Everyone who is complaining about chafing while running, I have one word: BodyGlide. You can buy about twenty sticks of it for the cost of one pair of athletic Spanx.
@Fridge Hussy: A Hussy Re: Fridges!: Whoa. Whatever happened to flagging down a server? That's what we do.
Srsly, the fact that no one is impressed with either of these stories should theoretically tell the OP something about her behavior...
Srsly, the fact that no one is impressed with either of these stories should theoretically tell the OP something about her behavior...
@MissContrarian: You were one day over their 14-day return policy - thus, you were not complying with it.
Had I been standing behind you I would have been horrified.
Had I been standing behind you I would have been horrified.
What the shit?
I've visited this site, like, five times in the past four months after being a daily participant for well over two years, and each time I find myself gobsmacked by the depths of fuckwittery. But before it was just like, annoying Cosmo-lite sex-n-boys writing. Now it's all this pseudo-intellectual anti-woman bullshit. "Freed from the idea of 'consent'?" I don't even know what to say.
What the fuck happened to this site? I used to love it so much.
I've visited this site, like, five times in the past four months after being a daily participant for well over two years, and each time I find myself gobsmacked by the depths of fuckwittery. But before it was just like, annoying Cosmo-lite sex-n-boys writing. Now it's all this pseudo-intellectual anti-woman bullshit. "Freed from the idea of 'consent'?" I don't even know what to say.
What the fuck happened to this site? I used to love it so much.
@drinkwater is a neglected masterpiece: My mom sometimes takes it.
@FrankiTheB: Coffee Talks is gonna need y'all to bring Miz Jenkins back: Yeah, I was thinking about this in the shower - I do all my best thinking there! - and I was like, why shouldn't someone fight against this? I mean, it's one thing if the person's behavior actively hurts someone else, but for something like sex work...I don't know. I know I have an issue with mandatory drug testing. I mean, a guy I used to work with, who was great at his job, got in a fender bender in a work vehicle, and he did the mandatory pee test, and he failed because he'd smoked pot. And so they fired him.
*sigh* Like I said, complicated.
*sigh* Like I said, complicated.
@FrankiTheB: Coffee Talks is gonna need y'all to bring Miz Jenkins back: I'm responding again because I realized it sounds like I don't support what this woman is doing, which is not true - I do. But I also think this is one of those things where she had to know that she was putting her job at risk by doing this.
It's complicated, that's for sure.
It's complicated, that's for sure.
@FrankiTheB: Coffee Talks is gonna need y'all to bring Miz Jenkins back: I think it depends on who you are and your level of commitment to either the ideals or the career. I think that if you have kids to feed, then you might think twice about pursuing this outside activity if it is going to cost you your job. It depends on the person. My point is that a lot of people have to deal with these sort of constraints on their personal lives as a result of their jobs. (And in the case of journalists actively campaigning in partisan politics, I don't think it's really all that awful that most outlets see that as unethical and thus verboten, if only because credibility is such a fragile and yet totally essential thing.)
@SarahMC: I doubt you are bad at sex. However, I have also wondered why it seems like so many feminists (myself included) are into power play and sexualized violence in bed. Because damn, it sometimes feels like a lot of us are.
The weird thing is that I am into these things, even though I feel confident that, if we lived in a world where sex and violence were not so mingled in our every day lives, these desires would not be as common as they are. I think that, for me at least, these kind of desires are my body's way of reacting to a profoundly ill society in a way that gives me pleasure. Does that make sense? It does in my head. :/
The weird thing is that I am into these things, even though I feel confident that, if we lived in a world where sex and violence were not so mingled in our every day lives, these desires would not be as common as they are. I think that, for me at least, these kind of desires are my body's way of reacting to a profoundly ill society in a way that gives me pleasure. Does that make sense? It does in my head. :/
@Black_Swan: UGH. "Bad boyfriend" is right!
I have never before thought of having my guy hit me during sex but this essay sure makes it sound appealing.
@MsTriste: I'm sure there are. I've enjoyed it a few of the times I've done it, but not every time. The times I didn't like it were the times I felt it was expected of me, while the times I enjoyed it, it was like offering a little extra something to my partner, who wasn't expecting it.
@bobella is owltastic!: My only thought as to why it's different is because it's one thing to ask for pain while it's another thing to ask to be able to inflict pain. If you are asking for the pain, you want it, and you'll be the only one getting it. If you are asking to inflict the pain, you'll be hurting someone who doesn't really want to be hurt.
That said, there is no harm in asking, and I am sure there are some partners who would be into it. On the other hand, if he DOESN'T ask? That's when we've got a problem.
That said, there is no harm in asking, and I am sure there are some partners who would be into it. On the other hand, if he DOESN'T ask? That's when we've got a problem.
@philoclea: This is true. I work in news, and we are not really allowed to participate in, say, any kind of activism around electoral politics. There are certain professions that occupy an elevated position in the public eye and as a result certain limits are place on those professionals' behavior. Arguments can be made all day and all night about the fairness of these expectations, but the fact is, they exist for lots of people and they probably will not be going away any time soon.
@Ipomoea: It's unfortunate that people are like that, but my husband - a recovering alcoholic - made the point that anyone who is that discomfited by your abstinence should probably do a bit of soul-searching themselves. People with healthy relationships to alcohol don't care if others don't drink. People who might have a drinking problem feel threatened by it, for a variety of reasons.
I totally recognize that people have very different experiences and very different ways of coping with trauma, and so my experience is hardly illustrative of all.
But I will say that there has never been a time that I did not know I was raped and molested, that I could not tell you what had happened and how and when and with who. I was a tiny, tiny little girl at the time, like I am talking toddler-age, and those memories are as vivid as if they happened last year. In fact, there are things that actually happened last year that I don't remember as well as I remember being raped.
Again, this is just my experience, but man, my experience is so far away from what I hear when I read about recovered memories of sex abuse.
But I will say that there has never been a time that I did not know I was raped and molested, that I could not tell you what had happened and how and when and with who. I was a tiny, tiny little girl at the time, like I am talking toddler-age, and those memories are as vivid as if they happened last year. In fact, there are things that actually happened last year that I don't remember as well as I remember being raped.
Again, this is just my experience, but man, my experience is so far away from what I hear when I read about recovered memories of sex abuse.
@Euryale: Whoa, that is fucked up and awesome.
@FitzChivalry: Seriously, by wiping him out after one season they are putting him on the same level as Maryann, which is so wrong it hurts.
@doit2julia: I laughed my fucking ass off at that.
