I like the Conrad Hilton bit because I believe that Conrad (or maybe his son, I'm not too sure) purposely tried to keep his children from inheriting control of the Hilton empire. He didn't believe that they had the ability because of their privilege to run his legacy. He wanted it controlled by a board of trustees (event though the Hilton children were left fabulously wealthy, just no hotel empire). Paris's father fought the will (or her grandfather, I can't be sure) and regained control over the Hilton dynasty. So, Paris and her worthless family were never meant to have control of the business and are everything that the founder despised about the rich. I always found that ironic, that she has become the icon of someone who is absolutely undeserving of their wealth when she was never suppose to be this heiress.
When Don says, "you people," to Sal, my grandmother turned to me and said, "I think my stomach just dropped." This from a woman who was living in George Wallace's Alabama in 1963, to a 20-something year old man who was born during Wallace's last term. It's like finding out someone you've enjoyed your first date with discriminates against some group; the good is instantly negated.
I love this show beyond words, and this episode really cemented for me the correlation between the civil rights issues of the day and those of now. When Betty says about how maybe it just isn't time for civil rights, it is eerily reminiscent of the reaction of the current government about how the gay rights movement should perhaps wait because it's just 'too much, too soon.' We know how the Vietnam War didn't prevent the Civil Rights Movement to take root, and I think the notion that what is happening overseas right now, and the healthcare situation, should in no way impact our desires for equal rights in our times as well. Mad Men is wonderful to be so prescient about this.
Another thing that really worked on so many levels takes me back to what someone said downthread, that these people are middle-class conservatives. But the truth is, these people aren't arch-right conservatives; they are much more centrist than their contemporaries, and the conversation at the fundraiser amongst these so-called Republicans about how deplorable segregation is reinforces that these people really are on the left side of the issue- that is what makes Don's homophobic remark and Betty's apathy towards civil rights so deplorable, is that these are our left of mainstream proxies.
Finally, I must say that although I am disappointed that Peggy has slipped into the background, I love the idea that Sterling Cooper will see the walls fall in around them. Don's disappointment to Conrad, Sal's dismissal and the continuation of the series-long struggle with Lucky Strike: nothing is permanent, and I look very much forward to seeing where these people are in 1968 and 1970. I hope the series continues to skip years, because I want very much to see the fall of Don, and the rise of Peggy and Betty and Joan and Sal and everyone else who is struggling to be modern while being held back by those who still think the world is 1958 when it is not.
@ampersandparade: excellent observations regarding the civil rights movement vs the gay rights movement. i know i am days behind in commenting, but i just watched the episode on tivo tonight and came straight here to see just this kind of intelligent discourse. :) #madmenrecap
@Crackers In Bed: No worries, with this bizarro new Gawker commenting system, it leaves me a message, so I can come back and communicate with stragglers like you. Technology is amazing. #madmenrecap
@ampersandparade: That got me too, the parallels between progressive groups always being told that "maybe now isn't the time." I think it's parallels current gay rights, but also women's rights of the time. Don said much the same thing to Peggy, and it just shows how easily people can think something is too much work or can wait when it doesn't effect them directly.
@tiredfairy: And I think when you see that look on Carla's face when Betty says to her that maybe it just isn't the right time, you're seeing that same fear that women had, that they have now, that gay people have now as well: that if we let them tell us to be complacent, we will just slide back into that awful abyss we knew before. And that's really scary, and fear is a powerful thing to carry with us, to provoke us to move forward. I understand the Civil Rights and Women's Lib movements so much more now as a young gay adult than I ever did from what I learned in school, almost exclusively from that fear of going back into the abyss. #madmenrecap
I think the hardest thing about this episode was that we heard characters we like (or are trying desperately to like) portray attitudes we hate. Betty's a racist? Don's a homophobe? Sometimes I think we forget (or at least I do) that the Drapers are upper-middle class conservative whites living in the early 60s. They're hardly outliers, and if they were constantly championing the outcasts, it would actually be really inauthentic.
@girl.of.your.dreams: this episode was particularly devastating because its thematic undercurrent was the dissolution of fantasy - Betty's fantasy's about how fulfilling her life should be but is not; how an affair would fill that void but does not; how Don's fantasy of his ability to smooth his way into anything he wants is both encouraged and challenged by this supposed father figure; and most devastating, how a sympathetic figure like Sal could have his fantasy both presented to him and taken away in such a cruel way.
In the background, the country's collective fantasy of its own clean, white, straight and narrow image was being shattered thru its own violence and cruelty. And only more violence to shake the country to its core is being foreshadowed.
These themes are highlighted masterfully by the art direction - such attention to period detail allows the viewer (and many of us jezeposters) to be swept into the fantasy. Oh, the costumes! The sets! We collectively swoon, then recoil in shock as the grim reality of the era sets in - this could never happen today! Alas - fantasy is timeless, and we carry our own still.
As with all good art, we are allowed to at once participate in and witness from a distance the lessons being taught and learned by the characters as their own development unfolds.
This episode, however hits shockingly close to home...
Fuck, this episode was just so.. disturbing. The whole thing just made me spin into a really bad place, seriously. I had to just go to bed afterwards.
When Don alluded to Suzanne about what a coincidence he "ran into" her while running, it just made me laugh. Carlton told Don she ran early in the mornings. It's kind of DISAPPOINTING seeing how unsmooth and fake and phony Don is when we know the whole story. It really annoyed me. I just feel like he is seducing her because his work-life is going so terribly and he's losing control. He needs to be in control of something, so he embarks on an affair! He hasn't had one of those since Rachel, really.
But yeah, the entire episode I kept on being disappointed by every character. Which is great because it's a new feeling from this show, but wow, it was so palpable.
Apropos of the theme of the post I found this episode to be disappointing (I hate when Mommie and Daddy fight...and by that I mean Roger and Don). But I will say that I appreciated the subtlety in the fundraiser scene as the ladies have a liberal right circle jerk about how the SOUTH is still in 1863 as Carla comes in in full maid's apron to serve them. Funny how these remarkable speeches and events are just background noise to people who are so wrapped up in their silly melodramas they are virtually blind to the changes around them.
You know what's not disappointing though? Whats that gleaming by the noble TransFat moniker? Why, tis a star! Yes my grey brothers and sisters, you too can one day break the chains of obscurity if you believe in the power of SmartAssery and well placed Simpson's allusions.
This show has made me cry twice since I began watching it. Once when the previous Bobby, who I thought was a better Bobby than current Bobby, turned to Don and said "we have to get you a new Daddy." The second time it made me cry was when Sal got fired for defending himself and not letting himself be abused by that Lucky Strike asshole.
@biglar07: Sal's face crushed me, and that scene really made me think about sexual assault and harassment. Sal is a pretty big guy - bigger than his harasser - and yet both the unwelcome touching and its consequences really clearly demonstrated how power isn't always physical. Sal looked so diminished in both scenes it was really astonishing.
@tea_for_two: Isnt' it also nice to have an actual storm as a thematic symbol without someone saying, "there's a storm a-comin'". That cliche needs to be taken behind the shed one day.
Don is an a-hole
Betty is an a-hole
Pete is an a-hole
Roger is an a-hole
Peggy will probably turn into an a-hole one day, too.
Sometimes I wonder why I watch this show when almost no one is worth rooting for. I guess the same could be said about The Sopranos, though.
Does this mean that most of us are probably a-holes, too?
@dummypants: I'm gonna say we all have a-hole tendencies. But there is, I think, a parallel between the Sopranos and the 1960s in that the characters are really trapped in these worlds. There is (or was before the recession) a lot more choice and freedom in the world most of us inhabit. Most of the characters last night were acting out in the face of the confined lives they lead -- even Don isn't really free.
@pmarble: sure, but they are upper middle class, straight white people in the 60s. if they aren't free, who is? certainly carla is a living a life that is a lot more confined, as is Sal. i don't feel particularly bad for the Drapers, given that their only major problem is that they are unwilling to look different, to do something exceptional with their lives. (what will the neighbors think!)
@PrincessOfPower: I love that I hearted you because every time I see your comments I'm reminded of what an astute commenter you are. You are wholly right. Carla's liberation is one of those things I am holding my breath on, simply because I know even into the seventies these boundaries still existed in certain enclaves, but I certainly have much more empathy for her plight than Betty's. That being said, I think it's brilliant that Betty, someone who is treated lesser than by her male contemporaries, has someone to treat lesser than. I wonder if this has something to do with her complacency, because she feels because she is at least above someone she isn't being wholly oppressed by Don and the whole goddamn patriarchal system.
@dummypants: Root for Joan, and root for Sal. Out of the 23452 storylines in this show, those two are the most interesting to me. Also, I have high hopes for Sally.
@PrincessOfPower: I think it's less about feeling sorry for them, and more about looking at the cultural strangulation that was going on at the time at every level. Being privileged, which they are, doesn't mean you aren't still stuck in these kinds of rigid roles...either because you believe you have to be because you know nothing else, or because your options are more limited than people realize. Our society coerces us into the American Dream at every level, and it's a false promise.
Yes, characters like Carla have it way worse. And I think the show makes that apparent, that their struggles are coupled with a privilege and a blindness to that privilege other people don't have. But the Drapers, especially Betty, are extremely stuck. Women at that time were just starting to realize what they could do, to carve out the choices that we now take for granted, and don't understand why they didn't just do what we can do now with ease.
And let's not forget that both Don and Betty are extremely screwed up emotionally. All the money in the world can't free you from that if you dont' know what's wrong and have no outlet for it.
The 60's were about huge social upheavals at every level and this particular deconstruction of the levels of privilege is really interesting.
I also thought there were a lot of boundary issues in the show, possibly going hand-in-hand with the disappointment. Characters violating boundaries and then the consequences. The civil rights movement and changing boundaries. Sal's near-rape and Don's blithe dismissal of Sal's anguish. Hilton violating professional boundaries by calling Don at home at all hours and then telling Don he was like a son. It's like the moral and social fabric has come unglued. Very interesting.
The other thought I had about this episode was, Sal just got treated like every other women who works at that company. How many women do you think were let go because they refused to "put out?" Not that what happened to Sal wasn't awful but then again, I never saw Sal express very much empathy or regret towards the woman of Sterling Cooper either.
@Island of Misfit Toys: I think you're likely right about the first... but the final show of the season (at the moment) seems to be scheduled for November 8th.
I find all the Conrad HIlton stuff excruciatingly boring. I get it, daddy issues/self made men blah blah. I feel like they're really hammering that point home a little too bluntly. It feels over the top.
I don't understand how people are hating on this episode. It's wonderfully layered and nuanced. The actors totally sold it.
I almost cried during the Don/Sal scene and clapped when Betty threw the money box.
We're not supposed to like the characters all the time. But they are supposed to act in a way the inspires, angers, sympathize with the public. For me, this was one of the best episodes
@Mina_da_mad_child: I think it's just that the disappointments were hard to watch -- they can hit home, especially on a Sunday night. I felt as if this episode was very reminiscent of The Sopranos. The firings are like getting whacked and the infidelity and conflicting loyalties are pretty much on par.
@pmarble: It's funny that you said that. Originally I started watching the Mad Men because of my intense Soprano's withdrawal and I had heard that the creator of the show had been a writer on the Soprano's. The first two seasons of Mad Men had minimal violence. This season is very "whack heavy." And Sal's firing on Mad Men was as painful to watch as Adrianna's murder on the Soprano's.
@Steve Holt's Mother Part Deux: Last night was the first time it really hit home for me. I think it was the way everyone was spinning out of control and acting out. I was just watching the whole Sal thing play out and thought "Sal just got whacked." It's funny because we kind of know where so much of this is going, unlike with the Sopranos. But they still manage to suprise us and mess with our heads.
@Mina_da_mad_child: I mean, I hated the episode because it was hard to watch and terribly depressing; I loved the episode because it was good enough to be hard to watch because it was terribly depressing within the plot--not because the acting or writing was so terrible. It was an excellent episode, but depressing.
Does anyone find Mad Men increasingly hard to watch? It used to be a period TV show, and now it's kind of a documentary on how much life sucks. On the one hand, it's important in that it brings up so many social issues that are still problems today (and these Jezebel threads are awesome, so thanks for that), but as a show all the major characters are getting more and more unlikeable as the decent ones (Sal, Joan...at this point they're the only decent ones I can think of) disappear.
@FrabjousDay: I do. "On the one hand, it's important in that it brings up so many social issues that are still problems today."
I think that is what the problem is for me. They do it too much and in every episode. In the 1st and a good portion of the 2nd season they were able to balance it where you could see the parallels, but they weren't beating you over the head with it every second. And the symbolism isn't even as subtle anymore.
This season is really off, I'm just hoping it doesn't get worse.
You know the reaction to Don in this episode, is really fascinating.
In other words it's fine to be an asshole to women, but don't be an asshole to the gays.
Everybody swooned over Don when he was womanizing and treating his wife like a child, but the minute he scolds Sal he's a jerk and people won't be able to look at him the same. Interesting.
@checkyaself: Meh, I didn't like him when he was "just" womanizing. I caught myself this entire episode going, "No Don, damn it, leave her alone! Stay faithful! I want to like you! God damn it, Don!"
@checkyaself: It's not quite like that. For me anyway, my shock had more to do with the fact that Don seemed to sanction Sal's "homosexuality" when he saw him in the hotel with the bellhop. To follow that open-minded and accepting reaction with his behavior last night was appalling.
@winner: I don't think Don was necessarily open minded as much as not giving a crap about Sal and the bellhop because it didn't interfere with work, his personal life wasn't his business. But once Don felt Sal's homosexuality interfered with work, in Don's mind, it became his business. My personal opinion is that Don would have behaved the same if it were, say, Peggy in the same situation. I think it was Don just being an asshat of a boss.
@BelleBreezing:
Exactly! When Don is at work, he's about the work and what it takes to get it done, other than that he really doesn't care too much about what his colleagues do.
@winner: I don't think Don sanctioned Sal's behavior. I think he looked at it as something he was doing in his private life, and Don takes his own privacy VERY seriously. I read it as more of a "I don't want to know about your personal life, and I don't want you to know about mine."
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I love this show beyond words, and this episode really cemented for me the correlation between the civil rights issues of the day and those of now. When Betty says about how maybe it just isn't time for civil rights, it is eerily reminiscent of the reaction of the current government about how the gay rights movement should perhaps wait because it's just 'too much, too soon.' We know how the Vietnam War didn't prevent the Civil Rights Movement to take root, and I think the notion that what is happening overseas right now, and the healthcare situation, should in no way impact our desires for equal rights in our times as well. Mad Men is wonderful to be so prescient about this.
Another thing that really worked on so many levels takes me back to what someone said downthread, that these people are middle-class conservatives. But the truth is, these people aren't arch-right conservatives; they are much more centrist than their contemporaries, and the conversation at the fundraiser amongst these so-called Republicans about how deplorable segregation is reinforces that these people really are on the left side of the issue- that is what makes Don's homophobic remark and Betty's apathy towards civil rights so deplorable, is that these are our left of mainstream proxies.
Finally, I must say that although I am disappointed that Peggy has slipped into the background, I love the idea that Sterling Cooper will see the walls fall in around them. Don's disappointment to Conrad, Sal's dismissal and the continuation of the series-long struggle with Lucky Strike: nothing is permanent, and I look very much forward to seeing where these people are in 1968 and 1970. I hope the series continues to skip years, because I want very much to see the fall of Don, and the rise of Peggy and Betty and Joan and Sal and everyone else who is struggling to be modern while being held back by those who still think the world is 1958 when it is not.
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In the background, the country's collective fantasy of its own clean, white, straight and narrow image was being shattered thru its own violence and cruelty. And only more violence to shake the country to its core is being foreshadowed.
These themes are highlighted masterfully by the art direction - such attention to period detail allows the viewer (and many of us jezeposters) to be swept into the fantasy. Oh, the costumes! The sets! We collectively swoon, then recoil in shock as the grim reality of the era sets in - this could never happen today! Alas - fantasy is timeless, and we carry our own still.
As with all good art, we are allowed to at once participate in and witness from a distance the lessons being taught and learned by the characters as their own development unfolds.
This episode, however hits shockingly close to home...
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When Don alluded to Suzanne about what a coincidence he "ran into" her while running, it just made me laugh. Carlton told Don she ran early in the mornings. It's kind of DISAPPOINTING seeing how unsmooth and fake and phony Don is when we know the whole story. It really annoyed me. I just feel like he is seducing her because his work-life is going so terribly and he's losing control. He needs to be in control of something, so he embarks on an affair! He hasn't had one of those since Rachel, really.
But yeah, the entire episode I kept on being disappointed by every character. Which is great because it's a new feeling from this show, but wow, it was so palpable.
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You know what's not disappointing though? Whats that gleaming by the noble TransFat moniker? Why, tis a star! Yes my grey brothers and sisters, you too can one day break the chains of obscurity if you believe in the power of SmartAssery and well placed Simpson's allusions.
I am super soaker psyched, thank you editors!
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I hope so! The feminists are coming!
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Betty is an a-hole
Pete is an a-hole
Roger is an a-hole
Peggy will probably turn into an a-hole one day, too.
Sometimes I wonder why I watch this show when almost no one is worth rooting for. I guess the same could be said about The Sopranos, though.
Does this mean that most of us are probably a-holes, too?
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Yes, characters like Carla have it way worse. And I think the show makes that apparent, that their struggles are coupled with a privilege and a blindness to that privilege other people don't have. But the Drapers, especially Betty, are extremely stuck. Women at that time were just starting to realize what they could do, to carve out the choices that we now take for granted, and don't understand why they didn't just do what we can do now with ease.
And let's not forget that both Don and Betty are extremely screwed up emotionally. All the money in the world can't free you from that if you dont' know what's wrong and have no outlet for it.
The 60's were about huge social upheavals at every level and this particular deconstruction of the levels of privilege is really interesting.
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I guess people at SC are just glorified prostitutes.
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And AMC will show it on Sunday, November 22, 2009.
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I almost cried during the Don/Sal scene and clapped when Betty threw the money box.
We're not supposed to like the characters all the time. But they are supposed to act in a way the inspires, angers, sympathize with the public. For me, this was one of the best episodes
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I think that is what the problem is for me. They do it too much and in every episode. In the 1st and a good portion of the 2nd season they were able to balance it where you could see the parallels, but they weren't beating you over the head with it every second. And the symbolism isn't even as subtle anymore.
This season is really off, I'm just hoping it doesn't get worse.
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In other words it's fine to be an asshole to women, but don't be an asshole to the gays.
Everybody swooned over Don when he was womanizing and treating his wife like a child, but the minute he scolds Sal he's a jerk and people won't be able to look at him the same. Interesting.
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Exactly! When Don is at work, he's about the work and what it takes to get it done, other than that he really doesn't care too much about what his colleagues do.
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