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I think a lot of it is that we just don't see women as a "threat", sexually, to anyone...let alone other women. It's still sexism at work. And that weird form of lesbian chic where lots of people assume every woman is potentially bi-ish (although really, we all know they crave dick). It's so it can remain a male fantasy of lesbianism, as evidenced by that ridiculous quote above.
It makes sense to me that female sexual harassment would be taken less seriously for longer, since female harassment in general is. And then there's the larger issue of bullying, even in the grown up world that, if some of the comments here have been any indication...plenty of people just dismiss it as something you should "get over" or "deal with" and that it's your fault if you don't. Grown up harassment behaviors are, to me at least, just the adult version of bullying. Which, since we don't take it very seriously in kids, I'm not at all surprised we don't in adults until we have to.
Our victim blamey culture really pisses me off.
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I'm bisexual and in a committed relationship with a man, but many of my friends don't see why I shouldn't have 'girls on the side'. Once at a party I ended up making out with a married woman (I was single at the time) and was torn up by guilt and my friends told me it was okay because she was married to a guy. I've had people tell me that a woman can't lose her virginity to another woman, or that sex or cheating 'doesn't count' with a woman. Even if that supposedly works out to my advantage (some sort of fidelity loophole or way to avoid the 'slut' label) it really really bothers me because it seems to lead to situations like this post describes. Also if I end up marrying a woman, I'd like that relationship recognized and treated just as validly as a heterosexual one. I don't like my real emotions and desires being viewed as some sort of show for male observers.
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With men, I'm afraid that I could always be overpowered.
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In my experience, in medicine, most men don't seem to think of themselves as smarter or better than women, but a subset do tend to prefer relationships that subscribe to traditional gender roles. Obviously, small sample sizes and generalizations, but the image of douchey, self important man-lawyer seems pretty prevalent and I was wondering if it's grounded in experience.
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I believe that the law profession in general, as well as those of either sex who practice it, is historically considered douchey:
"The first thing we do, let's kill all the lawyers." - Henry VI, Part 2, William Shakespeare
(I understand that line really rocked the Globe.)
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Does anyone else see the irony in this phrase? Shouldn't it be like "pussy eating lips?"
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And while I agree that it should not matter at all what sex the perpetrator is, I have to admit that I think I would feel less threatened by a woman saying the above things than a man. Though both obviously create an uncomfortable work environment.
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