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morninggloria
07/14/09

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I always thought that "love" was something for tennis people.
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pantsless economist...access RESTORED
07/14/09

@morninggloria: Love means NOTHING! NOTHING!
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counterclockwise
07/14/09

@morninggloria: In that case, love is for losers.
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PreposterousHypothesis
07/14/09

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This has already been analyzed by the esteemed Meatloaf, in his paper "I would do anything for love: But I won't do that," exploring the disconnect between romantic feeling and personal conviction.
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counterclockwise
07/14/09

@PreposterousHypothesis: He also publicised a really interesting paper on amnesia, called "It's all coming back to me now"
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Dodgergirl
07/14/09

In reply to Love, What Is It Good For?
L is for the lone partner who wants kids

O is for the oversized age difference.

V is very very... financially wary.

E is even then/ your last divorce might screw you again...
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badmutha
07/14/09

In reply to Love, What Is It Good For?
All I am going to say is that I have seen situations that match all of these findings. Especially the one about getting married before 25. People change, and then they look at each other at 35 and don't even want to be with that person anymore. It just happened to my brother in law.
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pantsless economist...access RESTORED
07/14/09

@badmutha: That's a good point. Plus, being in love really only is one part of the equation. There's a huge issue of compatability, living habits, etc...
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andBegorrah
07/14/09

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Thankfully hate can still last a lifetime for no good reason. Other than "YOU AND YOUR STUPID FACE," of course.
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BabyJane
07/14/09

In reply to Love, What Is It Good For?
If I want to know if my relationship is going to last, I look to something a little more reliable.

Thanks, Magic 8-Ball!
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badmutha
07/14/09

@BabyJane: Don't forget your trusty Ouija Board!
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save jinger
07/14/09

@BabyJane: Ask again later...
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token_illiterate_commenter
07/14/09

In reply to Love, What Is It Good For?
I'm a white male married to a white female 6 years younger than me. That should give me a +1 in this equation. My wife earns 50% more than I do. That's probably a -10. Hmmm I guess I should have a divorce attorney on speed dial. I almost went through life thinking that loving each other was enough. Thanks Science!
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Penny
07/14/09

In reply to Love, What Is It Good For?
I guess that it depends on how you define the L-word?

Or, as Dee-Lite said, what is love?
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WantToTouchtheWahine
07/14/09

@Penny: I think it's directly related to whether or not your baby hurts you.
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cuteasabutton
07/14/09

@Penny: I thought it was this guy?
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Zwitter
07/14/09

In reply to Love, What Is It Good For?
Love? Huh! Good god, y'all.
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badmutha
07/14/09

@Zwitter: What is it good for? Absolutely nothing (say it again)
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save jinger
07/14/09

In reply to Love, What Is It Good For?
I ran a study that proved that studies don't prove anything.
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BabyJane
07/14/09

@save jinger: That's nice, but I ran a study that negated the findings in your study.
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NefariousNewt
07/14/09

@BabyJane: And I ran a study which called into question your study, and all other studies on studies. I'm looking for more grant money to do a follow-up study on studies and how they are studied.
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sallysparrow
07/14/09

@BabyJane: But my study found that 9 out of 10 dentists agree that studies are infallible.
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BabyJane
07/14/09

@NefariousNewt: I am planning on studying the origins of studies, perhaps we should share our findings?
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NefariousNewt
07/14/09

@BabyJane: I'll give that idea serious study.
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BabyJane
07/14/09

@sallysparrow: My study suggest that the dentists that you studied were actually undercover researchers studying your study.
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LindsayC: doctoral hilarity ensues
07/14/09

@BabyJane: I read on cnn.com that your study was funded by the Society to Study Studies (SSS). So, it's probably biased.
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Scout
07/14/09

@sallysparrow: Dentists aren't real doctors...try again :)
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Scout
07/14/09

@BabyJane: I'm hoarding all my findings as studies suggest sharing results in plagiarism
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save jinger
07/14/09

@sallysparrow: My study found that 1 out of 10 dentists is an asshole who is just trying to be difficult.
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BrutallyHonestBabes (aka Mrs. Sarah.of.a.Lesser.Hobbit)
07/14/09

@BabyJane: My study on the causes of studies and their effects on other studies causes studies to be studied causally.
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LindsayC: doctoral hilarity ensues
07/14/09

@BrutallyHonestBabes (aka Mrs....: And that's not to be taken casually.
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Norton
07/14/09

In reply to Love, What Is It Good For?
Aside from the fact that I hate studies that try to put overly simplistic science over every emotion and relationship human beings experience - WTF? Don't you learn that correlation =/= causation before you get to do a scientific study?
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LindsayC: doctoral hilarity ensues
07/14/09

@Norton: They didn't actually imply causation. They simply identified factors that can contribute to the longevity of a relationship. And it had a HUGE sample size, so I'm going to go ahead and say they probably found some reliable results.
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Norton
07/14/09

@LindsayC: dissertations are overrated.: Eh, Sadie's (probably sarcastic) overview did:

the fate of your relationship is actually in the hands of your age differential, parental history, smoking habits, and bank account.
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Norton
07/14/09

@Norton: Also, the Reuters article falls into the same trap:

Living happily ever after needn't only be for fairy tales. Australian researchers have identified what it takes to keep a couple together, and it's a lot more than just being in love.

As though marrying somebody with your smoking habits, your age, your income, and similar background is going to guarantee a happy marriage. It's not. It means that there probably won't be as many sources of friction/power dynamics.
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Sadie
07/14/09

@Norton: Yeah, that was my sarcasm ;)
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LindsayC: doctoral hilarity ensues
07/14/09

@Norton: Yes the Reuters article reported as media usually do- they make the piece exciting or controversial to increase readership. If you read closely, however, they do a fine job of noting that these were merely factors, not causes. It was one of the better reports on research I have read lately.
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Norton
07/14/09

@LindsayC: dissertations are overrated.: @Sadie:

Okay fine, I concede. :)
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Scout
07/14/09

@Norton: ..having less things to fight about can certainly SAVE a relationship. So, again, her is yet another study simply regurgitating common knowledge/sense
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sara-without-an-h
07/14/09

In reply to Love, What Is It Good For?
Why do people finance these studies? Can't we find less obvious topics to research? Is anyone else irritated at the amount of "studies" on relationships?
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SkipToMyLou
07/14/09

@sara-without-an-h: Joking aside, it is actually important to work out why people get divorced. It shows us what biases/structures there are in place to support whose relationships andwhat arrangements are valued. And, if we decide that we what to make a change to the statistics that the study shows, it informs policy that can do that.
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sara-without-an-h
07/14/09

@SkipToMyLou: Could you elaborate on that? I don't understand what you mean by policy: who has the authority to stop divorces?
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SkipToMyLou
07/14/09

@sara-without-an-h: If the study showed that people with, for example, a lack of family support to raise young children often ended up divorced, and we wanted to reduce the number of people getting divorced, one way to do that might be to create community centers that provided early childhood support. That's all.
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Scout
07/14/09

@SkipToMyLou: or vasectomies for all males
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JennaW
07/14/09

@sara-without-an-h: Be careful or the study apologists will get you.

I got fwapped yesterday for questioning the point of silly studies, and I better see some fwapping going on with this thread, or I'll be forced to fund a study to determine the nature of inequity as it relates to comment thread smack-downs and distribution of same.
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sara-without-an-h
07/14/09

@JennaW: Ha! I will bow to the apologists. And thank you for clarifying, SkipTomylou!
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JessicaLovejoy: Laughing, riding, cornholing!
07/14/09

In reply to Love, What Is It Good For?
"Studies" are for nerds. Everyone knows that love longevity depends on whether you have a vodka luge and a chocolate fountain at your wedding.
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WantToTouchtheWahine
07/14/09

@JessicaLovejoy: Laughing, riding, cornholing!: And a stripper pole in your living room...Kendra says.
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SkipToMyLou
07/14/09

@JessicaLovejoy: Laughing, riding, cornholing!: vodka luge and a chocolate fountain: for one sec I read that as huge vodka fountain and I thought "yeah, that actually would facilitate my love".
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LindsayC: doctoral hilarity ensues
07/14/09

@JessicaLovejoy: Laughing, riding, cornholing!: We had a cash vodka luge because we couldn't afford an open one. What does it mean for me and Mr. C???
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WantToTouchtheWahine
07/14/09

In reply to Love, What Is It Good For?
Screwed, screwed, screwed, and screwed. Looks like I better go get screwed while I still can, we're DOOOOOOOOOOMED.

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SkipToMyLou
07/14/09

In reply to Love, What Is It Good For?
heeeey Sadie... look at you with your cute science boyfriend there!
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Sadie
07/14/09

@SkipToMyLou: We tested this potion, and then everyone who heard our voices fell in love with us, and hilarity ensued, and there was this antidote, and a gypsy....and then we realized that we were meant for each other because we both had Einstein posters in our foyers!
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