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    How The Internet Helps Wives Cheat On Their Husbands

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    Image of Jrsy Devil's Advocate® Jrsy Devil's Advocate®
    03/20/09

    In reply to How The Internet Helps Wives Cheat On Their Husbands
    If a woman needs the internet to get laid I'd say she's doing it wrong.
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    Image of Jack_Burton Jack_Burton
    03/19/09

    In reply to How The Internet Helps Wives Cheat On Their Husbands
    I'm pretty sure that cheating spouses are using Craigslist, Facebook and MySpace more than any "specialized" sites...
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    03/20/09

    @Jack_Burton: My thoughts exactly.
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    Image of hungryhungrycaterpillar hungryhungrycaterpillar
    03/19/09

    In reply to How The Internet Helps Wives Cheat On Their Husbands
    I think y'all are being a bit harsh on these women. Sure, cheating in general is a horrible thing to do, but if I were married to someone who had given up on sex I'd sure as shit be looking for it elsewhere (after counselling, talking, and a good interval of time and every effort to make it hapen between us, and letting him know that I might be looking elsewhere). I don't think anyone deserves to be condemned to a sexless life, and if one partner isn't into it, why should their beloved have to go without forever and ever?
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    Image of bess marvin, girl detective bess marvin, girl detective
    03/19/09

    @hungryhungrycaterpillar: what's stopping them from getting a divorce? the last time i checked, no one is forcing these women to stay with their spouses?
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    Image of veronykah veronykah
    03/19/09

    In reply to How The Internet Helps Wives Cheat On Their Husbands
    Don and Betty Draper do not just struggle through their marriage.
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    Image of thebestofjillhives thebestofjillhives
    03/19/09

    In reply to How The Internet Helps Wives Cheat On Their Husbands
    Did he just say, "cannibalizing on an existing human behavior"... did he mean to say "capitalizing" on? Some sort of creepy Freudian slip?
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    Image of MarissaExplainsItAll MarissaExplainsItAll
    03/19/09

    @thebestofjilhives: That's some freaky shit he's into, I'll tell you what.
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    Image of Le Kangourou de Kataroo Le Kangourou de Kataroo
    03/19/09

    In reply to How The Internet Helps Wives Cheat On Their Husbands
    I'd be upset no matter what if I found out I were being cheated on, but I'd be 100 times more upset if I found out I were being cheated on of a website. Like he put forth the effort to cheat on me instead of impulsively making a bad decision. Neither is right, but the looking for an affair seems more wrong.
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    Image of bess marvin, girl detective bess marvin, girl detective
    03/19/09

    In reply to How The Internet Helps Wives Cheat On Their Husbands
    I guess this silences the smug marrieds jezebels who say things like "thank GOD i'm married" as if being married absolves you from cheating or being cheated on.
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    Image of LaComtesse LaComtesse
    03/19/09

    @bess marvin, girl detective: Who even does that?
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    Image of HuckleberryFriend HuckleberryFriend
    03/19/09

    @bess marvin, girl detective: I don't know these "smug marrieds jezebels" you speak of. I've heard more mature and open-minded discussions about marriage here than anywhere else on the intertubes.
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    Image of Dita Dimoné Dita Dimoné
    03/19/09

    @bess marvin, girl detective: Well, if that response didn't scream "jealousy" from the rooftops.
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    Image of bess marvin, girl detective bess marvin, girl detective
    03/19/09

    @Dita Dimoné: ha, yes. i'm incredibly jealous at my young age to not be married. girl, go to sleep cause your reasoning is tired.


    @LaComtesse and @HuckleberryFriend: there are two comments on this board and on past boards dealing with infidelity with married jezebels expressing such statements. and at huckleberry, no where in my statement did i say that mature and open-minded discussions weren't being expressed at jezebel. just that

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    Image of Vivelafat says Sweep the leg, Johnny. Vivelafat says Sweep the leg, Johnny.
    03/19/09

    @bess marvin, girl detective: Thank GOD I'm married.
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    Image of bess marvin, girl detective bess marvin, girl detective
    03/19/09

    @Vivelafat is the Quizat Haderach: see first comment. and i'll add that i hope this article doesn't apply to you for good measure.
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    Image of RedHotz RedHotz
    03/19/09

    @bess marvin, girl detective: I can't speak for any of the other ladies that are married here as I can only speak for myself. When I married my husband I took my vows very seriously. My first husband cheated on me and I know how that feels and I would never put anyone through that hell. If I ever got to a point in my life where I wanted to step out on my marriage then there is only one option for me to do and that is leave the marriage.
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    Image of Eric Northman is mine Eric Northman is mine
    03/19/09

    @bess marvin, girl detective: Definitely haven't seen these types of comments on jezebel but my cousin says shit like this all the time. IMO, smug married couples are just insecure, if you're secure in your relationship; you dont act like you're better than your single friends just because you're married, act like marriage is the be all end all or try to lord your relationship over others. Biz please!
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    Image of bess marvin, girl detective bess marvin, girl detective
    03/19/09

    @RedHotz: thanks for your statement. you would think i was attacking everyone on jezebel.
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    Image of vamusical vamusical
    03/19/09

    @bess marvin, girl detective: Wow Yeah I can't IMAGINE why anyone would take offense at your comment.
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    Image of LaFemme LaFemme
    03/19/09

    @Sookie Stackhouse: @Dita Dimoné: @HuckleberryFriend: @LaComtesse: I am not defending this comment, but I think I may know where it comes from: a lot of the STD threads, from awhile ago. I have found those threads to sometimes bring out two poles and a lot of defensiveness, that I don't normally see with people. It kind of goes like this: there is the "Thank GOD I am married and will never get an STD" post, then someone says "well, you never know, cheating does happen" then "fuck you, i take marriage seriously and so does my husband, that would never happen!" and then a third unrealistic person chimes in with "Well personally, I have been married for 5 years and we ALWAYS use condoms."
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    Image of bess marvin, girl detective bess marvin, girl detective
    03/19/09

    @LaFemme: i don't need my comment to be "defended". i don't see anything wrong with what i said. it just looks like some people are looking to take anything to heart.
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    Image of LaFemme LaFemme
    03/19/09

    @bess marvin, girl detective: Ok, well I take it back. Your comment about married jezebels wasn't really coming from anything, it was just snarky, unnecessary conjecture. Got it.
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    Image of Crabby Cakes Crabby Cakes
    03/19/09

    In reply to How The Internet Helps Wives Cheat On Their Husbands
    GMA is really just a laughingstock at this point. They're shit makes Kathy and Hoda look like Super Reporters!


    (Well, maybe no quite...)

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    Image of BlondeGrlz BlondeGrlz
    03/19/09

    In reply to How The Internet Helps Wives Cheat On Their Husbands
    I got married because I am LAZY. Why screw that up with a time-consuming, effort-filled, affair? All that lying and sneaking and trying to meet someone else when I have a perfectly good man to ignore at home. I need a nap just thinking about it.
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    03/19/09

    @BlondeGrlz: I know, right? How much effort, just to avoid talking to your hubs about your problems.
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    Image of lilbobbytables lilbobbytables
    03/19/09

    In reply to How The Internet Helps Wives Cheat On Their Husbands
    Affairs aren't glamorous or funny? I'll be damned.


    *facepalm

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    Image of TheUptightMidwesterner TheUptightMidwesterner
    03/19/09

    In reply to How The Internet Helps Wives Cheat On Their Husbands
    My best friend always says "The more men I meet, the more cats I buy"
    I am glad to be married- I couldn't handle dating nowadays.
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    Image of TheUptightMidwesterner TheUptightMidwesterner
    03/19/09

    @TheUptightMidwesterner hasn't smoked in 30 days but is stil...: I hit send too soon- I meant I couldn't hand dating nowday and I certainly couldn't have an affair. Too much fucking work- I don't even time to wash my hair.
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    Image of Whiskey and Popcorn Whiskey and Popcorn
    03/19/09

    In reply to How The Internet Helps Wives Cheat On Their Husbands
    The idea of an affair boggles me. I have never had a single male interested in me, so the fact that some women have enough admirers to have an affair with makes me pretty envious.
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    03/19/09

    @JanicefromSA: Whiskey and popcorn: Don't fret. I'm sure men have been interested in you but maybe you just didn't notice. Maybe they weren't up to your standards so you didn't see them? Regardless, love yourself first and foremost and good things will come (that's my motto and I'm stickin to it).
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    Image of Le Kangourou de Kataroo Le Kangourou de Kataroo
    03/19/09

    @elephantshoes: Like Ru Paul says every show - "If you don't love yourself, how the HELL is anyone else going to love you?"
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    Image of happysquid happysquid
    03/19/09

    @Le Kangourou de Kataroo: "Cuz if you can't love yourself, ain't no WAY you can love somebody else! Can I get an amen?"


    (**Thanks for reminding me - I am 2 WEEKS behind on my DRAG RACE watching!!)

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    Image of sarah.of.a.lesser.god (aka Mrs. BrutallyHonestHobbit) sarah.of.a.lesser.god (aka Mrs. BrutallyHonestHobbit)
    03/19/09

    In reply to How The Internet Helps Wives Cheat On Their Husbands
    It takes two people to cheat. The women are sleeping with men. The men know they are married. Ergo, men are also fucking culpable in this situation.
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    Image of vamusical vamusical
    03/19/09

    @sarah.of.a.lesser.god (aka Mrs. BrutallyHonestHobbit): Homewrecking is an equal opportunity activity!
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    Image of LaComtesse LaComtesse
    03/19/09

    @sarah.of.a.lesser.god (aka Mrs. BrutallyHonestHobbit): I'd say the non-married person involved in an affair is an enabler and probably a jerk (assuming they know the other person is married) bvut they are not equally culpable. The non-married person never made a promise to the person being cheated on: the married person DID.
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    Image of sarah.of.a.lesser.god (aka Mrs. BrutallyHonestHobbit) sarah.of.a.lesser.god (aka Mrs. BrutallyHonestHobbit)
    03/19/09

    @LaComtesse: I didn't say equally culpable. I actually just did a blog post about culpability in a situation like this and it's murky. But knowing you're having a relationship with someone who is in a committed relationship with someone else (and without their partner's knowledge) gets no gold stars from me.
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    Image of LaComtesse LaComtesse
    03/19/09

    @sarah.of.a.lesser.god (aka Mrs. BrutallyHonestHobbit): Nor from me. Not even a bronze star, even. I agree that it's murky. "Asshole" status is definitely in place, but I don't know if I would consider someone guilty if there's no agreement between themselves and the wronged party. I'll read your post and see what's what, though.
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    Image of Eric Northman is mine Eric Northman is mine
    03/19/09

    @sarah.of.a.lesser.god (aka Mrs. BrutallyHonestHobbit): I know right, what's with the real desperate housewives tag line on the video segment.
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    Image of LaFemme LaFemme
    03/19/09

    @LaComtesse: I wouldn't use the word "guilty" because they aren't bound by anything, so they can't really be "guilty" of violating any kind of agreement, they don't owe anyone anything. They can just feel guilty, as they were a part of something that is morally dubious. And they can be guilty of being an assholes.
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    Image of pear.shaped.Sara pear.shaped.Sara
    03/19/09

    In reply to How The Internet Helps Wives Cheat On Their Husbands
    Before the internet, you had to tell your love interest's kid sister to run and give her a note for you, then chase the kid like hell when you realize you accidentally handed her the much saucier version of said note.
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    Image of katie.scarlett.o'hara katie.scarlett.o'hara
    03/19/09

    @pear.shaped.Sara: FRIEND!
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    Image of taranwanderer taranwanderer
    03/19/09

    @pear.shaped.Sara: hehehehe...brilliant.
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    Image of Vivelafat says Sweep the leg, Johnny. Vivelafat says Sweep the leg, Johnny.
    03/19/09

    @pear.shaped.Sara: This usually ends with fucking in the library though so..... it has its upside.
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    Image of Beat Girl Beat Girl
    03/19/09

    In reply to How The Internet Helps Wives Cheat On Their Husbands
    I think the point here is that it's HOUSEwives. Not just wives. It could equally include househusbands, if the US media would acknowledge their existance.
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    Image of schlegs84 schlegs84
    03/19/09

    @Beat Girl (formerly Miss Carrie Nation): What is this you speak of? "House-Husband" Pardon my stammer I have just never heard of such a thing. How humiliating for the man; how shameful for his wife. I think you should take your dirty "Househusband" words to other parts of the internets.
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    Image of lilbobbytables lilbobbytables
    03/19/09

    @Beat Girl (formerly Miss Carrie Nation): How does that make a difference? No snark, I am just curious.
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    Image of Beat Girl Beat Girl
    03/19/09

    @schlegs84: I won't lie, I made it up. I would never degrade a man in such a fashion, my boyfriend is too manly and breadwinning, for sure.


    ahem.

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    03/19/09

    @lilbobbytables: I've known this to happen close to home, so I'm going by my experience.


    Basically, lots of free time while the spouse is at work for huge hours can mean plenty of time to become disillusioned and lonely, and seek attention elsewhere. In the situation I know of, the wife was able to communicate with her affair guy was because it was the internet - no trackable calls, no out loud conversation her husband could overhear (when he was home), all communication via emails with secret passwords.


    The only reason it makes sense to me that someone who's a housewife is more likely to have an affair is the loneliness and oft-felt rejection of their busy, tired husband with his own, separate worklife. Switch the sexes and it works exactly the same.

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    Image of dearheart dearheart
    03/19/09

    @schlegs84: Shiiit, I don't even think that word is English!
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    03/19/09

    @dearheart: I wouldn't know. I am only a simple lady with a tiny lady brain.
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