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12/31/08
What about MY needs, Prager?
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His techniques *ahem* would not win him last place in a bass-fishing contest?
Just, you know, off the top of my head.
12/31/08
I hate to break it to you, but lots of women have a strong sex drive. As a matter of fact, some of us enjoy having sex as often as we can. And by "sex", I mean good sex. With a fun partner that makes us feel smokin' hot and gets us off.
Maybe, just maybe, the problem is you. Maybe you're a household boor who's total shit in the sack, a missionary-loving, cunnilingus-shunning, rabbit-pumping, heavy-breathing sweathog with bad breath and a small, drippy weenis. Maybe if you improved your technique and your attitude towards women your wife might be interested in schtupping you. Maybe. But I could be wrong. You might want to just invest in a Fleshlight.
For reals,
La Madrugada
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This guy is utterly revolting. And they deny the existence of a culture of rape? But seriously, sex does lessen in many longterm relationships and there are reasons for it that will not be resolved, only exacerbated, by laying back and thinking of the British Empire while he humps away. Basic mutual respect, communication and compassion is the only route to real intimacy and sexual pleasure.
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12/30/08
BUT, (can't believe I just said 'but' but here goes...)
The idea of a quick handjob or blowjob when one isn't aroused oneself every once in a while doesn't strike me as so absurd. Perhaps I listen to the Savage Lovecast a little too much, but Dan's advice about compensating for sex drive discrepancies seems reasonable. Note that he advises this for men as well as women. If Person A has a higher sex drive than Person B, Person A should tone it down a bit, and Person B should notch it up a bit. Compromise.
That said, obviously Prager isn't suggesting this, given his tone and methods, etc. But some of the basic ideas coming across aren't bad in and of themselves.
Amirite?
12/30/08
Prager lost me with 'expressions of love'. Yes, sometimes I want to do it to show that I love him and enjoy the intimacy. But other times I want to give him a massive, backbreaking orgasm and enjoy the feeling of total world domination that comes with it.
( Not Prager...that is badly phrased...I mean my partner)
12/30/08
Yeah, good points. I also feel he isn't suggesting that, and that would be too generous. I guess my comment was more in response to some of the other comments (as a whole, not specific ones) which seemed to imply extremes, as in *never* compromising, never doing something when one doesn't want to, which also plays into the "men want it, women don't" narrative. I can understand that reaction, though, given the nature of what Prager's said and the fact that the narrative was already set up.
I actually agree with you, and I guess am on the same page as most of the other commenters as well. I mostly just rationalized my lack of real outrage.
And I'm glad to hear you don't want to give Prager a backbreaking orgasm, haha. Although perhaps if it *literally* broke his back...
12/30/08
Many women DO stop wanting sex after a while, and there are good reasons for it that aren't going to be solved by spreading your legs when you don't really want to. Fatigue, boredom, weight issues - these aren't to be remedied by simply giving in when the husband wants it. However, to be fair to this columnist, there have been times where I simply haven't been in the mood for sex and I have gotten in the mood very quickly upon seeing my partner masturbating (big turn on for me) furtively in the shower.
I certainly don't advocate simply doing whatever hubby wants, but if you want to feel sexy, and you start telling yourself that you ARE sexy, it sure can help. I think that that is the angle that he's going for, and failing to reach.
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Me, I love it when my man holds me close, breathes in deeply with his nose against my neck like he's trying to inhale me, and then does this sort of caveman grunt thing. I can feel his desire.
DESIRE is the key here, Prager. Not just a "well, I'd really like to unload into you now" kind of thing. But actual desire. It's sexier, and, well, you know... women and their needs.
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We can't have that.
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