If anybody else is still up, I have a question. Does anyone else think that clothes are really exceptionally ugly right now? I really want something new, just an item of clothing, and everything is on sale everywhere right now, so it would seem like the perfect time, but nothing is jumping out at me. Clothes are just so ugly! Did designers decide we should all look like crap for the moment, so that in a couple years they can make some pretty stuff and we'll all spend a lot of money on it? I don't get it.
@formerlydictator4life1: Just get what you like and ignore what's in right now. If nothing catches your fancy try thrift stores. Fuck designers. Wear what you likes :)
@missbitchy: I'm looking at ebay. I can't stand the smell of thrift stores, so that never works. The biggest problem is there is almost nothing at all in stores that I like, and I love clothes, and would buy as much as I could afford, if they weren't so universally ugly! It seems like everything is made to fit like those dresses Angelina Jolie wears -- kind of like a paper bag. Not cute at all.
Anyone have a movie recommendation? I want something stupid/cheesy that I can find on alluc.org or watch-movies.net I wanted confessions of shopoholic but I couldn't find it...
@Residentdrunkgirl: Stupid cheesy chick style, or stupid cheesy dude style? I prefer slapstick "dude-friendly" comedies, so I have a lot of SNL alum movies in my collection, and Kevin Smith. I'm also obsessed with The Big Lebowski.
So my ex bf is coming into town in like 10 days so I've decided to try and cut some calories. This means no alcohol on weeknights for the next two weeks (except thursday counts as weekend night). So i know it's only 8 days total but it still sucks. I invested in two large bottles of nyquil to induce sleep as a replacement.
@Residentdrunkgirl: Wow, this is a strange coincidence, I was actually wondering if Nyquil would be permissible on my diet as a replacement for nightly alcohol.
I am on a diet for the first time ever (I need to lose a bit of weight for health and hotness) and it's been two days and I'm already bored. Sadly, looking good for an ex would be more motivation than just looking good in general.
Unfortunately, I bought generic nyquil because I didn't realize how nasty it is. So I'm debating whether to have some or not.
@goldengirl11 (is way too earnest): For some reason I love the taste of medicine so generic stuff works for me. I bought CVS brand! I think it's alright as a replacement.
I was going to go on a fruit only diet. But I have been having nightly pop corn cravings. Which okay, popcorn isn't too bad for you. But I like it covered in butter. extra butter. Oh god...My stomach just started growling for it.
Fruit only!? Ack, that would make me so sick. I've been pretty much following a vegetarian Mediterranean diet which means I can still eat fats (olive oil, yuuuuum) and whole grains. But, I'm only trying to lose a pound a week. If I was trying to lose a whole lot of weight in 10 days, I'd probably follow a ridiculous diet too.
@Residentdrunkgirl: Ok I definitely need to go watch tv while I zone out. Apparently my half-brother and I don't have checking our email every hour in common, so I should stop torturing myself! Enjoy your Nyquil....night!
@goldengirl11 (is way too earnest): Yeah, I'm not too worried about it. I doubt i'll stick anywhere near to it. I have a cheetos fetish - the puffy ones that melt in your mouth.. MMM.... I am the same weight when were together and he told me then I could gain like 10lbs. But I think that would be disgusting.
I'm also doing it because thanks to this recession, I can't afford new jeans. And I'm sick of wearing the same 5 pairs. I need to lose a few lbs to get back into the old ones!
@Residentdrunkgirl: Ha, is that a hint? I should be getting to bed, or working on my research, but instead I'm refreshing my inbox. Bed is looking appealing though.
@Residentdrunkgirl: I just finished reading through the rest of the thread I missed last night....now what? Movie.. book.. continuing my 3rd day of internet surfing...
@Residentdrunkgirl: Only us Truly Wild Ones are up tonight. In about an hour I will have no business being up. But I'm watching powerful beautiful men hit things on the other side of the world.
@Residentdrunkgirl: I think it's because most folks went to bed fairly early, what with having to work Monday. I, however, am a night owl and slept in this morning, so I'm up.
@R.S.: That's awesome! I'm trying to get my microblog into action. I can never update more than a sentence or two at a time, but for some reason, I really don't like twitter.
@R.S.: I started a blog like twice then decided it was bad idea and stopped. I tend to over share personal stuff so it's probably a better idea for me to not have one.
@Ailanthus-altissima: I have a Twitter account, and I was keeping up with it for a while, and then it just kinda fell flat. But I want to try and do this!
@tinycowboyhats: Everybody loves kittehs! I'll just end every post with "Kittehs." People will love it.
@Residentdrunkgirl: Haha, I should definitely not have a blog. At least this is really anonymous. And I am really good with not oversharing on facebook, I swear.
@Residentdrunkgirl: I'm pretty good at keeping personal things personal. I always ask "would I be ok with my boss or grandma reading this?" That helps a lot. That and my inconsistent updates.
@R.S.: I have mine through blogger, and that makes formatting easy.
@Ailanthus-altissima: This might seem counter-intuitive, but I feel more inclined to ask a personal question here than to talk about it with my friends simply because I am a pretty private person. I ran the sibling dilemma by my fiance and one close friend, but other than that, I just feel awkward talking about my Maury-like family with my friends...
But if I had my own blog, that would be different. And personal stories on the rest of Jezebel are distracting, and as the editors pointed out, often inappropriate.
@R.S.: I feel like my blog would be al ot like my attempts at journaling. An obsession with writing fascinating things, making myself sound interesting and worldly would just give instant writer's block. This is in my own private journals...
@goldengirl11 (is way too earnest): Yeah i was going to write about my drunken antics. But they've tamed down a little bit recently. Damn getting old. And 2 years in DC. Although I have some decent stories in DC. Getting a ride home from a secret service police on his BIKE for example.
@Ailanthus-altissima: Mine's a blogger journal too! I just want to make it...prettier. And more me. I hate having a generic template, and I'd like to figure out the html but I don't want to break anything. Google's failing at help, too.
@goldengirl11 (is way too earnest): I get like that, too. But I figure I gotta get out of performance anxiety and just write what I want.
@R.S.: I have heard from a reliable source (meaning a guy who blogs a lot) that it is difficult to manipulate the blogger templates. Apparently, the code is really easy to break and then you have trouble. I wish you all the luck in the world with it, though, because I can see how having one of 5 or so standard templates just won't cut it.
@Your Screenplay Sucks: Oh, I had a purpose for asking. I'm working on retooling some old stories that a friend is pushing me to write again and I'm always curious as to which monster people prefer. Although, with all the Twilight fever running rampant, a vampire blog probably would get a lot of hits.
@goldengirl11 (is way too earnest): I definitely agree that it is sometimes easier to talk about this stuff through a veil of near anonymity. I didn't mean to implying that it was necessarily bad to share. I just have a unique name and I want a job in academia, so I have to be very careful what I say.
@R.S.: If your blog takes the position that sparkly emo Twilight vampires are the truest literary representation of vampires to date, I guarantee you 5,000 enraged hits & 300 rambling, grammatically chaotic comments per day.
Super personal question! I know we got a warning from the editors not to post personal questions, but this isn't a common situation, and I feel strange asking (most of) my friends.
So, my parents split up shortly after I was born, and I had limited contact with my father, which I don't really remember, but then he passed away when I was 10. He had another family, but I was never interested in contacting them, because I just felt like I had enough in my life, and it was too messy. Now I am 24, and I was looking at a school's website for a grad program, and they had profiles of their students. One of which is very likely to be a half brother. I am an only child, and I just think it might be interesting to at least acknowledge I have a brother, and how crazy is it that he is part of the very program I'd like to be in? So, I wrote him the most awkward quick email, but I want to know what people think about this? Is it stupid to want to contact him? Am I messing with something that is absolutely pointless and will only lead to trouble? Or is it natural to want to at least have an email exchange with someone you share genes and interests with? Thought?!
@goldengirl11 (is way too earnest): Maybe you should start the email exchange just about the grad program, and then let him say "Oh, it's weird that we have the same last name," and then you can say "Yeah, I was wondering if you might be a cousin or something," and proceed from there. That way it's not too "OMG MY LONG-LOST BROTHER!!!!!", and that way if he totally wants to avoid the issue, he can just not mention it.
Goldenboy has a wealth of siblings and family and can't really understand why I think genes matter at all. And for the most part, I do agree with him, but I don't know if it's curiosity, or the fact that my brother seems to be the male version of me (at least from his online presence). If he were a redneck fundamentalist, I probably wouldn't really consider contacting him unless he contacted me first.
@RocktheDebit: Haha, that is almost exactly what I did. I didn't want to get into the specifics of the email, but I awkwardly said I was looking at the bios page because I had some questions, then listed the questions, then was like, "oh, btw your profile jumped out at me because I was wonder if you were related to..."
Then I cracked an even more awkward joke about not being a Nigerian prince. Um, humor diffuses strange situations?
@Residentdrunkgirl: No, I just asked if he knew him. There is a really small chance that it's a cousin. I just think if we exchanged a couple emails only about the program, and then I admitted that I thought I was his sister, that might be a little creepy?
@goldengirl11 (is way too earnest): Best of luck to you@ I have a coworker who found out recently she didn't have one sibiling, rather, she has seven. And she's absolutely thrilled that she has half brothers and sisters she never knew about.
So there's definitely a very positive best-case scenario to this!
@goldengirl11 (is way too earnest): I think if he acknowledges the relation, then you can bring up that you think y'all might be related... otherwise... I dunno. I know I have half-siblings out there because my biological dad was kind of a manwhore (also a complete douche), so whenever I see someone with my former last name who's around my age, I kinda freak out inside.
@goldengirl11 (is way too earnest): He might think you were lying about being interested in the program and came up with the whole story just to find out if he was your brother - so yeah creepy.
@goldengirl11 (is way too earnest): I think getting slowly into it is a good bet. I have much older half-brothers, and while it can be difficult (especially as the youngest), it is cool to have more siblings than less.
@Residentdrunkgirl: That was what I was thinking. But I am currently enrolled in a professional degree at my state school, and even when I started this year, I'd been eying this other program to transfer in to as part of a joint degree...so I think that part at least seems credible. But if I didn't mention it at all...
@tinycowboyhats: Since my dad passed away when I was relatively young, I figure there can't be that many more...
Also, I know my dad was probably a manwhore, but not a douche, and the reason we didn't have contact was sort of beyond his control and rather complicated, but I think if I were in your position I might have the same reaction. I like avoiding messiness, even though I may just have caused a bit of it.
@goldengirl11 (is way too earnest): Best of luck to you with this! I am in a similar situation though I am yet to find my brother. I hope it all works out well for you.
So, I have this friend, who lives in PA, who I don't talk to nearly as much as I used to, or would like to. She messaged me a few minutes ago, to tell me her work friend was strangled to death on friday. The police are looking for her husband.
@FutureDwight: I'm so depressed that I don't have cable, but it's motivation for me to get to the gym to catch the rerun. I feel guilty because I really just enjoy the freak show, but oddly I feel less guilty than when I watch something like Tool Academy to enjoy the freaks. Except Michelle seems like a really nice lady.
I just watched a really fucked up L&O: SVU and I'm absolutely terrified that an ex or someone is going to come after me and burn me or stalk me or murder me or something.
@tinycowboyhats: I watched like three L&Os in a row between 1 and 4 AM the other day and I have been terrified ever since. Don't watch the intense episodes alone!
@Ailanthus-altissima: Haha me neither! I live in a big, creaky old house too. I have actually entered "911" into my cell and walked around my house holding a dumbbell several times this month.
@tinycowboyhats: Ehrm, yeah. I had something bad happen to me last month (i'm fine!), and now i can't watch SVU anymore either. And I used to love it! Now it just freaks me out.
@CherriSpryte: Aww, I'm glad you're fine. I love Mariska, and the L&O franchise in general, but SVU's storylines have been bothering me lately, not because I've had anything happen to me, I really can't put my finger on it. I think it's just too much, honestly. In emotional movies, or movies with dark plotlines I feel like there is more finality, when the movie is over, it's over. In SVU it's just week after week of child rape, assaults, weird incest, etc.
I watched that episode tonight, and was rather horrified by it. Add to that the fact that I watched a scary movie with friends earlier in the evening, and I will def be sleeping with the lights on...
@tinycowboyhats: God, that sucks. I just watched some horrible thing on MSNBC about the Manson "family," and now i feel like propping a chair against the door lest drug-crazed hippies come after me. Serious yucko, and not at all in keeping with Hortense's program of positivity.
Another question. I am hosting a dinner party this month, and one of the guests is gluten intolerant. Since I have no clue what gluten is in (besides most things), do any of the gluten sensitive jezzies have recipe ideas?
Note, I've tried some gluten free pasta and I don't like it. So if you have a brand you love, please let me know.
@dianersb: Check out the gluten-free aisle of your nicer grocery stores to get a sense of what can be made without gluten, and look up recipes online. You might also want to ask that guest for ideas, if you're comfortable doing that.
@dianersb: The first thing that comes to mind (because I don't know the finer gluten-sensitive ins and outs) is - spaghetti squash or zucchini "pasta" instead of the real wheat-based stuff with the gluten in it?
@dianersb: I used Bob's Red Mill and I do NOT know what I did wrong, but they were squishy, not in a good way. I may or may not have followed the directions, so... yeah. I think you can get it at Whole Foods or the regular grocery store, in the organic section :)
@dianersb: I would just skip pasta and processed foods with sneaky gluten. Make something like rice, quinoa, potatoes, or pearl barley for the starch component.
@dianersb: My best friend is wheat-intolerant, and I think I might be-- it makes me itchy and farty, which is no fun. I've just been moving my diet towards the outside of the supermarket-- lots of veggies (potatoes are a good starch and if you cook them with the skins, they're pretty healthy), lean meats, dairy, etc. Quinoa made with chicken broth is unexpected but always tasty for a good starch. Maybe don't do pasta, have bread out but also veggies, and for dessert, instead of a pastry or somesuch, a sundae bar?
Also, if there's a Trader Joe's near you, they have a long list on their website of all their gluten-free foods: [www.traderjoes.com]
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I am on a diet for the first time ever (I need to lose a bit of weight for health and hotness) and it's been two days and I'm already bored. Sadly, looking good for an ex would be more motivation than just looking good in general.
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Fruit only!? Ack, that would make me so sick. I've been pretty much following a vegetarian Mediterranean diet which means I can still eat fats (olive oil, yuuuuum) and whole grains. But, I'm only trying to lose a pound a week. If I was trying to lose a whole lot of weight in 10 days, I'd probably follow a ridiculous diet too.
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@tinycowboyhats: Everybody loves kittehs! I'll just end every post with "Kittehs." People will love it.
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@R.S.: I have mine through blogger, and that makes formatting easy.
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But if I had my own blog, that would be different. And personal stories on the rest of Jezebel are distracting, and as the editors pointed out, often inappropriate.
@R.S.: I feel like my blog would be al ot like my attempts at journaling. An obsession with writing fascinating things, making myself sound interesting and worldly would just give instant writer's block. This is in my own private journals...
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@goldengirl11 (is way too earnest): I get like that, too. But I figure I gotta get out of performance anxiety and just write what I want.
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So, my parents split up shortly after I was born, and I had limited contact with my father, which I don't really remember, but then he passed away when I was 10. He had another family, but I was never interested in contacting them, because I just felt like I had enough in my life, and it was too messy. Now I am 24, and I was looking at a school's website for a grad program, and they had profiles of their students. One of which is very likely to be a half brother. I am an only child, and I just think it might be interesting to at least acknowledge I have a brother, and how crazy is it that he is part of the very program I'd like to be in? So, I wrote him the most awkward quick email, but I want to know what people think about this? Is it stupid to want to contact him? Am I messing with something that is absolutely pointless and will only lead to trouble? Or is it natural to want to at least have an email exchange with someone you share genes and interests with? Thought?!
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I don't think it's unnatural at all. Good luck.
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Goldenboy has a wealth of siblings and family and can't really understand why I think genes matter at all. And for the most part, I do agree with him, but I don't know if it's curiosity, or the fact that my brother seems to be the male version of me (at least from his online presence). If he were a redneck fundamentalist, I probably wouldn't really consider contacting him unless he contacted me first.
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Then I cracked an even more awkward joke about not being a Nigerian prince. Um, humor diffuses strange situations?
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So there's definitely a very positive best-case scenario to this!
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@tinycowboyhats: Since my dad passed away when I was relatively young, I figure there can't be that many more...
Also, I know my dad was probably a manwhore, but not a douche, and the reason we didn't have contact was sort of beyond his control and rather complicated, but I think if I were in your position I might have the same reaction. I like avoiding messiness, even though I may just have caused a bit of it.
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Is it... *eighteen* kids -- I mean "kinds" -- of wrong???
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@sequined: @Ailanthus-altissima: Yeeeeah, I don't think I can watch this show once I live alone. But I love Benson and Stabler! CONUNDRUM.
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Note, I've tried some gluten free pasta and I don't like it. So if you have a brand you love, please let me know.
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@tinycowboyhats: Is it just at the regular grocery store? Whole Foods? Will travel for good cookies.
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