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10/25/09
I thought I'd made it clear that I don't want to date him, but in light of this article about leading guys on by not answering or being too polite, I responded to his text tonight with a completely unmistakable absolutely fucking not, EVER rejection.
He's all pissy about it now, calling me a bitch.
The lesson: when a certain kind of asshole guy (this accounts for a very small portion of men, in my opinion) sees you as a sexual conquest, he stops seeing you as a human being. Anything you do after that point other than sleep with him counts as cruelty in his mind. As AskMen has so VERY inaccurately purported, men need sex like air. I'm suffocating these men, you guys. What a horrible person I am!
10/25/09
Seriously, this could have been written about my ex-boyfriend.
10/25/09
wtf?!
How presumptious do you think it would be for us to just scream "NO THANKS I HAVE A BOYFRIEND" any time a man approaches us? Seriously. Whatever happened to the concept of just meeting people to meet people, as opposed to just looking at every woman that makes eye contact with you as a potential conquest? Seriously, askmen. Come on.
This reminds me of this guy I used to date who believed that they should mark the hands of unavailable girls in bars or clubs, just like they put the big, black x's on the hands of those who aren't yet 21.
I truly can't believe there are still people like that out there. #brotallyawesome
10/25/09
1. 6 reasons why women sleep around: Whether her heart's been broken or she wants revenge, some women spread their legs for anyone who'll buy them a drink.
WHAT. THE. FUCK.
I sleep around because I want to. End of story. Why the idea that I always have a fucking motivation?
2. Are All Blondes Really Dumb?
How is this up for debate? /headdesk
3. Women Have Become too Easy: If women made sex more of a challenge, then maybe men would stick around for the long haul rather than bail out after bedding her.
What, do you want a fucking obstacle course? And people say we're in a post-feminist world. #brotallyawesome
10/24/09
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10/24/09
Because guess what? Vaginas are not owed to you! Women do not"withhold" sex because to "withhold" something means to deprive someone of something that they are owed! Like, one could "withhold" an infant of breastmilk, or "withhold" a dog of dogfood, but "withholding" sex isn't an actual thing that can happen because men are not just allowed to penetrate our vaginas whenever they want, dominant paradigms to the contrary! When someone does not want to have sex with you, it jsut means that she doesn't want to have sex! It's not withholding because she does't owe you ANYTHING!
Ahh. I had a bunch of prosecco and now I'm a-railin' on the patriarchy. Now I'm going to go try to recite some middle english poetry and it'll be a night! fuck you, patriarchy! #brotallyawesome
10/24/09
10/24/09
If I refuse advances from my man its because I don't feel like having sex... not because I want to get something in return
10/25/09
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10/24/09
I said, "I don't drink anymore," which is true, and surprisingly liberating to say out loud, "and I don't buy drinks for random people that just demand them."
She looked at my Coke & lime and said "You've got a drink right there!"
I laughed and said "I'm sober and you're rude. Take a hike." #brotallyawesome
10/24/09
*sigh* #brotallyawesome
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10/24/09
But then, in articles, you get this redolent excrement. The cognitive dissonance, it is to rip the head in two. #brotallyawesome
10/24/09
10/24/09
Thank you for clearing that up for me -- though I almost wish you hadn't, for the chasm between their real and ideal selves (not to speak of the apparently complete cluelessness thereto) -- they loom so large and long as to be unpassable in this life.
*sigh*
Anyone for Mars?
*starts to pack* #brotallyawesome
10/25/09
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10/24/09
Am I dating a dead person? I am concerned. #brotallyawesome
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10/25/09
@Sorcha: Oh, it's fine, it doesn't bother me, and it's actually me who is stopping it. :D But thanks!
@whats_in_a_name: Excellent! Now, just to learn the difference between these two.
@tobesthewonderdog: We've talked about it extensively and we are on the same page. Thanks for the advice, though!
@Vulcan Has No Moon: Neither, but thanks for the judgment. It is because I am not ready, not because he's lying or broken.
@peachplum: You think I can sell the rights for the story to someone? Could I get a reality show? AWESOME.
@Hana Maru: We have talked about this extensively and are on the same page about it. :)
@sumerfish: Nope. I am currently not ready to have sex, and that is why we aren't having it.
@Ri_L: As I said before (haha, sorry, but I want to reply individually, and now I feel like I'm just copy-pasting, and paranoid, sorry), we have talked about it. Concerns have been discussed and we are in an understanding. :) #brotallyawesome
10/24/09
10/24/09
9) nobody is forcing you to buy her drinks, if you think she's taking unfair advantage of you....stop buying drinks for her.
8) Open your damn mouth, if you think she wants to leave you...ask. Supposedly you're both adults in this situation act like it and communicate with each other.
7) This may sound trite, but guess what...men do it to. And again, open honest adult communication will do much to end this so called cruelty.
6) How about we just end this stupid sexist "rule" and all agree that other than self defense it is never right for anybody to hit anybody else regardless of gender. Also, men I've heard from very reliable sources that admitting that somebody abused you will not make you less of a man.
5) Again, everybody does it regardless of gender, and its just as despicable when a man does it as a woman. And once again open honest communication is key to ending this
4) If you're not sure....ask, yes it is not very nice of somebody to lead you on like that but not everybody has the same definition of flirting, what you thought was obvious romantic intentions on your part may have bean interpreted as simply being friendly by her.
3) I actually know more men that do this than women, which really is beside the point, but I'm getting tired of telling people to f-ing talk to each other.
2) Does anybody actually do this? And once again, communication is key.
1) Yup, thats pretty low, have you ever considered asking her why she might be doing it? could it be that she is getting tired of watching you flirt with other women? have you talked to her about how it makes you feel?
And now i'm going to go take a shower, I feel dirty from reading the Ask Men list, and would like to ask Ms. Miller to kindly stop writing on my behalf. #brotallyawesome