@lucrezialuxe: Maybe I've always read into Disney movies differently, but the female mains have been kick ass for a really long time. Belle was kick ass. Jasmine was kick ass. Mulan kicked everyone's asses literally! And while Ariel ended up needing rescuing because of her own bad decisions, the whole movie was her yearning to express herself outside of the role given to her.
BREAKING: 50% of College dudes think girls making out with other girls is like, TOTALLY HOT.
@SlayBelle: Thanks for the recc! Downloading!
@AvalonBright: I think maybe it's more about the marketing of pink and the worry that the kid is buying into all of that (because, really, how can she not?) There was a great article on how pink was marketed into a 4yo psyche - the reason they tend to like it so much is because that age is when they're trying to force through confusing thoughts about gender and identity related to such:
[www.nytimes.com]
In that sense, I can understand how, as a parent trying to raise the most awesome "aware of feminist issues" girl kid ever, you can get a little hung up about a color. I agree that he shouldn't forbid her from liking it (BACKLASH! REBELLION!), but I don't see what's wrong with challenging her every now and then on why she likes something.
But then again, I personally hate the color pink. So maybe I'm biased in that I would actually be happier seeing much, much less of it.
[www.nytimes.com]
In that sense, I can understand how, as a parent trying to raise the most awesome "aware of feminist issues" girl kid ever, you can get a little hung up about a color. I agree that he shouldn't forbid her from liking it (BACKLASH! REBELLION!), but I don't see what's wrong with challenging her every now and then on why she likes something.
But then again, I personally hate the color pink. So maybe I'm biased in that I would actually be happier seeing much, much less of it.
@LuckyDice: Woah, like cygnette, I'm quite shocked by the vitriol in your post. Nothing girl_ninja said even insinuated that the role of the judge is important in how her family treats her - all it said was that she hopes that the judge's decision doesn't lead to bad treatment. You're the one throwing in the variable of what she does or doesn't deserve, and in a very rude way.
@Alys Brangwin is wedded to calamity: Right, I once dated a guy whose parents didn't know about his two full sleeves of tattoos up until they got on Facebook. I bet they' wondered why he always had hoodies on, even in the summer.
I tried to force my cat to watch this in an attempt to get her to play nicer with my sister's dog - she just cowers in fear anytime he comes near.
I don't think she got the message
I don't think she got the message
@Jonescat: Yeah, my mom and dad both are like that. Super supportive, very loving, but so. obsessed. with. my. weight.
And my figure in general. My dad actually gave me a list of three physical aspects I needed to watch out for - apparently my eyebrows aren't dark enough, my boobs aren't big enough and I really ought to do sit ups or something because my waist is thicker than it should be.
Thanks dad!
And my figure in general. My dad actually gave me a list of three physical aspects I needed to watch out for - apparently my eyebrows aren't dark enough, my boobs aren't big enough and I really ought to do sit ups or something because my waist is thicker than it should be.
Thanks dad!
@TragicSpinsterNYC: Because you're trying to get someone to ruin you!
@smacd: Well, as an "Asian American"/"Chinese American," I get you on that.
@♥AntiSocialSocialite♥: One of a boyfriend's friends actually said to me "Yeah, well, you're Asian - that's why he likes you."
I guess you'll always find those people somewhere for any type of interracial dating.
I guess you'll always find those people somewhere for any type of interracial dating.
@smacd: I thought people said African American because other people told them that saying black was racist.
At least that's what I was told when I first came back to the States (lived in Asia for most of my life), and I was always a little confused by it, but if that was the rules, that was the rules.
So does this mean that if race does come up, I am supposed to say "black"?
At least that's what I was told when I first came back to the States (lived in Asia for most of my life), and I was always a little confused by it, but if that was the rules, that was the rules.
So does this mean that if race does come up, I am supposed to say "black"?
@Grant Wood: Thanks for the pieces, will read through!
And while those two examples don't sound like the BEST of times, it also doesn't sound to me like she was in any way a victim of anything.
I might just be projecting though - I consider myself sex-positive and there have been several occasions where I have drunk too much and not quite remembered how I ended up somewhere with someone. But despite that, I didn't feel taken advantage of and would have been very offended if someone insisted I had been. I'd consider it infantilizing - like I was being told I was somehow the one who needed protection just because I happened to have the vagina.
And while those two examples don't sound like the BEST of times, it also doesn't sound to me like she was in any way a victim of anything.
I might just be projecting though - I consider myself sex-positive and there have been several occasions where I have drunk too much and not quite remembered how I ended up somewhere with someone. But despite that, I didn't feel taken advantage of and would have been very offended if someone insisted I had been. I'd consider it infantilizing - like I was being told I was somehow the one who needed protection just because I happened to have the vagina.
@other_asian: I think any culture who hasn't seen much of another culture tends to act in really boneheaded ways. When I went to Amsterdam, a friend of a friend met me and shouted "konichiwa!" Another friend of a friend asked if I could eat bread (bizarre!)
BUT here in China, my white friends have had their hair touched, had "HELLO" screamed at them multiple times a day and had Chinese people actually tell them, matter a factly, that the reason they can't do something-or-other is because they're white and therefore useless at Chinese things.
It's the toughest thing trying to explain that I consider myself American here in China. One man pointed to my nose and said "No you're not. Americans have big noses. You have a small, flat Chinese nose."
BUT here in China, my white friends have had their hair touched, had "HELLO" screamed at them multiple times a day and had Chinese people actually tell them, matter a factly, that the reason they can't do something-or-other is because they're white and therefore useless at Chinese things.
It's the toughest thing trying to explain that I consider myself American here in China. One man pointed to my nose and said "No you're not. Americans have big noses. You have a small, flat Chinese nose."
@jingjing: OH! I was wondering "Really? John Cho's in that movie too?"
@spiraloflife: Yeah, seriously - this would be the worst party game ever. I can just imagine a bunch of people sitting in a room, having finished categorizing everything into Black Swan/White Swan, and... sighing heavily.
@Grant Wood:
1) I kind of feel it's a little insulting to think that Karen Owen was "taken advantage of" when by her own very lengthly admission, she wasn't. There's always going to be gray areas in sexual conduct - especially the type of drunken carousing Owen seemed to routinely take part in. The problem with Flanagan's piece, I felt, was that it completely dismisses the possibility that Owen is in fact just a girl who enjoys having sex with really fit jocks and can do so without self esteem issues.
I'm not going to argue if it was sex positive or sex negative, but from what I remember, it did seem that Owen's experiences were mutual and consenting, if not always satisfying.
2) I have yet to read a piece of Flanagan's that I've actually enjoyed - her take down of Alice Waters I found unnecessarily catty and unfounded and her thing about nannies was a plain horror to read... but I'm happy to be proved wrong.
1) I kind of feel it's a little insulting to think that Karen Owen was "taken advantage of" when by her own very lengthly admission, she wasn't. There's always going to be gray areas in sexual conduct - especially the type of drunken carousing Owen seemed to routinely take part in. The problem with Flanagan's piece, I felt, was that it completely dismisses the possibility that Owen is in fact just a girl who enjoys having sex with really fit jocks and can do so without self esteem issues.
I'm not going to argue if it was sex positive or sex negative, but from what I remember, it did seem that Owen's experiences were mutual and consenting, if not always satisfying.
2) I have yet to read a piece of Flanagan's that I've actually enjoyed - her take down of Alice Waters I found unnecessarily catty and unfounded and her thing about nannies was a plain horror to read... but I'm happy to be proved wrong.
I know it's just because of the placement of his arms, but I can't stop looking at the awkward nipples.
@annieuro: Hear hear. Also, how have you not farted in each other's presence in two-and-a-half years?
@NewWaveBatMitzvah: Terrible! What if someone mistakes him for Gunn?
