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TaffyDavenport
12/09/08

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4 days late and counting, but these blogs are helping calm the big A nerves.

Semi-related question: what is everyone's BCP of choice? After a hellish experience with Ortho Tri-Cyclen, I swore off the pill for a few years, but now with my stomach in knots over my impending period, I'm realizing it might be the time to hop back on them..
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AthertonMerriweather
12/09/08

@TaffyDavenport: I use condoms. Most people don't like them, but every pill I've been on has made me super depressed and given me crazy acne. My boyfriend doesn't mind wearing one, it's super easy and cheaper than the pill or any other BC with my health insurance.
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AtomicBellyButton
12/09/08

@TaffyDavenport: I have an IUD, and I think it's super. Low maintenance, lasts for years, non-hormonal. I recommend them to everyone I know.
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Mkp-hearts-NYC
12/09/08

@TaffyDavenport: I've tried Aviane, which worked and had relatively few side-effects. Now I'm on..something I can't remember the name of (awesome) but it's making me moodier than the old one used to be. I'm afraid of IUDs and "copper crosses" etc, so as little as I like hormones they're the best option for me.
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AvocadoGills: purveyor of kinky fish porn
12/09/08

@TaffyDavenport: Ortho Tri-Cyclen Lo made me more and more depressed over a period of about 9 weeks - very odd, as I'm usually a super happy, social kind of girl. When I locked myself in my room for two days, I knew it had to go.

Now I'm on Microgestin, and it's wonnnnderful =) Talk to Planned Parenthood. They know their birth control, and they helped me through to finding a pill that didn't make me crazy.
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morninggloria
12/09/08

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Morninggloria's Menstruation Blog

Day 1:
I'm perioding all over today, so much that I soaked through two super tampons in 5 hours. When I took the tampons out, they hit the water in the toilet and splashed me. Why do I always have to poo when I'm on the rag? Makes for extra gross trips to the bathroom and a moment of extreme panic when I flush- what if the toilet clogs?!

Day 2:
Today, I cried during one of those etrade baby commercials on Bloomberg. I accidentally dropped my tampon on the way to the bathroom and one of my male coworkers saw it. Why are guys so afraid of menstruation? What's so gross about shedding the uterine lining?

Day 3:
Not as bad anymore. I tried to use a pantyliner but then I realized that I'm wearing a thong, plus pantyliners make me feel like I'm wearing Blood Diapers.
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AthertonMerriweather
12/09/08

@morninggloria:
Day 4: Date night. I think my period is over. It better be because I want some straight up nasty sex.
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CloudsInMyCoffee
12/09/08

@AthertonMerriweather: I think that's when you know it's at its height.

@morninggloria: I almost fell out of my chair laughing at Day 1. I poo more than I would think humanly possible.

Day 5: Thought period was over, but uterus decided it wasn't ready to rest. Had to skip panty liner and go straight for tampon. Still pooing like a mad woman, but accidentally got poo on tampon string while wiping; now flushing a barely bloody tampon that I imagine looks like a red and white dollar sign. Tried to better my mood by reminding myself how fun it is to say tampoon instead of tampon.
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morninggloria
12/09/08

@CloudsInMyCoffee: How about PoonPon?
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truckasaurus
12/09/08

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Not really a fan of this. I am super pro-choice but I feel a little worried that this sort of blogging will do more harm than good to the cause. I've read one of these abortion blogs before and it was written in a really flippant, joke-y kind of way.

Clearly, a woman has a right to feel whatever she feels when she has chosen to have an abortion, but I can't help but feel that broadcasting abortion jokes and punchlines on a blog only feeds into the stereotype that the pro-choice contingent takes abortion lightly and are just a bunch of unrepentant baby killers.

That being said, I think the tone of the second blog posted is a bit better (aside from the "what would be on your abortion playlist" question) - not as sensational. Until we can get across the basic facts that abortion isn't murder and that no, it won't necessarily fuck you up for life if you have one, pro-choicers should be more careful about giving anti-choicers any ammunition.
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Pizza!Pizza!Pizza!
12/09/08

@truckasaurus: While I can definitely see your point, it reminds me a bit of the whole backlash prompted by Chris Hitchens' and Richard Dawkins' recent books on atheism. Suddenly the religious right was being attacked, and entire book displays had to be put up with anti-atheism books. As if there wasn't already an entire 1000-book section devoted to religion already.
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Pizza!Pizza!Pizza!
12/09/08

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Un-Expecting is a great little read (though I suppose all these things have an, uh, expiry date). Lots of interesting bits relevant to many Jezzie abortion discussions. The idea that abortion is such a hot topic because it involves a woman exercising ultimate power over life and death rather than staying passive ('I keep having fantasies that when I get to the office (aka "the hospital in france") for the procedure the doctor will do the ultrasound and tell me that I've miscarried and won't actually have to go through with the procedure'), that the abortion/guilt link is a bit of a chikcen/egg issue ('I can't help but think that I would be less freaked about this if it weren't such an *issue.* Would I feel this scared about getting my wisdom teeth out?')...
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awesomesauce
12/09/08

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I think anyone choosing to blog about something with such stigma should be encouraged, because God knows that we need people to stop being all Judgey McJudgerton.

Semi-related, I had a dream last night that I was getting an abortion. Considering that I'm a virgin who's not even in a relationship, it freaked me the fuck out.
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AtomiClash: humanitarian misanthrope
12/09/08

@awesomesauce: OMG you're knocked up with the second coming.
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Jack_Burton
12/09/08

@awesomesauce: I agree with you, understanding comes with discussion rather than suppression.
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jurisenpai
12/09/08

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The prospect of getting knocked up terrifies me. Like, even though we use condoms AND I'm on the Pill, I'm so scared that the BC is going to fail and I'll be screwed.

Anyone else have this fear?
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amowls
12/09/08

@jurisenpai: I'm terrified of pregnancy, which is why I'm thankful for abortion! YAY!!!
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AtomiClash: humanitarian misanthrope
12/09/08

@jurisenpai: For the sexually active woman, getting your period is like Christmas morning.
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jurisenpai
12/09/08

@amowls: If I got knocked up, I'd run to Planned Parenthood as fast as my legs would take me. I just don't want to go through the pain and hassle, you know? Ugh, I wish men knew what it was like to feel this way...
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tscheese
12/09/08

@AtomiClash: Oh dude, this morning I looked down at the toilet bowl and I was like "SCORRRRRRE".

I almost did a victory lap, but it was like 5:45AM and my apartment has hardwood floors and neighbors beneath me.
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RiotGrrrl
12/09/08

@jurisenpai: When I was feeling funny and I skipped the period pills and went onto the next pack, I made note of where the closest abortion clinic is and bought a test. For some reason abortion is a huge liability issue in Nevada and there aren't many clinics, if any in Northern Nevada (Reno) so I'd have to drive 2 hours to the closest CA clinic. Not pregnant but I had it all planned out just in case.
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tomatoheart
12/09/08

@RiotGrrrl: why did you skip the period pills?
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Pizza!Pizza!Pizza!
12/09/08

@jurisenpai: This is why so many women are masochists. If you're sexually active but don't want kids (and really, what woman wants a kid every time she has sex, Duggars excepted?), when you feel that pain and see that stain you've got to be a bit thankful. So you end up equating pain and pleasure in many wonky ways.
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jfk1624
12/09/08

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Jeez, if only my years of abortion as birth control had coincided with my having a tumblog maybe I coulda been anonyfamous.
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sarah.of.a.lesser.god (aka Mrs. BrutallyHonestHobbit)
12/09/08

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I wish I had the time to write a blog about the pregnancy experience because I think it would be fun to look back on it in 20 years. But there are so many blogs about that floating around that mine would hardly be worth it.
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Crabby Cakes
12/09/08

@sarah.of.a.lesser.god (subservient to the ovumlord): But it's worth it to you! And you're right, how fun would it be to look back on 20 years from now, or on boyvumlord's 18th b-day?
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LindsayC: doctoral hilarity ensues
12/09/08

@sarah.of.a.lesser.god (subservient to the ovumlord): It doesn't have to be a blog though- it could be a good ol' fashioned journal. It would probably be the kind of thing your ovumlord will enjoy reading one day as well.
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Vzbrst
12/09/08

@sarah.of.a.lesser.god (subservient to the ovumlord): Great idea, possibly wrong medium... I suggest a diary.
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BrutallyHonestBabes (aka Mrs. Sarah.of.a.Lesser.Hobbit)
12/09/08

@sarah.of.a.lesser.god (subservient to the ovumlord): I would read it, if only for the pregnancy puns.
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BlondeGrlz
12/09/08

@sarah.of.a.lesser.god (subservient to the ovumlord): I write a pregnancy blog but it's pretty much just for my friends and family. Actually, I would prefer my family read it LESS, since I tend to overshare, but it's a great way to get pregnancy and baby-related advice. And I'm hoping the internet is still around in 20 years so my kid can read it and feel guilty for all the pain he caused.
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sarah.of.a.lesser.god (aka Mrs. BrutallyHonestHobbit)
12/09/08

@LindsayC: doctoral hilarity ensues: @Vzbrst: Yeah, a diary is probably better. I'm just so used to doing everything on computers.

@BrutallyHonestBabes: And...I got nothing! No puns at the moment! I have failed you!

@BlondeGrlz is having a BlondeBoyz!: Hah! "Do you know HOW MANY pieces of perfectly good pizza you forced me to puke up? Let's not even talk about my coffee deprivation issues, young man."
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Spaceman Bill Leah
12/09/08

@BlondeGrlz is having a BlondeBoyz!: I did the same thing and now it's a baby update blog. Unfortunately, people I work with also started reading it and were then endlessly entertained about my posts about my cervix, giant boobies and other fun preggo stuff.

Not that I care because I would talk about that stuff to their faces too if I had enough beer in me.
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BlondeGrlz
12/09/08

@Spaceman Bill Leah: I'm going to blog stalk you now. For real.
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Spaceman Bill Leah
12/09/08

@BlondeGrlz is having a BlondeBoyz!: You may get disappointed because now that I have a nearly 1 year old, somehow I don't have the time or energy to post as much.

Plus other than my office party hijinks, I am really dull.
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Penny
12/09/08

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I generally don't have strong opinions about blogs, as I don't really read them. I did, however, take a peek at Dooce last night and I could really see how nice it must be for mothers who don't feel so....mother-ish, I guess, to see that there is someone out there with whom they can relate.

Basically, I get it more now. But I probably still won't read blogs.
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BrutallyHonestBabes (aka Mrs. Sarah.of.a.Lesser.Hobbit)
12/09/08

@Archetype: I was checking out Dooce yesterday, too, and all the pregnancy stuff made me feel very odd. Sorta yearney, which is not how I typically feel. Maybe I'm actually feeling more ready to reproduce now that the clock is my enemy. I'm going have to take Dooce in small doses from now on.
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amowls
12/09/08

@Archetype: Jezebel is a blog.

Lol sorry I knew what you meant, I just felt like pointing that out.
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Penny
12/09/08

@amowls: I know, I just thought THAT went without saying as I am always on here :-)

I was also talking specifically about journal type blogs.
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BuffySummers
12/09/08

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Wow...I would never have thought you could actually feel that many symptoms after only being pregnant for a few weeks??
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Penny
12/09/08

@BuffySummers: Which is precisely why I've mistaken myself for pregnant about 10 times in the past year!
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sarah.of.a.lesser.god (aka Mrs. BrutallyHonestHobbit)
12/09/08

@BuffySummers: Oh believe me, you can. I was all vomity by week 3.
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tscheese
12/09/08

@Archetype: I had a little, uh, encounter that left me needing some Plan B a week or so ago. So I dutifully marched up to the pharmacy counter, paid for it, took it, and didn't feel too bad, overall. I felt a little grouchy for a few days but I was otherwise fine.

This morning, I woke up with a godawful feeling in the pit of my belly. My face looked weird and my tits felt like, eight sizes too big. I felt nausea tingling around the very edges of my throat and sinuses, I was way more exhausted than I should have been after a night's rest, I was ready to FUCKING LOSE MY SHIT.

Then I was like, "Wait, I'm going to pee before I flip out. Can't have a proper freakout session if I gotta piss."

Then my vagina was like "LOL SYKE!!11 U CAN HAZ MENSTRUASHUN!!11" So I went and got some pads and some Advil and went about trying to figure out how I was going to zip up my pants.

So, I guess my vagina has a great sense of comedic timing.
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Dottie Gale
12/09/08

@tscheese: I can usually tell when I am about to start my period because of my absolute certainty that I am pregnant.

(Except for the times when I actually was pregnant, which I also 100% knew before the tests were even positive.)
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Mkp-hearts-NYC
12/09/08

@tscheese: *crying from laughing so hard*
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AthertonMerriweather
12/09/08

@tscheese: Comment of the day! I'm laughing so hard my boss is giving me nasty looks.
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tomatoheart
12/09/08

@BuffySummers: oh hells yes you can...and i'm secretly convinced my hips grew 3" and still haven't gone back to their normal place because of those 8 weeks of being k-nocked up.
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hellosunshine
12/09/08

@sarah.of.a.lesser.god (subservient to the ovumlord): ...which is why I took a test today after freaking out because I've been queasy and vomity for the past two days. Only in the AM. My uterus is still up for rent!
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bananastand
12/09/08

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I'm glad. I'm happy there are more and more online resources with views other than, "Aborting? Man, you're going to be depressed."
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Crabby Cakes
12/09/08

@bananastand: "Years from now, when you're settled down, you'll really regret this."
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BuffySummers
12/09/08

@bananastand: Agreed. Either that or abortion as ABORTION! THE MOST GRAVE ISSUE DISCUSSED EVER. It's interesting that she talks about this week's Gossip Girl episode (Lily's "hospital in France" storyline) because I think it illustrates exactly the kind of thinking that blogs like this will hopefully help combat. She's a fully grown, successful (or at least wealthy?) mother of two and it will ruin her life if people found out she had AN ABORTION!!!! when she was a teenager? Please. It's an incredibly serious issue, but I really wish we could take it off that pedestal.
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Jessi Ramsey
12/09/08

@BuffySummers: totally off topic but I don't think Lily had an abortion.
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Penny
12/09/08

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I am certain there are many more out there. Isn't the blog-world pretty clogged?
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BrutallyHonestBabes (aka Mrs. Sarah.of.a.Lesser.Hobbit)
12/09/08

@Archetype: I think we should coin the term clogosphere
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