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The week leading to ovulation is an insane time in my life. I have no desire to stray from my long-term BF, though (I surely do notice everything about everyone else).
If anyone is not happy on HBC and needs something effective, please look into non-hormonal IUDs. They are not just for women with kids, and are extremely effective.
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(Oh, and also, I'm only in my twenties, so there's no biological reason this should be happening...)
10/07/09
But I don't want to go off it! I hate condoms, and more importantly, I hate getting my period more than anything. I use the pill to skip it entirely.
10/08/09
I'm looking into an IUD but am pretty intimidated by the whole insertion procedure...
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10/07/09
I think a lot more goes into choosing your life partner than hormones. Romance, anyone? Compatibility? Shared values? No?
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Sex drive was crazy when I was off to get pregnant but I thought that was just"Get Me Pregnant!" fueling the fire. Oh little did I know!
My husband got a vasectomy last year & I stopped taking the Pill. And wowzers, it's like someone flipped a switch. There are about 10 days in my cycle where I'd have sex all day long if my husband was able. I mean crazy, cat in heat horny all the time. And man, the sex is stupendous. I thought I liked sex before and was a sexual being but that's lukewarm compared to the red hot fire I've got going on now. I feel like a teenage boy. (um. in the thinking about sex all the time sort of way). On the Pill I could take sex or not, I rarely initiated it, and enjoyed it but didn't mind if it was a week (or two) before having it again. Now I'm busting the charts, turned it up to 11, going full throttle - wow!
Mind you, I'm not running out and choosing a new man, so I'm not following that part of this report.
Had I had any clue that the Pill was dampening my sex drive I'd have ditched it years ago. Being on it for so long and all of my adult life I didn't have anything to compare it to. Plus my doc never said anything. I wasn't having any extreme physical symptoms, no one ever asked me how much or often I had sex, or how often I wanted to.
My husband did not enjoy the vasectomy procedure but he agrees that if we had any idea what my sex drive would be like off the Pill he'd have signed up for it 8 years ago (after child #2).
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But for some reason he thinks this will encourage our future daughter to have future sex. I don't get this line of thought at all. Do people honestly think that the only thing keeping women from being crazy sex fiends is the thought that they might get pregnant? I guess this study will shut him up, but the underlying sentiment still really bothers me.
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Me: Never been on the pill. 22. VIRGIN WHICH MEANS I AM PURE AS THE DRIVEN SNOOOOOW. Such as.
My friends (the lady-types): Often on the pill. 17-35+. Often hooking up. Sometimes not. But often with "bad boys".
Clearly, I am genetically superior. Nothing to do with personal preferences, life circumstances, or willingness to hook up with strangers. It's genetics.
Also, I knew a guy who said he could tell when girls/women were menstruating based on smell. Not like... "I can smell your period blood, man, and that is not cool", but as in, "You have a different smell about you today, like pheromones or some shit and you smell totally good". He was about the creepiest creepster that ever creeped, and I was paranoid to be around him, in case he could smell my ovulation or some shit D:
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(beyond the virgin at 22 thing, I once had a guy tell me almost the exact same thing, only he said fertile not menstruating. I cannot believe there are two out there)
10/07/09
I've been on depo since I was 17 (am 23 now) and am also PURE AS SNOOOOOOOW.
But I like manly men more now. So their theories are clearly a crock!
10/15/09
@Uncommon Whore: Well, I'm glad there were hearts involved! And one back for you!
@alwayswrite: AGG AGGH that is so scary. There are TWO OF THEM. Maybe he did say "fertile" and not "menstruating". I can't remember, it was a few years ago and I was just... creeped out.
@thebootyfaerie: Well, of course! Science isn't based on evidence! Also, I am pleased to meet another snowpure, like myself. I mean, even though you are tainted by the birth control :D /sarcasm
Isn't it strange how much emphasis they put on "birth control" and not "choices"? I made the choices that I did not because of birth control, but because of my personality and wants. Oddly enough, I think that's what drives most people. HMMMMMMM. #birthcontrol
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I'm sending this to my husband so he knows I'm not making it up. But what are you gonna do? Ditching condoms is like the one plus of married sex and I know I'm too young for permanent sterilization (despite its ongoing appeal to the right side of my brain).
10/07/09
The solution I've found is that I have to force myself to initiate sexytimes. Once I get to a certain point, I'm all about it. It's just getting over the initial (heh) hump.
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the pill definitely curbed my sex drive somewhat...only a week off of hormones and i'm already feeling increased friskiness.
seriously, ladies, consider an IUD. my insurance covered most of it, so it ends up much cheaper in the long run, too.
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"Well! That was really fun! I can't believe that we waited three whole days after last time to do that again."
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It has failed me.
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My sex life with it? Pretty fucking great, especially since I don't worry about getting pregnant.
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But I am in the same boat - I've been on the pill as long as I have been having sex. And I recently went off it, for a myriad of reasons, one of which being I wanted to know how I was mentally, physically and sexually without hormones. It was an interesting experiment, to say the least (I am now back on the pill, as I realized whether I am on it or not, the sides effects really are six of one, half a dozen of the other).