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    Image of TheUptightMidwesterner TheUptightMidwesterner
    11/04/09

    In reply to On Dandies, Fops And Terribly Dressed Men
    My husband owns 37 T Shirts, 2 Pullovers, 1 pair of Khakis.
    I have tried for 20 years to get him to change and it will not happen. (He cleans up real nice, though.) #men
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    Image of braak braak
    11/04/09

    In reply to On Dandies, Fops And Terribly Dressed Men
    I am going to continue with my well-chosen and specific fashion sense: ostentatiously plain. #men
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    Image of CrapCommentFromADude CrapCommentFromADude
    11/04/09

    In reply to On Dandies, Fops And Terribly Dressed Men
    ""Charlie's makeover was not in a vacuum, but of a piece with new interests in books and music, and there was nothing wrong with this.""

    Eh... I'm a fan of guys coming up with their own sense of style, but I think it's sort of unfortunate when it's 'of a piece' with their other interests. My little slice of the world is a bit poorer when I can look at someone and guess so many different things about them and their tastes from their wardrobe, tattoos, and the like. Why people feel the need to wear their lives on their proverbial sleeve, I'll never quite understand. #men
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    Image of rhymeswithfeather rhymeswithfeather
    11/03/09

    In reply to On Dandies, Fops And Terribly Dressed Men
    OMG. I've made the greatest, dandiest friend at work and I am thrilled. He's significantly younger than I, but totally old-school and is always sending me links to vintage tie clips and wearing flamboyant scarves. I am in friend-love. #men
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    11/03/09

    In reply to On Dandies, Fops And Terribly Dressed Men
    My dad was old-school, 3rd generation schmatte trade. In my late-to-the-party hippy phase, he politely looked away from my decade-long infatuation with Army Surplus fatigue pants and hospital surplus scrubs (thanks, sis!). When I finally grew up and started buying suits (Boss, Hugo Boss) and other wonderful things, the first thing he wanted to do was open them up and check the seams. My dad was certainly no dandy, but he sure understood the impulse. Me too. Before I had a family, I could often be found trolling Neiman-Marcus sales and the Saks clearance store (thank you, "Favourbrook"). As Sadie writes, it's all about self-confidence. Wear the clothes, don't let them wear you. While he never told me so directly, I am pretty sure that he was proud when he watched me start to clothe myself like a mensch. After all, this was the man who gave me his hand-me-down Nino Cerrutti and bought me my first Burberry trench coat. My offspring-induced poverty prevents me from fopping around, but I am still a pround, fashion loving dandy at heart. #men
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    Image of hollygirl hollygirl
    11/03/09

    In reply to On Dandies, Fops And Terribly Dressed Men
    My step-mother's standard for my dad to leave the house is " no fish blood" can be on shirts or trousers. That's it. They're happily married. #men
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    11/03/09

    In reply to On Dandies, Fops And Terribly Dressed Men
    i am going to defer to cher horowitz on this one:

    "i don't want to be a traitor to my generation and all but I don't get how guys dress today. I mean, come on, it looks like they just fell out of bed and put on some baggy pants and take their greasy hair - ew - and cover it up with a backwards cap and like, we're expected to swoon? I don't think so."

    i think women embrace the idea of well-dressed men because it undermines the double standard when it comes to expectations for appearance between men and women. women put in a lot of effort to make themselves presentable by some sort of standards which they do not control while nothing comparable is expected of men. women kill themselves for the sake of their appearance (im not saying this a good thing, of course) while men are completely unaware of how much effort they are putting in. its nice to see men take the initiative to return the favor. #men
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    Image of CrapCommentFromADude CrapCommentFromADude
    11/04/09

    @KATE!: Well... some women kill themselves like that, sure. A lot of women don't. Most girls I know in California, by no means slouches or layabouts, spend their free days in sandals, a tossed-on pair of jeans and a T-shirt. I'd say maybe half, if not more, don't wear any make-up except for special occasions. They're still plenty willing to enjoy/ogle a classically well-dressed guy, in the same way that men who don't put a lot of effort in enjoy a stylish, well-dressed girl. #men
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    Image of dreweverett dreweverett
    11/04/09

    @KATE!: Excuse you. Have you been to a Gay bar (and many straight bars for that matter). There are many men that spend a great deal of time, money and effort into their looks. Please don't generalize all men based on some (what I believe) are out-dated stereotypes. After all, where did metrosexual come from - men being more aware, concerned and focused on their appearance. In fact, I am willing to wager I put in a lot more effort (and pain when it comes to the full body wax - I am guessing I have more body hair than you) than most women do. #men
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    11/04/09

    @dreweverett: excuse yourself. i never said that there weren't men who put time and effort into their appearance, i actually think that that is the whole point of this entire post is in celebration of those who do. i said that there are different societal EXPECTATIONS for men and women and that men are generally unaware of the grooming rituals of women, which is absolutely true. and congratulations on spending a lot of time waxing your body, you win whatever contest i didn't know was happening. #men
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    11/04/09

    @CrapCommentFromADude: i was talking about societal expectations, and its whole different conversation to explore how many women actually go to those lengths to fulfill them. personally, im one of those women who doesn't, but for every woman i know who doesn't, i know one who does. and regardless of how many do or don't, the cultural capital is still in the hands of those who do.

    although im a little curious as to what you mean by "free days" #men
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    Image of CrapCommentFromADude CrapCommentFromADude
    11/04/09

    @KATE!: "Free days" as in "days where they're not required to be in business attire". Though California being what it is, that's often not so much of an issue. I remember showing up to my first job interview after moving back home from 4 years in DC, wearing a suit, only to find my future boss sitting there in a T-shirt with tattoos down the arms and spacers in the ears. I was referred to as 'dude' more times in that job interview than in a year of living in DC, I think.

    For every guy I know who doesn't worry about the imposing variety of messages society gives him about how he should look, sound, dress, act, etc. I know one who does. These messages may not be 100% as intense as the messages aimed at girls, but I think they're definitely past the 80% threshold.

    I don't know many people of either gender who spend much time worrying about whether or not they have "cultural capital", though. #men
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    11/04/09

    @CrapCommentFromADude: i do recognize that there are new and rapidly increasing expectations on men and their appearances (especially in urbanized areas and amongst the bourgeois classes), but you're just making up statistics at this point. and i still i don't think its as universal as those expectations on women. i live in a small southern city and there is still a noticeable disjunct between the casual wear of men and women. in urbanized areas (where cultural capital is concentrated), the disjunct is LESS apparent because both genders wants to prove their wealth/worth through good-grooming (i have lived in dc and los angeles, so im not basing this on an outsiders preconceived view of city-life, but first-hand experiences as an urban denizen)-- but in the mystical mythical middle-america the gender gap has not really closed in the same way. if you want anecdotal evidence of this, come visit me in columbia, sc and we will take a trip to the mall. i think a lot of the varying levels of expectations for men is socioeconomic at this point.

    and of course most people don't consciously think about what they can do to increase their cultural capital-- it is an sociological concept! people don't often think of their motivations in academic terms, but they still participate in behaviors that can be classified as such. we participate in sociological phenomenons without knowing it all of the time. #men
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    Image of CrapCommentFromADude CrapCommentFromADude
    11/05/09

    @KATE!: " i live in a small southern city and there is still a noticeable disjunct between the casual wear of men and women."

    Fair enough, but 'living in a small southern city' isn't the norm, nor is it the bellwether for 'where our country is' on the issue. The suburbs are more like the cities than like the country in this respect.

    "but you're just making up statistics at this point. and i still i don't think its as universal as those expectations on women. "

    I didn't give you a 'statistic', I gave you a semi-educated guess, the same as you gave me.

    As for cultural capital, for both genders it tends to accrue (in either suburban or urban settings) to people who either have money or take care of their appearance. There's not a giant gender divide there. #men
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    Image of Miniskirt_Blues Miniskirt_Blues
    11/03/09

    In reply to On Dandies, Fops And Terribly Dressed Men
    My current partner of four years has an interesting, Prince-meets-George-Harrison style that he's stuck to since the age of about fourteen - his impressive moustache, admittedly, took a little longer to develop, admittedly - and I find it incredibly attractive. Yes, he always wears cuban-heeled boots and has a cravat collection, but he's also one of the most intelligent men I've ever met. I think it's a shame when people mistake foppishness for something vain and vacuous, when really it can be simply another medium for an aesthetic person to express themselves in.
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    Image of Diziet_Sma Diziet_Sma
    11/03/09

    @Miniskirt_Blues: I always thought George Harrison looked great - lucky you! #men
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    11/03/09

    In reply to On Dandies, Fops And Terribly Dressed Men
    My father is somewhat of an awesome dresser. He decided fifteen years ago that a bow tie would be his trademark and wears one everyday to work. I can't begin to tell you how many people know him just because of his bow tie! Then again, he wasn't always this way. Probably the result of living with three women and no men for the last thirty years! #men
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    Image of clevernamehere clevernamehere
    11/03/09

    In reply to On Dandies, Fops And Terribly Dressed Men
    There is a difference between dressing like a grown-up and being a fop. Wander through the financial district and you see hundreds of men who have managed to put together a presentable, grown up wardrobe without scouring ebay for unique pieces.

    Foppish men, like stylish women, make me feel a bit weary. I can't imagine putting that much effort in on a daily basis, but they can have fun with it if they like. #men
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    Image of tailfeather tailfeather
    11/04/09

    @clevernamehere: Yeah, I have the same reaction, in that I find it tiresome. I also attribute some unattractive qualities to the person (mainly egotism/narcissicism), however unfair that may be. I think, don't you have any better way to spend your time, as it's obvious you've dedicated hours and hours to developing your "look"?

    I know, it's very judgey. I will do better. #men
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    Image of Slim Slim
    11/03/09

    In reply to On Dandies, Fops And Terribly Dressed Men

    1st. Shoutout L5P! Euclid Ave.

    2nd. Lorentzen argues that "hipsterism fetishizes the authentic" elements of all of the "fringe movements of the postwar era—Beat, hippie, punk, even grunge," and "regurgitates it with a winking inauthenticity" and a sense of irony. He claims that this group of "18-to-34-year-olds", who are mostly white, "have defanged, skinned and consumed" all of these influences "into a repertoire of meaninglessness".

    3rd. Furthermore, he argues that the "hipster is defined by a lack of authenticity, by a sense of lateness to the scene" or the way that they transform the situation into a "self-conscious scene, something others can scrutinize and exploit".

    4th. Don't get me wrong I love a man who puts a little thought into his wardrobe, but I feel like the whole "dandy/fop" style Sadie is describing is off. I always took dandies to be men who went the extra mile for appearances, not men who subscribed to a particular style.

    5th Hipsters you could learn a thing or two from this man.
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    11/03/09

    @Slim: "Lorentzen argues that "hipsterism fetishizes the authentic" elements of all of the "fringe movements of the postwar era—Beat, hippie, punk, even grunge," and "regurgitates it with a winking inauthenticity" and a sense of irony. He claims that this group of "18-to-34-year-olds", who are mostly white, "have defanged, skinned and consumed" all of these influences "into a repertoire of meaninglessness".

    weren't beats, hippies, punks and grungers were also primarily white subcultures (and middle-class to boot) as well though? while i agree with the general sentiment that hipster fashion culture is vacant and meaningless precisely because its essence is apolitical, all of the aforementioned groups you have mentioned were lampooned in their own time for that very same thing. the beatniks were false-prophets ripping off jazz culture, hippies were self-indulgent kids with a sophomoric grasp of eastern philosophy, punks were nihilistic, anarchists and grungers were disaffected post-boomers who fetishized disenfranchisement. but we don't see them as such now that time has passed because we glorify the past and remember the important members of these groups who actually had and gave meaning to themselves and their subcultures.

    i think the marriage of subculture and cultural capital that we have seen in the hipster subculture is unnerving in its pervasiveness and mainstreaming of counter-cultural ideas, icons, or fashions (im looking at you american apparel, my mortal enemy), but its a bit simplistic to hold these past, white middle-class movements up as authentic when so many of those involved were also dismissed for being fashionable-hangers-on caught up in the cultural zeitgeist of their time. #men
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    11/03/09

    @KATE!: Oh absolutely agree with you. We all romanticize past subcultures of the 20th century, and forget that they all eventually digressed into a self-indulgent, narcissistic nothing-culture.

    But (just my opinion) the difference is they were born out of an authentic need to be a part of/or change shifting cultural and political winds. Although in many/most cases they quickly forgot and/or bastardized their purposes and missions.

    I just can't seem to find an authentic origin for the post 2001 hipster subculture. While your correct about past subcultures, like the beatniks riffing off jazz culture for instance, those groups were riffing off their peers and contemporaries. While hipsters well...aren't. Whether it b/c their aren't any contemporaries to rip off, who knows?

    I just get the feeling my future kids aren't going to look back and fantasize about hipster culture. #men
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    11/04/09

    @Slim: i think the origin of hipster "sub"culture was the right-wing turn of america post-september 11th (everything comes back to 9/11 doesnt it?) that caused an overwhelming political malaise and disinterest, so instead of rebelling with political action or ideals, disaffected youth turned to an ironic celebration of consumer culture (as opposed to the sincere celebration of consumer culture promoted by traditionalists).

    but i think the biggest misconception about hipsterdom is that is a counter-culture. i think it is going to be remembered more as a cultural zeitgeist that predates a more "authentic" counter-cultural expression (such as the mods predated hippies, disco predated punk, yuppies predated grunge). or at least i hope. but of course i can't look into the future and authenticity is the sort of the thing that is assigned after-the-fact. and that is what i think is important to remember in these sorts of discussions: that its pretty impossible to assign cultural value, relevance, importance, etc. to something while-it-is-happening. at the end of the day, its really just speculation. #men
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    11/04/09

    @KATE!: agreed, I think it's just easy to speculate b/c we're now in a position of having gone through multiple sub-cultures/ zeitgeists/etc. Somehow it makes us incorrectly assume we can base the future on recent history (it has been known to repeat it self). But at the end of the day we don't own a crystal ball. #men
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    Image of not_kinky not_kinky
    11/03/09

    In reply to On Dandies, Fops And Terribly Dressed Men
    KUDOS TO HIM!
    It really depress me when all I se in straight dudes is their hability to dress like they don't care, when if girls showed up dressing the first thing they found it would be read as a lack of interest in the date/job/meeting, etc. #men
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    Image of boxspelunker boxspelunker
    11/03/09

    In reply to On Dandies, Fops And Terribly Dressed Men
    I really, really like men's fashion. I know we all laugh at International Male, but the clothes in there are so fun! Men get so few options in clothes compared to women. Some of the clothes, yeah, are super fugly, but I have found lots of neat shirts and jackets that I really like for myself.

    Also, I love Asian fashion for men - much more variety in colors, textures and patterns.

    As for dating, as much as I like to look at them, we are usually very different personality-wise. I am a slob who doesn't do much, fashion-wise. Someone who is really into dressing up and trying out new trends is going to be kinda bored with me, as I don't have much to add. I find that with both men and women who are really into fashion. We tend to just not have much to talk about. The foppy ones I have met have all been very condescending, and while I know that there are pleasant fops out there, I just haven't met any. And the last thing I need is another person criticizing my fashion sense - I get that enough from my mother, you know? It's all about the personality chemistry, but they are really fun to see, fashion-wise. #men
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    Image of dj_chick dj_chick
    11/03/09

    In reply to On Dandies, Fops And Terribly Dressed Men
    I am feeling completely out of the loop... I just had to google "dandy" and "fop". So, either these are words that aren't commonly used in Texas (I know, the joke almost writes itself there, doesn't it?) or I really need to brush up on my vocabulary skills. #men
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    11/03/09

    @dj_chick: Heehee, there aren't many dandies and fops in Texas. My lovely Dallas has a run on overly spraytanned douchebags, though! #men
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    11/03/09

    Double post!
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    Image of KATE! KATE!
    11/03/09

    @dj_chick: to be fair, i don't think they're regularly used in this century. its a bit of an old-school concept, but im glad to see its making a comeback. #men
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    11/03/09

    @hellosunshine: I got an invite on FB today for a party ... this was the title: Affliction's Last Night Out/Say Good Bye to Ed Hardy Party

    Ha! So yes, we have the spraytanned douchebags here. Enough that we can throw a party to make fun of them. (BTW, the plan is to donate the Ed Hardy/Affliction gear that people bring.) #men
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    11/04/09

    @dj_chick: I would actually say that hipsters are different from dandies or fops. I wouldn't lump them together at all, just because they may share a propensity towards tight pants.

    And I am from the Montrose area. Those are hipsters, for the most part (and punks and goths and b-boys and leather-daddies and everything else)... God, I love my neighborhood. #men
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    11/04/09

    @tailfeather: I live in Montrose! :) #men
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    Image of lecoqsportif lecoqsportif
    11/03/09

    In reply to On Dandies, Fops And Terribly Dressed Men
    The associations of foppishness/ dandyism with leisure, wealth, and nominal creativity should not be understated. when men discover an interest in clothes they are marking themselves quite clearly to the outside world. #men
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