they do.
Some more than others. Some kids go absolutely bat-shit.
But they are too young at that point to be reasoned with. They need consistency and a hell of a lot of patience.
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describe how insane I would have gone on
this freak if he had hit one of my kids.
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"Don’t let go of my hand, or a bad man will take you."
"Don’t talk to people you don’t know, or a bad man will take you away."
"Don’t leave the house without telling me, because a bad man might grab you and I won’t see you again."
This, ladies and gentleman, is clearly "the bad man" she was talking about.
I swear to God I would have destroyed him.
In other news, it’s amazing my mother didn’t give me anxiety issues.
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realize that i say this as a child who screamed so loud that i wasn't allowed in people's houses. the solution was that i didn't go to a lot of places because i was a fussy baby/toddler.
i've worked with kids, and i know that they cry a lot, but the time to let them cry it out is when you're home alone with them. if they are fussy all the time, then here's a tip - shop online.
oh, another thing? this whole 'it takes a village' thing only works in a village. your kids are your own responsibility, so stop letting them run wild in a store. they can run wild on a playground, not in the frozen food aisle.
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My parents were very much of the "if my kids can't behave then they just won't get to go anywhere" school of thought - even if it meant sacrificing going to the place themselves. Obviously, some people have to take their kids to the grocery story and other places, but even if they can't control the screaming, they can try to do something from keeping their kids from going totally beserk.
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I think this man is an idiot, and if I had been the mother we both would have gotten an assault charge.
But there are way too many parents who have become experts at tuning out their child, and expect everyone else to do it too. When your kid is havinig a full meltdown in the store, its time to take your kid outside and help them calm down. You shouldn't be ignoring them and looking at socks. I don't want to be subjected to that and neither should anyone else.
A few weeks ago I was in Target and this woman let her child just scream and fuss for a good 15 minutes. The little guy was so worked up he had all kinds of snot all over his face and the mother did absolutely nothing to even attempt to console her child, until I gave her the dirtiest look I could. And even then, she gave a half-hearted try and just told him to be quiet. WTF? Yeah like that's gonna work lady.
My mom has told me how she and my dad would always get compliments on how well-behaved my siblings and I were. We were never the kids standing on the seat throwing fries or having tantrums in the grocery store. What happened to teaching your kids what is acceptable behavior in public and NOT bringing them everywhere you go?
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i don't think parents should keep all kids locked up in the house, but parents prepare for the worst case scenario all the time...and the same should be done for temper tantrums. personally, i remember my mom turning the car around and driving home because i couldn't behave. there wasn't a behavior reward with food...it might be something i always liked, like a new box of crayons...or a coloring book...or just a chance to see something i wanted to see.
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