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10/06/09
Is money really the standard by which we feel we need to judge our equality? That is to say, are there perhaps good reasons some women choose less aggressive career tracks, or to stay home with children for a few years, or to work part-time and take care of their aging parents, or to start their own lower-paying businesses altogether?
10/06/09
Reseach shows that even when type of work, sector and level of education and experience between men and women are identical, women are still underpaid. Read 'Women Don't Ask' for further info.
10/06/09
Of course there are women who are in high-pressure jobs, earning high salaries and pushing the glass ceiling. But I would say as a gender, women are still the ones who are expected to, or expect themselves to take care of people. And maybe part of the reason why women as a group don't make as much money as men is because we put more importance on these other things than the almighty dollar. There comes a time when you do have to choose between what's important to you and money - if you never have to make that choice, you're very, very lucky.
10/06/09
@rixatrix: I would argue that women do those things because, come on, who else is going to?
And I'm not talking about the whole "oh haha husbands are lazy" standard. I'm saying that when it comes down to the husband or wife taking time off work to care for sick relatives, it's assumed the wife will do this. It's assumed they will quit their job to move with their husband. It's assumed they will take time off to care for their kids.
And part of the reason it's assumed is that the husband, often, makes more money, and therefore it makes sense for the wife to do those things. So really, perhaps the fact that it's women taking care of these things is a product of, rather than a cause of, the pay gap.
10/05/09
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Everything is unstable right now but some are less stable.
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10/03/09
Secondly, there's nothing about her tone and body language that is either teenage or bratty. Yes, she's slightly hostile but she's been put into a position where a slight air of hostility is actually warranted. If she'd acted coy or flirtatious, or - god forbid - humbled by that pompous ass, she would have looked like a silly bit of fluff who doesn't have the courage to stand by her actions.
Thirdly, I don't have Aspergers Syndrome so I don't claim to be an expert but using that to explain Trunk's attitude smacks to me of the myth that people with ASDs don't feel emotions 'properly'. Yes, perhaps having an ASD helps Trunk to retain her cool under fire in some way, but I feel like her reason for not caring about her miscarriage and who knew about it was that she JUST DIDN'T CARE. Again, I can't be sure, as I never had it medically checked but I feel that I had a miscarriage a year or so ago and I really don't give a shit. If anything I'm really super pleased. And me - or Trunk, or anyone, male, female, transgender, intersex, or otherwise - saying that does not in any way take away from the serious pain that unwanted miscarriages cause.
Finally, and most importantly: despite what I said above, I really didn't know much about miscarriages before watching that clip. I didn't know how long they can last (I just thought I was having an inordinately long period), I didn't know that they weren't invariably agonizing (except perhaps in the first month or so), and I have certainly never witnessed anyone discuss them on national news before, despite the fact that so many women experience miscarriage at least once in their lives (whether it's 25 or 75 percent, it's still a lot of women). It's not just men like Sanchez that are getting an education about this kind of thing, it's women like me, who think of themselves as educated and informed feminists. If me and my ilk don't know then clearly we DO need to talk about this kind of thing publicly.
10/01/09
10/01/09
I had never heard of her before; now I am a huge fan.
10/01/09
This woman's tone and body language are those of a bratty teenager. Is there a way to advocate for women's reproductive rights without sounding like a 16 year-old daring her parents to give her a curfew?
I agree there is plenty of benefit to be gained from women sharing their experiences with miscarriage and abortion in a no-nonsense manner, but that doesn't have to mean being crass and obnoxious.
Women seem to be able to talk about their breasts (mammograms, mastectomies, lactation...) without sounding like crude, huffy little twats. When I hear women argue in favor of public breastfeeding they don't seem to feel the need to use coarse language or belligerent tones. So what's the deal with some pro-choicers who feel the need to combat "hushed reverent tones" with "brazen" and childish outbursts?
10/01/09
In fact, after getting called "young lady," I thought she handled herself quite respectably. I mean, calling a woman "young lady" is as offensive as if he had said "fuck you, lady," in my opinion.
10/02/09
10/01/09
First of all, we live in a society where the lines between the public and private sphere have been irreversibly blurred. As a consequence, there are people who are more comfortable sharing information that people wouldn't have shared in the past. whatever, i'm not following that stuff on twitter (i don't even have a twitter account, get off my lawn!) and i'm not posting it, but, as I said, whatever.
What gets my goat is this faux outrage from the info-tainment industry, (and yes, CNN is part of that, no matter how many times they want to call themselves a serious news organization. exception: Fareed Zakaria - serious business) these are same people who deemed that "ZOMG Tori Spelling was admitted to the hospital with stomach pain!" somehow qualifies as news. Or that the sister of a girl who is famous because of a sex tape (talk about your TMi!) is getting married. Or that the top 800 meter runner is transgendered. how is this any of my business? someone in the news decided it was, because this shit is all over the TV.
And now, they want to turn around and tell a woman who is talking about her own personal life that "young lady, we just don't discuss these things in civilized company." Give me a frakking break. this is an industry that thrives on oversharing and spreading it around.
And all Trunk has done was use this environment of oversharing to steer the conversation to a topic that she feels is important (and frankly, I agree). and if that was truly her intent, well, good on her.
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but im REALLY happy to see a very clear and non-apologetic view about abortion rights on television. im sure a lot of people will be offended by her honesty, but i on the other hand feel so empowered by it. i had an abortion when i was 18 and whenever i tell someone about it they assume it must have been such a traumatic experience from which i'll never be able to recover. but instead i felt such a relief that i was able to avoid the traumatic experience of teen-motherhood. im very happy to see these conversations move away from the "trauma" of choice.
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