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And okay, before I lose my point entirely, let me suggest that for a lot of guys, much of what we see from women consists of women's efforts to avoid looking like they're "sexual beings with agency."
Now, any guy who's gotten to know a few women learns to look beneath surface appearances like that. But as a baseline assumption, can you see why many guys presume that women wouldn't go to such lengths to obscure their "agency" if in fact they truly felt it as strongly as, say, we do?
Because we guys sometimes think we know what "agency" feels like. Of course, we habitually overestimate the extent of our knowledge, but to us "agency" -- well, now let me use a different word, "desire" -- is usually not something one gains by concealing or denying. So some of us are puzzled when women do seem to conceal or deny it.
That's all. It's not much, but it's enough of an assumption to make exaggerations like this flowchart kind of funny.
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Do you want to have sex? Y/N.
If no, okay.
If yes, how?
CONTINUE FROM THERE.
If you can't have an honest, straightforward conversation about sex with a person, do you really want to have sex with them? I'd feel weird about it. I mean, I can understand that sometimes, shit is embarrassing, but if you can't ask/give consent, that's all kinds of messed up.
If something's weird, CALL IT OUT.
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The big question for me would also be: Gonna put on a condom? ------> Yes, you will be having sex tonight. If no, then no.
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Small steps.
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There, I fixed it.
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Have I shaved my legs that day?--> Do I have the day off tomorrow?---> Is it last call at a 4am bar?--> Am I speaking with you?----------->
The spirits say you will probably get laid.
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Incredibly rich gets you automatically laid on a first date? Buy her drinks until she is drunk.
This is just charming.
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Did she giggle?/scowl?/push her tina fey glasses up the bridge of her nose, roll her eyes, and say she already saw that piece of juvenile oppression on jezebel and maybe you two should talk?