Staggering amount of medications? Doesn't seem like it, especially if she had health problems. I have rxs for Prozac, Wellbutrin and Xanax, and I am pretty much 100% (physically) healthy.
It's not as if one takes those every day, and aside from the benzos, none run the danger of addiction.
@#c17792185:Yes, They seem like a pretty commonplace assortment of meds, especially if someone is prone to anxiety. And benzos, while addictive, do not run much of an overdose risk unless you take them with other drugs like opiates or alcohol. They also do not put undue stress on the heart, so, yeah, that headline is ridiculous. (I also have most those same medications in my cabinets for 'emergency' use, as well as old painkillers and anti depressants...pretty typical these days.)
I'm starting to feel bad for this Simon Monjack fellow. His wife just died and it seems like people really want him to be some sort of villain without any reasonable proof that I've heard. So unnamed sources think he was sketchy? That doesn't make someone a killer. Leave the man alone to grieve in peace until some evidence to the contrary shows potential guilt.
@Bunsen Honeydew: I know, right? "Sketchy" does not mean he didn't love her or had a hand in her death unless or until someone finds proof of that. For now, I'm preferring to see him as a grieving husband, poor guy.
@Bunsen Honeydew: They keep bringing up that he's a felon.....because he was here illegally for a while. Yeah, you know, that really is just a step away from killing your wife.
@itsonreserve: I've seen articles where they've mentioned that he looks "flabby" or "chunky" and that they "only got married to get him a Greencard." Because a Hollywood star would only marry a guy like him to help him out. People should leave the poor guy alone. Geez!
@icyblonde: I know, right. Reports of him looking dazed in his pajamas while they tried to revive her seem to be meant to be scandalous... but really, what would you look like if your 32 year old spouse was going into cardiac arrest at 8 am on a Sunday? You probably wouldn't be in a 3 piece suit, and you probably wouldn't look calm and collected. Poor guy probably just woke up to the worst nightmare he could imagine, and now it's tabloid fodder.
Aw, Lily. My miscarriage was an awful time for me, it sent me into more of a tailspin than my father dying did. I admire her for talking about, it's intensely personal but I think it helps other women who go through it know that they're not alone. I was so surprised after mine to find how many women I knew who had one.
@Maritsa: I had never really thought about miscarrying before and though I don't really typically lack in empathy, reading her tidbit, which she shared so eloquently and honestly, made it really hit home. Impressed that she managed to share that, and so well.
@Maritsa: Thanks to you too. I just had a miscarriage a few weeks ago. It's been nice how many women have told me that they know what I'm going through, and that it will get better. It is, slowly..... :)
@Maritsa: My mother miscarried a year or so before I was born, and she says she experienced the same thing. She was amazed by how many women had had miscarriages, but never spoke about them. Their openness really sustained her.
@Pianola: It's the truth. As soon as you have one, so many women will tell you that they also had one.
But as Lily said, other people will be there with you for about 5 days and then there's a distinct "Aren't you over that yet?" feeling you get from people.
@EdnasEdibles: This is very sad to hear from Lily. I may get blasted for this but, I am actually kind of surprised to hear that she felt this way. I had the same thing happen to me with the same surrounding factors: 1) Drinking heavily 2) Smoking 3) Dysfunctional on and off again relationship 4) Young (we would both have been 22 I think) 5) Not planned, and she had 6) Drugs and my reaction was totally, totally different. I don't disparage her feelings, because I suppose you feel what you feel, but I think that the aforementioned factors are maybe related to why a lot of her support network wasn't there for her long-term, and may have underestimated how upset she was.
@mmc37001: Hang in there, it does get easier to deal with. I still have moments, too, almost 13 years later. Women don't talk about it, but it's more common than we like to pretend. (hugs)
@LaFemme: What do you mean? I honestly don't understand what you're trying to say.
In my own case, my support network wasn't there because I personally didn't want them there. There's a ton of shame surrounding miscarriage and most women find it very difficult to talk about or deal with until they can get beyond feeling that it's their fault, that they caused it somehow, which most of the time is not the case. The majority of miscarriages are due to chromosomal issues- something just didn't go together right, your body knows it, and the fetus stops developing/ dies. But knowing this doesn't change the fact that you were unable to do, for whatever reason, what so many others can do with such breathless ease.
@EdnasEdibles: Thanks for saying this. I just had one on Sunday, and I already feel pressure to "get over it."
Both my parents have died, but this has definitely sent me into a bigger funk.
@EdnasEdibles: Oh yeah. "You're still thinking about THAT?" And the oh-so-unhelpful platitudes and advice, like "Well, at least you know you can get pregnant" and "Well, it's probably better because there was something wrong with it anyway."
@cristyc: Hang in there. It's not a fun club to be in but you're not alone.
Therapy really did wonders for me when I was drowning in it so don't be afraid to contact someone. It took me a while to do it and I wish I'd done it sooner. Only saw her for about 2 months but it helped.
Topomax is an anti-seizure med, yes. But it's also used as an anti-psychotic and for chronic pain. Many people with Bi-polar use it, as do many with fibro. The off-label uses of these drugs makes it impossible to assume a usage without seeing doctor's notes.
@bluebears: I actually dug her in a few films, like Evita in particular. Every one in a while "You Must Love Me" gets stuck in my head, and I don't even have the soundtrack or anything.
@icyblonde: As a small musical theater fan, Evita made me want to kill myself. There was absolutely zero passion in her singing. She could have been singing the alphabet song, for crying out loud.
When I was seeing Where The Wild Things Are the trailer for The Imaginarium Of Doctor Parnassus came on. My eyes got all wide.. it really looks wonderful.
So, they filmed parts of it with Heath while he was alive, and then after they filmed the remaining scenes with Depp? But they are the same character? I was a little confused about that, I thought they were just both in it.
@Eleanor Ramilly: When Heath Ledger died, Depp, Colin Farrell and Jude Law all stepped and played aspects of his character so the film could be finished and released. And they all donated their salaries to Matilda, Heath's daughter.
@Eleanor Ramilly: The film's concept was reworked so that Heath's character would be imagined differently, depending on the person's imagination/hallucination. That way the obvious physical changes could be compensated for...
What's funny though, is that in seeing Heath's character in the film, he's a dead ringer for James Franco, which is why I was surprised they didn't go for him to pick it up, I suppose. But there's something about all his friends taking up the mantle for him that is truly wonderful.
I clicked through to the ear-candling video because I've been curious about the process ever since I worked at a Wild Oats. Huh. Looks exactly like you'd expect.
But I was struck by how naturally gorgeous Jessica Simpson looked with no makeup and a burning thingie in her ear. Go, girl!
@gangey: The JS hate is ridonk. She's sweet, cute, and harmless.
If MY hairdresser gave me an ear-candle kit, you bet your ass I'd be on YT with it. WTF, who wouldn't?
Shit, I remember one awesome Jez editor talking about garlic up her candydish for.. uh, scientific purposes, and another recounting a 5day romance with a lost tampon... but Jessica Simpson gets the "Wtf are you posting this shit for?" treatment?
Over the hate, I say. Unless its girl hate just for the sake of girl hate.
If Jay-Z has really changed his name to Shawn Knowles-Carter (as opposed to just B changing hers), then my liking for him has just increased astronomically. I kind of doubt that it's true, but if it is true, then it's awesome.
dear carrie underwood,
first of all, best wishes for your engagement.
now, I know you are somewhat traditional, but I just wanted to ask you as a friend not to adopt your fiancee's name once you are married. You seem to work hard and have a nice story but I'm afraid you are no Carrie Fisher.
"New Zealand TV host Paul Henry, who said Susan Boyle was "starved of oxygen at birth" and "she is in fact retarded," has apologized saying, 'I am sorry that some people have taken what I said in a way that I never intended.'"
Dear Mr. Henry,
I am also sorry for those people. It would take a high degree of stupidity to misunderstand what you very clearly said.
Drugs are an easy way to keep weight off and your energy up. I wish it were not so, but it's true. I can honestly say that if I were in film for whatever reason, I would be totally fucked up. Not only that, but I can see how so many women drop weight just from the stress of being followed, performing in films (so many are not natural actors, and so many question their talents), having everything you say and do picked apart, including your looks. That kind of anxiety would straight up kill my appetite.
I don't want to project that this was the case for Murphy. In fact, it didn't even cross my mind until I started reading media this morning. But I can't ignore the culture radiating through this industry that is so totally damaging. And we all feed into it. It's just sad. Really sad.
I am a reasonably intelligent 30 year old and I am still not past the point where I am tempted to be a vulnerable, self-destructive, wasting away kind of person. It's almost like society worships this kind of female being who needs to be saved, but only when she is whip thin, doe-eyed or conforms to any kind of superficial way. It's super distressing.
I think I might just be taking this personally, but having known people with EDs whose hearts have stopped and so many people with drug problems, I just know that even if it turns out that this is what happened with Murphy, none of them, none of us will take anything from it in any real way. And things will just go back to being the same.
@Penny: Yeah, almost every day I have to dismiss a fleeting thought that if I developed a raging coke habit the rest of my life would be happy even if shortened because I would be thin. And I ain't even an actress.
@Penny: I have to say Brittany's death woke me the hell up. I *suspect* she had an ED - that's only because I have one and have had one for 20 years, the vast majority of my life. Saturday I was really bad off from the night before and kept thinking "okay is this the day?" because I know I'm playing Russian roulette with my life. I honestly can't believe I am still here - so seeing what happened to her, and we're roughly the same age - made me realize I needed to get some help (again). Regardless of whether or not she suffered from an ED, it hit me hard and I realized I was kidding myself that I could remain this way and still be here for the people who I love.
@Penny: I think all the time about the boundaries in place in most people's lives that keep them from a raging drug habit, ie money, family, job, ect. So many of those things can't be done (or done long term)by your average joe with an incapacitating drug habit.
It is astounding how many of these boundaries lift when you are rich and famous. Suddenly drugs are every where, done by everyone and money is no issue. You have people paid to cover your indiscretions. Who would not develop some sort of raging habit given those conditions?
@Penny: The photo yahoo used to break the news was of a stick thin Britanny and with mention of cardiac arrest, my first thought was another Karen Carpenter type of death.
Like you, if I was in that biz, I wish I could say I'd buck the system, but I know I would cave.
@zu_zu: Please hang in there, kiddo. Acknowledging that things are rough right now, and asking for help to get through it is the very hardest part - it really is. Things do get easier, bit by steady bit.
And fuck me, I'd miss you if you weren't around. Even strangers on the internet love you, so it's time to give yourself a break, okay?
@zu_zu: take care of yourself. I know it's hard (it took me a long time to seek therapy, and now, to stay in it) but you deserve it. Knowing that my heart could basically give out any day and losing my life (not just my life, but all that makes it vibrant, worthwhile, and even fun sometimes) is just not worth the security that the ED offers. It's a lonely, false security. Wishing you a good recovery-- it's long and annoying as hell, but you deserve to life a long full life.
I remember when the original Supergirl movie came out. My mom had given me some sort of promotional magazine with Helen Slater on the cover, and I was convinced it would be the best movie of all time and win every Oscar there was.
An investigation on Wikipedia does inform me that the director's cut was released on DVD in 2006 with about 50 minutes of footage added to the theatrical release, which might go a long way towards restoring best-ness.
@icyblonde: I know. I know. I've just about pulled myself together now. Pietra was just trying to get a rise out of me - she's naughty like that, you know. Does it all the time.
And now I'm going to have to investigate this director's cut thingy too. 20 years on, I feel like I'm ready to watch it again and be stunned by the earth-shaking cinematic genius once more.
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It's not as if one takes those every day, and aside from the benzos, none run the danger of addiction.
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Also, I agree -- people are being really rough on him and at this point, there's just no cause for it, IMHO.
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But as Lily said, other people will be there with you for about 5 days and then there's a distinct "Aren't you over that yet?" feeling you get from people.
Day by day it gets a little easier.
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In my own case, my support network wasn't there because I personally didn't want them there. There's a ton of shame surrounding miscarriage and most women find it very difficult to talk about or deal with until they can get beyond feeling that it's their fault, that they caused it somehow, which most of the time is not the case. The majority of miscarriages are due to chromosomal issues- something just didn't go together right, your body knows it, and the fetus stops developing/ dies. But knowing this doesn't change the fact that you were unable to do, for whatever reason, what so many others can do with such breathless ease.
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Both my parents have died, but this has definitely sent me into a bigger funk.
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Therapy really did wonders for me when I was drowning in it so don't be afraid to contact someone. It took me a while to do it and I wish I'd done it sooner. Only saw her for about 2 months but it helped.
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So, they filmed parts of it with Heath while he was alive, and then after they filmed the remaining scenes with Depp? But they are the same character? I was a little confused about that, I thought they were just both in it.
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What's funny though, is that in seeing Heath's character in the film, he's a dead ringer for James Franco, which is why I was surprised they didn't go for him to pick it up, I suppose. But there's something about all his friends taking up the mantle for him that is truly wonderful.
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But I was struck by how naturally gorgeous Jessica Simpson looked with no makeup and a burning thingie in her ear. Go, girl!
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If MY hairdresser gave me an ear-candle kit, you bet your ass I'd be on YT with it. WTF, who wouldn't?
Shit, I remember one awesome Jez editor talking about garlic up her candydish for.. uh, scientific purposes, and another recounting a 5day romance with a lost tampon... but Jessica Simpson gets the "Wtf are you posting this shit for?" treatment?
Over the hate, I say. Unless its girl hate just for the sake of girl hate.
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first of all, best wishes for your engagement.
now, I know you are somewhat traditional, but I just wanted to ask you as a friend not to adopt your fiancee's name once you are married. You seem to work hard and have a nice story but I'm afraid you are no Carrie Fisher.
love, Lucy
12/21/09
Dear Mr. Henry,
I am also sorry for those people. It would take a high degree of stupidity to misunderstand what you very clearly said.
Alwayswrite
PS - you're an asshat
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I don't want to project that this was the case for Murphy. In fact, it didn't even cross my mind until I started reading media this morning. But I can't ignore the culture radiating through this industry that is so totally damaging. And we all feed into it. It's just sad. Really sad.
I am a reasonably intelligent 30 year old and I am still not past the point where I am tempted to be a vulnerable, self-destructive, wasting away kind of person. It's almost like society worships this kind of female being who needs to be saved, but only when she is whip thin, doe-eyed or conforms to any kind of superficial way. It's super distressing.
I think I might just be taking this personally, but having known people with EDs whose hearts have stopped and so many people with drug problems, I just know that even if it turns out that this is what happened with Murphy, none of them, none of us will take anything from it in any real way. And things will just go back to being the same.
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The more this day has progressed, the sadder I've gotten about this.
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It is astounding how many of these boundaries lift when you are rich and famous. Suddenly drugs are every where, done by everyone and money is no issue. You have people paid to cover your indiscretions. Who would not develop some sort of raging habit given those conditions?
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Like you, if I was in that biz, I wish I could say I'd buck the system, but I know I would cave.
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And fuck me, I'd miss you if you weren't around. Even strangers on the internet love you, so it's time to give yourself a break, okay?
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An investigation on Wikipedia does inform me that the director's cut was released on DVD in 2006 with about 50 minutes of footage added to the theatrical release, which might go a long way towards restoring best-ness.
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Take back what you said! Take it back!
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Santa, to the interwebz!
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And now I'm going to have to investigate this director's cut thingy too. 20 years on, I feel like I'm ready to watch it again and be stunned by the earth-shaking cinematic genius once more.
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