In high school, my friend and I had "The Olive Club". We were the only 2 members, and the sole purpose of the club was to buy a jar of olives from the quickie mart next door, eat them all, and drink the brine, having great conversation the whole time.

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I've been living within driving distance of NYC for a decade now, and the piddly little lukewarm winters here just don't get cold enough to shock the bugs dead.

I think I might like Boston.

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I'm considering moving to Pluto.

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Last night we had a nice little happy hour after work, and then went to the art museum (which is open until 9 on Fridays). It was nice to get a little "date night" in, since we do that so rarely anymore.

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Tscheese = WIN

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I might have to make a pit stop on my way home. It's only a few steps from my back yard....

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What's unusual about Jezebel is that it kind of has, for lack of a better term, a learning curve. I think the editors and Hortense have tried their best to clarify and reinforce the culture of thoughtful, decent commenting, but there are still some things that took me FOREVER to figure out. Like Snap Judgment threads--I had NO idea how to comment in those, and it took me forever to get the hang of them. So I avoided them until I felt I could make comments that weren't...well, mean.

I know Jez has its problems, but I like it here, and one of the things I enjoy most is the fact that people can respectfully share different opinions without necessarily flaming/tearing down each other. I've seen some weird flamewar/hypersensitivity behavior lately, which is a little odd to me, because it seems to me that in the past people would just sometimes walk away from unwinnable arguments. And I think that's something that also makes Jezebel interesting: if you can't convince someone, you may have to agree to disagree, and I've seen people amicably do that in the past. (And I hope it continues, because I hate reading 200+ comments of offtopic flamewar just as much as anyone else.)



I'm glad you brought this up, and I think you're being very considerate.

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I really do hope that people bother to read the articles referenced in the topic threads before commenting. Commenters making that small effort would solve many of the issues we all suffer through in the threads.

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Every Saturday is Bacon Day in Casa da Zinha, so we're merrily anticipating the baking bacon. Sr. Zinha is making coffee and is about to settle into some physics homework (oh yay -_-) and I'm reading "Lies My Teacher Told Me". Good stuff.

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It's not terribly common outside of the NJ/NYC area, I think.

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And there is never a bad time to give Hortense props! :)

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Yay! So my period was way late, which is actually kind of normal for me, but on my way home from work I decided to get a test, just to make sure I wasn't. And yeah. I was. What's really crazy about this is that I actually thought I was infertile, due to some old health issues, and I am RELIGIOUS about taking my birth control! So wtf!

Right now I am trying to decide whether or not I should tell my boyfriend. He is a great guy, but I know he doesn't want to have it, and I don't want to freak him out for no reason? But at the same time I don't know how upset people usually are after abortions and how much support they need. I think it's early enough for me to have a medical abortion.

Blech. :(

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What do YOU want to do? I hear you saying that you don't think your bf wants to have a baby (or at least not now), but what do you want to do?

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I don't want to have a baby either. I mean, I actually do - if circumstances were right, I would probably keep it. That's what's making me a little freaked out and sad. But I'm 24, make no money, live in a tiny little NY apartment...it's just not in the cards for me right now. I meant more that, since I know my BF has no interest in keeping it, and I have no interest in keeping it, there's no need for us to have a discussion.

I am going to go to the Planned Parenthood walk-in hours today to get a confirming pregnancy test. Thanks for the good suggestion.

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I'm sorry if I'm sounding the like Devil's Advocate here, because believe me, I'm no crazy pro-lifer. But in the spirit of thinking things through, here are a few points to consider:

-No one knows for sure how they would handle an unexpected pregnancy until they find themselves in that situation. Men or women. So I wouldn't assume that theoretical discussions that you and your boyfriend have had regarding a surprise pregnancy accurately reflect either of your views now that you find yourself potentially facing a pregnancy. Both of you will probably have a range of emotions and ideas as you come to grips with all of the possibilities.

-Do you really have no interest in continuing the pregnancy, or rather feel this is not the right time for you? There's no right answer, obviously, but best to be honest with yourself as you go through the process of sorting things out.

-No matter what you ultimately decide to do, this may be a very emotional and confusing time for you. Personally, I'd hope that I could discuss it with my bf and get some support. Ultimately, you're hoping that you and your bf are there to support each other through the unexpected and whatever happens, you'll learn about each other and perhaps have a much better relationship for it.

-There's never a 'perfect time'.

I wish you the best of luck with everything. There aren't any easy answers and there's no rulebook for how to find your way through all the thoughts, emotions, worries and epiphanies that something like this challenges us with. You'll get a lot of advice, solicited and unsolicited, but in the end it's up to you to decide what is best for yourself. I think you know that you will get a lot of support here whatever path you choose.

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Whatever you decide, as long as it is from your own heart, will be the right decision. I want to share with you that I have been where you are twice in my life; once when I made the decision not to go forward with a pregnancy, and then later in life when I did. Both moments were important to defining who I am today, and that is a very happy woman who had the chance to become both the mother and adult professional she wanted to be.

Be well.

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