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    Image of LolaQuinn is full of beans LolaQuinn is full of beans
    07/15/09

    In reply to Psychologist Says: Real Romance Involves Baths, Not Bras
    My man makes me dinner. Almost every night. And cleans, too. That's love, baby.
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    Image of Elizabth_Bennet Elizabth_Bennet
    07/15/09

    In reply to Psychologist Says: Real Romance Involves Baths, Not Bras
    Taking care of me when I'm sick is what did it for me. Bonus points if you can tell me I'm beautiful when I'm gross and disgusting and leaking fluids
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    Image of chritter is a nocturnal feminist mancatfish chritter is a nocturnal feminist mancatfish
    07/15/09

    @Elizabth_Bennet: I agree one hundred percent. Someone who can hold your head and stroke your hair and whisper comforting things in your ear while you're in violent extremis is a true gem worth hanging onto. That's romance, when it means the most.
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    Image of andromache andromache
    07/15/09

    In reply to Psychologist Says: Real Romance Involves Baths, Not Bras
    I want a man who loves the same funny shows and movies that I do, and sends me text messages of funny lines from them. And I also want a man with strong hands who can rub my shoulders until I melt into a puddle. that's all. and I have him already, so life seems pretty good.
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    Image of rednrowdy rednrowdy
    07/15/09

    @andromache: consider yourself lucky dear. the closest thing i got to a massage was in brookstone using one of the handheld back massagers on my neck and shoulders.
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    Image of SarahMC SarahMC
    07/15/09

    In reply to Psychologist Says: Real Romance Involves Baths, Not Bras
    I am not into expensive jewelry or sappy poetry. The thing is, women are not all the same. We are not a safe with a secret code.



    I like going for a bike-ride with you, making ice cream sundaes and watching Dateline with you, singing annoying commercial jingles in the car with you, and making funny faces together.
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    Image of sassy sassy
    07/15/09

    In reply to Psychologist Says: Real Romance Involves Baths, Not Bras
    I consider it romance when my boyfriend makes me a tray of brownies and then doesn't laugh when I lay in bed eating them with a fork out of the pan. I dunno who wants poetry, but I prefer baked goods.
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    Image of FattyCatty FattyCatty
    07/15/09

    @sassy: In my world brownies ARE poetry. Gooey, delicious poetry.
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    Image of Flackette Goes Retro Flackette Goes Retro
    07/15/09

    @sassy: For Valentine's my boyfriend made these dark chocolate brownies with a layer of buttercream frosting topped with a layer of bittersweet chocolate. NOM!
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    Image of Conrad Conrad
    07/15/09

    In reply to Psychologist Says: Real Romance Involves Baths, Not Bras
    "Women like them because they show men are into them and thinking of them rather than themselves," he says.


    No, Women like them to masturbate.
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    Image of emilyanne emilyanne
    07/15/09

    @Conrad: ha I like to read in the bath personally. Then again I'm British so we've already established that I'm lacking in some ways.
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    Image of rah29 rah29
    07/15/09

    @emilyanne: Indeed--I'm too Irish (read: british but worse) to feel comfortable with romantic gestures. Maybe British men are less romantic because British women get all squirmy and uncomfortable with stupid gestures? Romance makes me puke in my mouth a little. Most romantic gift I ever got: a little miniature 1941 model Soviet T-34 tank. Mr Rah knows me so well.
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    Image of Sputnik_Sweetheart Sputnik_Sweetheart
    07/15/09

    In reply to Psychologist Says: Real Romance Involves Baths, Not Bras
    The idea of a boyfriend writing me love poetry and songs makes me cringe. And I don't want to be surprised by a vacation. I have a very busy schedule! I need to know these things in advance!



    I think I just realized why I don't have a boyfriend. I must be missing the romantic gene.
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    Image of Intern Katy Intern Katy
    07/15/09

    @Sputnik_Sweetheart: I actually agree. I think the problem (and maybe the appeal) with a lot of these "romantic gestures" is that they are either impractical or incredibly overdone. The silly thing is that someone is trying to quantify romance and how romantic a group of men is by seeing how often they draw baths, buy flowers, etc. Plus, this whole article just reveals how deeply ingrained old school notions of romance still are in our culture.
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    Image of save jinger save jinger
    07/15/09

    In reply to Psychologist Says: Real Romance Involves Baths, Not Bras
    I had a friend in high school who got a note from a guy who had a crush on her. The opening line was, "You remind me of a strawberry Pop-Tart melting in the microwave." Yeah.






    So, romance is not dead yet, ladies.
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    Image of AtomiClash: humanitarian misanthrope AtomiClash: humanitarian misanthrope
    07/15/09

    @save jinger: does he have a brother? Maybe one with a preference for Toaster Strudel?
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    Image of laureltreedaphne laureltreedaphne
    07/15/09

    @save jinger:



    Hah, aw. See, I would just melt at that. I love weird descriptions.
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    Image of save jinger save jinger
    07/15/09

    @AtomiClash: humanitarian misanthrope: Maybe, but I think he'd want to drizzle his icing all over you...
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    Image of The Queen of No The Queen of No
    07/15/09

    @save jinger: Okay, that is the best thing EVER.
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    Image of Yahtzii Yahtzii
    07/15/09

    @save jinger: I'm pretty sure that's a line from My Mother's Red Hat.
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    Image of amowls amowls
    07/15/09

    @save jinger: I would've dated that guy in a heart beat.
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    Image of Atomic Monkey Mouse Atomic Monkey Mouse
    07/15/09

    @save jinger: Men and food. Seriously. So, this is NOT a joke. A man once said to me: I love your leg. It's like a turkey leg.
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    Image of save jinger save jinger
    07/15/09

    @Yahtzii: Hmmm, what's that?
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    Image of Yahtzii Yahtzii
    07/15/09

    @save jinger: Uh, it's only the indie-est, cutest movie OF THE CENTURY!



    (It was on Jez earlier today, and the whole pop-tart thing totally sounds like something Zack Braff would say to his love interest Alanis Morissette in a movie like that)
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    Image of Yahtzii Yahtzii
    07/15/09

    @save jinger:

    My Mother's Red Hat w/Alicia Silverstone & Alanis Morissette from Alicia Silverstone
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    Image of save jinger save jinger
    07/15/09

    @Yahtzii: O I C
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    Image of Yahtzii Yahtzii
    07/15/09

    @save jinger: Sorry, it wasn't really that funny in the first place, and less so after over explaining.
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    Image of rednrowdy rednrowdy
    07/15/09

    @save jinger: all it would take for me would be a reference to a hash brown, an egg mcmuffin, maybe some pancakes...



    aaaand now i want breakfast.
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    Image of TheFormerJuneBronson TheFormerJuneBronson
    07/15/09

    In reply to Psychologist Says: Real Romance Involves Baths, Not Bras
    I wish I could get Mr. JB to believe this. He mopes when he doesn't have money to spend on me--not that we ever really have much--and I'd way rather he thought up interesting things to do, or wrote me funny/sexy/romantic emails/texts, or knew what to do when I was crying without my having to tell him.
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    Image of Lymed Lymed
    07/15/09

    In reply to Psychologist Says: Real Romance Involves Baths, Not Bras
    The man is definitely not thinking of himself when he draws a bath and watches you take off your clothes and rub yourself with bubbles.
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    Image of emilyanne emilyanne
    07/15/09

    In reply to Psychologist Says: Real Romance Involves Baths, Not Bras
    Ode to a British female (from a British man)



    Our eyes met across a crowded bar/

    I looked at you and thought that's a bint who'll go far/

    yeah far from you my mates said as I downed another drink/

    i ignored them and shot you a cheeky wink/

    get your coat love, you've pulled, i charmingly said/

    And then we went home and christened the bed/

    In the morning my hangover made my heart sink /

    so i said to you come on darlin lets go for a drink/

    we went down to the boozer and sank a few bevvies/

    so now will you be my girlfriend forevvy and evey?



    (With deep apologies, particularly for the last line)
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    Image of KatyLou KatyLou
    07/15/09

    @emilyanne: For some reason, the second I started reading that this popped in my head, and that entire poem was read with the same voice.
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    Image of emilyanne emilyanne
    07/15/09

    @KatyLou: hahahaaha - it should be, great call.
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    Image of cocobanal cocobanal
    07/15/09

    @emilyanne: Yeah. I was married to a Brit and am dating one now. And . . . yep, that's about it. Whatever happened to the Cary Grants and David Nivens?
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    Image of Ailatan Ailatan
    07/15/09

    In reply to Psychologist Says: Real Romance Involves Baths, Not Bras
    Señor Ailatan is a Brit (an Englishman, by the way) I had to give him hints of the things I like done for me, sometimes I fish for compliments but he's lovely in many other respects, so I don't think it's such a big deal.
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    Image of The Queen of No The Queen of No
    07/15/09

    In reply to Psychologist Says: Real Romance Involves Baths, Not Bras
    I wish people actually believed this. The guy who I am smitten with right now takes me out and spends a lot of money but is kind of "meh" when we're not together and all I wanna say is.. "you never have to spend another dime on me if you just say some sweet things over AIM/text/phone once in a while." Ha.
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    Image of LuvEwan LuvEwan
    07/15/09

    In reply to Psychologist Says: Real Romance Involves Baths, Not Bras
    Mixed tapes are clichey? Then I should really stop obsessing about the one my co-worker gave me. At the very least, I should stop wearing it on a chain around my neck.
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    Image of Evie Havok Evie Havok
    07/15/09

    In reply to Psychologist Says: Real Romance Involves Baths, Not Bras
    I must be the odd duck because I would rather be wooed with expensive gifts/cars/etc. than with kisses and stupid poems/songs/baths. The thought behind a non-gift/cheap gift doesn't count with me. You'd better give me something expensive and/or nice.
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    Image of DinaRonson : Elizabeth Cady Stanton DinaRonson : Elizabeth Cady Stanton
    07/15/09

    @Evie Havok: A cold beer and some sidewalk flowers will get me every time.
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    Image of Yahtzii Yahtzii
    07/15/09

    @Evie Havok: But fancy cars that go very fast, you know they never last, no no. And satin sheets are very romantic, but what happens when you're not in bed?
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    Image of Hana Maru Hana Maru
    07/15/09

    @Evie Havok:Likewise. I love gifts and jewelery and nice dinners out. Women are individuals, just like men, who knew!
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    Image of inabook inabook
    07/15/09

    @Evie Havok: I love expensive things too, but I'd be mortified if my boyfriend got me something expensive right now-- we're grad students. A night of dancing in his apartment to jazz by the light of a candle would be equally romantic, and more reasonable.
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