I hadn't realized she was only 26 when she died. I find that really upsetting for some reason.
One of the strange things about hitting the big 3-0 is looking back at all of the celebrities that died young - Sharon Tate, Jimi Hendrix, Kurt Cobain, River Phoenix, etc. - and just realizing how very YOUNG they all were. When I was a teenager, someone in their 20s seemed quite adult to me, but now I look and I just think how young those people all were, and what a waste it all has been.
This woman was BEAUTIFUL! She will forever be one of the prettiest things that have walked this earth and her death is a travesty. I understand the idea of class wars, but the explanation given for murdering this woman in such a way is revolting and while I do look at her as a style icon, to not recognize the torture thrusted upon her is even a bigger travesty.
@bluebears: Yeah, but maybe we're the ones exploiting it by thinking of her that way when they're attempting not to. I like the idea of paying tribute to her separate of the incident. Seems she would have much preferred this legacy.
@pele tiger: I hear what you're saying. I don't know though, how much we'd remember her as a "style icon" if not for Manson. I mean Anita Pallenberg was a 60s style icon or Edie Sedgwick. You know? I mean, I'm not saying this is "wrong" I'm just saying its troubling.
@bluebears: Edie was a style icon w/ a tragic life story. Anita was part of the Rolling Stones story (mixed w/ tragedy) Sharon Tate, like Talitha Getty, was definitely a style icon. Lordy, Sharon also inspired Malibu Barbie!
This is why I'm slowly (as funds allow) morphing most of my wardrobe into dresses. Dress = wake up, put on, go. The days I take forever to get ready are the ones where I really want to wear that shirt, but the only pants that match it are dirty...oh, wait, I love this skirt! What shirt, what shirt...ummmmmmm...ooh! Oh damn, when did this lose a button? Ummmmmmm...
@cactuswren: This. I try to do dresses as much as possible. Otherwise, it's, "oh, fuck, when did my boobs start having to wrastle each other under this top?...uh, what's the deal with the muffin top over this skirt?" So tiresome.
@cactuswren: That is such an excellent point. I need to purchase more dresses. Right now, the only ones I have are either totally too fancy or totally too skimpy for work.
@cactuswren: See, but with dresses then you arrive at the pantyhose with runs in them/ noticeably unshaven legs problem. And doing a quick over-the-sink shave early in the morning never goes well for me.
I try to minimize time spent thinking about clothes by planning out what to wear the night before. The BF knows not to talk to me when I'm lying in bed and looking like I'm concentrating really hard. However, I could be sleeping during this time, so my system is not flawless.
@HuckleberryFriend: I do this while I wash the dinner dishes. (I live alone, so it's always my chore.) It works out well, except when I eat out. Or drink heavily.
@HuckleberryFriend: I actually lay out my clothes the night before, so that in the morning I can just grab the bundle of clothes and head to the shower. It really minimizes morning confusion.
I'm gonna go ahead and admit that I take a TON of time to get ready in the morning and I try on outfit after outfit and it is deeply rooted in insecurity, not in practicality or fantasy. I try this on--think i look fat. or too boring. or too casual. or too mature. or too immature.
I blame wearing a uniform to school from grade 6-12. Oh I miss those wonderful wonderful days. I would happily revert to a world where on workdays, we all get up and put on a plaid skirt, navy socks, mary janes, and a big baggy button up shirt. And I DO love clothes--but I would love to not have to worry about them every single day.
The biggest clothes horses I know wore school uniforms. They're also into accessories with a passion that frightens me (I guess that socks and headbands were their only means of self-expression at school).
However, after working my current office job a few years, I am actually dangerously close to having a uniform of my own: black pants (I own 1 pair) and one of 5 different v-neck, 3/4 sleeve shirts. In the winter I will add a sweater to this. Getting dressed takes less time than making coffee, and I wouldn't have it any other way.
True story: I really don't spend a lot of time figuring out what to wear, however there is this soccer game coming up and I cannot decide what color t-shirt to wear. I've been thinking about this for weeks!
Should I wear my country's colors, my favorite team's, colors, a neutral color? Why am I worried about this and not what I am going to wear to a management meeting or the gym?
Each time I do my laundry and put away my clothes, eventually my entire wardrobe will find it's way to my floor. It can take ages to find something specific under this enormous pile of clothes, especially if I'm looking for something black.
I estimate that I have spent about 15 years in my 28 years of life looking for a specific black sweater in a pile of black clothes.
@LadyFabulous: Sr. Zinha and I have nice neat baskets for the dirties (one for the colours, one for the whites), but we both hate folding, so all the clothes just end up in the waist-high mountain in our bedroom. Trying to find a mate to a tiny 6-year-old's sock takes forever and is probably the reason I have high blood pressure. If we just folded it, it wouldn't take so long, but somehow, that logical process never gets to either of our brains.
"To care about feminine fashion, and do it well, is to be obssessively involved in inconsequential details on a serious basis. There is no relief." - Susan Brownmiller
This is my life, as someone who both loves beautiful clothes and knows she probably has better things to do.
If this is true, why, when I go on vacation, do I take up 1/3 of the travel bag, and my boyfriend takes up the other two thirds and then gets the other duffle bag for the bathroom stuff?
@anibundel: THANK you. I went to Europe for two weeks with a duffle bag. My husband was horrified and accused me of being a Gypsy. I'm sorry. A few pairs of pants, some shirts, two paris of shoes, a couple dresses, and toiletries. DONE. What else does one need?! (Other than a book to keep you occupied on the plane.)
@anibundel: My dad went to Hawaii for 8 days and had to take things out of his suitcase because it was too heavy (to the point where they were going to make him pay per pound for the overage).
I went to Europe for 18 days with a carry on.
This whole myth of the woman rushing to the gate with the huge amounts of (matching) luggage (including an inexplicable hatbox) must be stopped.
This is me in a nutshell because I've never, ever been a jeans and t-shirt kind of girl. I can't do simple. I'm not eccentric, but I like to look less than ordinary. Thus, throwing on whatever I have lying around doesn't work for me. And thus, I spend copious amounts of time trying to figure out what to wear and how to wear it. And even if I find the perfect outfit combination, I almost never repeat the whole thing. It loses its allure during the second wear.
In other words, I have a very tenuous relationship with my clothes.
So, this is just napkin (scrap of paper) math - - - but that equals a whopping 2 minutes a day (for a 75-year-old woman who's been dressing herself since she was 15). Not shocking.
@schweppes: Napkin math fails! 20 minutes (carrying zeros is hard!) But, seriously, is getting ready in 20 minutes really something that ridiculous that it needs a whole study implying women are stupid/frivolous?
@schweppes: Totally. I'm not a very clothes-oriented person (as long as its clean and basically appropriate for the occasion), but averaged out over my whole life those few minutes each morning will add up. Any time you add up all the little minutes you spend doing little things each day they will look like a hell of a lot of time over the course of a lifetime.
I'm so glad I'm not the only person who fails miserably at basic mathematical equations.
That said: 20 minutes a day? No fucking way. That's time this Muffin needs for sleeping. I'll wear what's on the floor in front of me, thankyouverymuch.
@Trulymadlyme: There truly is something to be said for uniforms. I kinda miss the job where I had to wear a suit every single day; at least I only had a couple of choices.
@Trulymadlyme: This is one way the US should be more like the UK and Canada: Robes. Keep one nice pair of shoes in your office and you could be naked under your robe for all anybody knows. Plus, we would look like cult members or wizards, which is always awesome. The robe is the love.
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One of the strange things about hitting the big 3-0 is looking back at all of the celebrities that died young - Sharon Tate, Jimi Hendrix, Kurt Cobain, River Phoenix, etc. - and just realizing how very YOUNG they all were. When I was a teenager, someone in their 20s seemed quite adult to me, but now I look and I just think how young those people all were, and what a waste it all has been.
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I blame wearing a uniform to school from grade 6-12. Oh I miss those wonderful wonderful days. I would happily revert to a world where on workdays, we all get up and put on a plaid skirt, navy socks, mary janes, and a big baggy button up shirt. And I DO love clothes--but I would love to not have to worry about them every single day.
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The biggest clothes horses I know wore school uniforms. They're also into accessories with a passion that frightens me (I guess that socks and headbands were their only means of self-expression at school).
However, after working my current office job a few years, I am actually dangerously close to having a uniform of my own: black pants (I own 1 pair) and one of 5 different v-neck, 3/4 sleeve shirts. In the winter I will add a sweater to this. Getting dressed takes less time than making coffee, and I wouldn't have it any other way.
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Should I wear my country's colors, my favorite team's, colors, a neutral color? Why am I worried about this and not what I am going to wear to a management meeting or the gym?
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I estimate that I have spent about 15 years in my 28 years of life looking for a specific black sweater in a pile of black clothes.
Don't get me started on accessories!
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This is my life, as someone who both loves beautiful clothes and knows she probably has better things to do.
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I went to Europe for 18 days with a carry on.
This whole myth of the woman rushing to the gate with the huge amounts of (matching) luggage (including an inexplicable hatbox) must be stopped.
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In other words, I have a very tenuous relationship with my clothes.
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I'm so glad I'm not the only person who fails miserably at basic mathematical equations.
That said: 20 minutes a day? No fucking way. That's time this Muffin needs for sleeping. I'll wear what's on the floor in front of me, thankyouverymuch.
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