But I also wonder if it might be better for me to stay out of it, and allow people who are consistently marginalised to have one goddamn day to themselves without joiners like me co-opting the party. You know? I really want to be supportive and respectful, but I'm not quite sure what that means, and whether there is any kind of consensus on this within the broader gay community. I'm guessing there isn't.

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I don't know about the events in your area, but in my town we have a big parade followed by the "Pride picnic" which is where we take over a large field, set up a stage, a beer garden, games and lots of booths and have a party. It's here that lots of local queer and queer-friendly businesses and craftsmen will get a table or a booth and peddle their wares. I'd say, if you want to support your Queer community, at least watch the parade (and cheer real loud!) and if you have a festival or celebration like ours, drop in and see what's up! Browse or shop the booths to get an idea of the Queer-friendly businesses in your community! If you feel comfortable, join the party! I can't imagine that anyone would mind. In my experience, no one is really concerned with anyone else's sexuality at those events. It's the more the merrier! Or, if you have time, events like those almost always need volunteers. Why not help out? It's a great way to show support for your local Pride society, it gets you into the party (but not in a co-opting way), and it costs you nothing but time!

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