She may be unlikable, but the facts support her claims. You can be shady, fake, narcissistic, etc. and still be truthful about abuse. People want a perfect victim.
One time a guy actually said, "You smell really fresh." I don't know what book he'd read, but I'm sure it came from one.
That's so funny you brought up Homer because when someone is doing that to me and I space out I imagine those old time-y black and white cartoons that play in Homer's brain from time to time.