What all these journalists have yet to realise is that there is a difference between size and shape! Marilyn Monroe may have been a size 14 but that doesn't make her fat, just as being a size 14 does not make you Marilyn Monroe!
I was thinking about this earlier today, and I wonder if it's weird to be Christina and have people be so fixated on your build. Well I know it happens to other women. But it seems like her being an actress is second to her shape (which is stunning, absolutely).
As a guy, I don't get the attraction to stick figures. Just never does it for me. But I get Christina Hendricks, it's like looking at the light of creation.
@KainTheGreat: and the Completely Missing The Point Award goes to...
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so you not only used a derogatory term to refer to women who are naturally thin with small breast and hips ("stick figures"), not only told them they're unattractive and sexually undesirable, but you also compared one group of women to another in a right vs. wrong scenario in what you probably think is some kind of supportive comment.
yeah, thanks for that input. I'm sure we'll all put a lot of value in it.
that sound you just heard? that was the collective eye roll of hundreds of women.
I have a body, and it is my real body. Everything else is irrelevant. I nip in at the waist, go out at the boobs and hips; my tummy is not flat; I have arm, lovehandle, and thigh chub. This is my body. I like the foods I put in it. According to bloodwork, it's just fine, so I have the responsibility to continue to care for it and nourish it as best I can. Fuck you, magazines trying to tell me any body type is better for me than the one I am genetically going to have anyway.
@Her Grace: Wow, I think we have the same body. I feel fine, hardly ever get sick, never get a second look from a doctor, take a dance class and work out a few times a week, and buy clothes and eat food that I like. Sounds like a plan to me.
i'm a scrawny woman, but my bone structure literally has an hourglass figure. trust me, the combination is not so appealing. i gain one pound and i look chubby, i lose that same pound and i look anorexic. after years of nit picking my appearance i have learned that the best thing to do is pick one good feature on my body and focus on that. i look in the mirror and say, how do my legs look? they look awesome. all right then, fuck the rest.
i told my friend about that, she's a bit overweight but she has AMAZING breasts. super perky despite their volume. she tried it out, and wound up losing a couple pounds just because she wasn't so stressed out and focused on what she was eating all the time.
i say we all have at least one awesome physical feature... fuck the rest, nobody's perfect.
The liberal media has been teaching girls for decades to ignore their own morals and values. I always teach my own little girls that they need to be strong in the face of relentless pressure and find their own way in the world so that they can respect themselves and God. It is very important for young girls to learn to be feminine and elegant. Having a healthy body image is all about self-respect and respect for God.
@ChristianSAHMof4: Please, do not ever invoke the myth of a liberal media. Irresponsible, sure. Motivated only by money, you bet. But liberal? I haven't found one yet.
There are a lot of women on this thread bashing themselves. I don't think that men pay nearly as much attention to this as we do. I have skinny friends who never date and very heavy friends who always have boyfriends, and it has nothing to do with their size. It has everything to do with their attitudes towards themselves. A fun woman who goes out and does her thing is way more attractive than a woman who spends all her time worrying about do her thighs touch. And I know it's easier said than done to change this attitude (God knows it takes daily work on my part), but that change needs to happen.
@jemandtheholograms: I think you're right about that. I know a lot of men and women who are far more attracted to "curvy" (whatever the hell that is supposed to mean) than not. Every time I try and puzzle out how we all got this obsessed with ourselves my brain starts overheating and I have to stop.
That said, the last time I broke up with someone, the first thought in my head was "oh, he met someone prettier/thinner than me." WTF, self? Not "oh, he met someone more successful than me" or "oh, he met someone more fun than me."
Reality did quickly set in. But something is hard-wired there that is difficult to disconnect. If we ever figure out how to do that, I know the world would change.
Fashion magazine editors, as well as the entire staff of Men's Health, will without a doubt be the first against the wall when that particular revolution comes.
I stopped reading at Jennifer Aniston. And they apparently stopped watching Friends after the first season if they think she's anything close to curvy.
I'm in Costa Rica right now, living and working, and am absolutely flabbergasted by the different sizes and shapes of women here. The fashion norm appears to be tight jeans / tight tops / lots of accessories, and all the ladies here rock that look, no matter what their body type. It's astounding and refreshing.
...coming from a city like Vancouver, where everyone seems to be in perfectly-thin yoga shape, I feel totally at ease here with my tits, hips, and ass, and what's more, I still get checked out by the guys. I'm not saying that skinny culture doesn't exist in Latin America, but all sorts of female forms are beloved here.
I don't even know why I mentioned this, or what my point is.
@epiclady: every time I leave the U.S., for a southern climate, I'm amazed at how un-self concious people of all sizes are about wearing figure-hugging clothes. I first saw it in Cuba but I've also noticed it in South America and in Italy and Spain.
This, however, is not true in places like Canada, Britain, and Japan, especially.
@alphabetcookies: Women cannot have it both ways. We want to look like the magazine covers and yet we too often eat like pigs at a trough. Pick your poison. Get in shape and be the best you physically or be quiet and accept that a fat woman is less attractive than a fit one. And the same rules apply for the men; I don't believe anyone who tells me otherwise.
@Elizabeth Tailormade: You do not sound like a very pleasant person. Horrible horrible advice 'a fat woman is less attractive than a fit one' - only to assholes
No one said you cannot be a beautiful size 12. But, I repeat, you cannot have it both ways. You, or you who eats like a pig and weighs an extra 30 lbs. That is the choice.
@Elizabeth Tailormade: You are uninformed and tactless. Women can be fit and healthy and STILL considered 'overweight' according to some ridiculous standards.
And some women like myself DO eat like pigs but dont gain weight. You have no idea what you are talking about.
@MeganGlass: Don't torture yourself. I found a cute pair of pants that were a size 3. And I don't remember ever being thin enough to fit into them!
Re the boots, I would love to be able to tuck my jeans into my boots, but that will not happen any time soon. Unless I go to the store that does boots by shoe size and calf size.
And for the boots, I speak on behalf of seemingly everyone I know who isn't me. I have chicken legs. I walk on toothpicks. I would LOVE to have calves. But when I wear boots, I feel like I'm wearing galoshes with heels. You can't win with boots.
@AndNowForSomethingDifferent: Yes, I know of what you speak. That is my best girlfriend's boot problem to a T. I really hate how they often put in the elasticized bit up at the top that does nothing for 98% of women. Do they really think an inch or 2 of stretchy bits by the leather are going to get the boot to zip over the calf? Or if it does, not to eventually break or rip out the stitching? Some better cobblers can stretch leather boots, but even that's hit and miss.
Sigh. Clothes that don't fit right are such a drag.
Why is having a flat stomach so desirable? It's like... impossible for almost everyone. If you are hardcore into exercise and have an 8-pack, yeah, you might have a flat stomach.
But I mean... no one really has a flat stomach naturally. My sister, who is kindof dealing with a borderline eating disorder, is "jealous of [my] body", but my stomach isn't flat. My "pooch" is bigger than hers! I don't give no fuck - it doesn't hang down to my damn knees, so I figure I'm all right.
LET GO OF THE "FLAT STOMACH" BULLSHIT, MY FRIENDS. THERE IS NO NEED FOR THIS ASSHATTERY.
@boxspelunker: Because IF YOU HAVE ANY ABDOMINAL-AREA CURVE IN A CONVEX DIRECTION YOU ARE ENDANGERING YOUR HEALTH AND ARE WORTHY OF SCOOOOOORRRRRRNNNN!
@boxspelunker: I collect all my fat in my butt/thighs/arms. I do have a naturally flat stomach. Everyone is built differently, and that includes people for whom the stomach is the last place fat goes.
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so you not only used a derogatory term to refer to women who are naturally thin with small breast and hips ("stick figures"), not only told them they're unattractive and sexually undesirable, but you also compared one group of women to another in a right vs. wrong scenario in what you probably think is some kind of supportive comment.
yeah, thanks for that input. I'm sure we'll all put a lot of value in it.
that sound you just heard? that was the collective eye roll of hundreds of women.
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i told my friend about that, she's a bit overweight but she has AMAZING breasts. super perky despite their volume. she tried it out, and wound up losing a couple pounds just because she wasn't so stressed out and focused on what she was eating all the time.
i say we all have at least one awesome physical feature... fuck the rest, nobody's perfect.
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you've stumbled onto the wrong website dear.
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That said, the last time I broke up with someone, the first thought in my head was "oh, he met someone prettier/thinner than me." WTF, self? Not "oh, he met someone more successful than me" or "oh, he met someone more fun than me."
Reality did quickly set in. But something is hard-wired there that is difficult to disconnect. If we ever figure out how to do that, I know the world would change.
Fashion magazine editors, as well as the entire staff of Men's Health, will without a doubt be the first against the wall when that particular revolution comes.
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...coming from a city like Vancouver, where everyone seems to be in perfectly-thin yoga shape, I feel totally at ease here with my tits, hips, and ass, and what's more, I still get checked out by the guys. I'm not saying that skinny culture doesn't exist in Latin America, but all sorts of female forms are beloved here.
I don't even know why I mentioned this, or what my point is.
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This, however, is not true in places like Canada, Britain, and Japan, especially.
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No one said you cannot be a beautiful size 12. But, I repeat, you cannot have it both ways. You, or you who eats like a pig and weighs an extra 30 lbs. That is the choice.
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And some women like myself DO eat like pigs but dont gain weight. You have no idea what you are talking about.
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"yet we too often eat like pigs at a trough"
Speak for yourself, sweetie. Some of us are living proof that lowcarb, if you're American, makes you definitively counterculture.
But you don't seem to be that into individualization and critical thinking.
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Sad story related to this post: The other day I was going through old clothes and came across a favorite skirt. It is a size 5. I sooooo am not.
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Re the boots, I would love to be able to tuck my jeans into my boots, but that will not happen any time soon. Unless I go to the store that does boots by shoe size and calf size.
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And for the boots, I speak on behalf of seemingly everyone I know who isn't me. I have chicken legs. I walk on toothpicks. I would LOVE to have calves. But when I wear boots, I feel like I'm wearing galoshes with heels. You can't win with boots.
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It's a UK site, but proof that someone somewhere has taken into account those of us who do not fit in regular boots.
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@AndNowForSomethingDifferent: Yes, I know of what you speak. That is my best girlfriend's boot problem to a T. I really hate how they often put in the elasticized bit up at the top that does nothing for 98% of women. Do they really think an inch or 2 of stretchy bits by the leather are going to get the boot to zip over the calf? Or if it does, not to eventually break or rip out the stitching? Some better cobblers can stretch leather boots, but even that's hit and miss.
Sigh. Clothes that don't fit right are such a drag.
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Why is having a flat stomach so desirable? It's like... impossible for almost everyone. If you are hardcore into exercise and have an 8-pack, yeah, you might have a flat stomach.
But I mean... no one really has a flat stomach naturally. My sister, who is kindof dealing with a borderline eating disorder, is "jealous of [my] body", but my stomach isn't flat. My "pooch" is bigger than hers! I don't give no fuck - it doesn't hang down to my damn knees, so I figure I'm all right.
LET GO OF THE "FLAT STOMACH" BULLSHIT, MY FRIENDS. THERE IS NO NEED FOR THIS ASSHATTERY.
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@Wibbles: Good times, I hear! :D
@vamvaki_poulaki: I kinda think so, too.
@vanka-vstanka: Well, there you are, proving me wrong! :D I did not know this was possible, but now I do. I learned today! :D