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10/19/09
Excessive public crying can be awkward, it's true, but why the valorization of a stoic past that I'm not sure really existed?
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I always feel stupid when I cry if I get yelled at during work, or if I get a terrible grade at uni. The worst is when I cry during confrontation, then after can only think of all the witty/cutting things I could have said instead of getting so emotional.
That said, my bf cried the other day when he saw a little old couple crossing the street. He's adorable sometimes. #sadness
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I cry at movies, but almost never for personal reasons unless there's been a serious meltdown in my personal life. Usually involving my brother and his Republican ways. But I cried at Batman Returns, and I fucking lost it and sobbed like a baby when I saw Defiance. At the end, when the Jews were killing the Nazis then it looked like the Nazis were gonna win--holy shit. I had to put my head between my knees because I was disrupting the whole theater with my hyperventilating sobs. It just triggered everything that makes me angry and sad in the world at once--mainly violence, and the senselessness of it, and the insanity, and bigotry and it's inescapability. Everything I felt about the wars my government starts, everything I feel about the patriarchy, violence against women, people who needlessly hurt animals, it all just came out.
My boyfriend still teases me about crying at Batman, though. I also had nightmares for weeks. I don't go see any movies with sad or scary endings anymore because of these two incidents. I'm like, "Woo hoo Whip It! Nobody dying, nobody putting bombs inside of other people's stomachs, no genocide. Thank god!" I'm also working on these things called "emotional boundaries" and "the difference between fiction and reality." #sadness
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10/19/09
I don't, however, understand getting very upset of the deaths of famous people. #sadness
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10/18/09
What is wrong with crying in front of other people exactly? I think it shows people that you have feelings and are not a robot. If I feel like crying about something, I'll cry. My lack of discomfort around this is probably the result of successful work with my therapist several years ago, but I've had PTSD, so I usually shut my feelings away. It is quite liberating to show people what you are feeling. #sadness
10/18/09
If something bad happens that only affects me (i.e. bad day at work, interpersonal stress) I can cry in front of someone I love, because I'm looking for comfort and release.
I can certainly get behind teariness and expressions of sadness for public events, but there's something that rubs me the wrong way when a terrible event happens and a person talks about how hard it is for them without considering the actual people involved (no matter how obliquely) or people around them. I'm reminded of when Neda was shot and comments were made like "I can't stop crying and shaking" or when a child disappears and someone says, "I've been sobbing and if this happened to my kid I would kill myself". I understand these are ways share distress, but it leaves me thinking, "it's not always about you and your emotions". Of course, crying is so hard to control and sometimes you can't stop even if you try, but the "my powerful emotions first" comments are uncomfortable for me.
10/18/09
It's because I've had my dog for about a year and feel so intensely close to him and so changed by owning him, that the empathy I felt for those people was overwhelming. Of course, it wasn't usually in public, but my point is that emotional reactions to news aren't necessarily superficial, affected, or delusional. #sadness
10/18/09
Oh come now. The Brits never had a sense of shame. If they had, the whole global empire thing would never have happened. I think this fellow is mistaking repression and prudishness for shame. #sadness
10/18/09
The one time I could not hold it in was when I was drunk at my friend's wedding, and I barely saw it coming. It was like another person who had PMS seeping from their pores had invaded my body and I left some of the best salmon I'd ever had on the table so I could go cry like a little baby. First in the ladies' room, where I started making people uncomfortable, which made me feel bad and cry more, then right outside both bathrooms, where my friend talked to me and made me feel better, which also made me cry more.
I was That Girl at that wedding. #sadness
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10/18/09
a benefit of being a crier - i know down to the hour when to expect my period: as soon as i find myself being oh-so-cliche and welling-up over news stories and sappy commercials, i know it's time to crack open the tampax. #sadness