I'm paraphrasing someone else, but when men talk about how crazy their exes are it's always 'She called me late at night! She burst out crying when we broke up! She wanted to have kids after we'd known each other for a week! She thought we were going steady after I spent three weeks wooing her and talking shit to get her into bed!'
But women don't really call their male exes crazy. Not even when they beat them up or threaten to kill them.
@Pizza!Pizza!Pizza!: Uhhh, if a guy did any of that stuff, I'd consider him crazy.
But he might consider me crazy after I ask "What the fuck is wrong with you?" in response to nightly calls and wanting kids after a WEEK (rly, wtf??).
@effgeevee: Yeah, if you were never that into her and how would she get that impression anyway just because it's what you told her all the time?
There are definitely crazy women out there, but I think the word's lost all meaning through overuse by douchey guys (hint: If every single one of your 12 exes was crazy, you might just be the problem). And I rarely hear it used, though I know it is, by my female friends who have actual exes with psychotic stalker tendencies.
The really annoying thing about this title is that it manages to totally excuse men, while leaving women somewhat to blame.
He even says it in the book " But before all the women reading this march down Fifth Avenue with signs that say the stupid came first, remember one thing: Stupid can be cured. But crazy is often forever. That's right. Men can get less stupid. It's an arduous process, no doubt, that requires many, many hours of dedicated learning. But it's still easier than getting less crazy. And yet, that's what a woman must attempt in order to do her part to bridge the divide with her man. "
I just googled the books to find two excerpts, both of which were written by the guy half, and he comes across as selfish rather than stupid. The first excerpt is how she comes home from work on day and he hands her the chapter of a yet unmentioned book all about her loved one's quirks and his issues in the relationship. It isn't idiocy to think that isn't going to sting, it is self involvement. I'm sure if you asked him how he'd react to that if his girlfriend had done the same thing, he's admit he wouldn't react well but instead it just become a joke as she goes loony.
The second excerpt is about girls he liked in junior high and college and ends with her asking how hot the girl was, supposedly a typical female response. Its not a typical response, it is crazy. So either his girlfriend is atypical crazy or they are pairing serious anecdotes on his side with intentionally crazy answers on hers. Either way, I'm annoyed.
This entire notion that women are crazy when it comes to men is the main reason why I'm often act aloof around men. I mean, I can't be "crazy" if I don't seem to give a shit, right? I second-guess everything I do, afraid the guy might think I'm "crazy" when in fact, the only one who I'm driving bananas is myself.
Ho ho ho, I'm laughing already. Let me guess... maybe a guy left alone with the kids will make ice cream for dinner because obviously men only cook on Top Chef and mom will come home and get mad because he's so irresponsible, then he'll do something cute and they'll go to bed where mom can make dad dumb with her boobs.
Or guy will lie about his plans saying he has to visit his grandma in the hospital because he doesn't want to go to the ballet (which only chicks like, duh) and he'll actually go to the ball game, but she'll see him on the news because he caught a home run in the stands. Hi-jinx ensue! And I'm sure she'll cry cuz chicks are emotional and shit.
That sound? That sound you hear--that is reminiscent of mortar and boiling estrogen?
It is the sound of every sane woman who studied film, media, screenwriting, creative writing, and/or consumer of media who hopes that the tide of bullshit will turn.
It is the sound of collective brains exploding. In rage. In despair. In jesus fuck of shit fuck-it-allery.
Boobs make men dumb because? I bet the nipples are actually sattelites that send out some hypnotic mind scrambler rays thus when men stare, they lose all thought.
I am sympathetic to him to the degree that I think he does deeply regret hitting Snookie but my sympathy does not extend to his punishment.
Many years ago I had gotten in trouble in high school and was suspended for a week. At that time I could not understand how people can be sympathetic to my side of the story yet not lessen my punishment.
I understand now that consequences are separate from however people may feel about you. The fact is, you do something sh*tty and you'll have to deal with it, simple as that.
This was a test that he failed. It's a basic test involving violence and alcohol.
He will have a great deal of time to think about that while he is stewing in the rubber room. That place is teacher purgatory. I'm guessing with this on his record, he'll be in there for a long long time.
@TheExperience: The 100 other people who were in that bar that night all managed to not clock a woman so hard she hit her face on a table and bled. When you plead "drunkass" on an infraction, it's logically equivalent to saying that, given alcohol, ANYONE would have done what you did. And seeing as he's the only one that punched out a petite woman because he didn't want to hear her talk, I'm going to go ahead and say that the blame rests squarely on him.
I would like to bring your attention to this email, which Ferro wrote to Nik Richie of thedirty.com:
"Nik, first off I think thedirty.com is the sh*t! I know we are not boys or anything but all my friends are huge fans of your site my man. I need to call in a favor on this one, can you remove that little clip you have of me punching that b*tch in the mouth. I am a school teacher in NYC and I just made a bad choice on a really bad day. The frustrating part of all this is that not one person has even asked to hear my side. A man can only be pushed so far before he snaps. If you could do that I would really appreciate it. I saw you were in Jersey a few weeks back fisting pumping like a guido! You need to get your ass back to Jersey so we can fist pump together! I would love to sit down over a beer and tell you what this b*tch did to me that just drove me over the edge, you won’t believe it. Brad."
12/23/09
That seemed to be appropriate. Also, I love Penny.
12/22/09
12/22/09
12/22/09
12/22/09
..... youre crazy!
12/22/09
But women don't really call their male exes crazy. Not even when they beat them up or threaten to kill them.
12/22/09
12/22/09
But he might consider me crazy after I ask "What the fuck is wrong with you?" in response to nightly calls and wanting kids after a WEEK (rly, wtf??).
12/22/09
"I cheated on her with her cousin and then she just went CRAZY!"
It's an attempt to slowly inch responsibility away...
12/23/09
There are definitely crazy women out there, but I think the word's lost all meaning through overuse by douchey guys (hint: If every single one of your 12 exes was crazy, you might just be the problem). And I rarely hear it used, though I know it is, by my female friends who have actual exes with psychotic stalker tendencies.
12/23/09
12/22/09
He even says it in the book " But before all the women reading this march down Fifth Avenue with signs that say the stupid came first, remember one thing: Stupid can be cured. But crazy is often forever. That's right. Men can get less stupid. It's an arduous process, no doubt, that requires many, many hours of dedicated learning. But it's still easier than getting less crazy. And yet, that's what a woman must attempt in order to do her part to bridge the divide with her man. "
I just googled the books to find two excerpts, both of which were written by the guy half, and he comes across as selfish rather than stupid. The first excerpt is how she comes home from work on day and he hands her the chapter of a yet unmentioned book all about her loved one's quirks and his issues in the relationship. It isn't idiocy to think that isn't going to sting, it is self involvement. I'm sure if you asked him how he'd react to that if his girlfriend had done the same thing, he's admit he wouldn't react well but instead it just become a joke as she goes loony.
The second excerpt is about girls he liked in junior high and college and ends with her asking how hot the girl was, supposedly a typical female response. Its not a typical response, it is crazy. So either his girlfriend is atypical crazy or they are pairing serious anecdotes on his side with intentionally crazy answers on hers. Either way, I'm annoyed.
12/22/09
My dating life royally sucks.
12/22/09
12/22/09
12/22/09
12/22/09
12/22/09
12/23/09
Then we know the context of crazy and stupid.
12/22/09
12/22/09
Or guy will lie about his plans saying he has to visit his grandma in the hospital because he doesn't want to go to the ballet (which only chicks like, duh) and he'll actually go to the ball game, but she'll see him on the news because he caught a home run in the stands. Hi-jinx ensue! And I'm sure she'll cry cuz chicks are emotional and shit.
12/23/09
12/22/09
It is the sound of every sane woman who studied film, media, screenwriting, creative writing, and/or consumer of media who hopes that the tide of bullshit will turn.
It is the sound of collective brains exploding. In rage. In despair. In jesus fuck of shit fuck-it-allery.
Merry Christmas, holes. Luv ya, Hollywood.
12/22/09
12/22/09
*snorts derisively*
12/22/09
That'd be kind of an awesome sci-fi movie.
12/22/09
12/17/09
Many years ago I had gotten in trouble in high school and was suspended for a week. At that time I could not understand how people can be sympathetic to my side of the story yet not lessen my punishment.
I understand now that consequences are separate from however people may feel about you. The fact is, you do something sh*tty and you'll have to deal with it, simple as that.
12/17/09
This was a test that he failed. It's a basic test involving violence and alcohol.
He will have a great deal of time to think about that while he is stewing in the rubber room. That place is teacher purgatory. I'm guessing with this on his record, he'll be in there for a long long time.
12/17/09
12/17/09
12/17/09
12/17/09
"Nik, first off I think thedirty.com is the sh*t! I know we are not boys or anything but all my friends are huge fans of your site my man. I need to call in a favor on this one, can you remove that little clip you have of me punching that b*tch in the mouth. I am a school teacher in NYC and I just made a bad choice on a really bad day. The frustrating part of all this is that not one person has even asked to hear my side. A man can only be pushed so far before he snaps. If you could do that I would really appreciate it. I saw you were in Jersey a few weeks back fisting pumping like a guido! You need to get your ass back to Jersey so we can fist pump together! I would love to sit down over a beer and tell you what this b*tch did to me that just drove me over the edge, you won’t believe it. Brad."
In other news: fuck you, Brad Ferro.
12/17/09
12/17/09
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12/17/09
If this is what he does in front of the fucking cameras, imagine what a charmer he must be in private, along with that simian pater familias he's got.