Completely off topic, but... I just can't let it slide.
"Along with the message, he sent his picture, which the tranny verified"
"Tranny"? Maureen just couldn't write "transvestite" one more time? Tranny is just such a hateful word to use. Try harder, Maureen, try harder to avoid the fail.
THIS IS WHY I TELL MY FRIENDS NOT TO TAG ME IN PHOTOS. Take note, boxy friends. Stop tagging me, unless I say it's all right. We have had this discussion, you all know it, so why do you keep doing it?
@boxspelunker: You can set privacy on that, if photos are tagged with your name you can set it to private so no one outside of your friends list can see you.
@boxspelunker: Better to de-tag altogether. It's not that I don't trust my friends, but I still don't like that all tagged photos of one person can be easily accessed with 1 click.
I'm somewhat cagey with personal info on the Internet. I don't ever mention my actual job, past jobs or what neighborhood I live, I stick to broad generalizations. And I've still had people connect the dots.
I think the younger someone is, the more likely they are to post too many details, not realizing it matters.
I have a cousin who lives on one of the coasts who I saw this weekend. She knew, from Jezebel posts and my personal blog, exactly who I was, without question.
Additionally, at least two college friends knew who I was by virtue of my commenting style alone.
At this point, I'd like to send a big shout out to all of my friends and family members who may or may not be reading this.
@morninggloria: I've just thrown up my hands and talk about whatever the fuck I want. Looking back, though....damn, I was stupid. I used to meet dealers through the Internet. Talk about moronic. I guess when you're desperate, though...
I know I should mainly sympathize with Julissa Brisman and her family, but my first thought was, "I feel so bad for his fiance." Then I felt guilty for immediately thinking that. It seems I am succumbing to what the media thinks is important about this story.
@schweppes: Very true. Still, it bothers me a little that I don't have a more visceral reaction to her family's suffering. That's probably for the best though since it means that they weren't under much scrutiny.
I watched a documentary on MSNBC last week about sex trafficking in the U.S. and how the internet has made it so much easier for pimps to do their jobs. Craig's List came up a number of times and at the end of the program, there was a note that said something like "Craig's List has agreed to donate a portion of its proceeds from erotic services listings to charities that work to stop child sex trafficking." WTF?!?!? How about you stop allowing the listings to begin with!?! The whole thing made me sick to my stomach and really made me think differently about that site and the people who run it.
@cdjill: While I think trafficking is awful, the victim in this crime was not trafficked, nor are other people who post on CL. I know it might be difficult to separate the concept of those who choose to do sex work and those who are sex slaves (especially with the way media keeps confusing the two), but I don't think punishing sex workers who aren't trafficked by taking away their advertising space is really helping.
Wasn't there recently another murder off of CL? Only that guy was targeting a furniture buyer. Are we going to ban the selling of furniture as well? Or is it just the people selling sex that are asking to be brutally murdered?
What's messed about this is that the women advertising on craigslist are already the most vulnerable contingent of independent sex workers, and eliminating erotic services just makes them more so.
Advertising on craiglist carries a lot of stigma from other workers. No one is proud of it, and most women would choose other venues could they afford them or have access to them or if they knew about them.
Significant numbers of women are able to avoid street work or going through low-end agencies by placing their own ads on craigslist. Advertising through craigslist is not the ideal, but it's a lot safer than street work and allows more control on the woman's part than a crummy agency would.
It's not like craigslist, a business, has any kind of real responsibility to give these women a place to advertise, but the idea that eliminating erotic services makes the women who'd been advertising there safer is BS. It will have absolutely the opposite effect because while some of the women will migrate to Eros guide, or backpage, some will just go back on the street, or hook up with exploitative agencies.
Particularly when young,upper middle class kids do something gruesome, a scapegoat is searched for before a motive:
This is the fault of craigslist erotic services listings, a kid beats his mom to death after an argument about his grades because she shouldn't have put so much pressure on him, and Columbine was Marilyn Manson's fault.
As long as there is an Internet, people are going to find ways to use it to have sex with people. People like having sex, and the Internet can help you meet people. Grown-ass adults can have all the Craigslist sex they want to. I don't see this as being a problem, or even necessarily relevant.
No, the problem, and the relevant bit, is that some asshole decided to kill people. Assholes have been doing this long before there were Internets. Removing one part of the site is just going to piss off a whole bunch of innocent, legit people. It's not going to stop the real assholes.
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"Along with the message, he sent his picture, which the tranny verified"
"Tranny"? Maureen just couldn't write "transvestite" one more time? Tranny is just such a hateful word to use. Try harder, Maureen, try harder to avoid the fail.
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I think the younger someone is, the more likely they are to post too many details, not realizing it matters.
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Additionally, at least two college friends knew who I was by virtue of my commenting style alone.
At this point, I'd like to send a big shout out to all of my friends and family members who may or may not be reading this.
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Advertising on craiglist carries a lot of stigma from other workers. No one is proud of it, and most women would choose other venues could they afford them or have access to them or if they knew about them.
Significant numbers of women are able to avoid street work or going through low-end agencies by placing their own ads on craigslist. Advertising through craigslist is not the ideal, but it's a lot safer than street work and allows more control on the woman's part than a crummy agency would.
It's not like craigslist, a business, has any kind of real responsibility to give these women a place to advertise, but the idea that eliminating erotic services makes the women who'd been advertising there safer is BS. It will have absolutely the opposite effect because while some of the women will migrate to Eros guide, or backpage, some will just go back on the street, or hook up with exploitative agencies.
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This is the fault of craigslist erotic services listings, a kid beats his mom to death after an argument about his grades because she shouldn't have put so much pressure on him, and Columbine was Marilyn Manson's fault.
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No, the problem, and the relevant bit, is that some asshole decided to kill people. Assholes have been doing this long before there were Internets. Removing one part of the site is just going to piss off a whole bunch of innocent, legit people. It's not going to stop the real assholes.
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