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Jeffrey Marsalis: Proof That Sexual Assault Still Isn't Taken Seriously
New York, 3:45 PM
Sun Nov 8
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11/22/08
Like developing monoclonal antibodies for them, and then binding the antibodies to another compound that would change colors when something binds the antibodies' active site.
Or just a nice compound that attaches itself to the drug and changes color.
Then sell it in small packets to people, or have them for sale in the bars fridge if it degrades at room temperature.
Any organic chemists in here?
11/22/08
I feel like there is nothing productive I can do with the rage I have towards this "man" and the "men" who've hurt all of you.
Being sexually violated (and not complaining about it, natch) seems to be a routine part of womanhood, and society just shrugs and treats it as such.
Friends, you should not have to fight to the death to be considered a "real" rape victim. If you tell a man "no," and he succeeds with you anyway, he raped you. You don't have to scream, you don't have to claw his eyes out, you don't have to push him down a flight of stairs. If you say no to sex and he penetrates you anyway, it's rape. Succumbing, as it were, is inevitable at a certain point. But tiring out, or disassociating, or giving up, is not consent.
I love you all.
11/21/08
K that was the synopsis, I'd never seen this episode before, and I wondered as I watched Big and Carrie in the elevator - She pushed him away 1-2- possibly 3 times, telling him stop it, but he persisted and finally - she succumbed and ended up in bed with him and had fantastic sex.
Where would that turn into rape, or, more specifically, where would that stop being attempted rape?
That's one of the reasons I always hated that show I guess, I'd never seen that episode before, but it just seemed so wrong. Was there ever any outcry about that episode and the message it sent about acquaintance rape?
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I personally didn't think the scene between Buffy and Spike was irresponsible on that level because they treated it like an assault. It didn't lead to any kind of reconciliation or passionate sex, it ended with Buffy kicking Spike out of her house and the other characters who found out hating him.
The scene was awful for other reasons, but it didn't irk me the way certain other ones that really push that weird 'it's force yourself on someone until they submit!' agenda certain other ones I've seen do.
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you can refer to me as "jennifer"
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Protocol:
dick--> homogenizer--> sulfuric acid--> neutralize with potassium hydroxide --> repeat.
See if you'll rape again you fucking ass.
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Seriously, I've often argued that it's men who should be getting the warnings and lessons. Preferably from her:
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Um, don't know if she's hearing that from Mommy, the baby sitter, or her school yard chums, but Jesus. I'm hoping some responsible, caring, respectful adult explains things to her after taping.
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Have I had an ex-girlfriend try and grab me inappropriately? Yup. I've even had one come into my apartment in the middle of the night and get into my bed with no clothes on. I was 100% not interested, and if the situations were reversed, it would have been a justifiable sexual assault.
That being said, I was upset with her at the moment but did not, until now, think about the fact that it was an assault. I wouldn't have done anything about it back then even if I had realized that, though.
I don't know what to make of that, as a guy. Thoughts? Is the physical disparity between (most) men and women a major component of sexual assault? Or is it all psychologically-based?
11/21/08
Soooo that woman will never get in trouble. And it's not like she was drunk too... she was sober.
I imagine that the physical disparity is a bigger issue than the psychological disparity--if women were stronger than men, they'd probably be more likely to kick 'em where it counts or get away and report attempted rapes. That said, the woman a few years back who had someone force himself into her mouth and bit one of his balls off might just be my hero.
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Cry, scream, vomit? How the hell do you react to that?
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... with a knife.
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it really disgusts me to know that shit like this happens and goes unpunished. i doubt i would have reported it even if i had realized that what happened to me was a crime, and honestly, with the legal system being the way it is, who would?
11/22/08
It is a very difficult read, emotionally, but it is a stunning account of life and living and I would recommend it. I read it a few months after I was drugged and date-raped and it was cathartic in helping me be emotional about something I understood, but wasn't ready to face yet.